Running Your Family Like A CEO

Running Your Family like a ceoRunning Your Family Like A CEO

Podcast 269

Can you imagine running your family like a CEO? In this podcast, we explore that and much more. Did you know that a CEO is a leader (mom or dad), is responsible for day-to-day management decisions (mom), and for implementing the goals long and short-term (mom and dad). The CEO communicates and is a liaison between a board of directors (kids and spouse). And, yes, there are many more similarities!

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My husband is the head of his company, and often during the day he will call me, say hi, quickly and then launch into something he needs. Or, he calls and expects me to take notes to remind him to do something later. My official title is “secretary-treasurer” of the company, however, with kids at home and homeschooling, it sometimes becomes very hectic for me but not him! He gets lots done, he is efficient, he is a delegator, he knows how to bring things in under budget and with a profit.

This gave me an idea! What if we ran our family lives like we ran a company? Would we be wasteful? Would I allow inferior quality work (school work or chores) to continue? Would I keep an employee (child) in a job that didn’t match their qualifications? More importantly, would I give an employee a job and not explain how to do it? Hmm…

Helpful Tips In Family Dynamics:

  1. Relationship with God. If your relationship with God is “off” we will transfer that to our spouse or our children.
  2. Relationship: in families relationships are the most important and how we treat each other shows what’s in our hearts! Think about it.
  3. Job description: how can we do a job well

So, a CEO –

  1. Leader
    • As parents, we lead by example. If we aren’t doing our part our kids will see this.
    • Sloppy parenting. Do what I say, but not what I do.
    • Ineffective leadership.
      • Plans fall through all the time
      • Promises not kept
      • Never around
  2. Determines strategic direction
    • Family goals — are we following the Lord as a family?
    • Praying together, worshipping
    • Spending time together
    • Focus on strengths
  3. Organization and delegation:
    • Oversee what are your family needs
      • Follow through on delegation
      • Clean home, focus on particular character quality
  4. Responsible for day-to-day management / accountability
    • Teaching children responsibility
    • Educational needs of each child
    • Working on character
      • Job descriptions and follow through
      • “Hires and fires” — if a job is done ineffectively course of action
      • Delegate jobs and explanation of how you want them done
      • Accountability – are jobs done daily/ weekly – how are they accomplished?
      • Ineffective job completion – do it again until it is right or
      • Fired from the job and given another job more suited (not necessarily a punishment, this could be a demotion!)
      • Hiring for a supervisor job – but be sure there isn’t a sibling abuse of power!
  5. Communication: Identifying needs and remedies
    • Time spent with God — the importance of relationships — A Few Minutes with God Podcast
    • Time spent with your spouse – importance of relationships
    • Time spent with children!
  6. Resources: Focused and centered on family dynamics
    • Family resources – time, time, time
    • Planning family outings

DIY Diets

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I wanted to find great DIY diets and there are so many out there – and so I set out on a search! With so many of the fad diets on the market since, well – I was young, it is a miracle we aren’t all super thin. Diets are one of the most researched, and over promised and underachieved results, in my opinion. There are many facets to dieting that we will take a look at this podcast as well as ways to make a DIY diet work for you!

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Alright—DIY diets, the idea of any do it yourself project is obviously to save money. Yes, there are a ton of packaged plans out there and we’ll discuss some of those later on but I wanted to diet on my own.

In these previous episodes, “Why Your Diet Fails,” and “Eating Well and Losing Weight,” and “Healthy Substitutes That Work,” the main focus in all is that if you don’t follow through it will not work.

I feel I was a pioneer of diets in my teens. I’d eat sparingly during the week disliking the cafeteria food in college and lived mostly on salads and proteins. I did love my melba toast and cheese. I absolutely love cheese and sometimes find myself craving it—which I read could be a calcium deficiency but living in Florida I get plenty of Vitamin D from the sun.

On the weekend when I went home –home was only thirty minutes away, I’d enter my Dad’s Italian restaurant and almost gain 5lbs on the spot. It was not hard to do with the wonderful foods he served. When I went back to school the pendulum would swing the other way and soon I was down 5lbs. I’d fluctuate 5-7-10 lbs and it was easy to lose back then! I could skip a meal and lose 5lbs.

Let’s look at the reasons you may want to lose weight:

  1. Health reasons
  2. Clothes are too tight
  3. You’ve gained weight through the years and those 5lbs a year (on average what most adults gain slowly over time) have piled up.

I will admit that the do it yourself (DIY diets) can have some pitfalls, but we can learn from those with storefronts and prepackaged meals. The main thing they do well is pair you up with a coach.

Here is a quick list of what you need in a diet partner or diet coach (who can be a spouse, a good friend or a professional you hire):

  1. No judging – you don’t need to hear, “You look fine, you don’t need to lose weight!”
  2. A cheerleader – someone who is encouraging.
  3. A helper – someone you can call if you feel led to cheat.
  4. No tempting – someone who will help you stay on your diet.
  5. Accountability—set goals with you and let them monitor you.

Five Good Tips About DIY Diets:

  1. Diets work best when you are consistent and follow-through. You, can’t give up if you do, you will slide back into your bad habits!
  2. Diets work best if they fit into your lifestyle. If you can’t make shakes at lunch with fruits and veggies using a blender switch to powder mixes. I like the 4-Life protein shakes here. Meal replacement shakes here. My daughter eats these on her way to school as a meal replacement for breakfast when she is on the run and doesn’t have time to eat. Invest in a good shaker bottle.
  3. Diets that taste good keep you on track.
  4. Diets that fill you up keep you on track – if you are hungry it won’t work!
  5. Diets that have results work! If you are not losing weight it is hard to stick to your diet!

Use these guidelines to help you in healthy food decisions. 

Don’t think you can commit to a diet right now? That’s okay! Use these guidelines to inform health food decisions:

  1. When it comes to losing weight and eating healthy, success starts in the kitchen. Throw out highly-processed foods and invest in a protein powder that you like. Be careful when looking at how much protein comes in a bucket and how big the scoop is, which factors into the servings per container.
  2. Top rated protein shake brands include— 4-Life.com and Isagenix.
  3. Detox is a good way to begin. For me, I use a simple detox. I’ll drink the 4-Life Detox tea (if you have issues with detoxing—use a weaker form, 1 teabag to 2 x the water and drink only half).
  4. Don’t eat sugar or carbs. No fruits! No sugars for about 40+ days helped clear up my inflamed gums! No mint in toothpaste (visit HomeopathyForMommiesPodcast.com for more info on homeopathic remedies) and her store here.
  5. Hydration is the body’s strongest defense to ward off hunger. Try increasing how much water you drink and you’ll not only feel better but you’ll find yourself not as hungry in between meals!
  6. The Keto diet is a high fat, moderate protein, and very low carb diet. The low carb part re-programs your metabolism to burn fat for fuel, rather than glycogen stored in your muscles.
  7. Exercise Apps that work – Podcast Link hereManual link here – a restrictive diet that works, I’ve lost 15-20 lbs in a month and kept it off! Helped to jump start my 5lbs that I recently lost. If you don’t have body fat it does not work

Choose a diet that works for you and your life. 

For those interested in packaged foods.

  1. The major selling point of the pre-packaged diets is that it takes the guesswork out of the process, as well as the temptation. But isn’t fighting temptations part of the process to healthy eating?
  2. So many of the packaged diets out there that are not DIY but are great for moms on the go, looking to lose a few inches off their waist. But, it comes at a price. Who has an extra $300/month just sitting around, especially when feeding an entire family, and not just you?! Even though it’s delivered straight to your door, the downside is you eat a lot of frozen foods, not fresh. It also encourages small meals throughout the day, which can be healthy but also dangerous.
  3. Use a grocery checklist to bring with you with approved and unapproved foods as well as possible substitutions if you are following a set diet.

Don’t think you can commit to a diet right now? That’s okay! Use these guidelines to inform health food decisions:

  1. Keep sugar intake low
  2. Increase fiber and protein intake to stay full or replace meals
  3. Limit dairy and carbs
  4. Increase water consumption
  5. Stick to healthy fats

Best of HIRL: Dads Who Homeschool

Free homeschool podcast about what it looks like when mom works and dad stays home to teach.On this episode of the HomeschoolingIRL podcast, we answer a question from a listener who wants to know about switching roles. What happens when circumstances dictate that mom is the primary breadwinner. What does it look like when dads choose to stay home and do the homeschooling?

Fletch and Kendra interview two homeschool dads who did just this. Listen in to Steve Wilkins and Dr. Jay Wile and hear their stories and how it worked in their families.

Also on this show we dive into a discussion about reunions, high school friends, homeschool conferences and when it is okay to publicly criticize homeschool or parenting ministries that teach legalism. Tune in for a great show.


SHOW NOTES:

Recommended Resources:
Dr. Jay Wile
Betty the Surf Dog – Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Website
Rasta The Chocolate Lab – Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Website
Fletch Twitter
Kendra Twitter


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Best of HIRL: I Love Homeschooling, But I’ll Tell You Its Flaws

I Love Homeschooling But I'll Tell You It's Flaws - Homeschooling IRL

On this episode of Homeschooling In Real Life, Fletch and Kendra discuss what it’s like when your homeschool student abandons your family’s faith and lifestyle.

How can this happen in a Christian home where you have created a sheltered homeschool environment? Christian homeschooling is designed to protect our kids. Shouldn’t our children turn out perfect?

To answer that question, we interview a young man who has done that very thing, but here is the best part: after being raised in a rigid environment which he ultimately rejected, he is still a huge proponent of  home education and thinks his mom is one of the best teachers around!

Homeschooling parents, this is an episode you won’t want to miss! We may challenge you to rethink about how you listen to your kids, how to look for and complement their strengths, but mostly we will remind all of us how important it is to just point them to Jesus.


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LIKE ARROWS will be in theaters for two nights only, MAY 1ST and 3RD. To view the trailer and find theater info, visit the link below. If you missed the movie in theatres be sure to check out the Digital, DVD and Blueray versions on the website, LikeArrowsMovie.com

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Running Your Home Like A CEO

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Running your home like a CEO is possible, and even with heart! Wouldn’t it be great if you could take a cue from corporate America and run your home like a CEO? In this podcast, we are going to discuss how running several businesses have taught me that I can apply some if not all of these skills into running a more efficient, time-saving, and organized home!

What about “heart,” you might ask? Shouldn’t you have an idea of running your household with heart? With care about those under your watch— of course! I can’t think of any company head who doesn’t care about the success of the business or the people in it!

I decided to look at six areas that a CEO excels in running a company. Successful companies are run with goals and everyone knows the direction and works hard to achieve it, together. There is strength in numbers and this is an important element in running a home. No one person can do it all—and if they do, at some point there is burn out. You can not sustain that level forever.

A home is made up of family and the needs of a family. In the next  I focus on family, communication and dealing with behavior and misbehavior and encouraging your kids to be the best they can be in life given their talents. In this podcast I focus on the running specifically of a home.

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Running Your Home Like a CEO Checklist:

Here is a printable with the topics below to fill out: Top SIX Traits For Running Your Home Like A CEO

First, let’s look at some of the attributes of a CEO –

  1. A CEO is a leader

Everyone looks to the CEO for leadership, to follow and to obey. The CEO is the person in charge and an authority figure. Determine the CEO of your family. Is Dad the CEO and mom the President? This is an important distinction. Families tend to have too many chiefs and not enough Indians and this can cause all kinds of chaos and problems within a family. Knowing who the leader is and why we follow the leader is very important. That is not to say that decisions can’t be made together but that when there needs to be one person making the decision (and taking the responsibility) that person is designated.

2. Determines strategic direction

  1. Everyone should understand the direction
  2. Jobs focus on the direction
  3. Daily responsibilities combined to achieve success

3. Decision making, a CEO makes decisions based upon: (*don’t worry about how you are going to accomplish any of these ideals, just think about how you’d answer each of these areas.)

A. Needs–Each person in the family has different needs and levels of care. Assessing this care and determining who can help is important. I call this manning the troops. Sometimes we need help

B. Values–What is important for your family? What values are the line-in-the sand? The not to be compromised truths your families will be known for?

C. Goals– What are your objectives as a family? Daily survival or thriving?

A CEO determines and communicates the organization strategic direction – until that gets settled, making decisions about anything else in business is hard. Without this goal the company is a group of people pursing individual goals guided by their own agenda. Does everyone in your family wander around with their own cares – not worried about the family as a unit? Are mom and dad the only ones who worry about each other and the kids yet this isn’t shared by the rest of the family? If so, the issue can be the strategic direction, no one knows the goal or how to reach it. What is the goal for your family? For ours it is heaven and getting there is very important to us, living out lives pleasing to God and each other is important. If we don’t live our lives with the “end in mind” we’d be very different people. Do you know your direction?

4. A CEO is responsible for day-to-day management decisions

A. Implementing long and short-term goals

B. Organizing and delegating

C. Making sure the different departments works toward a common goals

5.  Liaison:

  1. The CEO communicates
  2. Is a liaison

Communication is important. Period. Communicating the needs to each other and to the family without being hurtful is important. Constructive criticism isn’t often taken well. Is your family relationship good, if so it will be taken better. Most of the time criticism is taken as being critical of behavior or poor decision making. Working on lines of communication will benefit the immediate household as well as the

  1. Resources:
    1. In charge of balancing capital and people
    2. Using resources to the optimum

 

 

30 Top Films For Middle School to Adult

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Family Films For Older Kids

Do you have a list of your top 30 top films for families with older kids? In this podcast, I interview Lisa Winton, who along with her husband started a popular Facebook group to discuss their favorite movies and chat about them with friends. Lisa and Randy Winton have homeschooled for 16-years. Join us for more movies to add to your growing lists!

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Lisa Winton is my guest and will share her top 30 family friend film for older children. Here are the questions I asked, listen to the podcast for more!

  1. Tell me about yourself and your family:

I am a lover of classic literature, classical art, classic films and the outdoors, I enjoy history and art museums, orchestral concerts, classical ballet concerts, running, and decorating my home in a shabby chic/vintage style. I just recently decided to indulge in some new interests, and besides taking ballet classes for adults and joining my daughters in their art lessons, starting studying homeopathy in a group setting.

I have been married to my husband Randy for 29 years and we have four children, two adult sons (one married with two grand babies one in college) and two adopted daughters, one with special health challenges and one with health issues/developmental delays and autism. I am in my sixteenth year of homeschooling and love reading about and implementing various educational approaches, and have spent the last decade researching autism along with related therapies and implementing approaches to help see my daughter with autism to become the best-functioning adult she is capable of becoming.

I began a Facebook page, “Inspire:  Rediscovering Classic Family Films” (will come up by searching Classic Family Films on Facebook) several years ago, simply to highlight some of our family’s favorite films over the years because I had met so many people who had never heard of the ones that we loved, and after borrowing them from us couldn’t believe they’d never heard of them before. I thought that might be the case with others and wanted more people to enjoy the films we had found for our family.

  1. What ages will we focus on in this podcast?

We decided to focus on titles for families with middle and high-school aged children.

We briefly discussed the Hay’s code that went into a self-imposed standard that the Hollywood industry of old began when it started to police itself for decency mainly to keep the government from doing it when faced with legislative censorship.

  1. Lisa share that her family criteria for movies is:

Strong and moving story, high production values (good acting, beautiful scenery, inspiring and moving story and score, satisfying ending)

Inspiring themes–triumph, courage and honor, perseverance in the face of difficulty, redemption of a character (like Scrooge in A Christmas Carol or the Beast in Beauty and the Beast)

Historical or story narrative to gain insight and understanding–what it was like to live in different time periods (through World Wars, the Depression, the War for Independence)

Stories that when we are finished viewing, we are better for it. Inspired to stand stronger, be kinder, love others more, not repeat the mistakes of others or the past.

Last but not least, that the films we choose line-up with our family’s biblical values, and though very few films are flawless, promote that which we want to instill in our children and be inspired by personally. I.E.–it’s OK to have a Nellie Olson in a story. We need to have antagonists and protagonists to have a good story, but the antagonist should be seen clearly in the story as the one on the side of wrong, and the protagonist on the side of good and right. Not everyone will agree with us. Some people don’t want their kids to view anyone who has bad behavior–but I’d rather my kids meet Nellie Olesons in the pages of a book or on film where we can discuss these issues in imaginary circumstances before they face them in real life. And they will

4. What do you think about movie ratings?

Yes–we find it extremely entertaining that many older Shirley Temple films are rated PG, and so many more modern animated or even live-action “kids” films these days rated G are not ones we would choose to watch. We also have seen many PG-13 films that are rated because of the themes and not for content but meet our criteria as a worthy film for our family to view.  For example, two movies released more recently, The Book Thief (PG-13) and Hidden Figures (PG) I would choose to show my older children hands down over MANY rated G films released these days.

5. I also want to discuss underlying themes … many times movie producers even in animations place subtle hints (homosexuality, gender issues, etc. in movies that parents catch).

This is something coming in more and more these days–I may have a position not everyone is comfortable with. Each family needs to discern for themselves. We watched Disney’s live-action version of The Beauty and the Beast, over which there was some controversy. It was not hard to see that they subtly included some propaganda I could discern as an adult. But in the end we felt the overall value of truth, beauty, good overcoming evil and prejudice, strong family affection and loyalty (Belle and her father) and redemption of the beast in the film far outweighed the objectionable elements they included which went right over my younger children’s heads. And as they get older, we will use those elements as jumping off points to talk about values that differ from ours and how to have judgment and discernment when approaching film and other viewpoints.

30 top films30 Top Films For Families Middle School to Adult  – those starred below are their family favorites.

  1. Little Women (June Allyson and Wiona Ryder)
  2. The Prisoner of Zenda (Stuart Granger)
  3. Night Crossing (Disney) *
  4. Miniver
  5. The Great Escape
  6. The Fighting Sullivan’s *
  7. The Long Gray Line *
  8. Little Lord Fauntleroy
  9. Anne of Green Gables & The Sequel
  10. A Man Called Peter *
  11. Sergeant York *
  12. The Agony & The Ecstasy * (Michelangelo’s Sistine Chapel)
  13. Ben Hur
  14. Boy’s Town *
  15. Chariots of Fire *
  16. The Bishop’s Wife (Cary Grant)
  17. Smith Goes To Washington
  18. Edison: The Man *
  19. Madame Curie *
  20. Jackie Robinson (42 is also well done) *
  21. Pride of the Yankees *
  22. I Remember Mama
  23. Captains Courageous (Spencer Tracy)
  24. Goodbye, Mr. Chips (Robert Donat)
  25. Miracle of the White Stallions (Disney) *
  26. Remember the Titans
  27. The Bode Thief
  28. Gifted Hands *
  29. Hidden Figures *
  30. Guns of Navaronne

We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor, Like Arrows!

FamilyLife’s first feature film LIKE ARROWS, explores the joys and heartaches of parenting with a story that spans over 50 years. Join us in theaters across America for a special 2 night showing of LIKE ARROWS followed by exclusive after-show content with the film-makers, including celebrated faith-based film-makers Alex and Stephen Kendrick as well as FamilyLife Today’s Dennis and Barbara Rainey and Bob Lepine. You’ll leave encouraged and equipped with powerful next steps to make Christ the center of YOUR parenting.

LIKE ARROWS will be in theaters for two nights only, MAY 1ST and 3RD. To view the trailer and find theater info, visit the link below. If you missed the movie in theatres be sure to check out the Digital, DVD and Blueray versions on the website, LikeArrowsMovie.com

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Transcripts Credits Grades

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Tips for an amazing transcript! 

Episode #65

Transcripts, credits, grades really are difficult to figure out but how do you navigate the waters of high school? Well-meaning parents and friends will tell you that your child won’t get accepted with a “valid” transcript. That’s not true, but we will talk about suggested credits and so much more. Road Map for success – http://www.collegeprepgenius.com/roadmap

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Show Notes: Transcripts, Credits and Grades

  1. What are suggested credits for high school?
    1. Depending on state and homeschool laws
    2. Minimum 23 credits
    3. Minimum, Recommended and Distinguished
    4. Shoot for the distinguished – 27-29 credits…you can fall into the recommended plan.
  2. Can you define a credit and how to award them to the student?
    1. Credit can be called a unit- measure the amount of time the student has spent on the course.
    2. A credit can be 120-180 hours of work
    3. The beauty is you can define your own credits. 5 x 45 min x 180 =
    4. You establish how you will award your credits.
    5. Homeschooling allows flexibility.
      1. Textbook/ tests approach
      2. Credits for sewing, art, Eagle scout, music, drama
      3. Related experiences classroom, rehearsals, etc.
      4. College classes, dual credit and early college Demonstrated expertise – take care of horses, equestrian class; baking, sewing, carpentry work, etc.

High School Grade Scale: Important for Transcripts, Credits and Grades

  1. High school grade scale.
    1. Important to allow your children to know your scale
    2. 90-100 –A | 89-80—B | 79-70—C | 69-60—D
    3. You can adopt your own scale or adjust to your scale
    4. Let the kids know you won’t deviate
  2. What are some possible grading standards?
    1. Establish standards can help your child and work toward their strengths
    2. Grades are based on:
      1. Math: 1/3 tests – 1/3 daily work – 1/3 final exam
      2. History ½ reading and ½ reports
  • Fine arts ½ performance and ½ practice
  1. DonnaYoung.org – free forms that will help record your grades
  2. HSLD – has a low-cost recording site
  1. Elective courses can be Pass/Fail but not calculated into average

What is a transcript and why does our teen need one?

  1. Should have a transcript whether or not you went to college
  2. Record of accomplishments completed during high school years, I did something and completed it.
  3. Validate your high school work that you completed
  4. Required for military acceptance
  5. Entry level employment jobs
  6. Internship
  7. Annual report card or a summary of what you have completed.
  • How to calculate the GPA?
    1. Grade Point Average
    2. GPA – assign a grade to a point. Multiply points by 1 credit or more credits that will give you the points
      1. A = 4 points
      2. B = 3 points
  • C = 2 points
  1. D = 1 point
  1. Yearly GPA takes you letter point, assign it a number value, divide it by the total credits you’ve given.
  2. Total Years – take all your credits and divide it by the points and divide.
  3. Weighted and Unweighted score: has to do with more advanced classes like more “weighted credits” for harder classes.
  1. Where do I start?
    1. The beauty of homeschooling is you can begin anytime. It is best to begin in the 8th grade using a master planner form or template.
    2. Kids can help chose the classes over basic core classes
    3. Taking ownership of the plan, compare admissions requirement and state law
    4. If your child knows they want to go to college you can shoot for distinguished
    5. Maturity helps, they become more serious as they get older

We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor, Like Arrows!

FamilyLife’s first feature film LIKE ARROWS, explores the joys and heartaches of parenting with a story that spans over 50 years. Join us in theaters across America for a special 2 night showing of LIKE ARROWS followed by exclusive after-show content with the film-makers, including celebrated faith-based film-makers Alex and Stephen Kendrick as well as FamilyLife Today’s Dennis and Barbara Rainey and Bob Lepine. You’ll leave encouraged and equipped with powerful next steps to make Christ the center of YOUR parenting.

LIKE ARROWS will be in theaters for two nights only, MAY 1ST and 3RD. To view the trailer and find theater info, visit the link below. If you missed the movie in theatres be sure to check out the Digital, DVD and Blueray versions on the website, LikeArrowsMovie.com

Visit here to learn more.


 

Family Action Plan

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Episode 265

Get your battle gear on, it’s time for a family action plan! Most of us enter into family life with a day-to-day survival mentality. Now is the time to kick that survival mode attitude and become proactive! In this episode, I discuss my aversion to details, planning and how life got the best of me most days, weary and defeated I fell into bed only to rinse and repeat again. Then an idea, a small seed that sprouted into what I call a family action plan – that I’ll share in this not be missed episode!

Thanks to our sponsor — Like Arrows 

As adults, we are responsible for our families. We have jobs, we figure out where we will live–we buy or rent a home, we decide what we will eat for the day, for the week or even for the month. But do we really plan and focus on what we hope to accomplish within our families? I felt the years were speeding by when my first two children sprung into their teen years. I had a little one and had started “life” over in a sense. I wondered what was becoming of our family, would I have enough time to spend with each kid, was anyone going to feel left out–and truthfully things I never worried about before started to creep in and concern me.

Let’s face it, having two kids was easier than five and having kids when I was younger with more energy was actually different then having children in my late 30’s because I was an experienced mom, and much more relaxed. My last three children got away with less since this savvy mom already knew what to expect!

Yet something was missing — a Family Plan!

My husband and I ran several businesses together. Being entrepreneurial was in my blood, if not his, and with some help and enthusiasm on my part, we began a construction and home inspection business that he works in, and I run my publishing business that consists of this network and books I’ve published. Our businesses have measures in place so they practically run themselves or if there is a problem, years of experience come into play. Why couldn’t we apply this to our family? Write a business plan for our family life?

And that is what I propose. Our goals and objectives will be different but some things are the same. Having a mission statement, goals, looking at our communication with our customers and employees, and keeping an eye on the future while planning for the unexpected. Yes, you can actually plan for things that might crop up without being Debbie-Downer! Of course, life can throw you a curveball, but if you have an idea of how you want your life to look it may actually help.

One of the main elements that has been our mainstay in all our years in business and family life is one main constant. Love of God, trust in God and His providence for our family, and looking to God for our answers before we find ourselves struggling! I may have shared with you in the past that I tend to get ahead of God. I get this idea and want to run with it, but when I stop, write it down and place it in my prayer journal I wait until I have peace I don’t move ahead with it…

So what are those top five things and how can you create a family plan of your own?

Click here to download the pdf file of the following for your own private use. Top Five Things To Do TO Create A Family Plan-handout

family action planHere is an outline:

  1. Top Five Things To Do TO Create A Family PlanMission:
    1. What is your family mission statement?
    2. Do you have your mission statement posted where everyone can see it?
    3. Does everyone understand your family mission statement?

    Goals:

    1. What are your goals and objectives for your family?
    2. Do I have priorities and are they in the correct order?
    3. How do I instill values and faith in my family?

    Communication:

    1. Do I have open lines of communication set within my family?
    2. Has there been a breakdown of communication? If so how can I fix it?
    3. Do I need to communicate rules in a better way?

    Future:

    1. How do I anticipate my family structure changing in the future?
    2. Have I projected the financial needs of my family now and in the future?
    3. Have I considered savings, investments or college funds?

    Unexpected:

    1. Have I identified unmet financial needs?
    2. Have I identified unmet needs with my spouse or children?
    3. Do I have a plan in place for the unexpected (financial: medical, school, home)?

We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor, Like Arrows!

FamilyLife’s first feature film LIKE ARROWS, explores the joys and heartaches of parenting with a story that spans over 50 years. Join us in theaters across America for a special 2 night showing of LIKE ARROWS followed by exclusive after-show content with the film-makers, including celebrated faith-based film-makers Alex and Stephen Kendrick as well as FamilyLife Today’s Dennis and Barbara Rainey and Bob Lepine. You’ll leave encouraged and equipped with powerful next steps to make Christ the center of YOUR parenting.

LIKE ARROWS will be in theaters for two nights only, MAY 1ST and 3RD. To view the trailer and find theater info, visit the link below. If you missed the movie in theatres be sure to check out the Digital, DVD and Blueray versions on the website, LikeArrowsMovie.com

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Best of HIRL: Answering Homeschool Critics

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Answering Homeschool Critics

Homeschool critics seem to be everywhere and some of us have had our share of uncomfortable conversations about our choice to homeschool, how we’re going about it, whether or not we’re qualified to teach our own kids, and even what they’re learning.

Learning how to answer homeschool critics, especially those who are close to us, sometimes requires us to offer a soft answer. Other times it requires us to be very direct and set firm boundaries in our conversations or interactions with our critics. Either way, we need to remind ourselves of the gospel and remember that our identity is in Christ alone.

On this short episode of HomeschoolingIRL, Fletch and Kendra discuss gracious responses and remind us all that we only really have an audience of One. Tune in and enjoy this episode of Homeschooling In Real Life To Go!


We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor, Like Arrows!

FamilyLife’s first feature film LIKE ARROWS, explores the joys and heartaches of parenting with a story that spans over 50 years. Join us in theaters across America for a special 2 night showing of LIKE ARROWS followed by exclusive after-show content with the film-makers, including celebrated faith-based film-makers Alex and Stephen Kendrick as well as FamilyLife Today’s Dennis and Barbara Rainey and Bob Lepine. You’ll leave encouraged and equipped with powerful next steps to make Christ the center of YOUR parenting.

LIKE ARROWS will be in theaters for two nights only, MAY 1ST and 3RD. To view the trailer and find theater info, visit the link below. If you missed the movie in theatres be sure to check out the Digital, DVD and Blueray versions on the website, LikeArrowsMovie.com

Visit here to learn more.


Best of HIRL: How The Gospel Makes Us Unoffendable

How the Gospel Makes Us Unoffendable - with Homeschooling IRLWhat if someone told you that you had no right to be angry? What if you could live a life that was defined as unoffendable? What would it look like to not be offended by the things people say and do, or by the way they treat you? And what if you could smile and relax, knowing that God has covered every offense with his inexhaustible love for you?

Homeschoolers, let’s face it. We are quick to be offended. Whether it’s outsiders who watch us and don’t like our educational choices or fellow homeschoolers who challenge our methods or curriculum, we can often take offense at anyone who questions what we are doing. What would your life look like if you were unoffendable?

On this episode of HomeschoolingIRL, we’re talking with radio host Brant Hansen about his new book, Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better. When the gospel gets involved, it really is your best life, forever.


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