Homeschool Sanity Show

3 Child Discipline Lies That Make Homeschooling Harder

Hey, homeschoolers!

I’ve been talking with parents who struggle with child discipline, and I realized that I hear the same dysfunctional beliefs over and over again. I decided to share the discipline truths that can you set you free to enjoy your homeschooling in the next two episodes. Most of these truths won’t be new to you, but we can all benefit from reminders. Our culture often encourages us to believe lies about child discipline, so I am going to do my part to be counter-cultural.

Before I discuss the first discipline lie, I encourage you to check out the class I created for angry parents. The cost for this valuable, life-changing class, specifically designed for Christian homeschool parents? Just $7. I have been told the price is too low, and maybe it is. I want people to understand that it’s not a cheap class. But I also want many who need the help in changing a anger habit to have access to the class. My advice to you is to grab it before I increase the price.

Podcast Sponsor

I also want to thank my sponsor for this episode:  the Homeschool Moms Science Podcast

This new podcast is specifically geared toward helping homeschool moms teach and enjoy science.

It’s hosted by homeschool dad, scientist, and former college professor, Greg Landry.
Topics include:
– When to take which middle and high school science classes
– Why you should laser focus on the ACT and ditch the SAT
– What they learned from finding and choosing colleges for their homeschooled daughters
– How teaching science should differ for likely science major students and non-science students
– Do you have a palmaris longus?
– What you should know about CLEP and AP
– The unusual benefit of daily graphing
– Your science teaching questions answered
– 4 science teaching mistakes and how to avoid them
– And much more
Listen to this upbeat, encouraging, sometimes humorous podcast for homeschool moms…
including the science story of Greg Landry meeting his wife.
Search for Homeschool Moms Science Podcast on your podcast app or visit college prep science dot com slash podcast

Now for today’s topic: 3 child discipline lies that make homeschooling harder

#1 My child is an exception to the rules

One of the most common discipline lies I hear from parents is that their child is in some way an exception. The child has special needs, the child has numerous mental health diagnoses, or the child is strong-willed to an extent that has never been seen before. Because of these exceptional differences in the child, this child cannot be disciplined. Nothing will work. Or at least nothing traditional. Parents of these exceptional children tell me that standard child training principles will not work, so they wait as I scan my memory for a magic bullet. Perhaps I have heard of some new, powerful technique or some ancient practice that has been intentionally hidden from parents.

I have fallen for this lie many times, I am sad to say. I have watched Supernanny with the same anticipation, waiting for her to teach parents a new trick for an exceptionally out-of-control child. But I have never seen her pull out a magic solution. In fact, she teaches many of the same parenting principles that are taught in the Bible, and that have been used for centuries. I firmly believe that they work with any child who is capable of misbehaving.

I do offer parents of difficult-to-discipline children this disclaimer, however. Children who have learning disabilities, mental illness, or a very strong will are going to require more training, more time, and more patience on your part. You may need a professional to coach you through the child discipline. That is especially true if you are disciplining a child from an abused or neglected background. In this case, you need support and help in training your children.

But let me be clear. All children, regardless of their circumstances need discipline. Proverbs 13:24 reads “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.” You do not have to spank your child, but if you love her, you will discipline her.

Lie #2 I can’t discipline my child because my spouse and I don’t agree

If I can convince a parent that even the most challenging child can and must be disciplined, the next lie served up often has to do with lack of agreement on discipline in the marriage. Whether you are married or divorced, the idea is that child discipline can only be effective if you and your spouse are parenting the same way. So if your husband doesn’t agree with the discipline approach you’re using, doesn’t help you discipline, or won’t listen to this podcast, then you can’t discipline your child.

The truth is all moms and dads parent differently. And most parents have some disagreement about how children should be disciplined. Even if we agree, our follow-through isn’t going to be perfectly in sync. So if we use lack of agreement as an excuse, we will never discipline our children. Both mom and dad point the finger at the spouse to place blame for an incorrigible child, when both should point the finger back at themselves.

There is no question that a united front makes child discipline more effective. But the idea that we have to wait for our spouse to get on board to train our children is complete hogwash. When your child is with you, he can be taught to respect and obey you.

To get your spouse on board, you can share what works for you and ask if he is interested in trying it. You can ask if he would be willing to see a professional to seek child discipline advice. And you can pray. Ephesians 4:2-3 says “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” If we don’t enjoy unity in our discipline approach, we can still pursue unity with our attitudes.

Lie #3 My child should always like school, life, and especially me

Because I sell curriculum, I talk to a number of parents who have a hard time finding curriculum their children like for an entire school year. The child might say they like a curriculum at first and then say it’s boring and want something else. Or they might enjoy homeschooling, soccer, or a co-op for a while and then they want to quit. How, these parents wonder, can they find something their child will like for the long-term? They also wonder what they’re doing wrong that they’re child isn’t happy.

These parents don’t seem to remember their own childhoods. Did we love every day of school, every subject, or every activity? Boredom and a desire for variety is natural for children, but we don’t have to indulge it. For the most part, we have the freedom to change curriculum, drop classes, and quit participating in a child’s activities. But doing so every time a child decides she doesn’t like something is not disciplining her. We want to give our kids the expectation that they must honor their commitments, especially when dropping something negatively affects other people or costs money. Involve your child in the decision-making process. Explain the length of the commitment or the financial consequences of making a change. This is preparing children for adult life. Breaking contracts comes at a cost for us as adults and potentially a loss of reputation.

If we believe the lie that children should always like school and life, we can end up losing a lot of time and money in not disciplining our kids. But an even more costly lie is that our kids should always like us. If they’re angry with us, we think we are doing something wrong. But the opposite is likely true. Of course, we don’t want to deny our kids everything. Their not liking us would be justified in that case. But if our kids don’t like us for saying no to something we know is not the best choice for our kids, then we are disciplining appropriately. And if we have otherwise positive relationships with our kids, they’ll get past it. Hebrews 12:11 tells us “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” If you love your children, you’ll allow them to be unhappy at times–even with you.

Conclusion

To summarize these three lies, every child needs discipline because discipline is love. No exceptions. You and your spouse don’t have to agree for you to discipline your child. Discipline when your child is with you. Finally, your child doesn’t have to like school, life, or you, but she must be trained to respect you.

Thanks again to my sponsor, The Homeschool Moms Science Podcast.  Join me next time as I discuss three more discipline lies that make homeschooling harder.

Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Use A Charlotte Mason Approach With Any Curriculum

Hey, homeschoolers!

I know many of you love the Charlotte Mason approach to homeschooling. But if the popularity of my interview with Cindy West on a sane approach to Charlotte Mason homeschooling is any indication, you want tips for making Charlotte Mason work for your family.

My guest today is going to show us how to use Charlotte Mason methods with any curriculum. Before I introduce her, I want to tell you that Grammar Galaxy is a perfect curriculum to use with the Charlotte Mason method. Grammar Galaxy is not a dry textbook approach. It uses stories that engage elementary students. The lessons are also short. You can spend just 10-15 minutes per session focused on formal learning. But it’s not that formal. In fact, every lesson includes an activity that is not seatwork. If you’d like to incorporate nature study into your homeschool, you’ll want to claim a free lesson I created on literary symbolism. Then grab the free nature study printables from Nature Explorers to use along with it. Find the links to both downloads here.

Podcast Sponsor

I also want to thank my sponsor for this episode:  the Homeschool Moms Science Podcast

This new podcast is specifically geared toward helping homeschool moms teach and enjoy science.

It’s hosted by homeschool dad, scientist, and former college professor, Greg Landry.
Topics include:
– When to take which middle and high school science classes
– Why you should laser focus on the ACT and ditch the SAT
– What they learned from finding and choosing colleges for their homeschooled daughters
– How teaching science should differ for likely science major students and non-science students
– Do you have a palmaris longus?
– What you should know about CLEP and AP
– The unusual benefit of daily graphing
– Your science teaching questions answered
– 4 science teaching mistakes and how to avoid them
– And much more
Listen to this upbeat, encouraging, sometimes humorous podcast for homeschool moms…
including the science story of Greg Landry meeting his wife.
Search for Homeschool Moms Science Podcast on your podcast app or visit college prep science dot com slash podcast

Charlotte Mason Method Guest

My guest today is Jeannie Fulbright.Jeannie is the author of the #1 best-selling, multi award-winning Exploring Creation science series, Exploring Creation with Astronomy, Chemistry and Physics, Botany, Zoology, and Anatomy.  

She is a veteran homeschool mom with four graduates and has watched all of her children blossom, pursue their passions, and become incredible, successful men and women of God.

Her four homeschooled children all went to the University of Georgia on scholarship, and her oldest graduated Magna Cum Laude in photojournalism and was hired as the youngest photo editor for a major news network where she is now the head of her department at age 26. 

As a certified life coach, Jeannie has been speaking and writing to encourage and build up the homeschool community for twenty years. Her passion is to empower parents to homeschool with excellence and to trust God with every aspect of homeschooling. 

Jeannie received her bachelor’s degree from the University of Texas at Austin, her Master of Fine Arts in Creative Writing from Fairfield University, and her Christian Life Coach certification from Life University. 

Jeannie believes every homeschooled child can flourish, no matter what limitations they may have. Her mission is to provide parents with teaching and tools to give their children an excellent education without sacrificing peace and joy. 

Whether it is with her science series, her high school college manual My Road Map to College and Career, her Charlotte Mason tools and teaching, or her videos and blogs, she is dedicated to help you become the best homeschool parent you can be. 

I know you’ll enjoy our discussion.

Charlotte Mason Method Resources

Notebooking resources – scroll to the bottom of this post
Aesop’s Fables
Leading Little Ones to God
Thanks again to The Homeschool Moms Science Podcast for sponsoring this episode.
Join me next week as we discuss having siblings say I’m sorry with guest Lynna Sutherland.
Have a happy homeschool week!

Is A Montessori Approach A Good Fit For Your Homeschooler?

If you’ve heard of Montessori but you don’t know many of the details of this learning approach, you’re in for a treat. Today, my guest Larry Shiller and I will discuss the advantages of Montessori’s approach so you can determine if it’s a good fit for your child.

Larry Shiller is the author of award-winning, Montessori-based math and language arts curricula. He is an expert in and a strong advocate for Montessori learning.

We discussed:

  • what makes the Montessori method of teaching unique
  • appropriate ages for using the Montessori method
  • how Montessori methods can motivate children

Montessori Resources

ShillerLearning.com

Larry@ShillerLearning.com

Free fraction lesson

Conclusion

Have you tried Montessori methods with your child?

Join me next time as my guest Jeannie Fulbright and I discuss how to take a Charlotte Mason approach using any curriculum.

Have a happy homeschool week!

Why You Should Study Geology In Your Homeschool


Hey, homeschoolers!

Do you get excited about geology? If not, I think you will be after listening to this episode. Geology is not just science but theology as well.

My guest today is Patrick Nurre. After years of field study, collecting and studying the fascinating world of geology, a good friend suggested that he might like to share some of his treasures with others, and from that humble beginning, Northwest Treasures was begun. He and his wife started out just taking unusual samples to different area homeschool conventions. When it became apparent that people really loved this, but wanted to know more of the science behind the discoveries, they began expanding into rock kits with books.

But the rocks are not the only part of the story. People began to ask where they could go to collect, and we found ourselves not only telling them, but taking them, and the field trips were born.

And finally, the story comes full circle with not only showing people where to collect things, but how and why the things you find are where they are. So the seminars and education began.

I’m excited that Patrick took the time to share with us the importance of studying geology with our kids.

Patrick and I discussed: 

  • why it’s important to teach geology
  • the most important aspects of geology to teach
  • helps for moms who aren’t confident in teaching geology, and more

Geology Resources

NorthwestRockandFossil.com

How to Give Your Kids Confidence in Creation

Apologetics in Your Homeschool

Conclusion

Join me next time as my guest Larry Miller and I talk about Montessori learning.

Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Help A Struggling Reader

Hey, homeschoolers!

We know that reading is the key to unlocking knowledge. When our child is struggling to read as mine once did, we get worried.

My guest today, Jan Harmsworth, is going to help us relax. Jan Harmsworth is the author of The Easy Reading Formula Course. It’s new, it’s different, and as far as she knows there isn’t anything else on the market like it. It’s written specifically for US home schoolers whose child is struggling to learn to read, and while the stories are about children aged 6, 9 and 11, it’s suitable for any age group.

I think you will love Jan and hearing how she was able to help many struggling readers with her unique approach.

Struggling Reader Resources

Be sure to check out the Easy Reading Formula course!

For more, read 5 Days to Your Child Becoming a Better Reader

Conclusion

Join me next time as I discuss why we should study geology in our homeschools with Patrick Nurre.

Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Teach High School Literature With Janice Campbell


Hey, homeschoolers!

Few things make homeschoolers as anxious as teaching high school. If you weren’t someone who could easily chat about literary themes and symbolism or you didn’t pay that much attention in lit class, teaching literature to your high schooler can be daunting. My guest today, Janice Campbell, is here to help!

My Guest on Teaching High School Literature: Janice Campell

Janice and her husband Donald homeschooled their four sons from preschool into early college using a lifestyle of learning approach influenced by Charlotte Mason and classical education. A lifelong reader and learner, Janice has been sharing her joy in homeschooling at conferences since the 1990s. She is the author of the Excellence in Literature curriculum for grades 8-12, Transcripts Made Easy, and other resources, and she writes for various homeschooling magazines, as well as online at EverydayEducation.com, Excellence-in-Literature.com, and DoingWhatMatters.com.

How to Teach High School Literature

Janice and I chat about the challenge of teaching classics, why teens should be encouraged to write in their books, and how to prepare younger students for in-depth literature study. I know you’ll appreciate her as I did.

Resources for Teaching High School Literature

For more information on how to annotate while reading, check out this article on Janice’s website.

EverydayEducation.com, Excellence-in-Literature.com, and DoingWhatMatters.com

Some of Janice’s books may be purchased at the Institute for Excellence in Writing.

How to Have Happy High Schoolers

How to Homeschool High School

How to Homeschool High School 2

Conclusion

Do you write in your books? Comment and let me know. Join me next time as my guest and I discuss how to help struggling readers. Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Incorporate Hands-On Learning


Hey, homeschoolers!

I had three boys when I began homeschooling. I knew instinctively that the more hands-on my teaching was, the more engaged they would be. All of my kids loved hands-on lessons and I highly commend it. But sometimes it’s difficult to depart from the workbooks that are so well ordered. And it can be a challenge to know how to make learning hands-on.

My guest today is here to help. Penny Mayes is the creator of Take Time for Art, a video streaming art curriculum that tells the story of history using art history. The curriculum includes amazingly fun, hands-on projects. Her curriculum is designed to integrate with most major history curricula as well as unit studies. However, Take Time for Art is also a stand-alone art curriculum. Penny is a hands-on learning advocate and believes that hands-on is the way children learn from day one.

Penny inspired me and I know she’ll inspire you, too.

Hands-On Learning Resources

Take Time for Art Courses

Use with Notgrass History

Use with Mystery of History

Konos Unit Studies

Conclusion

Join me next time as I discuss teaching high school literature with Janice Campbell.

Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Help Kids Develop Character


Hey, homeschoolers!

One of the top concerns we have as homeschooling parents is raising children of character. It isn’t enough to just raise smart children. We want our children to evidence the fruit of the spirit. But is there anything we can do to aid character growth apart from praying?

My guest today would say yes! Sean Allen is the founder of The Well Ordered Parent. He is husband to his beautiful bride Caroline and a proud father of seven. He has a bachelor of fine arts in graphic design and is continually working on creating materials that assist families in the beautifully hard work of discipling their children. That includes their popular character training program, Character Badges. Sean speaks about the adventures, joys, and challenges of parenting at homeschool conventions across the country and also on the soon-to-be-released podcast, The Well Ordered Parent.

I know you’ll find Sean to be warm, funny, and grace-oriented, just as I did.

Developing Children’s Character Resources

The Well Ordered Parent Course

Character Badges

Conclusion

Join me next time as I discuss how to incorporate hands-on learning with Penny Mayes.

Have a happy homeschool week!

How To Help Kids Handle The Hard Times In History


Hey, homeschoolers!

There’s no question that the pandemic can make our kids anxious, even as we try to navigate these uncertain times ourselves. But current events aren’t the only times that may be unsettling for children. How should we handle the hard times in history we study? We can certainly avoid them when are children are very young. But eventually, we will have to discuss the dark days. How can we best do that?

My guest today is going to advise us. Linda Lacour Hobar, author of The Mystery of History, is a passionate follower of Jesus Christ, a genuine “people-person,” and a fan of comfortable high-heels. Through homeschooling her children and service as a missionary, she discovered a deep love for world history and a clear call to write for her children, grandchildren, and generations to come that they might know “the mystery of God.” (Col 2:3)

In its 20th year of worldwide circulation, The Mystery of History has been well received by all ages and won numerous awards. While fact-filled and historically accurate, Linda’s writing style remains warm, personable, and thought provoking. A native-born Texan, Linda holds a Bachelor of Arts degree from Baylor University, where she first fell in love with world history. She presently resides in Tennessee where she continues to research, write, teach online classes, and obsess over matters big and small.

I know you’ll be inspired what Linda has to share.

Hard Times of History Resources

Free printable life questions for discussing the dark side of history

Free workshop “Modern History That Shook the World” by Linda Lacour Hobar – use code melanie (exp. 5/31/20)

Want to better understand the headlines? Planning to teach modern history? Then you need “Modern History That Shook the World!” Join Linda Lacour Hobar, author of the award-winning series, The Mystery of History, as she recounts world-shaking events from the 20th century to present day from a biblical worldview. With vivid snapshots of the Cold War, the Formation of Israel, the War in Korea, the Collapse of the Soviet Union, and more, students and teachers will not only see the past more clearly, but be better prepared for the future!

BrightIdeasPress.com

TheMysteryofHistory.com

The Mystery of History on Facebook and Instagram

Conclusion

Join me next week when my guest and I discuss how to develop children’s character. I know you’ll love it. I did!

Have a happy homeschool week!

Homeschooling with a Broken Spirit

Hey, homeschoolers!

Homeschooling during a pandemic can certainly be a challenge. For some of us, it leads to a broken spirit. I’ve certainly had my days! But I experienced an even greater challenge in the days following a miscarriage. I want to offer you the help and hope you need for homeschooling with a broken spirit.

I invited fellow conference speaker Dennis Gundersen of Grace and Truth Books to join me. In this interview, we discuss some common causes of discouragement and how we can break free from a depressed mindset.

Dennis is a Christian publisher of children’s stories from the 1800s with a character-building emphasis. He served as Senior Pastor at two Tulsa churches and is now devoted to writing, publishing and conference speaking. Dennis is the author of the books Your Child’s Profession of Faith, Courtship or Dating: So What’s the Difference?, and A Praying Church. Dennis is a frequent speaker at church conferences, men’s retreats, and home education conventions. He and his wife Naomi have been married for 44 years and they have four adult sons and six grandchildren. I’m so pleased that he is sharing his pastoral wisdom with us today.

Homeschooling with a Broken Spirit Resources

Depression: Looking Up from the Stubborn Darkness
Spiritual Depression: Its Causes and Cure
 
Dennis’s You Tube Messages:
 
Depression: Grace Conquers All – Message 1
Depression: Grace Conquers All – Message 2

Next Week on the Podcast

Join me next time for an interview with Linda Lacour Hobar as we discuss helping kids handle the hard times in history.

Have a happy homeschool week!