HSHSP Ep 97: Having Hard Conversations with Your Homeschool Teen

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HSHSP Ep 97: Having Hard Conversations with Your Homeschool Teen

HSHSP Ep 97: Having Hard Conversations with Your Homeschool Teen

Teens these days hear about things that many of us moms never even knew existed when we were teens. There are so many tough topics out there.

It’s hard having hard conversations with you homeschool teen.

It’s even hard talking about having hard conversations with teens.

Have your teens needed to discuss difficult things like:

  • Divorce
  • Abuse
  • Drug and alcohol abuse
  • Depression
  • Suicidal thoughts or self-harm behaviors
  • Existential crises (*What’s life about, anyway?*)
  • Gender identity issues
  • Toxic relationships
  • Bullying
  • Body image
  • Self-esteem
  • Eating disorders
  • Sex trafficking

When teens know someone who is experience one of these topics OR if teens themselves are experiencing something like these topics, they need to talk about it with a safe and loving parent.

  • Remind teens this is a broken world full of broken people and things
  • Relationship between parent and teen is most important
  • Listen until they are through talking first without fixing or correcting
  • Never freak out (recognize and manage your own response and fear)
    • Monitor your own feelings
    • Give them focused attention and eye contact
    • Unconditionally accept your teen
  • Try different locations for talks one-on-one (driving in a car, going out to lunch)
  • Be willing to provide support (counseling, for instance)
  • Help them help their friend, if necessary, but let them know it is not their job to keep their friends safe. If a friend is in danger, you upline (tell parents, etc). Safety is more important than confidentiality.

Even families where none of those topics come up, teens run into tough topics:

  • at youth group
  • on a random website
  • on social media
  • on the televisions at the local department store

Somethings to say:

  • That’s really hard.
  • I really get it.
  • I’m sorry you’ll get though this.
  • You will get through this.
  • What are you going to do? Why will you choose that?
  • How is that working?

Remember: First, last and always…PRAY!

Remember: The strength of a family is in their unconditional love.

Join Sabrina, Vicki and Kym for a tough discussion on tough discussions. In the meantime, enjoy these posts:

How to Help Homeschool Teens in Identity Crisis

Homeschooling Teens with Mental Illness

HSHSP Ep 58: Helping Teens in Crisis Times

Maybe the Number One Tip for Relationship Success: Be Nice!

 

HSHSP Ep 97: Having Hard Conversations with Your Homeschool Teen

HSHSP Ep 96: Scheduling Senior Year for Career-Bound Homeschoolers

This week on HSHSP Ep 96: Scheduling Senior Year for Career-Bound Homeschoolers.

HSHSP Ep 96: Scheduling Senior Year for Career-Bound Homeschoolers

HSHSP Ep 96: Scheduling Senior Year for Career-Bound Homeschoolers

Some homeschool high schoolers graduate and go to college.

Some homeschool highschoolers graduate and go right into the workforce. It’s NOT WRONG to not go to college! Not all young people are called to go to college.

Some teens need a gap year (or two) before they go to college. They want to work or serve for a time before heading to college.

There are lots of options for homeschool graduates. But FIRST they need to finish senior year. Join Sabrina, Vicki and Kym for HSHSP Ep 96: Scheduling Senior Year for Career-Bound Homeschoolers:

July: Plan out the year. What is left of the academic requirements for graduation in your state and/or supervising organization. Think about practical courses like Career Exploration, Financial Literacy and think about Professional Writing. Make sure you include your teen in the process. Order curriculum.

August: Have your teen write an experiential resume. Help them search for an apprenticeship or job. Help them practice interview skills.

September: Teach your career-bound teen networking skills. Teach them how to ask for a reference. See if you can find some training classes for trades at your local community college or unions.

Winter: Work on graduation plans like senior pictures, graduation date and location, announcements while things are more quiet. Schedule backwards through the end of the school year. What academics need to be completed or caught up? Schedule backwards to the end of the year.

Also, throughout the year, you may need to wrestle with these questions:

How do you deal with students who are struggling or have some unrealistic dreams?

  • Help them discover Plan B’s and let them know how long you’ll support them as they try for professional gaming, sports or some other *big dream* career.

Join us this week for encouragement for career-bound seniors and their moms. In the meantime enjoy these posts:

What are “Values” and Why are Values Important in Career Exploration?

Homeschool Graduate and Entrepreneur Talks about Success and Financial Literacy

HSHSP Ep 82: Writing Happens, Make it Useful- Professional Writing Skills

HSHSP Ep 96: Scheduling Senior Year for Career-Bound Homeschoolers

HSHSP Ep 95: Senior Year for College-Bound Homeschool Highschoolers

This week on HSHSP Ep 95: Senior Year for College-Bound Homeschool Highschoolers.

HSHSP Ep 95: Senior Year for College Bound Homeschool Highschoolers

HSHSP Ep 95: Senior Year for College-Bound Homeschool Highschoolers

Senior year is different from the earlier years of homeschooling high school. We are getting LOTS of questions about what to expect from senior year for college bound homeschool highschoolers.

What needs to happen and when?

July-June: PRAY! Pray together, pray on your own!

July: Plan the academics for the year, include your teen in the process. Order your curriculum if possible.

August: Have your senior write their college admissions essays. Most of the online applications have the essay topics posted by August.

September: Narrow the college choices down to 3-5. Make sure your teen has visited those schools. If the school gets rolling admissions, your teen can start the application process.

October: If early admissions is open for your teens choice schools, you can apply now. Have them take their time and do a good job.  Get the reference requests done.

November: Wrap up the applications and recommendation letters.

Holidays: Have a nice holiday season. Keep those academics on target.

January: Keep an eye on status on the online essays….IF you are not obsessing. You really can trust God to open and close the right doors. Please don’t share everything with all your social media. Ask you teens first! Remind your teen to be compassionate with their friends who are in different places in the process.

February: Send mid-year grades to colleges. Start working on graduation. Are senior pictures done? Pick graduation date. Start organizing your ideas for graduation party and ceremony.

March: Financial aid packages have arrived. Time for your teen to make that college decision.

April: Plan the schedules to finish off academics and activities to finish in time.

May: Wrap things up.

June: Graduation!!!

Join Sabrina, Vicki and Kym for an encouraging, empowering talk about senior year for college bound homeschool highschoolers. In the meantime, enjoy these posts and resources:

Scheduling Backwards FREEBIE from 7SistersHomeschool.com

Graduation Party Part One: How to Plan Ahead

 

 

How to Request a College Recommendation Letter

 

 

3 Top Priorities for Success in College

 

Guide to College Application Essay Writing 7SistersHomeschool.com

Click here for more information on the College Application Essay Writing Guide.

 

HSHSP Ep 95: Senior Year for College-Bound Homeschool Highschoolers

HSHSP Ep 94: Choosing College Degrees Interview with Dr. Renae Duncan

This week on HSHSP Ep 94: Choosing College Degrees Interview with Dr. Renae Duncan.

HSHSP Ep 94: Choosing College Degrees Interview with Dr. Renae Duncan

HSHSP Ep 94: Choosing College Degrees Interview with Dr. Renae Duncan

How do you help your teen know what kind of college degree they need in order to achieve their goals? That’s an important question!

Join us for an interview with Dr. Renae Duncan, Associate Provost for Undergraduate Education at Murray State University. Dr. Duncan has been helping young people along their college journey for many years and can give us some useful tips in understanding the many college degrees that are available.

Dr. Renae Duncan Associate Provost of Undergraduate Affairs Murray State University

Click image for more information about Dr. Duncan and MSU.

Vicki and Renae discuss topic such as:

What’s the difference between?

  • Associates of Arts (differ from 4 year degrees in the numbers of maths and sciences)
  • Bachelor of Arts Degree (often more foreign languages and general education in the degree than BS)
  • Bachelor of Science

Other specialized degrees will vary from college to college, such as:

  • Bachelor of Social Work
  • Bachelor in Nursing
  • Bachelor in Music
  • Bachelor in Fine Arts

What is a Liberal Arts degree? Why can that be better than a straight STEM degree, even if you’re a science major?

  • Why are degrees that promote thinking skills and soft skills valuable in today’s workforce?
  • Remember the college major provides skills for a career specialty but the General Education requirements provides the employability skills.

Here are tips for choosing which degree is best for your homeschool high schooler:

  • Do Career Exploration. No way around it! A comprehensive Career Exploration course will help a teen clarify values, needs, giftings, interests and callings. These are determining factors in choosing which major AND which degree is a best fit.
  • Take college tours: Ask questions like: Why is your BA program better than others? What makes your program BA or BS? There is no substitution for walking onto a campus and talking to the staff there- person to person.
  • Talk to some students or graduates from each college you visit. Ask their opinions on the degree offered.

To sum it all up: What is the best major? The one that fits your goals for life!

Join Dr. Renae Duncan, Associate Provost of Murray State University and Vicki for this enlightening conversation. In the meantime, enjoy these posts.

Why Waste High School Credits on Career Exploration?

 

Homeschool-Friendly College: Murray State University

How to Help Teens Choose a College Major

HSHSP Ep 94: Choosing College Degrees Interview with Dr. Renae Duncan

 

HSHSP Ep 93: How to Start a Homeschool Organization Interview with Carol Topp CPA

This week on HSHSP Ep 93: How to Start a Homeschool Organization, Interview with Carol Topp CPA.

HSHSP Ep 93: How to Start a Homeschool Organization Interview with Carol Topp CPA

 

HSHSP Ep 93: How to Start a Homeschool Organization,  Interview with Carol Topp CPA

Homeschool parents are movers and shakers! If they need something, or their kids need something, and it is not available, they make it happen! Homeschoolers often start organizations: co-ops, support groups and more.

BUT here’s her rub: When we take money for services, we’ve started a business, whether we like it or not.

How do we know when we have a business or a non-profit? We go to the experts! Our favorite expert is Carol Topp, the Homeschool CPA.

Carol joins Vicki for tips about starting organizations in a wise and responsible manner. She helps us understand important concepts such as:

  • What is an organization
  • Understanding its operation
  • Creating non-profit status, if you need it
  • Creating a for-profit status, if you need it
  • Forming a board
  • Creating bylaws
  • Communicating with the IRS

Carol gives us her Checklist for Starting a Non-profit Homeschool Organization:

  • Gather a board
  • Appoint officers
  • Create a binder to keep track of records
  • Create bylaws
  • Choose a structure (unincorporated or incorporated)
  • Obtain your EIN from IRS
  • Open a checking account
  • Get tax exempt status from IRS
  • Communicate with the state
  • Send in annual forms to IRS

Feel intimidated? You should probably get in touch with Carol. SHE’S intimidating. (She has great resources, too!) 

In the meantime, catch her podcast here on the Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network.

HSHSP Ep 93: How to Start a Homeschool Organization,  Interview with Carol Topp CPA

 

 

HSHSP Ep 92: Helping Literal Thinkers with Literature Analysis

This week on HSHSP Ep 92: Helping Literal Thinkers with Literature Analysis.

HSHSP Ep 92 Helping Literal Thinkers with Literature Analysis

HSHSP Ep 92: Helping Literal Thinkers with Literature Analysis

Many teens haven’t reached the developmental stage where they can think symbolically. Those non-symbolic teens are called “literal thinkers”.

There’s nothing wrong with being a literal thinker…except that it can be a BIG challenge where it comes to literature analysis. Literature analysis tends to lean heavily on inferential thinking (reading between the lines) and symbolically (metaphors, similes, analogies). This is difficult for literal thinkers.

Most teens will hit the developmental stage where they are thinking symbolically and inferentially. (In Human Development classes we call these types of thinking part of a process called *metacognition*.)

When they reach this developmental stage, they will also be able to see differing perspectives on a character or plot. But until then, Sabrina, Vicki and Kym share some thoughts about helping teens think in more mature levels.

In HSHSP Ep 92, we discuss:

  • The benefits of study guides in helping ease literal thinkers into symbolic and inferential thinking
  • Ways to use quality movies as literature for analysis
  • The benefits of discussion of analysis with family and/or peers
  • Cinema Studies post with literary devices

Got a teen who thinks concretely? Literature Analysis can be a challenge. Join us for some tips to help. In the meantime, here are some links with more good information.

How about a freebie to find out how helpful study guides can be:

Anne of Green Gables Study Guide FREE!

Here are some other helpful posts:

Literature Analysis, Literal Thinkers and Movies in High School

Cinema Studies for Literature Learning in your High School Homeschool Co-op

10 Great Discussion Questions for Homeschool Literature Co-op

HSHSP Ep 92: Helping Literal Thinkers with Literature Analysis

HSHSP Ep 91: Good News about Mom-Fails

This week on HSHSP Ep 91: Good News about Mom-Fails!

HSHSP Ep 91: Good News about Mom-Fails

HSHSP Ep 91: Good News about Mom-Fails

Ever feel like a failure? Or maybe just have one of those memorable *mom-fail* moments?

That’s one thing about being a homeschool mom: We are just human. Humans fail!

If you think you’ve sometimes blown it, listen to Sabrina, Vicki and Kym’s mom-fails:

  • Sabrina’s famous strawberry jam failure…
  • Vicki’s failure to teach weather safety…
  • Kym’s crying at the wrong child’s graduation…
  • Vicki’s leaving 10 teens on the metro platform in Washington DC…

In this episode, we share encouragement… and quotes… and soundbites to help you feel better about your mom-fails!

  • Kym’s goal of having her kids experience different fails than her parents’ failures.
  • Vicki’s reminder that motherhood is all about guilt!
  • And so much more!

We ask the hard-hitting question: Why is it so hard to forgive ourselves for our failures?

Is it because:

  • We are forgetting that only God is perfect

Kym helps us remember Angie Smith’s saying: We need to need God in front of our kids rather than being God for our kids.

Join Sabrina, Vicki and Kym as they encourage you with thoughts about these questions.

  • How can we recover from failures?
  • How can we talk to ourselves about our failures?
  • How can we admit our faults and obey God in forgiveness?
  • How can we not take ourselves too seriously?

Remember, as Sabrina says, “Failure is not a destination, it is simply a rock that we trip over while on the journey.”

Join Sabrina, Vicki and Kym for lots of encouragement for homeschool mom-fails! In the meantime, check out these posts:

3 Steps for Getting Life Right All the Time

 

The Homeschool Highschool Podcast Ep 9: Allowing Teens to Fail

How to Learn from Failure with our Teens

HSHSP Ep 91: Good News about Mom-Fails

HSHSP Ep 90: Handling Holiday Homeschool Hassles

This week on HSHSP Ep 90: Handling Holiday Homeschool Hassles!

HSHSP Ep 90: Handling Holiday Homeschool Hassles

HSHSP Ep 90: Handling Holiday Homeschool Hassles

What is the Christmas break supposed to look like in homeschool highschool?

Are we supposed to do NO homeschool lessons?

Are we supposed to catch up on all the lessons we’re behind on?

Are we supposed to work right through and get ahead?

The Christmas break can get to feeling like a homeschool hassle! Join Sabrina, Vicki and Kym for ideas on handling holiday homeschool hassles.+!

How can we respect everyone’s:

  • Expectations
  • Needs
  • Wants

Then plan wisely for your Christmas break!

  • Communicate with teens your expectations
  • Work together to set holiday goals
  • Respect need for some change
  • Balance competing needs and activities

How to run a *Homeschool Triage* to decide what to do when.

  • What is most desperate, most pressing, most important?
  • What do your teens like and they’ll get caught up on their own?
  • What do you just need to toss?

Learn how to juggle and memorize our friend Colleen Kessler’s quote (Raising Lifelong Learners blog): Every morning you have to get up and decide which ball you need to drop!

Face the need to manage your own perfectionism. As Kym quotes: Perfectionism is NOT a good role model.

How to manage the need for your own self-care:

  • Sharing the carpool with other homeschool moms so everyone can get a little rest
  • Take a *silent retreat* after Christmas
  • Have a Merry New Yearsmass for your big holiday party instead of Christmas Day

How to face the fact that there’s not ONE right way to homeschool or not during the Christmas break.

There are some hassles. That’s okay. Face it and then give yourself a break! AND in the meantime, take a look at these posts for encouragement:

Twas the Week Before Christmas: Homeschool Holiday Curriculum

6 Ways to Turn “White Christmas” into a Homechool Unit Study

Homeschool Highschool Podcast Episode 38: Holiday Social Skills for Teens

Homeschool Highschool Podcast Episode 36: Teens and Complicated Christmas

HSHSP Ep 90: Handling Holiday Homeschool Hassles

 

HSHSP Ep 89: A NOVEL Approach with Highschool Literature!

This week on HSHSP Ep 89: A NOVEL Approach with Highschool Literature!

HSHSP Ep 89: A NOVEL Approach with Highschool Literature!

HSHSP Ep 89: A NOVEL Approach with Highschool Literature!

Moldy, ancient novels: that’s what highschool Literature is, right?

Boring, meaningless lessons based on the old novel is highschool Literature, right?

Wrong on both counts!

Why read just because they are required to? Why not look at *novel* ideas for types of Literature? Teens can:

  • Read for connection (to the author, to life, to culture, etc)
  • Read to understand the author’s why?
  • Read to find their own why?

AND Literature is more than dusty novels. Lots of things can count as Literature!

Sabrina, Vicki and Kym have some NOVEL ideas for some lively, meaningful and fun ideas for homeschool highschool Literature. They share the thought provoking questions:

 

What can count as literature? Can it be something other than old novels? Here are some types of Literature that they have covered with their homeschool highschoolers:

  • Poetry (reading, interacting with it, memorizing it, writing it)
  • Short stories
  • Biographies
  • Autobiographies
  • Plays (try some Readers Theatre)
  • Movies

Listen and find out the answer to the BURNING question: Why did Shakespeare write in iambic pentameter.

In the meantime, check out these useful links for new ways to look at highschool Literature.

Cinema Studies for Literature Learning in your High School Homeschool Co-op

Homeschool Highschool Podcast Ep 14: Readers Theater Party- It’s COOL!

God is a Poet – Introducing Poetry to High School Homeschool Students

 

Vicki’s Pinterest Poetry Board (lots of famous people reading poetry…so cool!)

HSHSP Ep 89: A NOVEL Approach with Highschool Literature!

 

HSHSP Ep 88: Handling Grief and Trauma and How to Help with Connie Stults

This week on HSHSP Ep 88: Handling Grief and Trauma and How to Help with Connie Stults.

HSHSP Ep 88: Handling Grief and Trauma and How to Help with Connie Stults

HSHSP Ep 88: Handling Grief and Trauma and How to Help with Connie Stults

Join us for this precious interview with our good friend, Connie Stults of The Daisyhead. Connie shares her courageous story of her battle with a rare thyroid cancer and her healing, followed soon by the tragic news that her husband had a terminal brain tumor. Learn how she and her kids pulled together for the last 4 months of her husband’s life and ways you can help other families who are experiencing grief and trauma.

Connie and Vince Stults

Click here to read about Connie and Vince.

But this episode is NOT a downer! Connie, who is a born optimist, shares tips and encouragement on handling grief and trauma and how to help:

  • Her story
  • How to talk to kids in difficult times
  • What to do for a grieving family, especially PRACTICAL ideas!
  • What to say to a grieving child
  • How to act around a widow
  • How to talk to a widow
  • Know that children respond to things in the way their parents respond to them
  • Remember to tell the children about the pending grief that no matter what happens that God has not dropped them
  • What it is like to be a widow
  • Sometimes you might make a mistake in something you say but remember not to avoid
  • A good book to read: Just Show Up by Kara Tippetts
  • Gentle ways to help during the holidays

In the meantime, be sure to check out these important posts on trauma and grief by Connie.

Cast Down

How to Act Around a Widow (or Widower)

What to Say to a Grieving Friend

Also, you will be blessed by our friend, Lisa’s prayer journal:

God Meets Me Here- a Prayer Journal for People with Chronic Illness

HSHSP Ep 88: Handling Grief and Trauma and How to Help with Connie Stults

 


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