The Problem with Pornography & What to Do About It

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #063, The Problem with Pornography & What to Do About ItIn “The Problem with Pornography and What to Do about It” Episode #063, Meredith Curtis talks about the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about but is destroying the hearts of minds of Christians across the world. She addresses the problem with pornography and why it brings devastation. She reveals how to experience freedom and where to go for help—no matter how young or old you are. This is a problem that both parents and teens can face. Meredith also gives parents some practical advice on what to do and say if your son or daughter is indulging in, or addicted to, pornography.

 

 

 

 


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Show Notes:

Our culture is inundated with pornography.

How Pornography has changed.
God has a beautiful plan for nudity and sex–between a husband and wife. Sex outside marriage is sin and so is lust. God commands women to dress modestly so that they will not stir up lust in the men around them.

In contrast, we are surrounded with so much pornography that we do not notice it. We watch opening scenes of favorite shows that show women dressed immodestly and pole dancing. Popular movies show nudity and sex scenes without shame. Does all of this harm us?

Yes, it does. Pornography harms its viewers, but harms our culture as well.

Sex is Removed from Love & Commitment

Our Creator designed sex as an expression of love inside a committed relationship. Instead of desire stirring up toward his wife, a man is aroused by watching a girl he doesn’t know. Sex is no longer something sacred and beautiful.

“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit,” (I Thessalonians 4:3-8 NIV ©1984).

Women Lose Their Value

In pornography, women exist to please men. They have no needs, they don’t get pregnant. But, that young woman that is being lusted after is someone’s daughter. She is made in the image of God and has value. She is not an object to desire, but a woman to be loved and cherished.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church,” (Ephesians 5:25-29 NIV ©1984).

Women Try to Be Pornography

As women lose their value in our culture, the only way young girls believe they can get attention from boys is to be pornography. As a result, young girls and older ladies wear skimpy, tight clothing designed to stir up lust in guys. However, God’s word mentions modesty and propriety.

“I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety,”(I Timothy 2:9a NIV ©1984).

Pornography is Addiction

Once you start looking at pornography, it is hard to stop because pornography is addictive. Like drugs, pornography gives temporary pleasure and, for many, freedom from the pain of their dismal life. Unfortunately, as all addicts know, it eventually takes more and more to achieve the same effect.

Pornography Changes You

Pornography is evil and the evil eventually resides in the watcher. A pornography viewer eventually becomes a different person.

“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a man is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them,” (Ephesians 5:3-7 NIV ©1984).

Good News about Pornography Addiction

The good news is that Jesus Christ is the Bondage Breakers, the One who brings freedom from all addictions. His death on the cross paid the penalty for your sin of pornography. His grace provides freedom to say no to ungodly lusts and to say “YES!” to living a holy life for the glory of Christ.

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery,” (Galatians 5:1 NIV ©1984).

If You are Addicted to Pornography

Shame often accompanies pornography, tying us up in knots so that it is hard to talk about it with anyone or to get help.

First, come clean with the Lord. Ask Him to set you free. Ask him to cleanse your heart and fill Him with passion for him.

Worship & Idolatry.

If you would like to experience freedom from pornography, I also recommend that you talk to your pastor or strong Christian friend.

Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much,” (James 5:16 NASB).

If You Discover Your Teen is Addicted to Pornography

Stay CALM.

Be loving and CALM and set an environment of safety for your child to talk to you opening and honestly. Lust and pornography is a huge problem in our day.

Offer hope.

Pray with him or her. Look at verses in Scripture.

Make changes to the computer. Lock things down. Bring the computers into open areas of the home—for everyone.

Covenant Eyes: http://www.covenanteyes.com/

Integrity Online: http://www.integrity.com/

“Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Ephesians 2:1-3 NASB).

You can live free from Pornography!


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Resources for Freedom

Bible GatewayMaking of Real MenReal Men Talk About Freedom, Girls, & MarriageReal Men 102: Freedom, Courtship, Marriage, & Family High School ClassGod's Girls Talk About Guys, Virtue, & MarriageGod's Girls Beauty SecretsGod's Girls 103: Courship, Marriage, and the Christian Family High School ClassGod's Girls 101: Grow in Christ

The Problem with Pornography & What to Do About It

A Hero For All Times

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #059, A Hero for all TimeIn “A Hero For All Times?” Episode #059, Meredith Curtis introduces you to a brave war hero, gallant gentleman, devout Christian, and enthusiastic farmer. George Washington is a hero for all times with his unwavering faith, kindness, and humility. God spared his life so he could be at the helm in the early days of our beloved United States of America. Join us to learn more about this great man.

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

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Teach History the Fun Way with books by Powerline Productions, Inc., Finish Well Radio, Podcast #049

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Show Notes:

Boyhood

Copybook

Heart to be good

Dying to Dreams on the High Seas

His first dream

Why he gave it up

Why God was closing the door

The White Warrior Who Wouldn’t Die

Why the Native American Chief wanted to meet George Washington

The horses shot from under him

Colonial Virginian

Mount Vernon

Church

Hospitality

House of Burgess

Revolutionary War

Crossing the Delaware

Valley Forge

Constitutional Convention

A Peacemaker

A New Nation

Two enemies working together in his cabinet

People above Parties

His advice: “Do not get entangled in Europe’s mess”

 

American History Resources

Families Learning Together: American History Art Appreciation

American History Cookbook

American Literature & Research

American History Timeline

Families Learning Together: American History Art Appreciation

American History Cookbook American Literature & Research American History Timeline

 

Podcasts:

Link Between Literature & Political Freedom

Happy Birthday America

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #024, Link Between Literature and Political Freedom Finish Well Radio, Podcast #035, Happy Birthday America!

Ready to Lead?

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #056, Ready to Lead?In Ready to Lead? With Meredith Curtis, Episode #056, teens and their parents are challenged to heed God’s call to His people to rise up and lead! The world is crying out to see authentic leaders who lead with love and integrity. How can lead in a way that will earn the respect of others and win the favor of God. You can influence and inspire others no matter how young or old you are.

 


 

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Real Men Books by Powerline Productions, Inc.High School Curriculum by Powerline ProductionsGod's Girls Books by Powerline Productions, Inc.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Show Notes

Josh is filling out his college application. He is asked to list his leadership positions, as well as any awards, achievements, and honors.

People are Looking for Leaders

Colleges are looking for leaders.

Employers are looking for leaders.

Young people, old people; everyone wants a leader they can trust.

An Unlikely Leader

Tim was a young Christian leader whose Mom was a believer, but father was not. He was sent to a famous Greek city to choose elders for the brand new church there.

He had God’s anointing, but still he struggled with fear.

For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. So do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord or of me his prisoner. Rather, join with me in suffering for the gospel, by the power of God. (II Timothy 1:6-8 NASB)

Another Young Leader

Dan was kidnapped from his hometown. He had to start a new life without his parents, temple teachers, or brothers and sisters. He did have some friends who loved God, too.

The place Dan was taken to was horrible, full of sin and idolatry.

Dan refused to compromise. Would this close the door on leadership?

But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way. (Daniel 1:8 NASB)

To these four young men God gave knowledge and understanding of all kinds of literature and learning. And Daniel could understand visions and dreams of all kinds. (Daniel 1: 17 NASB).

What is a Leader anyway?

A leader influences, challenges, and gives direction to his followers. A leader is someone that people follow.

The world is filled with some good leaders and many bad leaders.

In the world, leaders are up on a pedestal.

God’s Kingdom is an upside-down Kingdom. Leaders serve and lay down their lives just like Jesus did.

Leadership is Stewardship

All authority belongs to God

All responsibility belongs to God

He delegates responsibility to people and gives them enough authority to get the job done.

What authority isn’t for …

What authority is for …

What Does a Leader Do?

Leaders teach, instruct, and give advice.

Leaders get a job, task, or project done with a team of people.

Leaders care for people and help them through difficult times.

Leaders inspire and motivate people to do their best, to work hard, to stay loyal.

Leaders set an example for others to follow.

God’s Qualifications for Leadership

God has a plan to build His Kingdom, His Church, spread His glory as the waters cover the sea. There needs to be leaders to mobilize and lead the people.

God’s Qualifications for Men

Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him (I Timothy 3:2-4 NASB).

God’s Qualifications for Women

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,  to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. (Titus 2:3-5 NASB)

Can Anyone Meet those Qualifications?

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.  I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing! (Galatians 2:20-21).

How Can you Lead Right Now?

Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. (Luke 16:10)

Faithful in Little; Faithful in Much.

Look for opportunities to serve, to lead in your home, church, job, and community.

Resources

Real Men Build Bible Study WorkbookReal Men 103: Leadership High School Character ClassA Wise Woman Builds Bible Study Workbook

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

God bless you.

Life Began in a Garden

Finish Well Radio - Episode #48Welcome to another installment of Life Lessons from Ancient History. In Life Began in a Garden with Meredith Curtis, she shares the creation story straight as it is written in the Bible. We can all learn many lessons from this first week. There are some patterns, habits, mandates, even laws which were started then. Join us to hear Meredith describe what they are and why it matter to you and me.

 

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Life Began in a Garden

In another installment of Life Lessons from Ancient History, Life Began in a Garden with Meredith Curtis, she shares the creation story straight as it is written in the Bible and describes what it means for us today. There are some patterns, habits, mandates, even laws which were started that first week. Join us to hear Meredith describe what they are and why it matter today.

I’d Rather Be Texting

I’d Rather Be Texting with Julianna Curtis, Shine Curtis, Jimmy Curtis, Phoebe Nolette, and Joshua Nolette takes you to our Finish  Well Conference. This workshop is led by a homeschool grad as well as four homeschool high schoolers who looked at all the times they thought, or even said, “I’d rather be texting than do that.” They each share some great insight into the benefits of doing just the opposite. Listen in and enjoy some of the wisdom that these young speakers shared at Finish Well 2013.

The Educated Parent – HIRL Episode 137

Free homeschool podcast about maintaining an education as parents.We home educators spend a lot of time educating our kids. But what about us? Are we taking the time to learn more, discover more, and be curious?

This episode of Homeschooling in Real Life is dedicated to you, the homeschooling parent. We want to see you grow and thrive in your role as parent educator, and to that end we’re talking about the reasons to educate yourself as well as the how-to. Let’s get learning!

 


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Khan Academy – Free education

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Because He Loved Her

Sarah was just Abraham’s Side-kick right? God loved Abraham and Sarah was just along for the ride. Is that what you think? Well, you couldn’t be more wrong. The Lord loved Sarah and His plan included her. He honored her because He loved her. We can learn about God’s love for us because of His love for Sarah. In this Life Lesson from Ancient History, Meredith Curtis talks about the Matriarch of the Hebrew people, Sarah, and her part in God’s plan.

Get in Shape Spiritually for the New Year

Get in shape spiritually for the New Year | Finish Well RadioWith everyone getting back to the gym and eating right again, it’s a sign that the holidays are over and it’s time to get in shape. This podcast deals with how to get in shape spiritually in this new year! God says that physical training is of some value, but spiritual training is more valuable (I Timothy 4:8). Getting in shape physically is great, but getting in shape spiritually is even better. Meredith Curtis shares ways to get in shape spiritually.

 

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