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Special Replay: Discipline That Makes Sense And Works

Let's Talk About Discipline That Makes Sense And Works with Felice GerwitzLet’s Talk About Discipline That Makes Sense And Works with Felice Gerwitz

What do you do when discipline doesn’t work – or what about discipline methods that are unfair. What about just being your kid’s friend? Yes, there are all kinds of different types of advice about discipline but in this podcast Felice explores discipline that makes sense – and actually works.

Listen to Raising Moral Kids Here – with Felice Gerwitz

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Show Notes:

 

This audio isn’t so much about prevention – that is wonderful when it works and consists of:

  1. Warning the kids ahead of time of what to expect
  2. Being CLEAR and going over the rules so they understand what is expected

For example bedtime – make sure it is a specific time and have a routine/ baths, story etc. If they take too long no story – etc.

  1. Practicing especially when younger “coming” when you call them, answering yes mom or yes dad when directed with a question – that they heard you, etc. – Saying “Sorry” if they are wronged or admitting a wrong.
  2. Rewarding good behavior

Basically discipline falls into these three very broad categories:

  1. Intervention
  2. Time Outs
  3. Taking Away

Which works for your child is a puzzle you have to figure out – but one thing I want to discuss in this podcast is the discipline techniques that I have found really work well for my family – and this is no matter what their age.

  1. Discipline that fits the crime.
  2. Life isn’t fair
  3. Enlist the help of the first born – teach kids to be kind to each other – rule with love or privileges are taken away
  4. When kids have a meltdown or are whining etc.
  5. Money
  6. Consistency
  7. It is never ending – once kids do it once it is fun and they ask all the time.
  8. They are exhausted from staying up late – and eating too much junk and it takes days to get over it.
  9. Their behavior is atrocious and it takes days to get them “back to normal”
  10. When you say no – mean it

The best advice I can give is prevention, consistency and PRAYER not necessarily in that order.

Best Homeschool Parenting Tips with Melanie Wilson

What are the best homeschool parenting tips? Well, you are about to find out. Join Felice Gerwitz and Melanie Wilson, podcaster on The Homeschool Sanity Show, here, and learn what works and ways you can overcome disrespect.Best Homeschool Parenting Tips with Melanie Wilson ~ Episode 451

What are the best homeschool parenting tips? Well, you are about to find out. Join Felice Gerwitz and Melanie Wilson, podcaster on The Homeschool Sanity Show, here, and learn what works and ways you can overcome disrespect.

Thanks to our sponsor, Media Angels, Inc. with an entire line of online classes, books, and audios to help you with your homeschool journey.

Today we will discuss parenting tips to help you gain control of your family and your life!

Melanie is a Christian Psychologist and she spoke about the difference between disrespect and disobedience, and how important it is to identify and remediate. Simply, disrespect is a child’s willful defiance of authority and poor treatment with a lack of respect. Whereas, disobedience is when a child doesn’t do what he is told. When children are allowed to disrespect a parent it is a recipe for disaster. There are reasons why a parent does not discipline, and this could be due to temper, anger management issues, or abuse as a child. However, there are ways to discipline without using physical punishment, and one is taking away privileges. [Melanie and Felice discuss various types of discipline that work well in this case.]

  1. Parents often use too many words. There is no need to explain why you are disciplining your child.
  2. Building a child’s character is important. A child is not what they do. [Felice shares her definition of character assassination and why it should never be used.]
  3. Validating a child’s strengths is important. If a child feels validated, they will feel respected.

Listen to the audio for many more insights about parenting.

Visit Melanie’s website here: Psychowith6 and her online store Fun To Learn Books

Here are some of Melanie’s shows that you don’t want to miss.

  1. How to Prevent Sibling Rivalry
  2. Parenting Practices for Christian Homeschoolers
  3. 3 Child Discipline Lies That Make Homeschooling Harder
  4. 3 More Child Discipline Lies That Make Homeschooling Harder
  5. Have a New Kid by Friday by Kevin Leman
Show Notes Continued:

We as parents can do the following:

  1. Respect is required. It is not an option.
  2. If needed be firm, raise your voice. Mean business.
  3. Remove from the room.

We can say things such as, that was disrespectful. Sometimes less words works well.

Have a business attitude. You mean business and you deserve respect. You are the parents.

While none of us are perfect, some parents do not parent because they think they are imperfect. False notion and can hinder parenting.

How to discipline:

  1. Require obedience
  2. Use discipline that makes sense. If your child wastes your time, you can have your child do one of your chores, make the punishment fit the problem that was caused as much as possible. (Taking away free time.)
  3. Easiest response to disobedience is to deny the next “ask” – whether it is screen time, phone privileges, time with friends, etc.
  4. You don’t have to go into a long explanation of why – sometimes that distracts the child from the situation and they still think there was an injustice on your part, and they forget why they are in this situation to begin with.
  5. Sometimes a child may pitch a fit – ride it out. Remove the child for misbehavior, but be sure that you do not give in. Consistency is important.

 

 

Homeschool Lifestyle

The very first podcast I ever created for Vintage Homeschool Moms was a podcast on the homeschool lifestyle.

Homeschool Lifestyle ~ Easy Way to Homeschool Episode 450

The very first podcast I ever created for Vintage Homeschool Moms was a podcast on the homeschool lifestyle and I asked the question is homeschooling what you do or who you are and it has had thousands of downloads and is probably one of my favorite all-time shows… so this podcast today is a revisiting of the topic eight years later and a question I’d like you to consider.

First – happy birthday to us! It is the 8th bday of the UHPN – I want to give a shout out to our homeschool podcast network and the wonderful podcasters! They work hard to give you wonderful content for free – you can thank me and them by subscribing to their podcast channels – giving them a star rating and sharing the episode with a friend. Thanks so much for listening and your support!

I think it is appropriate that we celebrate year 8 of the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network with a look at the Homeschool Lifestyle podcast I created years ago – it was and still is a major part of my life to consider that I am a homeschooler. I say it proudly because so much has changed from 1986 the year I began homeschooling to now. Back in the day the only homeschoolers I knew were a little on the strange side, they didn’t get out much but part of the reason was they were doing their schoolwork and many people still thought that homeschooling was not legal since the battle had been won not that long ago.

Homeschooling soon became of us a way of life. My kids were with me 24/7 and sometimes it was a bit frustrating to not have a minute to myself. But soon there were boundaries, rules learned and relearned and some character building and encouragement were taking place in order to forge a greater bond and friendship between each of my kids, I had two at that time.

We learned to do things together as a family. Schoolwork was the center and focus of our day and once that was completed the other items quickly stacked up such as grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking, and more. We worked and played together and once dad got home I was beat!

I realized as I struggled at times that I was trying to compartmentalize things. School here. Cleaning here. Groceries here. Cooking here. The score was kids, home and husband 100, me—zero. But, that was fine. I was young and had boundless energy until I didn’t.

I soon learned that homeschooling was more than a sum total of the time it took to complete academic subjects but that we could roll with the learning outside of the books, activities, and plans. We could incorporate learning no matter what we did. A trip to the grocery store turned into a lesson in math, or character wants vs. needs, and the quality of flexibility or self-control. A ride in the car turned into finding license plates from various states and finding the state on a map. We could count all the cars or trucks of one color – find all the blue trucks or green trucks. And, we would listen to lessons.

We began to incorporate the idea of day trips. On a weekend we’d take a Saturday or a Sunday and visit a local landmark, park, or museum. Of course, these turned into mini-lessons and the children thrived. We rescued a dog – several through the course of our homeschool, housed turtles and fish tanks, as well as learned about nature and the creatures that inhabited our lands. They looked at the world and saw a classroom beyond books. This was an exciting time for our family.

As the children got older their needs became focused. Several of my children were athletically gifted (they got this from their dad, not me!) and this meant trips to tournaments and practices. Again, all life lessons and incorporated into the overarching theme of their homeschool. We realized that looking at the world as a classroom meant that learning took place no matter what we were doing and this gave them a chance to pursue their interests.

One of my sons learned about mechanics, another would forge things out of metal and made a set of metal gloves that fit over his hands. He has these hanging on a plaque in his bedroom at college along with other things he made. My daughter, a natural athlete spent much of her time practicing softball, without being told. She loved the sport and played it in college on a scholarship and currently teaches at a prep school where she is also an assistant softball coach.

All the kids gave presentations, wrote papers, and studied history, science, and the like. Yet, they used their time to create, explore and work toward their goals and objectives.

Homeschoolers are still a little on the strange side and I say that in a positive way. We are not all fashion plates, although we might like fashion and shopping. We are not up on the latest song, viral video, or social post, not to say that we don’t have accounts. We are focused on our homes, our families, and what we can do for each other.

Homeschoolers volunteer – whether it is at a homeschool function, organizing a science or history fair, an inventors convention, or a field trip. We do things for others, when a family needs help we roll up our sleeves, babysit, or make meals. We are active in our church and volunteer there as well.

I think that this generation of homeschoolers who celebrate the homeschool lifestyle are trendsetters in that they lead rather than follow. The kids take initiative; they are creative they are innovative and have ideas that are well beyond their years. They are not afraid because they have not been belittled or bullied. Personally, my kids were pretty fearless in that they knew that if they tried something new and had a less than stellar outcome, we’d say something like – well, at least you tried. Great effort.

What is the typical classroom experience? It is set up for failure. Most kids can’t read, answer questions and remember everything that is important in the subject. Information is memorized, tests are completed and then the information is forgotten. How can you as a homeschool mom look at your family, your legacy and decide to create an atmosphere where learning is achieved not only in the traditional way but in a way that sparks creativity, innovation and ideas.

I interviewed an author a few weeks ago that shared that creativity is considered one of the most important traits in job hiring. Employers want employees that can figure out a solution without asking them every other second for the answer.

I invite you to listen to my first podcast, take the unofficial VHM test that is on the website. It is still as valid today as it was eight years ago – and as we celebrate this eighth year I once again thank you for being part of our listening family, and creating lasting memories in your own family! Subscribe, share and give me a star rating on your favorite podcast app –

 


 

A Special Thank You to Our Network Sponsor:  Courageous Movie

 

From the Kendrick Brothers, creators of the No. 1 box-office movie WAR ROOM and OVERCOMER, comes the remastered re-release of COURAGEOUS Legacy, in theaters September 24. Celebrating 10 years of impact on families and fathers, this updated version of the film includes new scenes and an enhanced look and sound.

Filled with action-packed drama, COURAGEOUS Legacy will once again have viewers laughing, crying, and cheering as they are challenged and inspired by everyday heroes who long to be the kinds of dads that make a lifelong impact on their children. Protecting the streets is second nature to these men. Raising their children in a God-honoring way? That’s courageous.

Check out the trailer here!


Mega Lists ~ Organize Now

Learn about mega lists the easy way to organize now! Homeschool. Meals. Laundry. Oh, my. That is how I felt when I was attempting to school my kids as well as complete my other homeschool duties.Mega Lists ~ Organize Now Podcast 449

Learn about mega lists the easy way to organize now! Homeschool. Meals. Laundry. Oh, my. That is how I felt when I was attempting to school my kids as well as complete my other homeschool duties. Fast forward and the kids are all grown, and they survived! And, now I can share this information with all of you!

Thank to our sponsor Courageous Legacy – after ten years the feature film Courageous which has changed so many lives for the better is back, this time as Courageous Legacy – this movie has been remastered, it includes a new ending as well as bonus scenes. If you missed this, you will want to catch this version, I saw the original movie and it is another wonderful Kendricks’s brothers production. You can find more information at Courageous The Movie

Are you a supermom? I really don’t try to be I just can’t do things halfway. I can not let things go and I can be the absolute worse micro-manager. Well, I am describing the old me!  I was attempting to school my kids as well as get a healthy meal on the table. Until I realized that if I didn’t have it on a list (even a ready-made one I purchased) it was not getting done. In today’s podcast, we will explore the value of having your own custom lists that are ready to go, as well as a surprise in the show notes – VintageHomeschoolMoms.com – episode 449 – Mega Lists Organize Now.

Raise your hand if you have at least one book on the bookshelf, eBook, or bookmarked blog or podcast that deals with Organization. In 1998 before my second child was born I purchased a book entitled the Busy Woman’s Checklist.  As with any checklist book, there are so many non-applicable things – such as I didn’t need to layout my close for work, or set aside money for tolls, or keep a to bring list before I left for work because at that point in time I had retired from teaching and was a full-time stay-at-home mom. But what I loved about her book was the categories she had:

Daily time savers. Managing Your Life, Kid Stuff, Finances, and Record-Keeping, Travel, and Planning, and Medical Matters. These categories and others were ones I could work with short and long term.

In the mid to late 1990s to the current time, I spoke at conferences. Now I host some of my own conferences, but I have spoken for years in person, stand-alone conferences where I was the only speaker, moms groups, homeschool groups, state conferences, and online conferences as well as hundreds of podcasts. The organizer of the state conference called me one year and asked what homeschool moms were struggling with and I answered organization and I am not the person who can do that talk but I do have someone I know that I can recommend!

In all my years of speaking there is one question that never changes and that is how do you get so much done. I use to answer, I a lot done but none of it is done well. It was meant as a joke, but the Lord convicted me that was not the right thing to say. So, while I may not consider myself the best person to teach you – I too have struggled with organization so maybe you can learn from my struggles.

Before we get started with lists let’s look at your own situation. People jump to the best ever organization lists without any thought to one size does not fit most – that is why we attempt these things and fail. First, analyze your household, your work, or your stay-at-home schedule. Are you still homeschooling? Are you taking your kids to lessons, are your kids older but you still flounder?

Your Situation:

  1. Do you have help in the form of a spouse or older kids?
  2. How many kids do you have under the age of three?
  3. What is it that you need to accomplish each day?

Let’s begin there – take a moment to think through these questions before we forge ahead with custom lists.

Since we are not in a place where you can share numbers one and two with me, let’s jump to number 3 – what do you need to accomplish each day.

Here is a generalized list that applies to all households.

  1. Kids – Our jobs are to keep them alive if they are younger, and to help manage their time if they are older. This can be lessons, homeschooling, or playing chauffeur.
  2. Eat – food needs to be purchased, prepared and cleaned up.

That’s it two things – kids and food. Those are the only things we have to do each day and look, you have all of the other hours of the day to accomplish the rest. Feel better about your day? I know I do! I did not add all of the other things we do – such as work (I work from home), or chores, cleaning, laundry, shopping, lessons. These things have to be done at some point during the week but you can pick your day.

Routines are the best advice I can give you when planning your lists. What routines do you do each and every day? My favorite lists that work great and are adaptable are category lists. I can divide a paper and add categories that remain the same daily, and then add to this list. I divided a sheet of paper into four sections and wrote out the things I needed to do under these headings. Later it got fancier and the name – the 4-Square Planner came to be! I am currently working on this planner that I hope will be out soon. This has the templates so you can create your own custom planners. Well, this one page was much more manageable than making a bunch of lists that I would then proceed to lose. If you can’t wait for the 4-Square planner book I have a set that is a 12-Month Planner ready to download here!

Here is the freebie 4-Square Planner sample. It is being created as we speak, and hopefully, this will help you get started. 4-Square planner and forms

So, take a sheet of paper and either fold it into quarters or draw a line horizontally from end to end and vertically. You now have 4 squares to write 4 categories which can be anything you want. In my homeschooling days, my squares looked like this…. [Listen to the audio for details.] You can use this method for parties or shopping. The 4 headings on my planner for a party are…[Listen to the audio for details.]

Now we can break each segment up into details and you can use another page for that or the same one. I like master lists that I use all the time. Another time-saver is to use sticky notes either on the refrigerator if you can stand it or on the side of the frig. When you run out of something you need to purchase write it on the note – this is store specific if you shop at more than one store. A lifesaver for me is ordering online. You can do it for free and pick up the stuff or have it delivered – which can then incur a fee.

So where is the mega-list to organize now? It is within each of the categories which makes it so much more organized! You can do this monthly and then the smaller lists weekly.

  1. You have your 4-Square Planner
  2. You have subcategories underneath each of these.
  3. If your subcategory needs its own list – you would add that to another page, for example, your household list is going to be products to clean and cook vs. actual groceries.
  4. Your additional lists will focus on each additional category. For example, one page may be household and your four squares will be cleaning/ laundry, grocery, errands, cooking. You can be detailed under each of these 4 squares – remember routines. Recently I started cooking different things as I was tired of our go-to meals, burgers, Mexican food, Italian food, and baked chicken. But what happened is it caused me to add to my grocery list and that took longer than before. Also, I like to mega cook meals, and could not with things like baked chicken.

Additional lists can be kept on your calendar. This is a set it and forget it. I love to add birthdays, appointments, etc. You can remind yourself for upcoming bdays a month ahead and weekly if you use something like google calendar that comes with a Gmail account, or you can add things to the notes section of your phone. For example the kid’s sizes, or ideas for presents.

What I have done is taken a huge list and made it routine-oriented as well organized under topics on one sheet of paper whenever possible. You can make your paper and 8-square instead of 4 square or whatever you want! Hopefully, this has helped, and don’t forget to get your free planning sheets-this is just a sample of the larger planner that is in the works! VHM Ep. 449 and thanks to our sponsor…

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A Special Thank You to Our Network Sponsor:  Courageous Movie

 

From the Kendrick Brothers, creators of the No. 1 box-office movie WAR ROOM and OVERCOMER, comes the remastered re-release of COURAGEOUS Legacy, in theaters September 24. Celebrating 10 years of impact on families and fathers, this updated version of the film includes new scenes and an enhanced look and sound.

Filled with action-packed drama, COURAGEOUS Legacy will once again have viewers laughing, crying, and cheering as they are challenged and inspired by everyday heroes who long to be the kinds of dads that make a lifelong impact on their children. Protecting the streets is second nature to these men. Raising their children in a God-honoring way? That’s courageous.

Check out the trailer here!


 

 

Classroom Creativity – Key To Education

Classroom creativity is so much more than arts and crafts, yet with so many subjects to cover classroom creativity may be the last thing you as a parent think is important, especially in the home. Today along with my special guest, Chad Stewart we will learn that it is important to overall education.Classroom Creativity – Key To Education ~  Episode 448

Classroom creativity is so much more than arts and crafts, yet with so many subjects to cover classroom creativity may be the last thing you as a parent think is important, especially in the home. Today along with my special guest, Chad Stewart we will learn that it is important to overall education.

Thanks to our sponsor Courageous Legacy – after ten years the feature film Courageous which has changed so many lives for the better is back, this time as Courageous Legacy – this movie has been remastered, it includes a new ending as well as bonus scenes. If you missed this, you will want to catch this version, I saw the original movie and it is another wonderful Kendricks’s brothers production. You can find more information at Courageous The Movie

Today we are going to focus on the topic of Creativity my guest, today I want to introduce you to Chad Stewart also known to his readers as CR Stewart, the author of what is soon going to be a series of books you will want to collect for your home library. Visit Britfield.com as well as BritfieldInstitute.org

Purchase books here: https://www.britfield.com/store/

Our nation is in a crisis, and the lack of creativity is one of the areas that schools have failed our children. Schools not only do not give opportunities and most destroy the real love of learning. The importance of children who are encouraged to be creative, independent, and who are nurtured to learn fits in perfectly to the homeschool model.

He shared a Ted Talk on Creativity by Sir Ken Robinson. One of the most played Ted Talks of all time.

Key Points:

  1. Creativity is the single most important subject.
  2. Employers look for people who are creative.
  3. Introducing children to various experiences is key.
  4. Creativity is important for leaders, inventors, brainstorming, figuring out a crisis with options and ideas, and thinking outside of the box.

[Listen to the audio for the full broadcast.]

Currently, there are two books in the Britfield series with book three soon to be published. The exciting goal is to have seven books and seven movies upon completion of the series. The books take place in different countries, the first in England, and the second in France. [Chad shared all the books and countries they will cover on the podcast.] These are wholesome and engaging stories for the entire family.

About Chad Stewart:  A prolific writer, highly respected producer, creativity specialist, international consultant, and prominent speaker. Founder of the prestigious Devonfield L.L.C., a comprehensive company dedicated to the highest quality in film production, publishing, and education, Stewart’s areas of expertise are writing film and media production, global strategy, and international marketing.


 

A Special Thank You to Our Network Sponsor:  Courageous Movie

 

From the Kendrick Brothers, creators of the No. 1 box-office movie WAR ROOM and OVERCOMER, comes the remastered re-release of COURAGEOUS Legacy, in theaters September 24. Celebrating 10 years of impact on families and fathers, this updated version of the film includes new scenes and an enhanced look and sound.

Filled with action-packed drama, COURAGEOUS Legacy will once again have viewers laughing, crying, and cheering as they are challenged and inspired by everyday heroes who long to be the kinds of dads that make a lifelong impact on their children. Protecting the streets is second nature to these men. Raising their children in a God-honoring way? That’s courageous.

Check out the trailer here!


Greatest Homeschool Tips

What are the greatest homeschool tips of all time? Well, wait until you hear from veteran homeschool mom, author and speaker, Felice Gerwitz. In this session, she shares some of her best homeschooling tips from over thirty years of homeschooling.Greatest Homeschool Tips – Episode 447

What are the greatest homeschool tips of all time? Well, wait until you hear from veteran homeschool mom, author and speaker, Felice Gerwitz. In this session, she shares some of her best homeschooling tips from over thirty years of homeschooling.

Thanks to our sponsors! The movie – Show Me The Father

This film is sure to change hearts and point people to the true father in heaven.  It is a story of parenting and how faith can really make changes for the better in people’s lives. I teared up just watching the trailer and you will too! The links to the movie trailer are on the show notes page – you can find more information about local airing on the website as well as streaming in the near future. This is not to be missed.

In my years of homeschooling I purchased many different programs on getting your homeschool organized or homeschooling from the first letter of the alphabet to the last, or comprehensive this or that, and found after the first few pages that it was not for me. I learned that I had to know what I could and could not do well and focus on my strengths and that is where we will get started. I cover homeschooling, family, and even touch on extended family, faith, and relationships. You should look into your homeschool laws for your state to be sure you are compliant. Here are the HSLDA (Homeschool Legal Defense) homeschool laws by state.

This is not meant to be a comprehensive list, but it is meant to give you some 25 tangible tips that you can do starting today.

Let’s Begin!

  1. You – Parent: You are in charge. You and your husband are the only two people whose decisions and choices matter in your homeschool journey. If you both agree or agree to disagree, then that is the law of the land (or your household). Stand firm and do not let anyone and I mean anyone (even me) change your mind.
  2. Each Other: Relationships matter. You and your spouse started together and should end your homeschool journey together. This happens if you A. Value each other. B. Appreciate Each Other C. Encourage Each Other D. Love each Other E. Take Care of Each Other and F. ALL of the Above.
  3. Faith Matters: A family that is focused on personal gain instead of everlasting gain will do so much better. Faith brings a family together and leaves a legacy for your children. Films such as Show Me The Father is an excellent example.
  4. Your Kids: You kids are not in charge. Not even close. And, your kids are not your friends. You are the parent and God gave you these kids for a purpose. (It may be a little fuzzy right now, but you’ll figure it out at some point.) Kids are wonderful, a blessing but need to listen.
  5. Discipline is Key To Your Sanity: If you have kids that won’t go to bed and talk back when they are little the nightmare is just starting if you are going to homeschool them. You have to have consequences for your actions. Think about it, make a plan, and beyond all else? Follow through.
  6. Others – Extended Family – Friends – Neighbors: Have opinions, and they have right to their opinions but you do not, and I repeat do not have to A. Listen B. Follow Their Advice C. Feel Guilty D. All of the Above. Refer back to point one. You are the parents.
  7. Key to Homeschooling 101: Do not try to duplicate traditional school in the home. It is set to fail, especially if you have multiple ages and grades.
  8. Lifestyle: Homeschooling is more than what you do, it is who you are in the sense that you are focused on the most important people in your life and the education of their hearts, their minds, and their souls. It is the greatest job you will ever have.
  9. Not About You: Yeah, I said it – homeschooling is not what the kids are or are not doing. It is not a hobby. It is a full-time commitment. It is not for the faint-hearted. When the kids misbehave or do not get their work done it is not personal, and it does not reflect on you – you are not at fault unless you are a permissive or threatening repeating parent with no follow-through. Sorry. This was me at one time and I fell hard for the fact that I could not blame the teacher, because I was the teacher. So I took charge and the rest is 30+ years of homeschooling. Was all of it perfect. No but I do not regret it at all.
  10. Ideal Learning Environment: This is one that fosters your child’s innate curiosity about the world around them. If your children are interested in the topic they will want to learn more about it, and that naturally builds and builds until they are studying various subjects within the framework of a topic. For example: Learning to plant a garden includes many different disciplines, soil, nutrition, reading, science – seasons, weather, discipline, patience, etc.
  11. Curriculum: There are way too many choices, so what you do is figure out A. How you want to teach and B. How your kids will learn best. If you are starting out you will definitely want to have something done for you, such as an Abeka or Bob Jones if you are looking for Christian based curriculum. I do not recommend (but I am not the parent) totally online schools, but online learning for a class or two is great. And while you are learning the ropes of juggling home, school, and having the kids around 24/7 you can branch out into other things. If you are a hands-on, do-it-yourselfer, then sure pick and choose your own books. You can check out the Media Angels curriculum at MediaAngels.com/store and MediaAngels.com/books
  12. Different learning levels: Kids do not fit neatly into grade-level boxes. Some are great students and will have no problem academically no matter what book or curriculum you use, and others may struggle. Reading is key and many kids need some type of reading remediation. Starting with the phonetic sounds and building on this helps. There are Facebook groups such as one I’m a member of and participate as a curriculum provider: Top Picks Homeschool Curriculum.  There are many different knowledgeable people in the group that can help you.
  13. Work together in one room whenever possible. Sure, some kids may be distracted by talking or working with another child. But, sending younger kids to their own rooms is a recipe for disaster, and walking out of the room is another one!
  14. Stay off your phones and social media during school time – this means everyone. It will suck your time and ruin your mood. Leave research for a lunch-time or after-school activity.
  15. Research: If you get on the computer to research something, set a timer. Give yourself thirty minutes and that is it. Also, research websites without the kids around. Even with safe settings, it is amazing that the suggested ads on websites, even with good information are often inappropriate ads. There is an ad setting on websites that is family-friendly but whatever they deem family-friendly is not what I think it is therefore my websites do not contain third-party automated ads. Any ads or sponsors we have vetted.
  16. Tests: This is something you may choose or not chose to do. I didn’t give a lot of tests but my college kids complained about this when they were in college and had to deal with all types of exams. They said they wish I had given them more – so there you have it.
  17. Motivated Kids: I had a child who asked for a Trigenotry book for a summer project. He was thinking of going into engineering and did not feel like the Algebra II class he took the previous year covered it well enough. So, we ordered a book and he went through it and the video tutorial himself.
  18. Letting Kids Work On Their Own Pace: Especially if your child is highly motivated. It is not unheard of to complete two grades in one subject area in one year. Or only half a grade.
  19. To Push Or Not To Push: Working your children right below (not at or above) but below frustration level pushes them to learn. If a child is frustrated that means that they are not getting a concept or something is too difficult at this time. Does that mean you don’t push – no, but understanding your child is part of the homeschool journey.
  20. Evaluation vs. Standardized Tests: I prefer evaluations especially in the lower grades. The teacher can give you key points to work on and help you with any questions or concerns you may have. Get good resources before beginning.
  21. Making excuses: Look at the root cause of bad behavior. Is it for attention, it is to push attention to someone else, etc. Do not make excuses for children who act poorly but get to the root of the problem.
  22. Households can be divided into parts: Budget/Paying Bills, Cooking, Cleaning, Laundry, Yardwork. This is an area to divide and conquer. Who is good at what? That is their job. I am terrible at budgets, but I can pay bills, cook, clean and do laundry. I do not do yard work. When the kids were little I tried assigning jobs and taught them to do all of the various jobs, but once they had the experience I let them chose, and guess what? Doing chores was not a hassle. If they tired of a chore they could trade or enlist me for help. It worked so much better than just assigning jobs.
  23. Kids should help. Kids that help around the house are responsible. My first two did not do much in the way of chores, but the last three did – and I mean they really helped out. I had more energy, time, and help with my two oldest but not with my three youngest.
  24. Family Unity: We are a family, we are in this together, we work hard and we all enjoy the fruits of our labor. This is something my kids learned early on, if there is infighting everyone has to hear it and it makes for a miserable life. Teaching children the importance of getting along and having punishments that fit the crime goes a long way in helping.
  25. Family Mission statement: What is it that your family stands for? Write it down, have the kids learn it. Write down a family prayer and say it every night before bed.

Last Thoughts:

There are going to be days that are horrible and days that are amazing. Through it all, you can thrive with a close network of people that will give you the encouragement that we provide on our social media accounts. We have this page specifically for you the homeschool mom and dad.

 


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Get More Done

Get more done in a schedule that is already packed? Are you kidding me? Well, friends - this is the goal and in this podcast, I will explain how you can do more in less time. (Sorry I can't grant you more time, but I can help you with the time that you have.) Please join me and bring a friend!

Get More Done – Episode 446

Get more done in a schedule that is already packed? Are you kidding me? Well, friends – this is the goal and in this podcast, I will explain how you can do more in less time. (Sorry I can’t grant you more time, but I can help you with the time that you have.) Please join me and bring a friend!

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Tear jerk alert! This is a snapshot of ordinary and extraordinary people and the effect that parents have on their children.  I teared up just watching the trailer and you will too! The links to the movie trailer are on the show notes page – you can find more information about local airing on the website as well as streaming in the near future. This is not to be missed.

Okay friends here we go, it’s time to get more done without stressing ourselves out and it begins with a pep-talk and motivation. Think back to a time when you really wanted something and had a goal. Do you have that picture in your mind? Was it…

  1. To lose weight?
  2. Get a new job?
  3. Get married and have kids?

Well, if you are listening to Vintage Homeschool Moms my guess is that you achieved goal number three anyway! You are married with kids and wondering, “What happened to all of my time.” and “Thank you Lord for my blessings.” All kidding aside what needs to get done? We can probably put this in a series of five things with a ton of subcategories.

What are the things you need to get done? Listing them here – we will go over these later.

  1. Faith and Relationships.
  2. Household.
  3. Kids.
  4. Teaching.
  5. Errands
  6. BONUS – YOU – taking care of you.

How are you going to get more done when you really sub-categorize this list you will be exhausted and need a nap! Well, we will tackle that in a bit, but first … the test. Yes, there is a short series of questions you need to answer and I promise this will help you with productivity!

You need at least thirty minutes to an hour to do this activity but I’m going to lay it all out for you in way less time. I’m giving you information that has super helped me and it has increased my productivity to way beyond what I thought I could do.

So where we go – and you have to really answer these questions honestly for this to work!

  1. What are the distractors in your life?
  2. Are you motivated to get more done? Why or why not.
  3. What is holding you back from accomplishing more?
  4. Are your goals unrealistic?
  5. Do you have help or can you enlist (trade) help with others?

So, spend some time really answering these questions, and then the ideal would be to come back to this audio. So, you have looked over these questions and given them some serious thought, and I want to break them down quickly for you.

What are the distractors in your life? 

Problem: Kids, health, a messy home, too much to do without a plan, relatives, neighbors, spouse…

Solution: By identifying the problem you can figure out a solution. Some days all we are meant to do is thread water. Other days we can be super productive and it counts for two days. Look at the distractions and take care of them – from the most important to the least. Don’t look at the entire room that is a mess, tackle one thing… for me it is the things on the floor, I can’t handle that…or opened cupboards. Once things are picked up from the floor (and this is where kids can help – dump into a laundry basket and then deliver them into their rooms -you can make it a game for the little ones), I feel refreshed and can tackle the next thing.

Are you motivated to get more done? Why or why not.

Problem: I’m not motivated. This is a major issue in the problem with getting things done! It’s just like our kids and not finishing schoolwork. We say, “Just do it!” Some days I have to make myself work some days when I don’t feel like I want to get out of bed! So why are you not motivated? Can you figure it out.

Solution: Figuring out your motivation issue can be as simple as setting short-term goals for the day. Maybe one hour of productivity each day broken up into five-minute chunks. You can clean up for five minutes – sort laundry – start the wash, etc. Tell laundry story.

What is holding you back from accomplishing more?

Problem: If you are super unproductive there could be an underlying issue. Depression, lack of motivation, feeling that no one cares.

Solution: Do it for yourself, not others. In this lifetime no one is really going to appreciate all we do – and think about it, how much are we appreciated. I recently heard a talk by a pastor where he applied a Biblical passage to marriage and he said that men want to be appreciated and women want to be loved and the breakdown in relationships happens when there is a lack of these two factors that are so important in our lives. When we feel loved we feel appreciated and will move mountains to get things down. So look in the mirror and know you are loved by the Almighty and set those short-term goals (worry about long term later) and get some things down on paper and accomplished. You will feel so much better.

Are your goals unrealistic?

Problem: We set these lofty goals for ourselves that there is no way we can accomplish unless we have a ton of help. Look at your goals and really see if they are doable and if not…revise and chop!

Solution: Bite-sized goals that are achievable in this lifetime. I know everyone says to make these long-term goals but those freaked me out for the sheer reason that I might fail and that held me back. Once I did things just because they had to get done and focused on the job at hand, guess what? Dishes got washed at the right time and life went on. Just do it. Set reasonable goals. Work in pockets of time you have.

Do you have help or can you enlist (trade) help with others?

Problem: Let’s face it if you have a bunch of little ones underfoot you can’t get much done without neglecting the kids. Some kids are super needy and sometimes having older ones can spoil little ones. So think about your immediate needs and a solution.

Solution: It is great to trade with a friend or better yet have a babysitter over to the house while you are at home. Or can shop without little ones. Here is an invaluable tip that really helped me… I had toys the kids never used unless I needed them occupied. Once when my two-year-old got into a box of rubber bands and was quiet (you know that means they are getting in trouble) after a quick peek to see that he was okay, I let him go for it and play with the box. There was a mess afterwards but I was able to bulk cook some meals and picking rubber bands out of the seat cushions (about a ten-minute job) was way worth it. In fact, he helped.

Last thoughts and Get IT Done Tips:

Most of the time we waste time on things that we later regret like social media. Promise yourself ten or fifteen minutes, put on a timer and stick to it. Also, if you are wandering around the house without purpose it is time to make a plan. Remember the old adage, “Rome was not built in one day.”

Let it go is another mantra that has served me well. I’m not a great housekeeper so years ago I hired help. It made us all happy and it was two times a month. Even if it is once a month it will be great if you can afford it, or hire a homeschooled high schooler they will love the extra cash.

Also, some things do not need to get done. For example spring cleaning or baking cookies for the entire neighborhood!

And lastly if you are not feeling well, this is difficult. Some of you suffer from chronic fatigue. Check your diet, cut out sugar and too many carbs. Ladies I’ve done it and not it is not easy but my energy soared. Whatever is the problem you can overcome it. Someone recently told me that balance of nature was something they took – and I think this is similar to Juice Plus I took in my thirties when I had no energy. I’m in my 60s now and feel better than ever – why? Because of what I eat. Once you get your health in check the sky is the limit.

I hope this helped you, and please share this podcast with a friend, share it on your social media page (set the time, 10 minutes!) and join our private Facebook pages. And, give me a star rating on your podcast app.

 

 


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Featuring a variety of amazing, true stories, the Kendrick Brothers’ new feature film SHOW ME THE FATHER takes audiences on an inspiring and emotional cinematic journey. Their first documentary film has something for everyone and invites you to think differently about how you view your earthly father story and also how you personally relate to God.

Check out the trailer here!


 

Special Replay: The Best Homeschool Year Ever

Let's Talk About making this The Best Homeschool Year Ever!Let’s Talk About making this The Best Homeschool Year Ever!

Lunch with Meredith Curtis and Felice Gerwitz

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Meredith’s List

  1. Commit year to prayer
  2. Kick off with enthusiasm “We’re going to learn about ….”
  3. Organize all your books, supplies, etc so they are easy to access
  4. Schedule — General and for each student

Felice’s List

  1. Begin with prayer – what does the Lord want you to focus on this year.
  2. Look at each child’s strength’s and weaknesses – let’s work on building up the weakness
  3. Goal vs. Plan – how to make it all work together in the time you have.
  4. Plan ahead. Make sure you have a backup plan.

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Math The Easy Way

Are you ready for math the easy way? Enjoy my special guest Pat Murray – he’s been a math teacher and coach for more than thirty-six years.Math The Easy Way – Episode 435

Are you ready for math the easy way? Enjoy my special guest Pat Murray – he’s been a math teacher and coach for more than thirty-six years.

And would you believe that Over that time, the programs and courses Pat and his company developed have helped students and families numbering in the tens and hundreds of thousands in more than seventy-two countries. So no matter where you live this information is accessible!

Pat and his beautiful wife Maree live in Sydney Australia, have 10 children, and 7 grandchildren – soon to be 8 (next month).

So, we are going to delve into seven of the most valuable tips for teaching math to kids –of all ages. I was amazed that your math programs have one low cost for a year, per family and it covers grades 1 through high school which is amazing and only a man with a big family understands what a blessing that is to parents with many children….

  1. Short concise explanations – clarity is important.
  2. Immediate practice – get them to practice it quickly and feedback.
  3. Rote learning memorizing, times tables, important facts. [Great examples given on the audio!]
  4. The sequence can make a difference. Start with the easiest stuff first, encourage success.
  5. Discovery and inquiring learning that is taught first by example.
  6. Puzzles and problem solving – a fun activity. Build interest.
  7. Parents – avoid frustration. Kids will avoid help, due.

Pat shares a mathematical trick – kids can learn as a parent to impress their kids.

 


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Four-Hour School Day

Have you considered a four hour school day? Well if not, my guest today will share how she trimmed the fat of her school day. How did she do this? Listen to find out.Four Hour School Day ~ Episode 434

Have you considered a four hour school day? Well if not, my guest today will share how she trimmed the fat of her school day. How did she do this? Listen to find out.

Check out her book, The Four-Hour School Day!

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Why take all day when you can finish your school day in a way that is great for mom, dad and the kids.

This was a great interview and I hope you listen to the entire podcast – here is a nutshell version of our chat! Much more is on the interview. Durenda has some great insights on homeschooling!

Durenda shares about the beginning of her homeschool journey. [For details listen to the audio] She says, “…we always just tell people we were selfish, we did not want to share our kids with anybody else, especially not for that many hours a week. And we felt like there were some things we really wanted our kids to have. We, we wanted first of all time with them because we wanted to disciple them. And we know that that takes time and we didn’t feel like we could do the kind of job we wanted to by sending them away all day, five days a week. And then the other thing is we really wanted our kids to have a childhood.

Some of the key points:

  1. giving them time and space to play and grow and develop at their own pace.
  2. A combination of directed learning and self-directed learning.

God was calling us to do it. He was going to give us what we needed to do that. And I tell parents all the time, you have to understand that your role in your child’s life can’t be underestimated. You have a very, very significant role in their lives. You know, God ordained the family. That was his idea.

  1. In the book, the Four Hour School Day, there is a challenge to parents. After laying out the plan I hope to broaden their view of what education is. And this book is for people who are thinking about homeschooling on the fence or already homeschooling and
  2. There is such a strong thread of growing a strong, healthy family. And that’s at the end of the day, that is one of the biggest blessings of homeschooling. And we’ve found this with our own kids. I spent a lot of time along the way, learning conflict resolution so that I could teach it to my children along the way because I wanted them to not only be friends. I want them to understand how important relationships are, how important family relationships are. And so we, I really made a concerted effort to nurture sibling relationships. And that means taking time along the way to nurture those relationships.
  3. Homeschooling and family… this is really training ground. It’s, it’s sometimes the hardest place to do it because you feel safe there. And so you tend to not behave yourself as much and you take each other for granted. And so we were always working on that, you know, is that how you would treat a friend or is that how you would want to be treated in that situation? And so just all of that just has ended up affecting our children in so many positive ways. Not only are they best friends, they also know what it looks like when they, when they’re working with other people on jobs, in their careers.

The author of the Four Hour School Day:

I always tell parents to be stubborn about your goals, but flexible about your methods. So the mission statement would be about your ultimate goals. And then, and then we’re flexible about the methods of how we’re going to get there depending on the child, depending on the season of life we’re in developmentally where our kids are on that, scope as well. We always have a direction. I think this is important because we can get caught up in the minutiae of homeschooling.

(Much more on the audio)

The Four-Hour School Day will help you to:

  • Work with your child’s interests and passions for an enjoyable learning experience
  • Cultivate independent learning in your child so you have more time and your child
  • develops more curiosity
  • Navigate the different schooling stages your child will go through
  • Find an engaged community so that you can start this adventure with all the support you
  • need.

About the Author:

Durenda married Darryl in 1989, and she is a mom to eight kids born less than thirteen years apart. She always considered motherhood to be the ultimate career, but she had no idea of the countless ways it would deepen and humble her. Many, many times she found herself unsure and struggling, only to discover God’s strength at the end of her rope. She realized she experienced the grace she desperately needed when she took the time to slow her heart and listen for His still, small voice. Her greatest joy is helping moms discover that grace as well–and with it the courage to put their full trust in Him as they learn to hear His voice above all others. Connect with Durenda at durendawilson.com.


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The lessons are taught the traditional way, not to a “test”.

Each one of the video tutorials is taught by an internationally acclaimed teacher, Pat Murray, who is renowned for teaching math concepts in a simple, easy-to-understand way (and in only a few minutes at a time). Using a multi-sensory approach having the combination of effective graphics and animation synchronized with the voice of a friendly teacher together with practical assessment. This three-pronged attack makes learning so much easier and more effective. Even students who struggled with math are getting fantastic results! And ones who were doing OK before are now doing brilliantly.

Visit ctcmath.com today to start your free trial.