You’ve Got This! When Motherhood is Hard

You've Got This! When Motherhood is Hard with The Real Kathy Lee If you have listened to my podcast for very long, you have heard me say… You’ve Got This. You might have wondered what in the world I actually mean by that statement. Today’s podcast explains my thoughts as I share such an empowering phrase.

Motherhood is hard. We become parents through pregnancy or adoption, both are hard.  Before the baby arrives we are often exhausted physically and emotionally. Next, we stay up all night and are expected to be happy and function the next day. What? How? By digging deep, by realizing that you are making a difference for eternity. It doesn’t mean that it isn’t challenging and very lonely at times.

I suggest the following for moms who struggle believing that they can pull off this thing called motherhood:

  1. Don’t be scared to ask for help – Reach out to a close friend and share your feelings.
  2. Say YES to taking time for yourself. You won’t regret it. You and your family will be happier for it.
  3. Say NO often. Motherhood can overwhelm us, especially when we take on too many things outside the home during the early years.
  4. It is okay to have your own tantrum from time to time. I suggest going in the closet for a good cry or toddler style fit.
  5. Time flies. Try and lean in to these years, savor them. It sounds ridiculous, but you will miss the middle of the night feedings and early morning snuggles on the sofa.

 

YOU really, really do HAVE this!!

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Find a way to #sayyes today.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

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Are You An Unaware Mommy Shamer?

Are You an Unaware Mommy Shamer?Have you ever been guilty of mommy shaming? I sure have. I honestly did not realize I was doing it until years later, but unfortunately that doesn’t change the fact that I did it in the first place. I hope this episode will encourage you to look at yourself and make sure you aren’t guilty of the same thing.

Lesli often tells the story of me mommy shaming her shortly after we first met. She offered me a pair of shoes similar to the ones in the picture below and I refused them because “my daughter was not allowed to wear heels.” Yep, I said that. Nope, I am not proud. Yep, it was mommy shaming.

Once I looked back, I realized that I often mommy shamed in those early years. I would proudly state my opinion about holistic medicine, homeschooling, etc… not realizing that just my tone about the subject could be harming another mom.

Mothering is a mystery. Mothering is challenging. At times mothering is flat out overwhelming. Most of us are insecure of our decisions, especially early on. I think many of us “yell” out our opinion as a cry for affirmation. Unfortunately, our opinions are often seen as mommy shaming.

If you think you might be guilty of mommy shaming, here are my suggestions:

  1. Recognize why you mommy shame.
  2. Recognize when you mommy shame.
  3. Strive to be quietly confident, only sharing STRONG opinions among your inner circle.

Mommy shaming divides. We need each other. Let’s spend our time respecting each other, encouraging each other, and loving each other.

You’ve got this!

Find a way to #sayyes today.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!!

Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

Mother’s Day Q&A with Ashley Smoot

Mother's Day Q&A with Ashley Smooth and The Real Kathy Lee!Recently, I went on Social Media asking moms what questions they would like me to answer on this mother’s day edition of The Real Kathy Lee. I couldn’t believe sooooo many questions were submitted. Although we didn’t get to them all, we did cover some really good ones. Ashley sorted through the questions and chose the following to ask me today.

  1. What’s your perspective on discipline for a toddler/preschooler that is godly, but also developmentally appropriate?
  • Offer real choices
  • Be lighthearted
  • Re-direct
  1. How do you make the decision to homeschool?
  • Do what is best for your family.
  • Not every family is meant to homeschool.
  • Review your decision yearly.
  1. What are your thoughts on time management? How do you have time to take care of everyone and take time for yourself?
  • Know yourself
  • Be willing to work outside a traditional schedule.
  • Be flexible.
  • Find time for yourself.
  • Make time for one on one dates with each child. Learn their love language.
  1. What is your advice on homeschooling beyond preschool?
  • Know your child’s interests and learning styles.
  • Don’t be scared to ask for help.
  • Consider a hybrid if you can’t do it all.
  1. What are my plans for mother’s day???

You will just have to listen to find out. 🙂

 

Happy Happy Mother’s Day!!!!

-Kathy

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

Confessions of a Fake Supermom – Part 2

Confessions of a Fake Supermom Part 2 from The Real Kathy Lee I hope you enjoyed part 1 of my Confessions of a Fake Supermom podcast and are ready for some more confessions! Last week I showed a real picture from my laundry room and talked about five of the not so perfect ways I have mothered my kiddos. If you missed them, here is a recap:

  1. I don’t cook meals for my family everyday.
  2. Sometimes I yell at my kids and freak out over stupid stuff.
  3. My house can get REALLY messy.
  4. Sometimes I wear work out clothes all day (even to the store) when I ZERO intentions of working out.
  5. I rely on a steady stream of coffee to answer the 1 + million questions I answer daily.

 

This week I share five more reasons I should NEVER be referred to as a “supermom.”

  1. My kids have worn different shoes to church, restaurants, etc… more than once.
  2. I have worn workout clothes ALL day with zero plans of actually working out.
  3. I have had my phone taken away from me by my kids.
  4. Sometimes I tell my kids I have to go to the bathroom just so I can get a few moments alone.
  5. I have had to apologize many times to my kids.

 


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Taking Care of YOU – Mind, Body, and Soul with Christy Montes

Taking Care of You - Mind, Body and Soul with Christy Montes and The Real Kathy LeeEpisode 7: Taking Care of YOU – Mind, Body, and Soul with Christy Montes

In last week’s episode I chatted with my dear friend and naturopath doctor, Christy Montes about transforming yourself from Last to First. If you missed it, DO NOT listen to this episode without going back and listening to that one first.

If you have not taking care of yourself in the past, you have the power to change that. Take some time to evaluate your life, your past, and your health. Ask yourself some important questions:

1. Do I have anything in my past that I need to address, any trauma or hurt?

2. Do I love myself, why or why not?

3. What is one thing I desire to see change or improve in my life?

Don’t be afraid to acknowledge the amazing things about yourself and dare to change the things that have been keeping you down. You are worthy of love and belonging. You are perfectly imperfect and that should be celebrated. If you do not own a journal, I highly suggest you buy one today. You can read my story about journaling here. Seek out a good friend, therapist or pastor to help you on this journey of emotional self- awareness.

Christy suggested the following books for anyone of this journey:

 

     

 

     

 

In addition to being aware of your emotional health, Christy suggests everyone follow a balanced diet (80/20) and get sufficient rest. If you can only afford a few basic supplements, Christy suggests adding a good digestive enzyme, a good probiotic, and possibly a Bach Flower remedy to your daily regiment.

You can contact Christy Montes with Trinity Wellness at drchristymontes@gmail.com or text her directly at 678-923-5047.

Go love yourself well!

 

You’ve got this,

Kathy


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From Last to First with Christy Montes

 

From Last to First with Christy MontesFrom Last to First with The Real Kathy Lee

On this episode, I have the pleasure of chatting with my dear friend, Christy Montes. Christy is the homeschooling mother of four girls and works as a naturopath, serving others through her gift in the industry of natural medicine. Both Christy and I share our journey from legalism to grace and from putting ourselves last to caring for our own needs before others.

Christy and I get honest in this episode, sharing our hearts for other moms who might be facing similar situations. Christy encourages moms to look in the mirror and name 10 things they like about themselves. As a journaling fan, I encourage moms to take it a step further by writing down affirmations and read them daily

Both Christy and I have seen the benefit of looking in the mirror and seeing ourselves; our desires, our gifts, our longings and asking the Lord to continue to grow those areas during our motherhood season. We have found it much easier to give grace to other people who may have different convictions and preferences because we know how much grace we need on a daily basis. We continue to work at letting go of the pride that once ruled us as we parented from a “mom last” mentality.

We have learned a lot about the connection of emotional health and physical health. We have seen many men and women get healthier physically when they get healthier emotionally. We will discuss this further in our next episode together. Don’t miss it!

“It is estimated that 90 percent of all physical problems have psychological roots. That may sound like a gross exaggeration. In fact, it’s probably a conservative estimate. A growing body of evidence indicates that virtually every ill that can befall the body from acne to arthritis, headaches to heart disease, cold sores to caner- is influenced, for better or worse, by our emotions. “ (Quoted from The Complete Guide to Your emotions and Your Health p.563 by Emrika Padus and the editors of Prevention magazine).

 

You can reach out to Christy Montes, ND, CHNP with Trinity Wellness via email at drchristymontes@gmail.com or text at 678-923-5047.

Don’t get swallowed up,

Kathy

Unrealistic Expectations

Unrealistic Expectations - in this podcast, Kathy Lee talks with Keri Vasek about the unrealistic expectations we as moms put on ourselves.

Unrealistic Expecations with The Real Kathy Lee

Episode #5

I had a great time talking with Keri Vasek about the unrealistic expectations we as moms put on ourselves. You might remember Keri from Episode 2 where we talked about Losing Your Joy in Motherhood. Keri is the mother of three “muddlings” and enjoys encouraging other moms to let their children PLAY.

On this episode, Keri and I get real about the expectations that haunt mothers. As mothers, we often feel the need to keep a spotless house, present perfect children, and always be dressed and ready to host an event. Well, this is UNREALISTIC. Moms with little ones often have chaos, unruly children, and can be found in yoga pants and a messy bun. Keri and I share some of the unrealistic expectations we had early on as moms and agree that keeping it simple is best.

 

I loved Keri’s 3 REALISTIC expectations for each day.

1.  Find time to read aloud.

2.  Invite your children to play.

3.  Be intentional about loving one another.

Let’s EXPECT good things from our kids and from ourselves. My goal is that my children grow up to know they are loved, so that they feel free to give love to others.

You’ve got this,

Kathy

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Mommy Jammies Night – Leslie Nunnery

Join us to chat about motherhood – childbirth and all issues with raising families large and small.

Leslie_Nunnery undated “That’s Why I’m Here.”

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As busy moms, we wear many hats– wife, mother, housekeeper, chef, educator, taxi driver, and so much more. The demands on our time are endless. Do you ever lose sight of why you do all that you do? Do you ever find yourself feeling discontent with where God has you right now, or do you ever feel like there is no more of you to give to anyone? Let’s take a very practical and personal look at exactly why we are here. Along the way, I think we’ll see the incredible purpose and peace we all can have when we truly figure that out.

Destination: Inspiration-LIVE- Finding Joy for your Journeys with Rachel Martin

Rachel Martin, Jen Reyneri's special guestJoin the LIVE event at 11:11 every Tuesday on our show page here:

http://ultimateradioshow.com/show-hosts/destinationinspiration/

Mommy Jammies Night – Angie Tolpin

AngieTolphinMommyJammiesSpecial Guest Speaker — Angie Tolpin.

AngieTolpinRedeeming Childbirth & Leaving a New Legacy Together

How do we as homeschooling mothers engage the childbearing years, which can be physically, spiritually, and emotionally draining, with grace and joy? What legacy are we as the church leaving with regard to our view of pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood? Since childbirth is such a controversial topic within the church, Titus 2 Mentors often struggle to know just how to encourage the next generation during this season. Let’s partner with Christ to redeem childbirth together and leave a new legacy of embracing this season in a woman’s life!

Who is this talk for: All Women. Husbands, wives, daughters, Titus 2 Mentors, doulas, midwives and other women’s health care professionals that want to have a strengthen ministry with their clients.

Read more about Angie here!

Leaving a Legacy: http://www.angietolpin.com/

Choose Growth : http://www.choosegrowth.com/
Redeeming Childbirth: http://redeemingchildbirth.com
Facebook: http://facebook.com/leavinganintentionallegacy
Redeeming Childbirth Facebook: http://facebook.com/redeemingchildbirth
Twitter: @Angietolpin & @RedeemingBirth
Pinterest: http://pinterest.com/angietolpin

UPDATE:

Angie recently launched a new site http://CourageousMom.com! You can check out her new page at @CourageousMom!

 

She also launched  parenting course as well which is “The 11 Day Challenge to Encourage the Courageous Mom in You” which you can find here: http://angietolpin.conveyour.com/c/68dn5zbvru/11-day-parenting-prayer-challenge

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