Israel and Brook Wayne again tackle the difficult issue of conflict in marriage, offering thoughts when the conflict goes beyond just “a disagreement.” Be sure to listen to Part 1.
Israel and Brook Wayne, of Family Renewal, speak to the topic of conflict in marriage and give insights, ideas, and encouragement to greater oneness instead of division. Nagging, ridicule, selfishness, and conflict all tear at the fabric of closeness in our marriages, hindering us from living out the picture God wants our marriages to reflect. Learn how to lay aside the attitudes and beliefs that tear down marriage, and put in their place building blocks for a closer marriage. Look for Part 2 as well.
My interview with psychologist and homeschooling dad, Dr. Don McCulloch, is one you’ll want to listen to with your spouse! After you listen, be sure to take The Marriage of Your Dreams Challenge at Psychowith6.
Until 11:58 in the interview, Dr. McCulloch and I discussed his research on homeschooling.
- What are college admissions counselors’ opinion of homeschoolers?
- What was his surprising finding?
We then had an inspiring discussion on marriage based on his superb book, Perfect Circle: A Husband’s Guide to the Six Tasks of a Contemporary Christian Marriage.
- What is a simple, profound question for Christian husbands to ask their wives? Why don’t husbands ask it?
- What do wives often do that doesn’t work to improve a marriage?
- Why will your book and website, ChristianMarriageCoach.org, appeal to husbands?
- What do you suggest for homeschoolers’ biggest marriage challenges (hint: it’s not a date night)?
- Which partner is most resistant to planning intimacy?
- What is your opinion on celebrating Valentine’s Day?
- What is your take on the 5 Love Languages?
- What advice do you have for wives?
How will you approach Valentine’s Day after listening to Dr. McCulloch’s advice?
Valentine’s Day is often associated with love, but not necessarily marital love. At least not in the commercial sense. Each year I try to read a book that will strengthen my marriage, but I have been lax the last few years. I rarely can finish the ones I begin. Their advice seems silly, or even worse condescending or unattainable.
After being married for thirty-four years you wouldn’t think I’d be interested in reading a book on marriage. I mean if I add the number of years I’ve been married + the fact that I’m happily married, that should equal expert status, right? Um, wrong.
I was definitely intrigued because of the authors, Hal and Melanie Young. I’m a big “Young” fan and have enjoyed their book on raising sons, since I have three. And, I love their seminars on the Ultimate Homeschool Expo and on this website, with their own podcast, Making Biblical Family Life Practical.
Besides that the Young’s are my friends. I remember attending a conference in Missouri in September 2011. I was freezing, as I sat outside talking to Hal and Melanie. Melanie and I were sitting on a wooden bench with a stuffed Frosty the Snowman on one end. Hal stood there with a little one in the stroller. Being from North Carolina the weather felt great to them, being from Florida I was happy with Frosty on one end and Melanie on the other. During this impromptu chat session outdoors in the evening air, we discussed many things. And, in the course of our conversations which often happen with Christian friends I asked how I could pray for them. They shared they were writing a book on marriage. Marriage! I was so excited and agreed to pray for them. I couldn’t wait. From time to time I’d ask how the book was coming along, and it was one thing after another that delayed the manuscript.
But, God is victorious and true to His word! The book is now out, just in time for Valentine’s Day and what a wonderful work it is, a legacy on what Christian marriage ought to be. Not in the esoteric and theoretical sense, either. This book is practical. That is so typical of the Youngs! It is a roll-up-your-sleeves, deal with financial issues, cancer and day-to-day happenings that can only happen in a life lived to the fullest.
It is a behind the scenes look at a couple who isn’t perfect but who is perfected in Christ. I believe this book should be read by anyone wanting to deepen their marriage. It goes without saying that every newly engaged couple should get a copy of this book. It surely would have made my early years of marriage much easier!
There were so many things I could relate to in the book. My mother also predicted that my “friend” would someday become my husband. And, I like Melanie responded that I didn’t want to ruin our friendship. Good marriage is based upon a good friendship and I can’t wait to see all the powerful testimonies that come from those who read this book. The Young’s have blessed my life, just knowing them, and now more so with the writing of this book. I know you will find a nugget to take away, or begin taking notes like I did – we are never too old to learn ways to make our marriages better.
What way have you made your marriage better? For me it is learning to spend time with my husband. I’d rather bake him a batch of cookies to show my love and he’d rather spend time with me. Comprise is the thing marriage is made of, and I’ve learned the hard way that it is so worth it!
Share your marriage tips with me! And – one winner will receive a wonderful prize from the Youngs! Win a copy of the book (digital) and the audio! (One for you to read and one to give your husband, or vice-versa!) A $40 Value!
[I received a digital review copy – but I plan on purchasing several copies of this book to give as gifts, hope you will join me in sharing what Christian marriage is really about!]