Motivation Myths That Hinder Your Homeschool

Hey, homeschoolers! After 21 years of homeschooling, I know that motivation runs high at the beginning of the year. But it doesn’t take many weeks before that initial enthusiasm starts to cool. You begin looking forward to Christmas break sooner than you thought you would. We realize that we need to use some motivational tricks for ourselves and our kids in order to finish the things that we’ve planned. The problem with our motivating efforts is we often buy into several motivation myths that I’m going to describe in this episode. If we do, we will likely continue to struggle.
If you are interested in motivating your homeschooler, I’ve created a video class that you can you use with your spouse or other caregiver that will help you create an effective motivational plan. It includes a handbook for taking action and not just taking in information.

Motivation Myths Resources

Read the blog post Discipline Myths More Discipline Myths Join me next time as I share my thoughts on teen screen time. Have a happy homeschool week!

Help For Distracted And Struggling Readers

Hey, homeschoolers! I interviewed Carol Barnier my first year doing The Homeschool Sanity Show and it was a privilege for me. I had heard her speak at conferences and had read her books and loved what she had to say. Carol is not only hilarious but is so wise in helping distracted students and moms. In today’s episode, we’ll discuss how to help kids who are not only distracted but struggle to read. If you have or know a student with dyslexia or other reading challenges, you’ll want to listen in.
Before I get to the interview, I want to share some background on why I created Grammar Galaxy the way I did. I had five active boys and a girl I taught with them. One of my sons who struggled to read phonetically also was highly distractible. I also taught language arts to friends’ students who had ADD, dyslexia, sensory processing disorder, poor reading fluency, and reading reluctance. They were all boys. I wanted to create the curriculum I never had. First, I used stories because I know they are engaging and memorable. They explain the why of grammar and not just the how. Next, I made the characters in the stories have struggles like my kids and students have. So often kids with learning challenges feel they are the only ones who don’t get it. Then I made the seatwork lessons very short. There is a lot of white space on the pages to motivate students. Kids can use highlighters to complete much of the work, rather than pencils that require fine motor skills that often don’t keep pace with other skills–especially in boys. I included an activity in every lesson that doesn’t involve traditional worksheets. I hear from moms of active kids how much they love the large motor activities. Finally, I allow kids to feel that their work is important because it is. Fully literate kids can improve their lives and make the world a better place. Try it for free with your child at grammargalaxybooks.com/samples.

Carol Barnier

Now about my guest. Carol Barnier spent over 20 years as a homeschooling mom during which time she was also a busy and popular conference speaker. She created an online community for parents homeschooling highly distractible children called SizzleBop, which enjoyed a membership of over 5000 families. As a frequent radio guest and author of books and countless articles, she has shared a gazillion (the most real of numbers) tips on teaching and loving the highly distractible child. Today, she pours that same love of “teaching out of the box” into the child who struggles with reading. Through her new effort, Barton Buddy, she brings her multi-sensory support material (including new ditties!) and trademark sense of humor to the parent using the popular Barton Reading system at home with their own struggling reader, who may or may not have just fallen out of their chair. She’s the author of three books about dealing with (or possessing) a non-linear mind in a linear world. Her first book, How to Get Your Child Off the Refrigerator and On To Learning, gives the reader understanding into the mind of the highly distractible child. It answers the imponderable question, “Why does this child constantly fall out of his chair?” (hear the kathunk) It also provides idea after idea on how to teach a child who simply can’t sit still. Carol’s second book, If I’m Diapering a Watermelon, Then Where’d I Leave the Baby?, was born of the realization that her highly distractible son had not fallen very far from the tree. (hear the next kathunk) This book celebrates women who are non-linear thinkers, women who are the Mary’s in this very Martha world. It also provides strategies on how to keep the distractible mind on track while taking advantage of the gifts that come with being gloriously unregimented. Her third book, The Big WHAT NOW Book of Learning Styles, takes all the mystery and complexity OUT of learning styles. This book keeps it simple, and puts its emphasis on the “What do we do now?” It takes each academic subject and then provides dozens of ideas on how to teach it from a variety of angles to a variety of learning styles. It makes teaching the atypical learner not only easy, but fun. No really, it does. Her very popular Ditty Bugs CD brings the power of rhythmical language to a variety of memorization tasks. Does your child struggle to remember fraction rules? Can they name all the presidents in order? How about the planets, the classification system, number of feet in a mile? Through simple ditties, your child will almost effortlessly absorb facts and formulas that they need in their academic subjects. Carol and I discuss: To connect with Carol, go to SizzleBop.com. Join me next time as I share motivation myths that can hamper our homeschooling. Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Level Up Your Gratitude

Hey, homescoolers!

I’ve written and spoken about gratitude a lot because it’s important. God’s Word reminds us to give thanks 173 times. Giving thanks is the Lord’s admonition to His people, but even secular leaders recognize the benefits of expressing gratitude. Gratitude journals are all the rage.

But I had an experience recently that helped me see that my gratitude needs an upgrade. What’s exciting about this recognition is not that I have another reason to feel guilty. On the contrary, I have another reason to be encouraged. And so do you!

In this episode, I want to share some ideas for taking our own and our family’s gratitude to the next level. And it doesn’t require you to go on a foreign mission trip.

Before I share those ideas, I just want to say thank you. I have been so blessed to have you listen to this podcast, to chat with me at Great Homeschool Conventions, and to write and tell me that my work makes a difference in your life. It’s easier to keep running this race with your encouragement. I thank God for you and I pray for you.

Last month, my son woke us up to tell us that our basement was flooded. We thought he meant that some water had come in along one wall. That had happened before and my husband had a plan for solving the problem. So I was shocked when I walked downstairs, only to have my feet sink into sopping wet carpet. Water had come in from every wall, leaving only the center of the rooms dry. Our sump pump had failed in the midst of a heavy rain. We didn’t know that the pumps have to be replaced regularly. If you haven’t replaced your pump, let our experience be a warning to you.

Before I entered our sopping wet basement, my gratitude list would have sounded something like this:

Lord, I’m thankful for my family. I’m thankful for my home. I’m thankful for my business.

I’ve matured enough in my faith that I wasn’t grumbling to God about the mess the water had made, but it was definitely a damper on my day. I became hyper focused on solving the problem. More rain was in the forecast later that day. I was ready to turn to Google for help when I felt the sense that I needed to stop and let my husband help me. Because my office is in our basement, I was feeling that I needed to be in charge. But I heeded the call to stand down. I just worked on cleanup.

Then my husband announced that our plumber was coming in a couple of hours to install a new sump pump. That was very good news! But the rest wasn’t. “I asked how he was,” my husband said, “and I could tell something was wrong. He has cancer and starts chemo in a few days.” I wasn’t shocked because of the large number of people we know who have been diagnosed with cancer or a recurrence in the last two years. But I was in awe of how the Lord used our flooded basement to give us the opportunity to minister to a man at just the right time.

Yes, I was grateful that we suffered so little loss with the water damage. I was grateful, too, that the flooding hadn’t occurred after installing new carpeting. Instead, I had been wanting the carpet replaced anyway. But what I was most grateful for was the love of our God. He loves our plumber so much that He used a heavy rain combined with our failure to replace a sump pump to bring him to our home, where we could pray for him and witness to our faith. What’s incredible to me is that He didn’t just work this together for our plumber’s good but for ours.

God is more than able to use every circumstance to make His plan a reality. I’m so grateful that He is trustworthy! His will will be done, even if we make a mistake. Even if someone we love makes a mistake. What a comfort!

I decided after that experience that I needed to upgrade my gratitude. I needed to go beyond making a list of all the standard-issue reasons to be grateful. I needed to start looking for how God was going to use the disappointments, the disasters, and even the dumb things we do for His glory and our good. Then I would thank Him for His love and care, even in advance of seeing them in reality.

Here is how I’m going to do that. I recommend that you and your children join me.

First, make a list of every worry, disappointment, and upset that is troubling you now.

For each entry, thank God that He is going to make you more like Jesus through that. He is going to use the circumstance as fertilizer to grow the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control. Who doesn’t want more of that fruit? I know I do. Thank God that He will give you wisdom. He promises to give us His wisdom when we ask in James 1:5.

Next, knowing that You will grow, thank God that He is going to use the circumstance for your good and the good of those you love.

Even though you don’t know how or when, even if it’s not in the way you prefer, you know that He will do this because He promises us this in Romans 8:28.

Finally, thank God that He will be glorified and His plans will be fulfilled.

Every situation will be used to demonstrate the power, the love, and yes, sometimes the patience of God. We agree with God that His ways are higher than our ways.

We can also level up our gratitude by putting it into action.

We can and should spend more time in prayer and Scripture reading–especially more than we spend time reading the news and others’ opinion. We can worship God in music, spending time in nature, creating, serving, and giving. Our love for Him overflows into worship.

We can remind others that God is at work. He hears our prayers but is waiting for the perfect time, when we and the people we love are most ready. We can preach to ourselves and others that this is not our home. Even if this life is not as we wish, we know that our eternal life offers more than we could ask or imagine. We can offer a listening ear and a hug to those who are waiting on God, offering the comfort we ourselves have received from Him.

And finally, we can share the Gospel. We can witness to our faith in the One who raised His Son to life and will raise us, too. We can share the real reason we suffer that has little to do with a person, politics, or particulars. Our sin led to a decaying world full of suffering–failed sump pumps and cancer. But God provided the solution to sin. I’m so thankful that solution isn’t dependent on you or me. Then we’d be sunk. Instead, we know the end of the story and it is victory. In that we place our hope and we rejoice with gratitude.

Conclusion

We are human, so when you walk onto sopping wet carpet, your initial response is unlikely to be gratitude. But if you stop and consider how you can become more like Christ, how God will work it together for good, and how God will be glorified, you’ll be likely to put your gratitude into action.

Next week my guest Carol Barnier and I will discuss how to help distractible, struggling readers. Have a happy homeschool week!

Why You Shouldn’t Worry About Your Child’s Writing

Hey, homeschoolers! After reading, I’ve found that homeschooling parents are most concerned about their children’s writing ability. I understand that. As a writer and homeschool mom, I wanted my children to be excellent writers. When they weren’t, I was worried. But in this episode, I’m going to give you three reasons not to worry about your child’s writing. Before I do, I invite you to subscribe to Grammar Galaxy’s monthly language arts missions. Each calendar includes seasonal writing prompts along with grammar, spelling, and reading missions–all free.

Writing Worry Resources

Grammar Galaxy monthly missions Happy Handwriting Handwriting Without Tears Grammar Galaxy Nebula Handwriting Speed Worksheet Writeshop 7 Sisters Cinema Studies Course Join me next time as I discuss motivation myths that steal our homeschool sanity. Have a happy homeschool week!

How to Overcome Homeschool Distractions

Hey, homeschoolers! One of the biggest challenges we face in homeschooling and life is distraction. There are many obstacles in the path to focusing on what really matters. And ignoring them is quite a challenge. But it’s possible! That’s what I want to share with you in this episode.
Before I do, I want to invite you to engage in the distraction of Homeschool Sanity Circle. Yep, it’s on Facebook. But it’s an encouraging, supportive group. Have a question, a problem, or something funny to share? We are there for you.

Distractions Resources

Get Your Pretty On Get Dressed for Success Psycho with Style on Instagram Grammar Galaxy Books Secrets of Scheduling Success Margin in Your Homeschool Caveday.org

Conclusion

When you identify distractions use breaks, guilt-free leisure time, imagining the future, make distractions more difficult, recognize the real reason for the distraction, and meditate and pray, I believe you will overcome distractions in your homeschool. Join me next time as I discuss why you shouldn’t worry about your child’s writing. Have a happy homeschool week!

What Every Homeschooler Needs To Know About Science

Hey, homeschoolers!

Science has been in the news a lot lately. And misunderstanding about science has me taking action this week. You may not know that my education and even my training as a psychologist centered much more on doing and analyzing research then it did on clinical practice. In fact, my job in graduate school was coordinating clinical drug trials.

In this episode, I’m going to use what I know about science to share three principles our kids must learn while they are in our homeschools. If they don’t, they can be seriously misled, even if they do well on their college entrance exams.

Resources for This Episode on Homeschoolers and Science

Read the blog post

Download a free sample of Grammar Galaxy

Definition of Science

Carl Werner on Homeschool Sanity Show

Astronomy paper

Caveday

Facebook Live

Trust Project

Join me next week as I discuss homeschool distractions and how to ignore them. Have a happy homeschool week!

How to Use Personality to Overcome Procrastination In Your Homeschool

Hey homeschoolers! Perfectionism is an obstacle to getting more done and certainly to enjoying your homeschooling. In today’s episode, I will discuss how understanding your own and your kids’ personality can help you get past perfectionism and on to enjoying your homeschool journey again.
Before I dive in, I want to encourage you to follow my Psychowith6 page on Facebook. There I will be sharing regular Facebook Live videos where I can continue you to provide you with homeschool sanity from the comfort of your couch. I can also talk with you in the comments and get to know you, and that something I love to do. Perfectionism can look different depending on your personality. In fact, you may not even recognize your struggle as perfectionism with some personalities. There are four personality types that I will discuss in terms of perfectionism.

Perfectionism in the Sanguine Personality

The first personality type is the Sanguine. This fun-loving personality is the least likely to have a problem with perfectionism, you may think, as you observe a messy room or school space. But it is perfectionism that contributes to the mess. Sanguines tend to believe that they must have devoted periods of time to do every bit of the work or they can’t even get started. If the Sanguine doesn’t have all the tools and ideas and the time, she will move on to something that seems a lot more fun. To help you or your Sanguine child overcome perfectionism, turn getting started into a game. In my book A Year of Living Productively, I discuss the randomized task list and Autofocus as approaches that can help us take action without the perfect circumstances and without the chance to finish the work. The idea is that even doing a little on a selected task counts. We can train ourselves and our kids that all we expect is for them to get started. That might mean getting out the calculator or decluttering five expired food items from the pantry. As mom, you can choose one small organizing task each day in your Organized Homeschool Life planner to develop the organizing habit apart from perfectionism. When I was a child, I believed that a clean room included organized dresser drawers. Invariably, that’s where I would start. I would get lost in the items in my drawers and my room would end up looking messier than it had when I started. With a child like this, you want to clarify what you want done. Had my mother said “Get your bed made and everything off the floor put away,” I might have had better luck. The Sanguine would do well to reflect on Philippians 1:6. “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” Sanguines tend to feel a lot of shame about their imperfection and avoid it. But God is at work in us, imperfect as we are.

Perfectionism and the Choleric Personality

The Choleric personality likes to have control. If the Choleric doesn’t get the results and especially the cooperation she expects, she may give up. If your child doesn’t consistently get his work done or if the kids balk at starting school or if a curriculum you purchased isn’t helping you meet your goals, you may be tempted to throw out the whole notion of homeschooling. If you have a high-control, choleric child, the curriculum is confusing, the teacher of your online class isn’t engaging, or there is no direct correlation between the work and your child’s goals, your child may refuse to do any of it. The source of perfectionism for the Choleric is desire for control. If you’re a Choleric parent, you may think the solution is to either quit homeschooling or to crack down with strict discipline on your choleric child. But neither of these approaches may be best. Instead, consider giving your child some control. Perhaps the curriculum could be changed or modified. Perhaps the class could be dropped or done with less focus. Perhaps you could give your child choice over when work could be completed or even how much of it seems reasonable to do. My Choleric child was told he only had to do enough exercises in his language arts workbook to understand the concepts. So to exercise control, he completed every single one and enjoyed showing me that he did so. Proverbs 16:9 says, “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” While desire for control can be a blessing, it has its limits. To overcome perfectionism, Cholerics must respect those limits.

Perfectionism and the Melancholy Personality

The Melancholy is the personality we most often think of with respect to perfectionism. The desire for perfectionism is fundamental to this personality, though we all crave perfection and completeness. We would love for life to be as God originally intended. The Melancholy personality often takes others’ failures to do things perfectly as a personal attack. The towel that isn’t put back on the rack neatly or the letters that aren’t formed correctly are thoughtless and inconsiderate. Of course, this is not case–even if you’ve told them and told them. As we’ve already determined, others don’t necessarily share our motivation for acting as they do. The Melancholy’s desire for completion should be honored when possible. Follow the schedule when you can. If that’s impossible, make it a realistic routine instead. Also give your Melancholy child permission to redo work or tests to get 100%. This permission helps immensely with perfectionism. If you’re a Melancholy parent, I encourage you to spend time in hobbies or projects that can be completed. Homeschooling and parenting are never ending. Finishing something is very rewarding to a melancholy and other personalities, too. Put boundaries around perfectionism. Perfectionism in the Melancholy may be related to anxiety. You’ll want to listen to the episode I did on anxiety if that’s an issue for you. Give your child a number of attempts or a time limit and then have her recognize the anxious thoughts that come afterward. Doing some truth journaling or discussion of these thoughts can be helpful. If the thought is, “If the handwriting isn’t perfect, then I’m a bad student,” have your child challenge that thought with truth. Is that really true? Plenty of doctors’ success in school would argue otherwise. And what does it mean if you’re a bad student? You’re not valuable? Einstein’s life contradicts that notion. 1 John 4:12 says, “No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” Melancholies want to keep relationships primary, not perfect work. After all, we could not be saved if God expected perfection in us apart from His Son.

Perfectionism and the Phlegmatic Personality

The Phlegmatic’s perfectionism is often motivated by a desire for peace. If a Phlegmatic fears disappointment or anger with an imperfect job, he will procrastinate. This is especially true with decisions. My son kept putting off making a decision about continuing piano lessons. He wanted to make the perfect decision and not upset me or the piano teacher. I persisted in telling him that I would not be unhappy either way, but that he had to make the decision. He chose not to continue and I could see him holding his breath to see my reaction. I complimented him on making a decision. He did not take piano lessons again but taught himself after learning guitar. Phlegmatics need reassurance that they will have our respect after doing a job or making a decision imperfectly. Otherwise anxiety will keep them stuck. Make sure that compliments far outweigh constructive criticism. I find this to be an issue with kids’ writing in particular. Isaiah 41:10 says, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Even when we make the wrong choice, God is with us and working all things together for our good. Make sure to give Phlegmatics guilt-free leisure time. If they cannot have couch potato time without us making them feel lazy, they will struggle to get their work done. If you’re struggling to get your work done, make sure you give yourself guilt-free leisure time, too. I like to plan it as my reward each day.

Conclusion

The solution to perfectionism isn’t one-size-fits-all. The source of it is often rooted in personality and so are the strategies for overcoming it. Join me next time as we discuss what every homeschooler needs to know about science. Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Create Margin In Your Homeschool

Hey, homeschoolers! I have learned a lot in this busy season. Homeschooling is more popular than ever. That means that business has been booming for me. That’s a good thing! But it has presented me with new time management challenges. What I’ve learned is that I need margin. That’s what I want to discuss in this episode: what margin is and how we can create it in our homeschools.

Before I do that, I want to share a resource you can use to create margin in your day: my book A Year of Living Productively. The book is my review of more than 80 different time management approaches. With this one book, you won’t have to read dozens of other books on productivity. Instead, you can turn to the approaches that are most likely to work for you, read the instructions, and give them a test yourself. I’ve been doing more experimenting during this busy season and my reviews in the book keep me from trying things that I know aren’t likely to work. You can find the book on Amazon or at grammargalaxybooks.com/shop. Now for this week’s topic: How to Create Margin in Your Homeschool. First, what is margin? You might call it buffer, unscheduled time, or rest. Whatever you call it, it’s essential that we have it in our days.

God created the Sabbath as margin.

The Israelites were constantly looking for ways around the Sabbath–as though it were a punishment or a way to ruin their weekend. Instead, Sabbath is a gift. Jesus said the Sabbath was created for us, not us for the Sabbath. Sabbath is for rest. Sabbath is for time with God. And Sabbath is to remember that we are not God. When we don’t have a day off each week, the likelihood of burnout and illness is high. Our kids need a day of rest, too. That day doesn’t have to be Sunday. If you serve the church, Sunday is a workday for you. Another day could be Sabbath for you. Yes, we tend to have other commitments on our Sabbath day. But Sabbath commitments shouldn’t be the same as other days’ commitments. So a time to visit family, attend a Bible study, or even volunteer can fit into a day of rest. But we also need Sabbath for time with God. Attending church is an excellent way of spending time with the Lord and fellowshipping with believers. But we can use the time to do more Bible reading, prayer, and journaling. If you sing or play an instrument, Sabbath is the day to make time for this. Listen to music that fills your soul. Go for a walk. Spend time in nature. Finally, we need Sabbath to remember that we are not God. So many times I have been tempted to work on Sundays, and honestly, I have given in. I do not trust that I can get everything done that must be done without doing that. This is my lack of faith in God. He hasn’t given me more to do than can be completed in six days. Yes, I can fritter away the time that should be dedicated to working. But even when I’ve done that and confessed it, God has been faithful to enable me to get the important things done without working on Sundays. When we take a day of rest, we are reminded that we aren’t essential. Only God is. He will accomplish His work with or without us and He commands us to rest and renew. I want you to know that I am preaching to myself here!

Establish a margin day.

Decide on a day a week that will be your Sabbath, but also give yourself a day for added margin. When we plan to accomplish too much in six days, there is no place but the Sabbath day for the overflow to go. So start planning five days of work, leaving one day as your margin day. Or, if you are planning a 5-day school week, plan four days of work, leaving a fifth day as your margin day. Saturday is my margin day. The most difficult part of this is refusing to plan how to use your margin day ahead of time. It can become like a tax refund. A tax refund should be margin money–bonus money that adds more cushion to your account should you need it. But tax refunds are typically already spent by the time they’re received. Often they’re spent many times over! That’s what we can do with a margin day if we aren’t cautious. We can tell ourselves that we’ll skip math, that we won’t meal plan, that we won’t start on that work or volunteer project now because we after all, we have the margin day! Now we can relax. But more things will come up to interfere with our plans for the week. We tell ourselves we’ll just do our regular homeschool schedule on margin day, but what about all the other projects that have been allocated for that day? We can end up so overwhelmed on margin day that we don’t want to do anything. We blow everything off and either have to stay up late to complete time-sensitive tasks, or we begin a new week feeling behind and cranky. We may even blame our families for our predicament. The solution is to do our best to complete our planned activities each day. At the end of the week, any legitimately unfinished tasks can be completed on margin day.

Plan a time block for margin.

To make effective use of margin day, we need margin in the rest of our days. If we try to squeeze too much into a day, we will never finish what we plan. Margin day will be overloaded. Interruptions and technical problems and underestimates of time required happen to every homeschooling family. So our days have to take that into account. Plan a block of time that will have nothing scheduled but is specifically for unfinished tasks from the day. Like margin day, this time can quickly become planned when we don’t feel like doing something now. Avoid this habit and keep your margin block open. I think of this time like a professional keeping time for walk-in customers. If you don’t keep that time unscheduled, you won’t be able to address the things that come up. You’ll be stressed out and overwhelmed. I have struggled with keeping my daily margin time unplanned. I either tell myself I can use my margin block for tasks I don’t feel like doing now or that I’ll use it as free time. I can certainly use the time as free time if nothing has come up, but some task usually comes walking in. One of the things I’m doing to create margin in my days is to be very focused in the mornings. I am not using a traditional homeschool schedule with two high school students at home, so I have the morning hours to do my work. I have signed up for an accountability time-blocking program called Caveday. If you are motivated, comfortable being on camera via Zoom, and thrive with structure and accountability, I think you would love it. Check out caveday.org.

Create margin in your workload.

Finally, we can create margin in our workloads. I interviewed Amy Michaels about the 3-week month. I love the concept. You make progress on your goal 3 weeks in a month, leaving the half weeks of the month available as margin. Honestly, I have struggled in implement it because I have tried to stuff 5 weeks plus of work into those three weeks of a month. I keep thinking I’ll have the half weeks as margin, but I don’t. The solution is to focus on getting less done. I’ve made some decisions about my workload that I think will help. I’m not going to produce a podcast during the margin weeks. That means I will produce 3-4 episodes a month, but never five. I am considering a haitus of my weekend newsletter and instead only sending out the podcast notifications. Making decisions about what to eliminate in my homeschooling was always painful for me. I wanted to do it all! But I don’t want the negative effects of trying to do it all. I suspect you don’t either. When decluttering clothes, the advice is to put items into a maybe or review box for later. You’re not saying no forever but just for now. Put curriculum and activities into a maybe box to review next semester. If you need more help with this, I’ll link to my episode on curriculum overwhelm in the show notes. I’m going to put my weekly newsletter into a maybe box for next year. That feels so much better than saying I’m not going to write a newsletter anymore. I’ve heard from several families who use Grammar Galaxy that they’re concerned it isn’t enough work. That’s what we want. We want to feel like we have margin to add other reading and writing and even fun grammar exercises to the regular curriculum. Feeling like it’s not much is what motivates our kids and us to continue. Look for ways to decrease your workload so it feels like it’s not enough. Then you’re on track to creating margin in your day. It’s easier to add than to take away.

Conclusion

When we have sabbath, a margin day, a margin time block within our days, and a decreased workload, we will experience the peace and productivity we crave in our homeschools. Join me next week as we discuss how to use personality to overcome perfectionism in our homeschools. Have a happy homeschool week!

More Homeschool Curriculum Sanity

Hey, homeschoolers!

Last time I shared how you can find curriulum for homeschool sanity. This week, I have an amazing resource for you. I interview Heather Bowen of HomeschoolCurriculumFair.com.

Before I share the interview, I want to let you know that the audiobook version of Protostar, Grammar Galaxy Volume 2 is now available. Response to the audio version of the first volume has been strong. Tom McLean, the narrator, does an incredible job of bringing the book to life and adding humor with his voices. The audiobook is 20% off through September 10th. Add the audiobook to your purchase of the Protostar text and receive an additional $5 off.

Be sure to join the Top Picks Curriculum Fair group on Facebook and check out the curriculum website mentioned.

Join me next time as I discuss creating margin in our homeschools.

Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Choose Curriculum For Homeschool Sanity

Hey homeschoolers!

Few things cause homeschoolers as much anxiety as choosing curriculum. I understand that. Curriculum can cost us a lot of time and money, and it can be frightening to make the wrong choice.

I created a tool to help you in The Organized Homeschool Life book and planner.  The Curriculum Challenge includes a form for rating curriculum on several criteria. You can download it for free at Psychowith6.com/TOHLPlanner.

#1 Determine your learning and teaching styles

The first consideration for choosing homeschool curriculum is to determine your learning and teaching styles. When I began homeschooling, I was attracted to curricula that was reading based. I love reading to my kids and my kids enjoyed being read to. A reading-based curriculum like Sonlight made sense to me. However, I had three young boys when I began homeschooling, so when I heard about the unit study curriculum Konos that would have my kids engaging in hands-on learning, I knew I had to check it out.

I honestly did not relish the idea of all the crafts and extra work required in using the hands-on curriculum, but what I wanted more than my own happiness was kids’ love of learning. I do not regret choosing Konos, even though I was sewing and painting and cooking while pregnant and chasing toddlers. My kids loved it and when we added co-op activities in our home once a week, we had found the perfect fit. I had friends to teach and spend time with. My kids made close friends and we all had a blast.

I am not saying that every homeschooler should learn using unit studies. I know homeschoolers who prefer textbooks. I know others who prefer all-in-one online learning. And still others who prefer in person or online classes in their homeschooling. What I do encourage you to do is to be honest about what you and your kids benefit from the most. There is no point in choosing a curriculum that is a good fit for friends or gets rave reviews on Facebook if it’s not your or your children’s style.

A big part of the consideration should be whether your child learns bast through reading, listening, watching, or doing. If you have no idea, take time now use materials that are in each of these modalities. Download free samples from publishers websites or use curriculum that you can borrow or get for free. I share free samples of Grammar Galaxy here.

#2 Determine your approach to homeschooling

Once you identify preferred learning styles, you are ready for the next question: What is you were approach to homeschooling? How do you believe that children learn best? Do you believe that the traditional textbook approach will prepare your children to go back to school? Do you like having everything laid out for you so you can check off the boxes and satisfy any educational requirements you have to meet? Do you believe that technology is the way of the future, and your children would benefit from learning digitally now? Or do you believe that classically trained students are superior? Do you want your children to be challenged to learn more than what is expected in traditional schools? Do you believe that children learn best by studying subjects from many different disciplines? If your kids are also hands-on learners, a unit study approach could be perfect.

Do you believe that children learn best with a gentle approach to learning that incorporates living books and nature study? A Charlotte Mason approach may be up your alley. Do you believe children’s studies should be interest-led and practical? An unschooling approach may be right for you.

There are numerous homeschooling approaches that you may want to adopt or sample from. I am an eclectic homeschooler and I recently wrote for IHomeschool network that I think every homeschooler should consider eclectic homeschooling and choose the best of any approach they like. If there are approaches that you aren’t interested in, you can eliminate them from your search list. Remember that you aren’t making a permanent choice but a choice to start with.

#3 Consider how much time you have

The third consideration for choosing curriculum is time. If you have a long list of reading and exercises and activities that are meant to be accomplished each day and you are going to be working full-time from home this year, be realistic about what you can accomplish. It is true that you do not have to do every prescribed activity. But if you routinely skip exercises, books, and activities, you may feel behind or just overwhelmed by the expectations. Your children may feel that way, too.

As with anything, you should choose curriculum that makes you feel like you’re not doing enough. How can I say to choose curriculum that makes you feel like you’re not doing enough? Because that way it will be easy to add activities and expand on what you’re doing. It’s much harder to decide what to eliminate. My elementary language arts curriculum, Grammar Galaxy, takes just 10 to 15 minutes three or four days a week, especially in the earlier levels. Some parents, especially those new to homeschooling, or anxious about lessons that don’t take more time. The reason I created the curriculum the way I did is because children engage in language arts study throughout the school day. They are reading and writing and talking. You want your curriculum to leave your children wanting more. In fact, this is one of the ways that we can motivate our children. I love it when I hear that kids beg to do more grammar galaxy and are upset when mom wants to take a break over the summer. That means I have done my job and mom has done her job by not overloading kids to the point that they hate their study.

Even classroom teachers reserve space in class time for current events, seasonal activities, and new ideas you have for teaching. Why wouldn’t we do the same? Unlike classroom teachers, we don’t have to keep our kids busy doing seatwork all day. I encourage you not to fall into the trap of babysitting by homework. I supply Grammar Galaxy subscribers a monthly calendar of fun, short language arts activities to add to the curriculum.

Some new homeschoolers have the idea that they will be able to put a stack of books next to their students and the student will dutifully complete the day’s work without any help from them. This fantasy, and it is a fantasy, is honestly not what you want. Completely independent learning is something reserved for mature students. It is not homeschooling and lacks the best part of homeschooling, in my opinion, which is the relationship that we enjoy with our kids. If your child is coming from a school background and is new to homeschooling, he or she will be wanting that time with you. Read with your children, go over the math problems with your child, and do the activities with your kids during the time you reserved for teaching. Certainly we should be spending that time until we know our child knows what to do. If you’re doing this right, your child will eventually say “I’ve got it” and will send you on your way. Obviously, that’s dependent upon your child’s age.

How long homeschooling should take by grade

Because homeschooling doesn’t take seven hours a day typically, you will want your child to find other ways to stay occupied. If you are going to be an unschooler, you will want to provide activities, materials, and freedom for your child to pursue her own interests. Your child will need time to get bored. Otherwise, your child will need guidance as to how to occupy the rest of their time during the day. Sports and music practice and a variety of games have been useful to us in this regard. You may also want to make a list of things you want your child to do before having screen time.

#4 Consider Curriculum Cost

The fourth consideration when choosing curriculum is cost. New homeschoolers are often surprised by the expense of materials that were once provided to them through their tax dollars or private tuition. Homeschool curriculum can come from the homeschooling arm of a school publisher, but it often comes from a small publisher like myself. Because we don’t produce millions of copies of our books and we don’t have a corporation to spread out expenses, our prices tend to be higher than what you’d expect for a mass-market books. But having been a longtime customer of curriculum homeschooling curriculum, I can tell you that the materials are worth every penny. Classroom teachers who have visited homeschooling exhibit halls and have been in awe of the choices available to us. They don’t have the options that you and I have. Because we’re speaking of money here, I just want to note that homeschooling publishers depend on your integrity not to share digital materials or make copies of printed ones.

If a more expensive curriculum is on your wish list and money is tight, look for copies you can borrow or purchase used. My homeschooling support group has a lending library from which you may borrow curriculum for an entire year. If your support group does not have a similar lending library, suggest starting one. The other thing to consider is that you will be able to recoup some of your costs by selling your print curriculum when you’re finished with it. You can sell it at a used curriculum sale in your area or online. If you are afraid of choosing curriculum that doesn’t work for your family, remember that you are not going to be out the full amount if you resell the used curriculum.

#5 Look for curriculum that is high quality and well reviewed

After considering learning styles, a homeschool approach, time, and cost, you’ll want to find curriculum that is high-quality and well reviewed. Searching for this can take an incredible amount of time. I like to look at Rainbow Resource and Cathy Duffy reviews to help me, but even these resources can prove to be overwhelming. That’s why I created a list of the best curriculum in three categories. You won’t have to search for the teaching approach, the cost, or the best reviews. I have a list with all of this information for language arts, science, and math that I’m happy to send you for free.

While I know that Grammar Galaxy, now available through sixth grade, isn’t for everyone, I think it’s a great fit for many homeschoolers. It can be used as your core language arts curriculum, to which you will want to add reading and writing assignments either from the free monthly calendars I send out or from other subjects you’re studying. But you can also use Grammar Galaxy in your morning basket or for Fun Fridays. Some families use Grammar Galaxy at bedtime, which makes me smile. Reading to my kids at bedtime was always a joy. If you’re interested in trying Grammar Galaxy for free, go to GrammarGalaxyBooks.com/samples. If you love it, I have created a special discount for podcast listeners only. Save 15% on any Grammar Galaxy order with code PODCAST through September 15th.

#6 Share your curriculum plan with veteran homeschoolers

My final tip for choosing sane curriculum is to ask about your plans in relevant homeschooling groups. In my Grammar Galaxy users group on Facebook, many homeschoolers come and ask about their curriculum plans. If your plan is overly ambitious, veterans will tell you. I also have the Homeschool Sanity Circle group on Facebook that can address many different styles and approaches to homeschooling and will help you determine if your plan is a good one or not.

Conclusion

You can develop a sane curriculum plan for your homeschool. But if you don’t exactly listen to me and you over plan and try to do too much, or if you make a poor choice for your family, you are like every other homeschooler I know, including me. It takes time to develop your own style. And even when you think you have it down, your kids grow and your circumstances change, and you are starting over. Give yourself lots of grace, and don’t forget to pray. I brought a used Five in a Row curriculum to a book sale and I felt a little silly bringing it because the book had some water damage. A woman came up to me and was elated because she had been praying to find the curriculum inexpensively. God knows your needs and He will supply them.

Have a happy homeschool week!