When Your Plan is Not in the Plan – An Interview with Kari Oakley Miller

When Your Plan is not in the Plan - with The Real Kathy Lee #podcast #grief #tragedy I met Kari almost twenty years ago, when her youngest son was just a baby.  She and I began an accountability group and started meeting on a weekly basis. We would share our struggles, our successes, encourage and pray for one another. We shared some precious times all those years ago. If you would have asked me to describe Kari Oakley in those days, I would have said that she was living her best life. Kari was a happily married mother of five, was homeschooling, involved in ministry, and had many friends. Her life was going according to plan.

 

 

However, a shocking phone call on November 19, 2018 forced her to abandon all knew. She was forced to make a new plan.

You do not want to miss this heart tugging interview with Kari Oakley Miller. I appreciate Kari’s willingness to be vulnerable in hopes of helping someone else who might find themselves in her shoes. As you will hear in our time together, Kari shares how she dealt with grief, fear, and loneliness. Kari is an inspiration to her children, her friends, and her community. I know that Kari will be an inspiration to you, as well. We would love to hear what you think about our time together. Feel free to leave a comment here or on one of our social media outlets. As always, thank you to The Ultimate Homeschooling Radio Network for helping me bring these podcast interviews to you.

Have a great week!

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Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

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Adding the Third Baby – Catching up with my Daughter In Law, Caroline Batres

Adding a third baby to your family? Listen in to a mom that has just been there on this podcast episode!My heart overflows with joy when this beautiful family comes to visit Nana and Bruce Bruce! Seriously, I love to hear the sounds of toddler voices and a cooing baby. Of course, I love seeing my son and daughter-in-law too, as well.

I thought it would be fun to check in with Caroline and have a chat about adding #3 to their family. Sweet Eleanor was born May 18, 2018 and has two great big brothers teaching her the ropes. I asked Caroline to share her thoughts on pregnancy, postpartum depression, having an unexpected C-section, and being a mom of three. We had a great time talking about how these subjects and more. Caroline feels strongly that women need to live their own life and as she says in the podcast, “You do YOU.” I have to agree with Caroline. So many of us get caught in the comparison trap and we end up making decisions because someone else thinks it is best. You and your partner get to decide what is best for your family. Don’t get caught up trying to please everyone else. Also, take people’s advice with a grain of salt. People mean well, but they aren’t you. 

If you are a new mom, you don’t want to miss this episode. Caroline is wise beyond her years and has great insight to share. I am so thankful that she is mine and I get to watch her grow as a wife and mom.

Have a great week!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 


Special Thanks to Our Network Sponsor – Change is in the Air Movie

This story embraces the imperfections that make us human, offers a way to set ourselves free and asks us all to take a good, long look at the wild birds in the sky.

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To The Mom Who Constantly Questions Herself

To The Mom Who Constantly Questions Herself - The Real Kathy Lee Podcast Guilt has been on mind so much this past week. It seems everywhere I turn, women are sharing with me how much they are questioning their every decision and how guilty they feel if they someone disagrees with them. Oh ladies, I want you to live a guilt free life. Honestly, this has been one of my greatest struggles. I am a recovering people pleaser. TBH (to be honest in cool kid lingo), I still struggle with questioning my decisions and hoping I haven’t hurt someone’s feelings in the process. Today I share some thoughts on helping us all recognize when we are being held captive by people pleasing and guilt.

  1. Know Yourself – If you haven’t taken a personality test, you should. There are several different types you can take, you can check out Myers Brigg.  Knowing yourself will help you be confident in your strengths.
  2. Know What Triggers You- Did you struggle with perfectionism as a kid? Did you experience trauma? Did your parents expect certain things from you? Did someone question your every move?
  3. Be true to Yourself and Your Story- What is your plan for your family? Talk openly with your spouse and your small circle of friends.
  4. Don’t write a shitty first draft- As Brene’ Brown says in her book Rising Strong, our brain will create a story when we don’t have answers. Resist doing this. This will often lead to unnecessary guilt.
  5. Know your Love Language- If you are a quality time person, you often feel guilty if you don’t offer quality time. If you are a gifts person, you will sometimes struggle if you don’t think you picked the perfect gift. Be aware of this common transfer of emotion.

I think the bottom line is this, we are all trying to do our best. Let’s offer each other grace. Most importantly, let’s give ourselves grace!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

An Honest Conversation about White Mommas Raising Kids of Color

An Honest Conversation about White Mommas Raising Kids of Color - Listen with The Real Kathy Lee
As I sit on my porch, listening to the waterfall and birds chirping I find myself so grateful for friends who are willing to talk about real life and the tough subjects. This week, I had the privilege of chatting with the beautiful Natalie about her son, Jordan. Natalie became the mom of Jordan when he was four and during this podcast she talks honestly about raising a child of color. I am so appreciative of her willingness to be vulnerable enough to tell you her story. If you are raising a child of color or know someone who is, please listen to this podcast. It is our goal to help you raise children who know they are worthy of love and acceptance. Additionally, we want to help you as you navigate the more tender subjects of parenting.

I too, have dealt with some harsh reality as the mother of three Latino boys and a bi-racial daughter. I have been shocked at some of the situations we have dealt with, even from family members. Natalie and I agreed that the key to raising well-adjusted children was the willingness to talk openly about every situation, no matter how difficult. It is important that you start those honest conversations your children are young, so that they will trust coming to you when they are older.  Waiting until they are teenagers is too late.
An Honest Conversation about White Mommas Raising Kids of Color - Listen with The Real Kathy Lee
Even though I was only able to parent my little Phoebe Joy for three years, I will treasure what she taught me about love and diversity. I was able to reach out and ask beautiful women of color to teach me how to fix my daughter’s hair and care for her skin. I grew so much as I learned about her culture and the importance of honoring her heritage. I was challenged and angered at the racism I still saw present in our community. I became a fighter for my girl and I watched her change people’s hearts and views with that beautiful spirit and smile

An Honest Conversation about White Mommas Raising Kids of Color - Listen with The Real Kathy Lee

 

I hope you are willing to tackle the tough questions. I hope you are willing to help your kids treat one another better. Let’s agree to ask more questions instead of assuming we know the answers. Let’s agree to listen. Let’s agree to love.

Have a great week!

 


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Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

This week, I had the privilege of chatting with the beautiful Natalie about her son, Jordan. Natalie became the mom of Jordan when he was four and during this podcast she talks honestly about raising a child of color.

 

Teens Speak Up About Everyday Life

Teens speak up about everyday life - listen now on the podcast with The Real Kathy LeeMy 17-year-old nephew drove over from Alabama to spend the weekend with us. I love having chatting with him and hearing his perspective about life and the struggles that come with being a teenager in 2018. I thought you might enjoy from Alex, as well. My daughter, Sarah was hanging out with us, so I invited her to jump in on the conversation and share her thoughts, as well.

In this episode we talked about the stressors that teenagers have to deal with, both in public school and home school settings. Both Alex and Sarah agreed that time management was super stressful at this age. Next, we chatted about the pressure of Social Media and how to help teenagers navigate the stress caused by likes and follows. Alex and Sarah were willing to be honest about relationships, exposure to drugs, and the pressures to fit in with the crowd.

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I know most of you have preschoolers and teenage parenting is still in the future. However, I think this episode will be so beneficial for you because Sarah and Alex share their thoughts on how parenting plays a big role in a teenager’s future. This would be a good episode to listen to with your spouse and make a game plan when the time comes that you have teens in your home.

I am so thankful for teenagers who are willing to talk. Set the stage when they are young that heart to heart talks are good and let your children know that they are loved, no matter what.

 


Special Thanks to our Network Sponsor, Kiwi Crate!

 

We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor, Kiwi Crate!

KiwiCo has monthly subscriptions of hands-on projects that make learning fun! Their core offering is projects that make learning about STEAM — science, technology, engineering, art, and math — accessible and are designed to spark creativity, tinkering, and learning. Some recent favorite crates are the Slime Lab, Physics Carnival, and Paper Circuits.

Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network is excited to be able to offer you the chance to try them for FREE. To learn more about their projects for kids ages 2 to 16 AND to redeem this exclusive offer, click here to get your first month free today (just pay $4.95 for shipping)


Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

Put Me in Coach – An Interview with Mary Aldrich!

I had the privilege of being introduced to Mary Aldrich at a homeschool convention this past summer. When I heard about Mary’s coaching business, I knew I wanted to hear more. I figured if this was something I was interested in learning about, there was a good chance that you all would want to get to know Mary, as well. In this episode, Mary shares her journey of homeschooling seven children (at one point she had sever under the age of ten- OH MY) and how desperation caused her to seek help for her family. Listen now! #podcast #moms #coaching #homeschoolI had the privilege of being introduced to Mary Aldrich at a homeschool convention this past summer. When I heard about Mary’s coaching business, I knew I wanted to hear more. I figured if this was something I was interested in learning about, there was a good chance that you all would want to get to know Mary, as well. In this episode, Mary shares her journey of homeschooling seven children (at one point she had sever under the age of ten- OH MY) and how desperation caused her to seek help for her family. It was refreshing to hear Mary’s vulnerability and honesty in raising so many littles at one time. I promise that most, if not all, of you will be able to relate to Mary’s story.

Mary Aldrich is an energetic mom of seven amazing children and wife to the love of her life, Brandon. Together, they are committed to helping others love God, love others and enjoy the process of both.

Mary’s passion is to help families who are longing for real joy, deeper relationships, and less overwhelm in their everyday life through coaching people through their conflicts. She is a laser focused, loving encourager for you, if you are ready to find joy, abundance, freedom and peace in your life. She is the founder of Relationship Renovations and an inspirational speaker and retreat leader.

Aside from relationship coaching, homeschooling, and church ministry, Mary enjoys a variety of hobbies including reading, swimming, healthy living, essential oils, and learning alongside her high school sons.

Find her on Facebook at Mary Aldrich, Mary Aldrich Coaching, and “Organizing and Encouraging Parents.”

(taken from maryaldrichcoaching.com)

Say YES and have a great week!!!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

I had the privilege of being introduced to Mary Aldrich at a homeschool convention this past summer. When I heard about Mary’s coaching business, I knew I wanted to hear more. I figured if this was something I was interested in learning about, there was a good chance that you all would want to get to know Mary, as well. In this episode, Mary shares her journey of homeschooling seven children (at one point she had sever under the age of ten- OH MY) and how desperation caused her to seek help for her family. Listen now! #podcast #moms #coaching #homeschool

 

Turning the Big 50!

Turning the Big 50 - with the Real Kathy LeeIt sure seems like yesterday that my friend Donna and I were running around on this Gulf Coast Beach in South Mississippi. In reality, it was more than 30 years ago. So thankful that Donna and I are still friends today, even though neither of us live in Mississippi anymore. The really cool thing is this childhood friend of mine lives only about twenty minutes away these days. 

On today’s show, I thought it might be fun for me to share some thoughts I have on turning 50. I hope some of this will help you on your journey to 50. Happy Birthday to Me!!! Here’s to the next 50!!!

  1. It goes by FAST… all of it!
  2. Don’t waste time on things that don’t matter.
  3. Relationships, it is definitely quality over quantity.
  4. Follow your dreams.
  5. Laugh more, worry less.
  6. Eff em. Who cares what “they” think. Be true to yourself. Find the rhythm for your family, your life.
  7. Youg can’t get the time back.
  8. Know Better, Do Better.
  9. Be slow to speak, quick to listen.
  10. Don’t stop learning and lead with LOVE.

Although I have shed a few tears as this big birthday gets closer, I really do know that age is just a number! I pray that the Lord would grant me many more years to live, to love, and to learn. I am going to get working on that book and chase those dreams of mine. What are you going to do?

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.
Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

Keeping Your Calm This School Year

Keeping Your Calm This School Year - Tips for Surviving Back to School with The Real Kathy Lee - Listen Now! #podcast #moms #homeschool

As this school year approaches, I thought I would share some of my plans to have a calm year! This year I have one 7th grader, one 9th grader, two high school seniors, one in Estethecian School and one junior in college. Whew, that is a lot. I will be honest, the first couple of weeks I find myself struggling to get us all on the same page. Between school, jobs, sports, etc… keeping this house running smoothly is a challenge.

 

Here are some of my tips for surviving back to school 2018:

  1. Create Dream Posters.
  2. Create a Healthy Meal Plan.
  3. Follow Through on Healthy Meal Plan.
  4. Plan a family night to make dream posters. You will need poster board, markers, magazine, and glue. Invite your children to create a dream poster and display them in your home.
  5. Have a Dream Poster Date Night with your partner/spouse.
  6. SLEEP… get sleep. Make sure everyone in the home is getting enough sleep.
  7. Organize your space and remember less is better. Don’t forget to create a cozy corner for reading books/getting away.
  8. Take time to watch and listen. What are your kids talking about, playing with, dreaming of? What pushes their buttons, brings them joy, challenges them?
  9. Create a realistic routine that you can live with. Encourage children to stick with routine.
  10. Be Flexible – If something isn’t working, don’t be afraid to change it.

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Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.
Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

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A Weekend at Kathy’s – Part 2

On this episode of The Real Kathy Lee, the questions continue, and I rant a bit about subjects close to my heart.As I approached 50 (my birthday is September 10th), I started thinking about the legacy I was leaving behind. As a young college student, I was discipled by several amazing women… Susan Felker, Betsy Stark, Donna George, and Debbie Mabry. These women poured into me in a variety of ways. Some met with me over yogurt, others invited me into their homes. I watched these women be wives and mothers from the front row. They impacted me. I felt led to do invite young moms into my home for the weekend. I wanted to give them a front row view into my imperfect life. I wanted to be raw and vulnerable with them; to show them that God uses hot messes like me to parent, to partner, and to love. We had a lovely weekend together. On this episode, the questions continue, and I rant a bit about subjects close to my heart. I am still learning on this journey. I don’t have much figured out. I do know that love is powerful and that we need other people in our lives. I pray you have people in your life that encourage you on the low days and celebrate with you on the high ones. We need each other.

On this episode, the questions continue, and I rant a bit about subjects close to my heart.

Thank you so much to all the husbands and other family members who supported their women, so this weekend could happen. Beautiful friendships were formed, laughter, rest, massages, foot baths, and lots of food filled their bellies. Thank you to my precious friend, Christy Montes who gave up her weekend to be here. Thank you to her husband Bob and her girls for helping serve and clean and to Maddie for making some yummy desserts. Thank you to Stacey for providing amazing massages for the women. A special thank you to the Lee kids who gave up their space for the weekend and to my amazing partner in all things, Geoff. YOU were the real Rockstar of the weekend. YOU were an amazing chef, cleaning crew, and storyteller. Pretty sure all the women want our next trip to be in New Zealand.

Wow, it was a great weekend.

 

 

Say YES and have a great week!!!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

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Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

 

A Weekend at Kathy’s – Part 1

Women from all over the country took a leap of faith by joining me, The Real Kathy Lee, in my home for an entire weekend. We decided to record a podcast for you! Click to Listen!It happened, it really happened!!! Women from all over the country took a leap of faith by joining me in my home for an entire weekend. Nope, they didn’t know each other. Some of them had never even met me in person. They were all so very different and yet shared a beautiful bond of motherhood and desiring what is best for their families.

We decided to record a podcast for you. Everyone was given a notecard and asked to write down some questions for me to answer. As I have said many times before, I don’t pretend to know all the answers, but I do have some experience and an opinion. Ha! We talked about making time for each child, how to connect with your spouse, what happens when you lose it, and so much more. I hope you enjoy listening to our crazy for the night.

Thank you so much to all the husbands and other family members who supported their women, so this weekend could happen. Beautiful friendships were formed, laughter, rest, massages, foot baths, and lots of food filled their bellies. Thank you to my precious friend, Christy Montes who gave up her weekend to be here. Thank you to her husband Bob and her girls for helping serve and clean and to Maddie for making some yummy desserts. Thank you to Stacey for providing amazing massages for the women. A special thank you to the Lee kids who gave up their space for the weekend and to my amazing partner in all things, Geoff. YOU were the real Rockstar of the weekend. YOU were an amazing chef, cleaning crew, and storyteller. Pretty sure all the women want our next trip to be in New Zealand.

Wow, it was a great weekend.

Say YES and have a great week!!!

 

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

Women from all over the country took a leap of faith by joining me, The Real Kathy Lee, in my home for an entire weekend. We decided to record a podcast for you! Click to Listen!

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

itunespodcast . Listen on Google Play Music

Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.