Are you a good guest?

My friend Ashley and I had a great chat today about traveling with young kids and tips for being remembered as a good guest. Many of you will be traveling with young kids during the holidays. My friend, Ashley will be traveling too. She and I had a great chat today about traveling with young kids and tips for being remembered as a good guest.

  1. Make a phone call to the host family. Ask if you need to bring high chairs/portable cribs/ sleeping bags, etc. Also, ask if any special clothes will be needed for events happening during your visit.
  2. Pack some activities in Ziploc bags for the car ride and trip. Blocks, cars, animals, puzzles, books, crayons, stickers and paper work great!
  3. Discuss with your spouse who will put kids to bed each night so that each of you get some “adult” time on your trip.
  4. Ask for the tentative meal schedule and inform hostess of any scheduling conflicts your family has, so everyone can plan.
  5. Ask before doing. Ask about the house rules (no shoes on carpet, no eating in family room, etc…) and let your kids know these up front. Just because you have certain rules at your house doesn’t mean your host family will have the same rules.
  6. Keep your space picked up. Even if you don’t make your bed at home, it is good manners to make your bed, daily when visiting others.
  7. If children are disruptive, remove them from the situation. Very few children suddenly start behaving again after a big meltdown. Often this is due to lack of sleep and extra sugar during the holidays.
  8. Take your host a small token of appreciation (wine, candle, loaf of bread, etc…) and a handwritten note.
  9. Ask what needs to be done with dirty linens. It is standard etiquette to take sheets off bed, fold them and put them on the end of the bed and remake the bed. However, not every host wants that done. Asking is always best.

10.Leave things better than you found them. J

Visiting others does not have to be stressful. Preparation should make things easier on you and your host family.

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When You Don’t Feel Like It

How do you handle things, when you don’t feel well, or you are down? In this week’s episode, I suggested steps to take when you find yourself feeling low.After a two week break, I am back! To be honest, I wasn’t feeling it. I didn’t have a topic to talk about, I have been sick all week, and I have been a bit down in the dumps. So, staying true to myself, I decided to talk about that this week. How do you handle things, when you don’t feel well, or you are down?

In this week’s episode, I suggested one take the following steps when they find themselves feeling low:

  1. Give yourself permission to feel. You feel how you feel. Acknowledge it. Say it out loud. Ignoring or stuffing your feelings will never help you be an emotionally healthy individual.
  2. Get quiet. Grab a cup of coffee, your journal, and some background music. Sit and ponder your feelings.
  3. Ask yourself some honest questions. What is going on inside? What is the root? Is there trauma that has been triggered? Do you need to talk to someone?
  4. Share your thoughts with a safe person in your tribe. Hopefully your partner is number one on that list, but find someone safe and talk.
  5. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. We all need help. We all have things that we are dealing with. There are many great therapists that can help.
  6. Find something to be grateful for. Create a list.

Take some deep breaths and know that you are worthy of health and happiness.

Have a great week!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Gearing Up for the Holidays

If you are like me, you are freaking out a little that Thanksgiving is in two weeks. Yep, two weeks until the Turkey, Dressing, and Pumpkin Pie. I decided to chat about the rapidly approaching holidays and some of the pitfalls that moms face this time of year. #podcast #homeschool #holidaysIf you are like me, you are freaking out a little that Thanksgiving is in two weeks. Yep, two weeks until the Turkey, Dressing, and Pumpkin Pie. I decided to chat about the rapidly approaching holidays and some of the pitfalls that moms face this time of year.

Ashley Pomerory (formerly known as Ashley Smoot), my buddy from Nashville joined me today and asked some thought provoking questions about Thanksgiving and Christmas. First, Ashley wanted to know my thoughts on slowing down the Christmas Rush. Both of us have witnessed neighbors and friends skipping over Thanksgiving in order to get a jump on the Christmas decorations. I really want to encourage parents to slow it down when it comes to Christmas. Please take the time to be thankful with your family. Make a thankful jar, a thankful tree, or simply share why you are thankful over the holiday meal. Teaching children to be thankful is a tough task and this is a great time of year to put some family focus on this important lesson.

If you are not careful, Christmas can come in like a massive hurricane wrecking your life. You can over book and under plan, which will leave you completely exhausted come January 1st. I suggest making a list of priorities and traditions that are important to you during the holiday season. Don’t overcommit and definitely learn to say NO. Practice it now, N…. O…. NO! You can do it. It is a powerful word to use if you want to maintain your sanity this Christmas.

Have a great week!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

If you are like me, you are freaking out a little that Thanksgiving is in two weeks. Yep, two weeks until the Turkey, Dressing, and Pumpkin Pie. I decided to chat about the rapidly approaching holidays and some of the pitfalls that moms face this time of year. #homeschool #podcast #holidays

Leaving a Legacy – An Interview with Ashley Wiggers

Leaving a Legacy – An Interview with Ashley Wiggers - This week’s podcast is such a sweet episode - grab your journal and tissues before you hit play. #podcast #homeschoolThis week’s podcast is such a sweet episode. However, you will definitely want to grab your journal and a box of tissues before you hit play. Five years ago, I had the privilege of meeting Debbie Strayer at the Southeast Homeschool Conference in Atlanta, Georgia. We had just released our book, The Homegrown Preschooler and were excited to share it with the homeschooling community. Debbie, the co-founder of the magazine, Homeschooling Today was a speaker at the 2013 conference. As the conference was winding down, Debbie stopped by our booth and shared encouraging thoughts about our business and our book. I was so appreciative of the lovely words she shared with me that evening. I said goodbye to Debbie and watched her exit the vendor hall. On my drive home, I pondered my conversation with Debbie and looked forward to developing a friendship with her. Unfortunately, that would not be possible. The following morning, I was shocked to hear the tragic news that Debbie Strayer had passed away in her sleep.

A couple of years later, I met the lovely daughter of Debbie Strayer, Ashley Wiggers. Ashely and her husband chose to carry on her mom’s legacy by running the magazine and working with Geo Matters, the company that published her mom’s curriculum. We talk about all of this and so much more in today’s episode. Ashley shares stories of her mom and the lessons she learned growing up in a homeschooling family. I know you are going to want to take notes, so make sure you are ready to write as you listen to this one.

Have a great week!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

Leaving a Legacy – An Interview with Ashley Wiggers - This week’s podcast is such a sweet episode - grab your journal and tissues before you hit play. #podcast #homeschool

 

When Your Plan is Not in the Plan – Part 2: The Blending of Lives

Last week, Kari Oakley Miller shared her story of loss and how it forced her to find a new plan for her family.Last week, Kari Oakley Miller shared her story of loss and how it forced her to find a new plan for her family. This week, Kari is back to share the rest of her story. After the death of her husband, Kari remained single for ten years. Fear of the unknown and concern for her five children kept her from even entertaining the idea of dating and remarrying. However, God had a different plan.

 

About five years ago, Kari was introduced to Andrew Miller, a widower with four children. As the relationship progressed, Kari was once again faced with the possibility of a new life plan. Instead of being a single parent of five kids, she was about to embark on a new journey, a blended family with nine children total. As you can imagine, this is a big decision. Not only will she have to adjust to married life and being a wife again, she will now have to figure out how to blend completely different families and lifestyles. I am so thankful for Kari’s willingness to be vulnerable and share the highs and lows of a new love and a new family. I know Kari’s honesty will move you to think about your own family, blended or not.

 

 

If you know someone who is considering blending families, please encourage them to take a listen to this podcast. As Kari and I say in the podcast, we hope that you never have to reconsider your original plan. However, if you do we hope you will remember the encouraging words here. God is faithful and He is for you.

Hugs.

Have a great week!!!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

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When Your Plan is Not in the Plan – An Interview with Kari Oakley Miller

When Your Plan is not in the Plan - with The Real Kathy Lee #podcast #grief #tragedy I met Kari almost twenty years ago, when her youngest son was just a baby.  She and I began an accountability group and started meeting on a weekly basis. We would share our struggles, our successes, encourage and pray for one another. We shared some precious times all those years ago. If you would have asked me to describe Kari Oakley in those days, I would have said that she was living her best life. Kari was a happily married mother of five, was homeschooling, involved in ministry, and had many friends. Her life was going according to plan.

 

 

However, a shocking phone call on November 19, 2018 forced her to abandon all knew. She was forced to make a new plan.

You do not want to miss this heart tugging interview with Kari Oakley Miller. I appreciate Kari’s willingness to be vulnerable in hopes of helping someone else who might find themselves in her shoes. As you will hear in our time together, Kari shares how she dealt with grief, fear, and loneliness. Kari is an inspiration to her children, her friends, and her community. I know that Kari will be an inspiration to you, as well. We would love to hear what you think about our time together. Feel free to leave a comment here or on one of our social media outlets. As always, thank you to The Ultimate Homeschooling Radio Network for helping me bring these podcast interviews to you.

Have a great week!

Say YES and have a great week!!!

 

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 


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Adding the Third Baby – Catching up with my Daughter In Law, Caroline Batres

Adding a third baby to your family? Listen in to a mom that has just been there on this podcast episode!My heart overflows with joy when this beautiful family comes to visit Nana and Bruce Bruce! Seriously, I love to hear the sounds of toddler voices and a cooing baby. Of course, I love seeing my son and daughter-in-law too, as well.

I thought it would be fun to check in with Caroline and have a chat about adding #3 to their family. Sweet Eleanor was born May 18, 2018 and has two great big brothers teaching her the ropes. I asked Caroline to share her thoughts on pregnancy, postpartum depression, having an unexpected C-section, and being a mom of three. We had a great time talking about how these subjects and more. Caroline feels strongly that women need to live their own life and as she says in the podcast, “You do YOU.” I have to agree with Caroline. So many of us get caught in the comparison trap and we end up making decisions because someone else thinks it is best. You and your partner get to decide what is best for your family. Don’t get caught up trying to please everyone else. Also, take people’s advice with a grain of salt. People mean well, but they aren’t you. 

If you are a new mom, you don’t want to miss this episode. Caroline is wise beyond her years and has great insight to share. I am so thankful that she is mine and I get to watch her grow as a wife and mom.

Have a great week!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 


Special Thanks to Our Network Sponsor – Change is in the Air Movie

This story embraces the imperfections that make us human, offers a way to set ourselves free and asks us all to take a good, long look at the wild birds in the sky.

Watch the trailer here!


To The Mom Who Constantly Questions Herself

To The Mom Who Constantly Questions Herself - The Real Kathy Lee Podcast Guilt has been on mind so much this past week. It seems everywhere I turn, women are sharing with me how much they are questioning their every decision and how guilty they feel if they someone disagrees with them. Oh ladies, I want you to live a guilt free life. Honestly, this has been one of my greatest struggles. I am a recovering people pleaser. TBH (to be honest in cool kid lingo), I still struggle with questioning my decisions and hoping I haven’t hurt someone’s feelings in the process. Today I share some thoughts on helping us all recognize when we are being held captive by people pleasing and guilt.

  1. Know Yourself – If you haven’t taken a personality test, you should. There are several different types you can take, you can check out Myers Brigg.  Knowing yourself will help you be confident in your strengths.
  2. Know What Triggers You- Did you struggle with perfectionism as a kid? Did you experience trauma? Did your parents expect certain things from you? Did someone question your every move?
  3. Be true to Yourself and Your Story- What is your plan for your family? Talk openly with your spouse and your small circle of friends.
  4. Don’t write a shitty first draft- As Brene’ Brown says in her book Rising Strong, our brain will create a story when we don’t have answers. Resist doing this. This will often lead to unnecessary guilt.
  5. Know your Love Language- If you are a quality time person, you often feel guilty if you don’t offer quality time. If you are a gifts person, you will sometimes struggle if you don’t think you picked the perfect gift. Be aware of this common transfer of emotion.

I think the bottom line is this, we are all trying to do our best. Let’s offer each other grace. Most importantly, let’s give ourselves grace!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

An Honest Conversation about White Mommas Raising Kids of Color

An Honest Conversation about White Mommas Raising Kids of Color - Listen with The Real Kathy Lee
As I sit on my porch, listening to the waterfall and birds chirping I find myself so grateful for friends who are willing to talk about real life and the tough subjects. This week, I had the privilege of chatting with the beautiful Natalie about her son, Jordan. Natalie became the mom of Jordan when he was four and during this podcast she talks honestly about raising a child of color. I am so appreciative of her willingness to be vulnerable enough to tell you her story. If you are raising a child of color or know someone who is, please listen to this podcast. It is our goal to help you raise children who know they are worthy of love and acceptance. Additionally, we want to help you as you navigate the more tender subjects of parenting.

I too, have dealt with some harsh reality as the mother of three Latino boys and a bi-racial daughter. I have been shocked at some of the situations we have dealt with, even from family members. Natalie and I agreed that the key to raising well-adjusted children was the willingness to talk openly about every situation, no matter how difficult. It is important that you start those honest conversations your children are young, so that they will trust coming to you when they are older.  Waiting until they are teenagers is too late.
An Honest Conversation about White Mommas Raising Kids of Color - Listen with The Real Kathy Lee
Even though I was only able to parent my little Phoebe Joy for three years, I will treasure what she taught me about love and diversity. I was able to reach out and ask beautiful women of color to teach me how to fix my daughter’s hair and care for her skin. I grew so much as I learned about her culture and the importance of honoring her heritage. I was challenged and angered at the racism I still saw present in our community. I became a fighter for my girl and I watched her change people’s hearts and views with that beautiful spirit and smile

An Honest Conversation about White Mommas Raising Kids of Color - Listen with The Real Kathy Lee

 

I hope you are willing to tackle the tough questions. I hope you are willing to help your kids treat one another better. Let’s agree to ask more questions instead of assuming we know the answers. Let’s agree to listen. Let’s agree to love.

Have a great week!

 


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Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

This week, I had the privilege of chatting with the beautiful Natalie about her son, Jordan. Natalie became the mom of Jordan when he was four and during this podcast she talks honestly about raising a child of color.

 

Teens Speak Up About Everyday Life

Teens speak up about everyday life - listen now on the podcast with The Real Kathy LeeMy 17-year-old nephew drove over from Alabama to spend the weekend with us. I love having chatting with him and hearing his perspective about life and the struggles that come with being a teenager in 2018. I thought you might enjoy from Alex, as well. My daughter, Sarah was hanging out with us, so I invited her to jump in on the conversation and share her thoughts, as well.

In this episode we talked about the stressors that teenagers have to deal with, both in public school and home school settings. Both Alex and Sarah agreed that time management was super stressful at this age. Next, we chatted about the pressure of Social Media and how to help teenagers navigate the stress caused by likes and follows. Alex and Sarah were willing to be honest about relationships, exposure to drugs, and the pressures to fit in with the crowd.

Teens speak up about everyday life - listen now on the podcast with The Real Kathy Lee

I know most of you have preschoolers and teenage parenting is still in the future. However, I think this episode will be so beneficial for you because Sarah and Alex share their thoughts on how parenting plays a big role in a teenager’s future. This would be a good episode to listen to with your spouse and make a game plan when the time comes that you have teens in your home.

I am so thankful for teenagers who are willing to talk. Set the stage when they are young that heart to heart talks are good and let your children know that they are loved, no matter what.

 


Special Thanks to our Network Sponsor, Kiwi Crate!

 

We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor, Kiwi Crate!

KiwiCo has monthly subscriptions of hands-on projects that make learning fun! Their core offering is projects that make learning about STEAM — science, technology, engineering, art, and math — accessible and are designed to spark creativity, tinkering, and learning. Some recent favorite crates are the Slime Lab, Physics Carnival, and Paper Circuits.

Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network is excited to be able to offer you the chance to try them for FREE. To learn more about their projects for kids ages 2 to 16 AND to redeem this exclusive offer, click here to get your first month free today (just pay $4.95 for shipping)


Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

itunespodcast . Listen on Google Play Music

Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.