Prepare Your Child for Success

Prepare your child for success

Prepare Your Child For Success

We all want our children to grow up to have joyful, successful lives. We educate our children at home to give them the best we can give and pray that they will walk in God’s blessings. Is there more we can do to set them up for a successful life?

Yes!

DG: The Secret To Success is a message I share with teens and adults on a regular basis. It’s so simple and yet so many people miss it.

What is DG?

DG is Delayed Gratification. Yikes! It doesn’t sound that interesting or fun! But, it can turn everything around. In my podcast I talk about how delayed gratification sets us up for success in our finances, relationships, career, education, and walk with the Lord.

We do the hard work first and save the fun for last.

It sounds to simple, but in a day and age where we want instant gratification and to buy now and pay later, it is hard to resist our flesh and postpone what we want.

How Does DG Work?

If we work hard, save up money, tithe, and live on a budget, we will have money to do some of the things we long for, but not right away. We will have to forego some things to wait to do others, but we will experience the joy of financial freedom (no debt!). Don can’t wait and gets whatever he wants right away. His house is filled with computers, tablets, speakers, screens, and video games, but his credit card is maxed. His wife wishes he would practice DG.

If we wait to be married for romantic pleasures and wait on God to bring a mate who shares our love for Jesus, we will set our marriage up for success.

If we work and finish schoolwork first instead of playing hours of video games (or other distractions) and then getting it done, we will be able to reward ourselves with fun after the job is done!

Unfortunately, many teens and adults that I talk to have already build patterns and habits that are hard to break into their lives. They have to retrain themselves and I share ways to strengthen the DG muscle in my podcast: http://ultimateradioshow.com/dg-the-secret-to-success/

However, what a blessing if we can acquire the habit of DG in our young years, so that we walk in delaying gratification as a habit.

How Can I Help My Children Walk in DG?

Of course, we can model it for our children because more is caught than taught.

We can also set up our daily schedule to practice delayed gratification.

Rachel decided that she would start teaching her children to delay gratification. She moved their schedule around purposefully. “Here’s the agenda for the day (chores and schoolwork). If we finish everything with excellence (not mediocrity!), then we will treat ourselves to …. (playing a game, making cookies, doing a messy art project together, watching a short video).”

If the work isn’t finished, there is no reward. This ties hard work and waiting (delaying gratification) to a reward. Her children didn’t like the idea of first that if they didn’t finish their schoolwork, they couldn’t watch a video (their favorite thing!), but Rachel held fast and after a week, the grumbling stopped.

Sally and her kids wanted to go to the Creation Museum, so they figured out how much money it would cost. They got a big jar out and started filling it with money they earned doing extra jobs, having a garage sale, and money gifts from grandparents. When they had enough money, they planned the trip. This strategy built DG into the whole family. They were working hard and waiting for a reward. Now, Sally could have just put it on the credit card, but her kids would have missed out on an important lesson.

Of course, we don’t need to reward all hard work and we don’t need to earn every fun thing, but purposefully structuring our children’s lives in the early years to work first and play later will build that DG muscle and make it easier in the years ahead.

Setting our children up for success isn’t that hard. We just need to be purpose and proactive in teaching them to delay gratification.

God Bless You!

Meredith Curtis

Finish Well Radio at the Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network

 

Mommy Jammies Night with LaToya Edwards

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La Toya Edwards {Mommy Jammies Night}

Hi! I’m LaToya, a certified Christian Life Coach and mentor. I am a recovering perfectionist and control freak who loves old movies, good books, and strawberry Häagen-Dazs® ice cream.  A few years ago I traded in a law degree to stay home and homeschool my boys and I never looked back!

When my first marriage fell apart and I found myself a single mom with two kids trying to be mom, student, and take care of the house I was beyond overwhelmed.

Fast-forward a few years and I was facing the biggest trial of my life.  I was healing from an abusive marriage, my children were dealing with PTSD, and I was struggling to keep my faith in God. I had stopped dreaming and hoping for the future.

One day I found the strength to get up and start moving forward. I started praying, fasting, and studying my Bible like never before. I was able to dream again and live a life full of passion and purpose.  I started enjoying my children and my work.In short, I started living again. And I have only grown stronger and found more peace every single day.

Through trials of divorce, depression, death, and abuse I have learned how to find joy and God’s purpose and plan in broken circumstances. Those hard times were when I grew the most spiritually. I faced my fears and found a strength I never knew that I had. It is my hope that through this blog I can encourage and equip you to do the same.

I don’t have all the answers but I can share my own struggles and a few tips and tricks that have helped me along the way. You will find encouragement and inspiration for growing closer to God and stronger in your faith!  VISIT LATOYA today and be inspired! >>> I want to be inspired!

 

Tonight’s Topic: Weathering Life’s Storms with LaToya Edwards

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Come to the well | How to connect with God through journaling - LaToya Edwards

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Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask a Veteran Homeschool Mom

Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask a Veteran Homeschool Mom

Do you have questions you’ve always wanted to ask a veteran homeschool mom?

I’ve been homeschooling and homeschool mentoring long enough I think I’ve heard every question that can be asked. Maybe.

Here’s some I’ve gleaned from around social media along with my opinion answers.

Q: What is the best form of homeschooling?

A: Whatever brings your children home. Seriously. For Christians, providing a Christian education for our children isn’t an option or even a calling. It’s a mandate given by God throughout Scripture. That being said, you want a method of education that does several things. One thing would be to uphold the authority of Scripture. Another would be to allow you to disciple your kids. If you get these two things done, you’ve done a lot. I personally used the Principle Approach method.

Q: How did you trust that in the end your child would be smarter, better off, and not held back?

A: It was really a journey. So much was riding on the oldest doing well. I mean, everyone was watching and waiting for me to mess up or throw in the towel. I had to place faith in the fact that I was doing what the Lord wanted me to do (conviction), and that my method supported that. After that, what good is comparing? Each child’s an individual anyway and God had a plan and purpose for each of them- regardless.

Q: How do you balance housework, meals, laundry…etc, when your kids are young and need more direct instruction and attention?

A: Honestly? Sometimes, barely. Things like a laundromat, crockpot, and tidying as we went along helped. But, we had a lot of cereal for dinner (my husband worked nights), and held sock-mating parties for fun. You do the best you can do. Ask for help if it’s available. I promise it passes.

Q: How did you handle the high school years to make sure they would be accepted into a college?

A: By keeping on track in middle school. We looked at what they thought they wanted to do and what college they wanted to attend (if they wanted to attend college) and had a gap year to focus on any academic weak areas.

Q: What would you do differently if you had to do it all over again?

A: If do-overs were a real thing, I’d not listen to what other people thought so much and focus on a strong understanding of the application of Scriptural principles. I’d have tackled more philosophy. Mainly, I’d have spent less time on things that distracted me. And I didn’t have social media to intrude! I’d pointed them to Jesus a lot more!

Q: How do you stay motivated?

A: One day at a time. Write out your philosophy of education, you’re “why” you homeschool. Remind yourself of the blessings.

Q: How do you know if you are doing too much or not enough? In kindergarten when they are starting to learn the foundation of everything how do you know you are teaching enough?

A: The best meter I’ve found for knowing this is by monitoring the stress level in the home. I had one child that hid from me when I brought out the phonograms. Turns out she had a vision issue. If I’d have insisted on her doing them, we may have harmed her love of learning.

Also, gaining consent from the child to be taught. If you have this (through relationship building), you’ll be able to accomplish a lot more schooling. This will also cover the motivation of the child.

Q: How do you shut up your negative thoughts, mommy guilt during these rough high school years?

A: Give yourself grace. Pray. Ask forgiveness when necessary. Don’t give up. God is a parent and look at Adam. It’ll be okay.

Q: How do you plan your homeschool?

A: Pinterest. Just kidding. Kinda. Seriously, though- plan with the end in mind. Think big picture to particulars. Whole to part. There are a bazillion planners for just getting the what you do on what day down. Beyond that- I always journaled my planning.

Q: What about socialization?

A: Fooled ya! You know I’m not going to answer that one!

I hope this has proven helpful to you. If you have a question I’ve not answered, drop me a comment and I’ll try to help!

_____________

Gina Glenn is a veteran homeschool mom to four {nearly all} grown children and author of the Principle Approach Primer. You can find Gina at GinaGlenn.com

5 Hidden Benefits to Staying Stuck | Kat Sturtz

5 Hidden Benefits to Staying Stuck | Kat Sturtz

 

Topic: The 5 Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

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Show Notes:

If you’re human, you’ve struggled with managing time, managing projects, and managing life. A 1,000 self-help books and courses won’t help you get past procrastination if you don’t look at the elephant in the room! WHY? Why do you choose to procrastinate? Why avoid projects and things that need to be done?

Join Kat & Gina as they chat about specific action steps you can take to move forward and discover the 5 Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck!

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•  Do the words ” Just Do It ” make you cringe? •  Feel like everyone got the how-to instructions but you? •  Tired of being stuck … confused about what to do next? •  Worried … fearful … lacking confidence? •  Afraid to waste more time on programs that promised BIG … … but left you feeling small and inadequate?

It’s time to try something new. An entirely different approach. One that recognizes what makes YOU unique and will help you finally take those next vital steps forward with clarity and confidence. Best of all, it won’t cost you a dime to take it and put it to good use.

As an experienced author, editor, speaker, business coach, practical intuition expert, and energy techniques practitioner, my passion is helping small business entrepreneurs and service providers who:

  • Have BIG and BOLD dreams.
  • Have a history of modest triumphs but are struggling to get a new or stalled dream moving.
  • Are working hard but seriously doubting if the success they seek is really possible for them.
  • Are wondering why the same smarts and skills and persistence that produced good, even great, results before seem to be failing them now.
  • Are ready for change and committed to taking responsibility to make things happen.

 

 

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Why Homeschool?

why homeschool

Why Homeschool?

By Christina Gerwitz Moss

Author, Public Speaker, Homeschool graduate and now Homeschool Mom

Homeschooling for me has always been a way of life.

I was homeschooled from K through 12th grade and loved the experience. I decided to pursue higher education and graduated from college in three years with honors. It wasn’t just the opportunities I had but the loving surroundings in which I was able to grow and flourish with love, stability and Christian spirituality. I attribute my homeschool experience as a wonderful springboard for my life and events that took me well into adulthood with fond memories.

My brother and I were not concerned about how other students would treat us as we learned.

My brother was “disabled” in the sense of the world, but I didn’t think it was odd that I, two years his junior was on the same grade level. We were free to learn at our own pace, gleaning information on topics that interested us (it seemed) at every turn during school hours or not. I later learned that my mother planned our year ahead of time and often switched topics as our interests became fine-tuned to a particular subject. It appeared to us as if the world was our school and many days we were excited to begin.

We were free to learn at our own pace

Testing was a form of a game where mom asked us questions and we bunny-hopped, jumped, or skipped to the end signifying completion. When testing became more formalized it still was a contest where we tried to beat last time’s score or asked for special “extra credit” answers that would bring us over the 100 mark. Mom was always sure to comply. My mom didn’t like testing us, but I enjoyed the tests.

Homeschooling my own children was an easy choice to make

Homeschooling my own children was an easy choice to make, especially since I have the loving support of my husband, who was not homeschooled, but had cousins who were through high school. We both want to offer our children a great education both academically as well as with the foundation of Christianity. Homeschooling we both agree will accomplish that desire for our family. I am excited knowing my children will experience the same things that I had growing up, the freedom to talk and discuss deep religious truths, question when those teenaged years come up and know that my parents never discounted our questions as childish or rude, but listened and directed with love and concern. I also love having a flexible schedule with the exception of offering my young children a little more structure than my mom gave to us. Mom is almost perfect in the proverbial “Mary Poppins” sense, is an icon of the homeschool movement, and well loved…but I can’t do everything just like her! In fact, I learned that from her. She told me to think for myself, stand my ground, and always cheered me on when confronted with tough decisions and whatever live-crisis crops up in life.

Just beginning my own homeschool journey

Several years ago, I began my journey with my young children, the oldest turned eleven in January. With almost six years of schooling completed, I have come to realize what a great undertaking homeschooling can be for the entire family. We have had the most incredible year in terms of growth, enjoyment of each other’s company, and of course the element my mom used, “fun.” We have learned much and had a few ups and downs along the way. Homeschooling is not for the faint of heart. It takes commitment and dedication. It takes a totally unselfish love for your children that supersedes what the world says is “normal” in regard to traditional schooling.

I remember a story recounted by my mom.

She had us in a high-end preschool where academics were stressed thinking that was important for my speech-delayed brother. I went along for the ride, so to speak, and made friends easily as did my mother. When it came time for school, mom decided to homeschool my brother and of course, I followed suit. She received a call from a friend one morning (I was too young to remember), who felt “sorry” for my mother. You see, she had rushed through the morning, deposited her child on the school bus, and harried was sitting down to a wrecked kitchen and a cup of coffee before she tackled the day. She told my mom how sorry she felt that she was not getting a “break.” My mom recounts, “I told her that I was sitting in bed, with my second cup of coffee, still in pj’s with two kids flanked on either side, pillows fluffed, and reading. We had completed our religion books, Bible, and history. Breakfast was long done, washed and put away, and we would soon dress, do a few more chores before we headed upstairs to our school room to tackle some math, writing and other activities.” This friend didn’t call again feeling sorry for my mom. In fact, we felt sorry for ourselves if we did not complete school by noon so we had the day to explore our world!

For the success of a lifetime homeschooler, I believe it is a decision, not something to revisit every year.

I think it is similar to reviewing your marriage and deciding yearly if it is working out for you! Marriage is a commitment and for my family so is homeschooling. We will give it our all we don’t micro-analyze it looking for an out, looking at what they are “missing” in terms of the school bazaar, fund-raisers, track and field events or the like. We feel it is ordained by the Word of God, and we know, by His grace we will continue the tradition of raising a mighty people who love and will serve Him in thought, word and deed! If you are considering homeschooling I ask you to prayerfully consider what the Lord wants for you, for your life, for your family. Do not look left or right, look straight ahead. If the Lord ordains it He will give you the blessings and grace to continue. Don’t take my word for it, take His.

Christiana is daughter of Felice Gerwitz, Vintage Homeschool Moms and owner of Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network

Living on a Single Income, part 2

living on a single income, part 2

Living on a Single Income

In a society that both awards and encourages a two income household, a single income home is a rarity. How does it work? How can you make it happen for your family? What does the budget look like?

Part One can be found here: http://ultimateradioshow.com/living-on-a-single-income/

 

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Homeschool Memories and Giveaway

Homeschool Memories and Giveaway

Homeschool Memories and Giveaway

I was thinking back over the 20 years I’ve been homeschooling a lot lately. So much has changed! One of the best things to have come along is homeschool blogs.

Back in the day, I’d wait for my envelope full of homeschool offers on those 4 x 6 cards and shuffle through them. Anyone remember the one about colon cleansing? True story.

Or, I’d wait for my The Old Schoolhouse Magazine and read every article. Now even TOS is digital! Instead of gathering online, we gathered in support groups and state conventions. And, to be honest- I miss that.

But, homeschooling has changed and grown. I have more homeschooling friends than I’ve ever had, most I’ve never met IRL. Facebook groups have taken the place of yahoo email groups and email forwards. Truly, my world has broadened and I’m thankful for that.

Surely God in his Providence knew there’d be a time when our strength would need to be in numbers and support would come from the four corners. And I’m glad!

We’ve shared the loss of children, parents, and spouses. We’ve cried over prodigals and been the prodigal an online-sister called home. Experiencing the loss of fellow homeschool moms and bloggers keeps life real. The online part dissipates a bit.

So, this year- sharing a back-to-school party and giveaway is reminder of all the sweet ladies who put their heart into what they offer, the way only a homeschool mama can. Please stop by each of the sites in the giveaway (you get kudos if you do!) and let them know how much they mean to you!

They mean a lot to me!

Don’t miss the giveaway – and thanks to Encouraging Moms at Home for the Back to School Party!

Here is a huge package of homeschool prizes you are going to love! Some of these will be physical books shipped to your door, and some of these are digital – like the awesome 20th Century Music course! The total retail value on this giveaway is over $570!!!!

Here’s the prize list for one blessed winner in this huge homeschool giveaway.
  1. Walk This Way Book and Posters $19.99 = $5.99 (physical book, digital posters)
  2. 20th Century Music Appreciation for High School $99
  3. Reading Comprehension with Aesops Fables (digital) $6.99
  4. Hidden Village (physical) $6.99
  5. When Lightning Struck (autographed copy 16.99)
  6. Bible Road Trip Curriculum One Year ($20)
  7. Bible Road Trip Notebooking Journal ($20)
  8. Choice of Bible Memory Cards ($7-14)
  9. Loop Scheduling Workshop + Facebook Support Group $15
  10. Creation Bundle from Media Angels $49.97
  11. NaturExplorers Spectacular Spiders $12
  12. NaturExplorers Animal Signs $12
  13. Behavior and Social Skills Bundle $36
  14. 9 Easy Steps to Homeschooling ebook $4.95
  15. 5 Days to Your Best Homeschool Year e-course $47
  16. Little Lads and Ladies of Virtue ebook $15
  17. Lads and Ladies of Wisdom $15
  18. The Big Book of Homeschool Ideas (Volume 1) $21.99
  19. The Big Book of Homeschool Ideas (Volume 2) $16.99
  20. 5 Minute Devotions for Homeschooling Moms $5.50
  21. Homeschooling: What to do When You Want to Quit $15.99
  22. Premium Lifetime Homeschool Copywork Membership $97

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Faithfulness and Endurance During Life’s Biggest Hurts with Jen Grice

Faithfulness and Endurance During Life's Biggest Hurts with Jen Grice

 

Faithfulness and Endurance During Life’s Biggest Hurts with Jen Grice 

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Faithfulness + Endurance Through Life’s Biggest Hurts

George Mueller is known for saying, ‘To learn strong faith is to endure great trials. I have learned my faith by standing firm amid severe testings.”

Just like George Mueller and some of the other people I’ll be talking about, I too have learned my faith and learned to endure through my life’s biggest hurt.

If you’re a homeschooling mom like myself, you read the story of George Mueller and how his faith helped him to feed and house thousands of orphans. I just love hearing stories about how other people have used faith to survive. We actually read through the Christian Heroes Then And Now book, about George Mueller, while I was going through my divorce trial. It opened my eyes to the fact that…

God uses life’s hardest times to bring His sons and daughters to a place where their only hope is found in their faith in Him.

 I was one of those people who said, it won’t happen to me… it won’t happen to us. We’ll never divorce… I’m “married for life.” We can’t control the actions and choices of other people, our husbands, our family or our friends… so sometimes we get hurt. Sometimes we have to deal with suffering. I’ve never been sold into slavery but I was told to get out of my mother’s home at the young age of 16, with nowhere to go. I’ve never been to jail. But I’ve been confined to a hospital bed, pregnant, struggling to survive while people I considered family pretended I didn’t exist.

Betrayal. Treachery. Pain. Humiliation. Falsely accused. Unjust punishment and suffering. Feeling alone and forgotten.

Anyone else experience these hurts before? I think we’d all agree that these are the biggest. And they can prove to be the biggest threat to our faith as well.

It’s even more painful when we experience these things, from family, or from someone who vowed to love, honor, and cherish you for life.

These are the very feelings Genesis Joseph felt as he faced trials that were inflicted on him because of the choices of others. Sin causes problems. And usually innocent victims feel the brunt of the pain of someone else’s sinful heart. And we don’t always get what we expect out of life. Those biggest hurts… tend to disrupt our life’s focus.

I know I expected to get married and then stay that way until I died. I expected my husband to stay faithful only to me. After that I expected him to repent of his behaviors, get help and spiritual guidance, and then stop the sin. But that’s not what happened. I was betrayed and then served divorce papers… and told I was the one forsaking.

 

Someone walked out and then God walked in.

He said, never will I leave you. Never will I forsake you. (Hebrew 13:5)

Joseph learned to depend on God for everything. So have I. Our Father took very good care of us discarded people. Providence was there the whole time. I had no idea how I was going to get through this but I knew where to look for guidance. I spent a lot of time reading God’s Word. I felt so much like Joseph. I felt betrayed. I was being blamed and feeling humiliated.

Even in my pain and anger at God, because of my situation, I knew there was more to my situation. I knew my faith was being tested. I remembered verses about growing my faith. But my eyes would look at my circumstances and I was afraid and felt alone. When the promises were easy to forget I would write them on my bathroom mirror and on my forearm… just trying to keep my faith.

And I’m here to share I’ve made it through… and to encourage you too with my story.

Through my life’s biggest trial, struggles and pain, I’ve learned these three things about faithfulness and endurance.

#1 : God is always with us – guiding, comforting, and protecting us

#2: We grow in faith as we endure

#3: God has a purpose for pain – a divine destiny

Our response to life’s biggest hurts? Faithfulness and endurance. To recap we do this by remembering that God is always with us, growing in our faith as we endure, and looking out for the purpose for our pain and suffering.

If that’s you right now, I want to encourage you! You can and will get through this too. God is with you! Slow and steady wins the race… we just have to keep pushing forward.

 

You can survive divorce with Jen Grice


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Dealing with Mom Guilt | Mommy Jammies Night

Dealing with Mom Guilt | Learning to lay your burdens down before the Lord

Dealing with Mom Guilt with Felice Gerwitz  

Overcoming Mommy Guilt (Scroll ALL THE WAY DOWN to get to the player)

 

We’ve all done it – you know thinking we are not good enough or it is all our fault. Where did I go wrong – what could I have done differently –


When I was expecting my first child I thought – how can it be that hard? I was a teacher and handled an entire classroom of kids, one little kid can’t be difficult after that!

I was filled with my own self importance, my own skill set – my own…well, degree! I had an education degree in Early Childhood, Elementary Ed and Specific Learning Disabilities – I was degreed for K-12 I was all set, right?

Wrong!

Along came Neal, this beautiful bundle of joy – and he was the first and most perfect baby. He slept well and for hours, he barely cried, he nursed really well. In fact, I thought he was the easiest child ever! And, compared to my other four he was a very easy baby…

But fast forward and let me tell you I began to second guess every decision  because the experts began to weigh in.

Well meaning family members, friends, the lady next door – everyone was an expert!

I began listening to my friends talk about their kids and their parenting methods were all over the board from the way permissive to the super, super strict—train up a child and that is the way he will grow crowd and don’t spare the rod crowd.

While I was very comfortably somewhere in between I began to realize that moms in general were a mess –

They were threading water – barely surviving.

I listened to people share:

  1. I’m not good enough
  2. I’m going to ruin my children
  3. I’m not an expert
  4. My kids are going to grow up to hate me which is why I am going to be sure to spoil them
  5. It is all my fault!

Friends – if you hear nothing else I say …please hear this. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT – Let me repeat that – IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

 

As a Christian we have the tools to be super parents

– after all as Christians aren’t we heirs of the KINGDOM isn’t GOD OUR FATHER? Didn’t God promise not to forsake us but to send HIS spirit to guide us?

I understand you are on overload – I understand your child may be lost – and you know what? God has given us and them free will…

We can not mold our children in our image – however we can introduce them to the Almighty God

And we often preach to the choir – we ask our children to do the heavy lifting – to demonstrate to us God’s love and to show us they really understand.

We can see their walk with the Lord in the fruit they demonstrate

And if we don’t like that fruit – guess what? It is up to us to pray. And we pray – God do this and this and this – NO – we need to pray YOUR WILL LORD NOT MINE

God did not give us a spirit of fear New International Version 2Timothy 1:7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.

Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or …

Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will neverleave you nor forsake you. …. and hope; unto us is this gospel preached, as well as unto them; he will never fail thee, nor forsake thee, Heb 13:5.

 

Jesus Promises the Holy Spirit
17the Spirit of truth. The world cannot receive Him, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him. But you do know Him, for He abides with you and He will be in you. 18I will not leave you as orphans;I will come to you. 19In a little while, the world will see Me no more, but you will see Me. Because I live, you also will live.…

Do Not Worry (Luke 12:22-34) 25 Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air: They do not sow or reap or gather into barns—and yet your Heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his lifespan? 28And why do you worry about clothes? Consider how the lilies of the field grow: They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his glory was adorned like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?31Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans pursue all these things, and your Heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.

 

Moms – stop with the guilt!

  1. If you feel guilty it is not from God – He does not give us a sense of guilt.
  2. Feeling guilty is a sign that we lack faith – in ourselves and the power of God – think about that. It hurts doesn’t it? When I realized this myself … I had to pray and repent.
  3. Guilt is often misplaced. The guilty person – i.e. your child, gets off scott free – “It is not my fault”
  4. It’s not about you – it is about the offending party

It is not your fault. It really isn’t

Let me tell you a true story. I was praying to the Lord about a situation that was really outside of my control. I was apologizing to Him for something I felt was really a lack of  faith. Then I felt the Lord answer my prayer with clarity – but the answer was very compelling, the Lord basically said, “Do you really think you have that much power?”

Wow. Just wow!

Sometimes friends we take on the burden of fault when it does not lie on our shoulders. We allow our child – in point 3 above to get off with a “free” card.

We are not responsible for someone eles’s free will decision – sometimes our children need to fall in order for the Lord to minister to them where they are – even if it feels like the entire world is falling in around  your shoulders.

We fix everything from the time they are little to the time they are big – and when we can’t we get overwhelmed. We just can’t do it anymore!

Solutions:

  1. Look at Mary – her infamous example as the mother of our Lord. At the wedding feast of Canaan where her wise words were, “Do what He tells you.” These words are applicable for us as well.
  2. Praise God in everything – yes, everything. Remember Romans 8:28
  3. Pray specifically, and if we don’t know how to pray ask the Lord. (Podcast: AFewMinutesWithGodPodcast.com
  4. Know that God hears you! He really does.  

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What About Church? Part Two

What About Church? Part Two

with Israel and Brook Wayne of Family Renewal Ministries

What about church part two | free podcast from Family Renewal | Ultimate Homeschool Radio NetworkWhat about church? Part one can be found here.

What about church? Part two

  • What is the practice of church discipline?
  • What is church membership?
  • Is membership important?
  • How does membership impact the life of the family?
  • Recommended resources: 9 Marks, Paul Washer, Way of the Master

Connect with Family Renewal Ministries via their website and social media ministry.

Israel Wayne is an author and conference speaker who has a passion for defending the Christian faith and promoting a Biblical worldview. He is the author of the books Homeschooling from a Biblical WorldviewFull-Time Parenting: A Guide to Family-Based DiscipleshipQuestions God AsksQuestions Jesus Asks , Pitchin’ a Fit: Overcoming Angry and Stressed-Out Parenting and Education: Does God Have an Opinion?  and has been a regular columnist for Home School DigestHome School Enrichment and The Old Schoolhouse magazines. He is also the site editor for ChristianWorldview.net.

Israel and his wife Brook were joined in marriage without dating and share their testimony of God’s faithfulness on an audiobook titled, What God Has Joined Together. Israel and Brook, both homeschool graduates themselves, are home educating their nine children.

His desires to see God’s people learn to think and live Biblically.

Aiming for both the head and the heart, Israel’s goal is to challenge audiences to take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. In his words, “God’s Word applies to all areas of life. There is not one facet of our existence which does not fall under the direct claim of Lordship by Jesus Christ. This includes how we spend our money, what entertainment we consume, how we educate our children, how we use our time, etc. All of life must be understood from within a Biblical worldview.”

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