Loving Children Who Have Experienced Trauma | Replay

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Loving Children Who Have Experienced Trauma with The Real Kathy LeeWhat is trauma?

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trau·ma
ˈtroumə,ˈtrômə/
noun

1.
a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.

What causes trauma in young children?

  • Past or Present Abuse
  • Stress in the home
  • Divorce
  • Death of Pet
  • Death of Family Member/Friend
  • Unhealthy environment
  • Adding a new family member.
  • Move
  • Witnessing something horrible, scary, or stressful. This can be a real life event or witnessed via media.

You don’t need to know what caused the trauma in order to help.
Behavior is Communication
GET CURIOUS…What is their behavior saying to you?

  • Withdrawn
  • Anxious
  • Misbehavior
  • Angry
  • Fearful
  • Powerless
  • Exhausted

THIS ISN’T ABOUT YOU

If it is a big deal to them, it is a big deal. Try to stay unemotional during the most emotional times.

Children from hard places need to know they are safe, loved and Accepted, no matter what.

Essentials of TIC (Trauma Informed Classroom)
Connect – Focus on Relationships
Protect – Promote Safety and Trustworthiness
Respect – Engage in Choice and Collaboration
Redirect (Teach and Reinforce) – Encourage SkillBuilding and Competence
Hummer, V., Crosland, K., Dollard, N., 2009

10 ways to help…

1. Have a Routine.
2. Choose Your Words Carefully.
3. Provide a space for one.
4. Give permission to feel.
5. Honor their feelings.
6. Be available.
7. Be flexible.
8. Educate others.
9. Don’t expect to have all the answers (Ask them).
10. Create opportunities in the classroom for the child to experience success.

Make a plan…
What do you need to be prepared?

Who do you need to talk to?

Any unresolved trauma in your own background?

What needs to change in you OR your environment?

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Keeping Your Calm This School Year

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Keeping Your Calm This School Year

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As this school year approaches, I thought I would share some of my plans to have a calm year! This year I have one 7th grader, one 9th grader, two high school seniors, one in Estethecian School and one junior in college. Whew, that is a lot. I will be honest, the first couple of weeks I find myself struggling to get us all on the same page. Between school, jobs, sports, etc… keeping this house running smoothly is a challenge.

 

Here are some of my tips for surviving back to school:

  1. Create Dream Posters.
  2. Create a Healthy Meal Plan.
  3. Follow Through on Healthy Meal Plan.
  4. Plan a family night to make dream posters. You will need poster board, markers, magazine, and glue. Invite your children to create a dream poster and display them in your home.
  5. Have a Dream Poster Date Night with your partner/spouse.
  6. SLEEP… get sleep. Make sure everyone in the home is getting enough sleep.
  7. Organize your space and remember less is better. Don’t forget to create a cozy corner for reading books/getting away.
  8. Take time to watch and listen. What are your kids talking about, playing with, dreaming of? What pushes their buttons, brings them joy, challenges them?
  9. Create a realistic routine that you can live with. Encourage children to stick with routine.
  10. Be Flexible – If something isn’t working, don’t be afraid to change it.

    **Show Notes: “Keeping Your Calm This School Year” – The Real Kathy Lee**

    **Introduction:**
    – Welcome to “The Real Kathy Lee” podcast on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network.
    – In this episode, Kathy Lee shares her valuable tips for surviving the back-to-school season with grace and composure.
    – As a homeschooling expert, she knows the challenges parents face during this time and offers practical advice to navigate it successfully.

    **Segment 1: Creating Dream Posters**
    – Kathy Lee’s first tip is to create dream posters with your children.
    – Gather poster board, markers, magazines, and glue for a family night dedicated to this activity.
    – Invite your children to unleash their creativity and make dream posters that represent their aspirations and goals.
    – Display these dream posters proudly in your home, creating a positive and inspiring environment.

    **Segment 2: Dream Poster Date Night**
    – Take the concept of dream posters a step further with a special date night with your partner or spouse.
    – Spend quality time together creating dream posters that encompass your shared dreams and vision for the future.
    – This activity can be a fun and bonding experience, strengthening your connection as a couple.

    **Segment 3: Ensuring Healthy Meals**
    – Kathy Lee emphasizes the importance of a healthy meal plan for the family’s well-being.
    – Develop a meal plan that includes nutritious foods and is realistic for your family’s schedule.
    – Follow through on the meal plan to ensure everyone is well-nourished and energized.

    **Segment 4: The Power of Sleep**
    – Kathy Lee stresses the significance of getting enough sleep for all family members.
    – Establish consistent sleep routines to promote better sleep and overall health.
    – A well-rested family will be better equipped to handle the challenges of the school year.

    **Segment 5: Organizing Your Space**
    – Create a clutter-free and organized living space for a more peaceful home environment.
    – Encourage a “less is better” mindset when it comes to possessions, and declutter regularly.
    – Designate a cozy corner for reading and relaxation, providing a space for family members to unwind.

    **Segment 6: Active Listening**
    – Kathy Lee advises parents to actively listen to their children’s thoughts, interests, and concerns.
    – Pay attention to what excites and motivates your kids, as well as what challenges them.
    – This insight will help you better understand and support your children throughout the school year.

    **Segment 7: Designing Realistic Routines**
    – Develop a practical and feasible daily routine that accommodates the family’s needs and schedules.
    – Encourage children to adhere to the routine, as it provides structure and stability.

    **Segment 8: Embracing Flexibility**
    – Stay open to change and be flexible when certain aspects of the routine or plans aren’t working.
    – Don’t be afraid to make adjustments to improve the family’s well-being and overall happiness.

    **Conclusion:**
    – As the school year begins, it’s crucial to maintain your calm and composure.
    – Kathy Lee’s tips, such as creating dream posters, focusing on healthy meals and sleep, organizing your space, active listening, and embracing flexibility, will help you navigate the back-to-school season with confidence and ease.
    – Remember that each family is unique, so find the strategies that work best for your household.
    – Stay tuned for more insightful episodes on “The Real Kathy Lee” podcast to enhance your homeschooling journey.

 

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Top Ten Things Your Preschooler Wants You to Know | Replay

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Top 10 Things Your Preschooler Wants You to KnowTomorrow, I get to share my passion for preschoolers with about 100 preschool teachers. I am sharing with them the Top Ten Things Preschooler Want You to Know. I thought you might enjoy hearing this list, as well.

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#10 –Just because I use potty talk does not mean I have to go potty.

When I child calls you poopy head, simply say something like, “What? I have poopy on my head. Nope, I don’t think I have poopy on my head.” Children use potty talk to get the attention of others. Once they realize that their words don’t shock you, they won’t use them as often.

#9 – Just because I can hold a pencil and spell my name does not mean that I am ready to read and write.

If I begin counting in Spanish…. Uno, Dos, Tres, etc…. you might assume I speak Spanish? I don’t. Just as counting in Spanish does not mean I speak Spanish, holding a pencil and spelling their own name, does not mean a child is ready to read and write. Reading predictable books, Reading quality books, asking good questions, journaling, making books, recognizing that words have meanings, inventive writing, scribbling, and manipulatives all help prepare a child for reading when it is time (somewhere between 5-8).

#8 –Children need variety when they are outside.

Many children need to run, jump, climb, and ride when they are outside. However, some need to be on a blanket with a book or building blocks. Offer them a variety!

#7 – There is more to forgiveness than “I’m Sorry!”

In the early childhood world, it is often said – “Don’t force a child to say I am sorry.” However, rarely is an option given. How should we handle those hits, ugly words, and moments of anger? The goal is to help children understand that their actions have consequences. What they do impacts other people. When they hit their friend, their friend is hurt. When they say unkind things, their friend is hurt. Children should be encouraged to use their words and express their feelings.

#6 – She is not invited to my birthday party.

Preschoolers are trying to figure out who they are, what they like, and how to establish boundaries. This is an important time for teachers to help children put their words to their emotions. This is a gift we can give children. We would all say that we want adults that can work out problems and strife in their relationships. This needs to start early. Just like #7, helping children express how harsh words make them feel will them in the long run.

#5 – We learn through the process and not the product.

It is in the process of discovery, experience, and wonder that children learn. When we focus on an end result, we often miss the actual lesson of the process.

#4 – Please listen, we have something to say.

We can learn about children’s needs, stresses, developmental areas, etc… if we will take the time to listen to their stories, their pretend play, their questions, etc… If we don’t give them time during the small moments in their life, they will not give us time when the big topics arise.

#3-We need to experience to explore a topic.

“Being a kid is dirty, messy, noisy work. It is in the experience that we actually understand the topic. Whatever we hope to teach children about, the brain needs to experience through the senses. It is in the touching, smelling, hearing, tasting, and seeing that the brain builds synapses.

#2 – We are ALL different.

Honor who your child is! Our goal as a parent is to help a child become who they were already meant to be.

#1 – MEMORIES will be made!

Bottom Line, what do you want children to remember in 5, 10, 15, 20 years? What impact do you want to have on them?

Find a way to #sayyes today.


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Special Replay | Are You An Unaware Mommy Shamer?

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Are You an Unaware Mommy Shamer?Are you an unaware mommy shamer?

Have you ever been guilty of mommy shaming? I sure have. I honestly did not realize I was doing it until years later, but unfortunately, that doesn’t change the fact that I did it in the first place. I hope this episode will encourage you to look at yourself and make sure you aren’t guilty of being an unaware mommy shamer.

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Lesli often tells the story of me mommy shaming her shortly after we first met. She offered me a pair of shoes similar to the ones in the picture below and I refused them because “my daughter was not allowed to wear heels.” Yep, I said that. Nope, I am not proud. Yep, it was mommy shaming.

Once I looked back, I realized that I was often mommy-shamed in those early years. I would proudly state my opinion about holistic medicine, homeschooling, etc.… not realizing that just my tone about the subject could be harming another mom.

Mothering is a mystery. Mothering is challenging. At times mothering is flat-out overwhelming. Most of us are insecure of our decisions, especially early on. I think many of us “yell” out our opinion as a cry for affirmation. Unfortunately, our opinions are often seen as mommy shaming.

If you think you might be guilty of being an unaware mommy shamer, here are my suggestions:

  1. Recognize why you mommy shame.
  2. Recognize when you mommy shame.
  3. Strive to be quietly confident, only sharing STRONG opinions among your inner circle.

Mommy shaming divides. We need each other. Let’s spend our time respecting each other, encouraging each other, and loving each other.

You’ve got this!

Find a way to #sayyes today.

 

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Replay: Are You a BAD Mom? When Motherhood Does Not Go As Expected

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Are you a bad mom? Podcast with Kathy Lee

On this episode, I had the privilege of chatting with my beautiful daughter-in-love, Caroline. Last June, Caroline made me a grandmother when she gave birth to the coolest twin boys! Levi and Titus rocked all of our worlds, especially hers. Caroline gets real and vulnerable as she shares her journey of expectations vs reality. I think many moms can relate to Caroline’s story and can empathize with everything she shared.  Caroline shares openly about her many experiences with children leading up to motherhood and the fact that even then, she had no idea what it was like to be fully responsible for a newborn life (or lives in her case).

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Caroline with her boys, Titus and Levi

Caroline encouraged moms to give themselves grace, focus on the present, and enjoy the time when they are small. We also talked about the importance of other moms walking alongside new moms, not just expecting moms. New moms get lonely and tired and could use a visit from a friend to cheer them up in those early days. I mentioned my favorite gift from a lady in our church was when she offered to come and hold my new baby so I could take an uninterrupted nap. That was heavenly!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Levi and Titus have not decided what they will call me; any suggestions???

Caroline suggested every mom read this book!

 

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Special Replay | Mothering is a Marathon with Keri Vasek

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Mothering is a Marathon with Keri Vasek
Mothering is a Marathon with Keri Vasek

It had been a while since I had Keri on the show. Actually, it had been a while since Keri and I had talked in real life. It was good to catch up with her and hear what was on her heart. Keri took a few minutes to catch us up on her home and family.  She has been a busy lady since we last chatted. Next, Keri asked about my suggestions for sibling disagreements. I admit that I don’t know all the answers to this one, but I did have a few thoughts and suggestions to teach children to be kind to one another.

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Keri and I spent a good amount of time talking about a statement I often make during my speaking engagements, “Mothering is a marathon.” I do say that a lot. I really want parents to understand that it isn’t a sprint, it isn’t just getting them to kindergarten, or high school, or even adulthood. It is a long, tough journey that has ups and downs… highs and lows. It will test us, require patience, and definitely demand endurance. It will be worth it. It is worth it.

We chatted a little bit about the popular TV show; This is Us. If you haven’t seen it, you should. I am pretty sure my twin is the writer for this show. I know you feel the same. It is so true, so raw, so needed. We can all learn valuable lessons from this show.

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Find a way to #sayyes today.

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How to Have Those BIG Talks with Your Kids with Christy Montes

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How to Have those BIG Talks with Your KidsHow to Have Those Big Talks with Your Kids | Momfessions with the Real Kathy Lee

We know we need to have those big talks with our kids. But, where to start?

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Christy Montes is back to chat about those BIG talks.

Christy and I have had many talks with all of our kids over the years and thought you guys might benefit from hearing from us on this topic. We have done some things well, but we have messed up plenty. If you want to have a relationship that promotes open communication, start early and talk often. Some other things we suggested were:

1. Make time for each child.
2. Stay in the moment, that means put away your phone.
3. Don’t be fearful about the BIG talks.
4. Take advantage of car rides, it is a great place to talk.

This picture is of sweet Christy and her husband at a recent history night. I wonder if they had any talks in that car. 😉

5. You will make a mistake, which is why GRACE exists.
6. You will feel like your drowning in toddlerhood, know that your investment pays off later.
7. You are not meant to be friends with your young children, but if you do not invest in them when they are young, you will not be friends as adults.
8. Find a friend you trust and encourage each other through this mothering gig.

 


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Even Second Generation Homeschoolers Make Mistakes

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Think second generation homeschoolers have it all figured out? Let's talk real talk about mistakes even second generation homeschoolers make.

Special Replay: Even Second-Generation Homeschoolers Make Mistakes

Episode #4

Do second-generation homeschoolers make mistakes? As I travel across the country, I am fortunate to meet some amazing people. Two of those I have met along the way are Mike and Jessica Somerville with Tapestry of Grace. Recently, I met up with Mike and Jessica at the Great Homeschool Conventions in Fort Worth, TX. Mike and Jessica Somerville are homeschool graduates that are now homeschooling their three beautiful daughters. If you are like me, you assume that they must be the PERFECT homeschooling family.

However, in this podcast, they share some lessons they have already learned from mistakes already made. You don’t want to miss this time together.

 

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Show Notes for Even Second Generation Homeschoolers Make Mistakes

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Meeting the coolest people.

2:13

Learning to say yes to reading.

5:26

Set a shared vision and flexible vision.

11:21

Lesson 2: Don’t panic.

14:11

Make the right curriculum choices in the early years.

16:52

Where to start with homeschooling?

23:12

The importance of having a plan.

25:08

Space is the final frontier.

28:45

Find and read good books on homeschooling.

34:22

We’re not working for them.

37:36

 


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Special Replay| Teaching the Fruits of the Spirit to Little Ones

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teaching the fruit of the spirit to your kids |Ultimate homeschool podcast networkI often get asked how to handle spiritual training with little ones. I believe spiritual lessons should be like every other lesson at this age, taught in a concrete manner. I often suggest parents start with the Fruit of the Spirit when helping little ones understand God and His world. In this podcast, I share practical ways to teach the following lessons:

Love

Joy

Peace

Patience

Kindness

Goodness

Faithfulness

Gentleness

Self-Control

 

As you have probably heard before, behavior is caught and taught. Your children will learn so much about the Fruits of the Spirit from watching YOU. Do you love others (I have an entire podcast on this subject)? Are you Joyful? Kind? Good? Faithful? Gentle? Patient? Self-Controlled? I know that I can work on these areas in my life. Each year I choose a WORD for the year. Maybe you choose a Fruit of the Spirit each year to focus on with your family. Being intentional about the Fruits of the Spirit could make a very big difference in the spiritual life of your family.

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Have a great week!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

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Why Every Mom Should Say Yes

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Why Every Mom Should Say YesWhy Every Mom Should Say Yes
Episode #3

And, why saying YES is a MUST … in this episode I will take you on a trip down memory lane. You should probably grab a box of tissues before pushing play! My goal is for every child to have a childhood full of beautiful memories and that starts with us saying YES! Childhood is dirty, messy, noisy work! You’ve got this!

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