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Time Management For Parents

Time Management For Parents | There is hope! Are you ready for time managment that will help you to reclaim your day and feel good at the end? Is this too good to be true? No, it is a reality and if I can do it, you can as well. How does it happen? Well, very easily with one sheet of paper and four squares. #podcast #homeschoolpodcast #timemanagement #managingyourtime #managingtimeTime Management Parents Episode 412

There is hope! Are you ready for time managment that will help you to reclaim your day and feel good at the end? Is this too good to be true? No, it is a reality and if I can do it, you can as well. How does it happen? Well, very easily with one sheet of paper and four squares. Today I will help you figure out the main issues that steal your time and the hope on how to reclaim it.

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Let’s get our time management back!

Does your day lack focus? Are you overwhelmed with the shuffling of papers, trying to get school “done” and keep up with the household chores? You can see why there is such burn out among moms, and especially moms who homeschool. Even at the beginning of the year! I have to say I struggled with this for many years and it left me feeling tired, defeated, and like I wasn’t getting anything accomplished each day. I felt like a young mom with little children, if I kept everyone safe by the end of the day it was a win!

However, I wanted so much more. Especially for those who are new to homeschooling or even if you are a pro, you need the help that comes from getting all of your ducks in a row. Let me cut to the chase here. I was out of time because my time was managing me instead of the other way around. What was interrupting my day? Easy, three things:

  1. Talking on the phone (substitute social media here and texting).
  2. No set schedule with household chores.
  3. Disobedient kids

I had a defeatist attitude and could not wait until my husband came home so I could dump all of my daily woes on him, and guess what? That didn’t work out too well. My husband ran his own business and often needed my help to do the payroll, or help with management and the details of filing payroll taxes, filling out forms and so much more.

Fast forward, and we raised five kids and have not one but three businesses that we run out of our homes, successfully. How did this happen? Believe me, it was not overnight but now I can share those tips and techniques with you, and these are even better than what I had in my toolbox at the time.

Rules are made to be broken, but sometimes you can look at them as good suggestions, so take heart as I share some quick ones with you.

  1. Just because you get an idea it does not mean you have to act on it right now. Write it down and look at it at lunchtime, or after dinner, and plan for it. Quickly one thing I do not do even with a business is looking at emails in the morning – emails such the life and my day away from me. Unless I have planned for this, I don’t do it until after lunch. People who really need to get hold of me quickly know how to do this. Everything else can wait.
  2. I learned my time wasters. See number one – but there were others. I let myself get sidetracked and once I learned the keys to keeping myself on track it worked.
  3. Make a plan and stick to it – I know, for those of you kindred spirits that are spontaneous. But believe me, it works.
  4. Every self-help book or how to get organized is not going to help you get organized if you refuse to do what it suggests (same with this broadcast)
  5. Seek help when needed.

I think that is important to note that many times we think an issue is one problem when it is really something else. Another issue with time management is that we have false expectations or perhaps, no expectations at all! So first it is homework time. I am going to encourage you to stop this recording and write out your most pressing need and what you hope to accomplish. What is your main expectation? Is it a peaceful home, is it happiness that surpasses all understanding, is it kids that get along, laundry washed, dried and folded and put away in one day, is it meals planned? What is that? What is important to you?

So the first thing to do is look at your expectations, hopes dreams, and break them down into a day, week, month or even a year. Remember the old saying, “Rome wasn’t built in one day.” But I am going to add my Felice twist here –  “But the fires that destroyed Rome were set on purpose.”

What fires are you setting for yourself? I’ve looked at my expectations and goals and realized that they were so grandiose, and my expectation so unattainable that I was setting myself up for failure and it wasn’t going to happen even with a household of full-time employees! SO, let’s get realistic. I’m not going to tell you the platitudes I’ve read like, “make every minute count” or “delegate” or “make easy to serve meals.” This is a duh, duh, and double duh. We are talking about surviving the day here. But what I will tell you is that you need to use what you have on hand.

I’m an author, which I do believe most of you know and years ago my daughter wanted to write a novel. I told her, “Christina, I don’t know how to write a novel,” and she said, “Mom, we are homeschoolers, we will figure it out.”

Moms and Dads if you are listening. You may or may not be homeschoolers – but if there is something you want to do, you can figure it out. The one novel turned out to be three and sold in catalogs such as Christian Book Distributors, currently on Amazon and my website, MediaAngels.com and have been around the world. We figured it out.

What is important to you. The list usually looks like this:

  1. Need to manage the kids.
  2. Need to manage the home.
  3. Need to teach school (for those who are homeschooling.)
  4. Need time with my spouse.
  5. Need to keep my sanity.

Kids always seem to be number one when they should not hold that revered position. As a Christian, the first thing that should be on the list is a time of prayer. I’ve talked about this before, but the days I did not wake up, grab a cup of coffee, my Bible and have a short prayer session with the Lord was the day that all heck broke loose.

So, we need to rearrange the list and have it look something like this.

  1. Keep my sanity. Begin the day with God.
  2. Time with my spouse – figure out when to have a meaningful conversation, spend time and date night even if it means to put the kids to bed and grab some popcorn and watch a movie at home.
  3. Manage my home. What is pressing? Laundry? Food? Use your weekends, bulk cook, and freeze. Just like a copy machine is a blessing to every homeschool family, so is an upright or chest freeze.
  4. Manage my kids. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Follow through. Practice good behavior, if this means having your kids repeat after you, do it. I have several audios on this topic and I also have audios I have created for the kids, see links below. Have your kids listen to them. Side note here – Tell your kids you are on the same side. Sometimes I think we are in a battle and the kids need to know there is one leader, it is you as a parent and the troops need to file in… if you do not have a set of consequences this is important to think about. Ahead of time.
  5. School! Yes, this is last. My kids learned despite my beautifully created curriculum or lessons. Read, read, and read. If you want your kids to learn life lessons do it in books, if you want your kids to learn math get a curriculum. I have a series of character quality free downloads I give away every month on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network, you can sign up to get them and past sets are for sale on my website at MediaAngels.com. why is this? Because prior to the 1960s character was infused and morality in schools, families, and churches. Now, it is all revisionist and secular. Interestingly I read a quote recently from a past president that shocked me. In the words of John Adams: “Our Constitution is designed only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate for any others.”Friends this is the key, we must bring morality and all that is good and holy into our homes. If that means restricting screen time, do it – if it means only watching good movies, get Pureflix. I realize this is a challenge for some of you but I have faith in you, you can do it!

Lastly the key here – how to do it how to get organized. Fast Track.

  1. One week at a glance. Take a sheet of paper and draw a horizontal line and a vertical line. So, it has 4 squares. Faith, Kids, School Household. You can use different headings on each of these squares for whatever you want. This is an overall sketch of what you are going to do and accomplish. The weekly goals if you will. You will not get detailed with the kid’s schooling, other than maybe to put a time frame, or perhaps books you are going to read as a family, etc.
  2. Square one: Faith you can add spouse there as well. But first, you need to get right with God. You need to be filled up before you can pour into others. My show – AFewMinutesWithGodPodcast.com
  3. Square two: Kids – what are your overall goals – is there something in particular or one kid, in particular, that is the squeaky wheel that needs help. Whether it is academic or discipline. At a time of war they always went after the leader, so if there is one child that is leading the others astray begin there.
  4. School. Once again the overarching here – do you have a field trip, are you going to do a science experiment, watch a specific video -put this on your list.
  5. Household. When are you doing the laundry, prepare meals – you can have a start time, etc … list it here:

Whatever you use make it work for you! Make it your own. I really do believe you can figure this out and reclaim your time. Time management is you managing time and making an effort to not allow it to manage you!

Resources: Past Vintage Homeschool Moms Podcasts and Show notes to help you!

  1. I have several past podcasts and if you look at the show notes page, you will see links to download a bunch of forms!
    1. Here is one on Homeschool Forms  another on
  2. Last-minute Christmas prep – contains 4-square planner
  3. Running Your Home Like a CEO
  4. Easy Way Planning link here

 

 

Special Replay: Discipline Success

Do you have discipline success in your home?Let’s Talk About Discipline Success with Felice Gerwitz

Do your children know what you expect? Do you have discipline success in your home? Do your children know how to answer and when to come? Having children who are obedient and follow your lead is very important, but following these seven simple steps can be very helpful.

See the show notes below.

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Show Notes:

  1. Explain what you expect ahead of time.
  2. Teach your children how to listen
    • use simple techniques
    • practice coming when you call
    • practice appropriate responses
    • short explanations and sentences
    • set boundaries
  3. Implement Disciplinary Measures
    • identify the issue
    • find a solution
    • explain consequences
    • ask if the understand – tell you back
    • follow through
  4. Set guidelines
  5. Activities that build self-discipline
  6. Set up kids for success
  7. Use affirmations

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Time Management for Teens

Time Management For Teens | More in our series on time management, this show is for teens with The Homeschool Highschool Podcast, Vicki Tillman. Learn how to take your time back and learn about doing a time audit.  |#timemanagement #timemanagementforteens #forteens #takebackyourtime #timeTime Management For Teens – Episode 411

More in our series on time management, this show is for teens with The Homeschool Highschool Podcast, Vicki Tillman. Learn how to take your time back and learn about doing a time audit.

Special Guest: Vicki Tillman, who is one of the voices behind The Homeschool High School Podcast.

Check out Vicki’s Coaching: VickiTillmanCoaching.com

Listen to the podcast for the full conversation, here are some points we covered:

Vicki is a counselor and life, and career coach and she has been doing this for close to thirty years, and she has had to learn time management skills in order to juggle all those hats.

The digital age encourages distraction, with notifications popping up and too many tabs open, it’s really hard to keep our time under control.

Don’t wait until your children are teenagers. You know, if you’ve got them at that age, great, we can, we can work with whatever we have because we’re flexible because we’re homeschool parents, we just make it work. But encourage it as the kids are younger. When they’re younger, we can start enlisting some of these skills and encouraging them.

So one of the things that I think helps, especially when you are at the place where you have multiple ages in the house is to remember … that as moms, we have this picture in our heads of what we really want to accomplish, but we have to let God guide our footsteps and to be able to humbly set aside the things that just aren’t going to happen in the chaos of a day. But there are some things that we have to learn to structure and manage so that we can actually get education done with everybody that needs that.

So I have some ideas that I have used with my kids in our local homeschoolers that I’ve worked with over the years is the battle of time. When do they wake up to begin their day? Sometimes that’s not a battle you want to argue about. And sometimes it is, and it takes prayer. What character are we developing right now? But one of the things to do is to notice that there’s not one kind of high schooler. Some kids are the kind that requires your help to learn, to manage their time because they will just game all day or they’ll check out YouTube all day. Or they are naturally distractible or go with the flow.

And so they need some structures and some tools. And then there are some kids who are born structured, they get up in the morning and they want to get everything done, and they are working really hard. And those kids, you have to teach them time management. So they learn to turn that off and rest and hang out and, and let their brains and bodies do some other things besides being productive.

Know your kids and allow God, to show you what they need and help work with them in that way. So I’ll start with the easy ones, the ones that are naturally structured and will overwork themselves. One of the things that I suggest is to teach them how to do a time audit.

So it’s really simply put a time audit is to look at how we spend our time.

In this way, you can look at how you spend your time, and make sure you are not doing something you’re not supposed to be doing.

Have your teens write down every single thing they did and how much time they did it. And then after the end of a week or two weeks, if there’s a lot of variety in the things that you do you make a pie chart of those activities. And you look at this, these slices of pie. So a big slice of pie is for sleep, another slice of pie for meals, this slice of pie for study this slice of pie for chores, this for extracurricular, this is for friend time. This is for chilling and watching television or whatever. All the pieces of the pie are there. And then sit with your teen and say, is this how you want your pie to look? Do you see things that you’d need to change? I need more time for devotions or I haven’t spent any time with a friend in weeks. And then help them kind of redraw that pie that looks like a life with balance. Be sure to include time for self- care so that they stay healthy and don’t get too anxious.

And so for us moms, if we do the same, we will find some times that we have slices of pie that aren’t useful. Like the “death scroll” on Facebook. Now I can check Facebook once a day and that’s it. So you know, a timeout is just a wonderful thing for the type of kids who can’t turn off, who the ones that are over-structured. Okay.

When people see how much time they typically spend on that kind of thing, (like social media) then they can put that in perspective and say, okay, you know, I’ll put a timer on.

Listen to the podcast for the remainder of the interview.

Time Management For Kids

Time Management | What is the one thing you can't get back? Time. In this episode, we talk about time management for kids and how to learn to take charge of your time. You will be surprised how much time you gain! Another episode just for kids.| #podcast #homeschoolpodcast #justforkids #timemanagement #makingtime #takingbacktime #kidspodcast #kids #lessonsforkids #learnabouttimeTime Management For Kids – Episode 410

What is the one thing you can’t get back? Time. In this episode, we talk about time management for kids and how to learn to take charge of your time. You will be surprised how much time you gain! Another episode just for kids.

Check out this episode just for kids! 

  1. Kids Making Good Decisions.
  2. Choosing Good Behavior
  3. Family Life 

Books for tweens – Truth Seekers Mystery Series. 

Are you on time? Always? Sure, it is hard to be on time especially when you think you have lots of time and why should you hurry. Besides everyone will wait for you, right?

Well, surprise! I bet you will get in trouble if you are late or make your family wait. So, today we are going to discuss time. This is time you can never get back.

Punctuality means being early or on time. In fact, some people think if you are on time that means you are late.

What do you think? Do you like being late?

Do you like waiting for other people?
Most people have an opinion on this and I am sure this is something you can talk to your family about, but one thing to think about is this. Punctuality has to do with respect. People who are late show think more highly of their time than the time of others. Does this mean you don’t care? Maybe. But more than likely it means you have not given it any thought because once we think of respect, I am sure you think this is important for all people.

So, the first thing I want you to do is to look at your time. How do you manage your time? Most kids don’t manage their time because they don’t have to. You have parents who tell you when to get up or when it is time to eat. When it is time to do your schoolwork or go to church. We are managed by a family that loves and supports us. But, at some point we need to be responsible for our own time.

Look at what you like to do. If you could have a day that is all yours to plan what would you do? What does your dream day look like? This may be a topic you want to think about. You may include some of these points: sleeping in or getting up early, eating your favorite foods, watching a movie or reading a book, playing with your friends, going to a park, or maybe a trip to the zoo. Your time would be spent on the things you enjoy. So, let’s look at that list and go to a hobby. A hobby is something you like to do in your spare time. How can you fit this in when your day is filled with the things you have to do? That is what time management is all about. You manage your time so that you can fit in some fun things.

But, you might say you are busy with school work and chores and you have not time. Hmm… let’s look at this. What do you do when you are busy with school and chores? Are you doing them well and quickly or are you wasting time? If you look at how you spend your time you will earn that while it may be fun to laugh at your brother or sister, or lose a book and have to spend time finding it, or forget that you have an assignment…in the long run you are only hurting yourself.

So, let’s go through a list:

  1. How do you want to spend your free time?
  2. What can you do to stop wasting time?
  3. What are some things you have to do each day that can be done quicker?

Another surprise is that I am sure your mom or dad will definitely help you to gain more time in your day, because you know what? If you are more productive–that means you get more things done well and quickly, that gives your family more time as well. This means you respect each other, you respect each other’s time and you are happy to get your chores and school work done because you have a goal at the end, and that is spending time doing the things you enjoy!

Good work and good effort is often rewarded. It is rewarded by the knowledge that you did your best and it is practice for the future. I really wish someone had taught me how to manage my time when I was younger. I will have another session on time management for teens upcoming. I am excited about your future because with more time it will allow you to explore things that you are passionate about. Think about all of the amazing inventors such as Thomas Edison, The Wright Brothers and Benjamin Franklin to name a few. As kids, they were constantly experimenting and thinking about new ideas and look at what they did as adults. Now is your time and I hope you use it wisely!

 

Special Replay: Winning Science Fair Projects

Felice Gerwitz shares her insider's tips for winning science fair projects with all of you! , Felice Gerwitz shares her love of science fairs with you!Let’s Talk About Winning Science Fair Projects with Felice Gerwitz

Episode #135

From the author of An Insider’s Guide to Successful Science Fair Projects, Felice Gerwitz shares her insider’s tips for winning science fair projects with all of you! , Felice Gerwitz shares her love of science fairs with you! As a past judge and mom of winning participants, Felice has had her share of directing her children to seek the answers to their questions. In this episode, Felice explains the nuances of science fair projects, what is required, the schedule and the truth when it comes to getting a project that catches the judge’s attention.

Show Notes Winning Science Fair Projects

Did you know that even a winning science fair project can be disqualified if it doesn’t have some key ingredients? Your project is in jeporady unless you know the rules and some insider’s tips. Here are some of the topics covered in this podcast.

  1. What is a science fair?
  2. Dates for science fair
  3. What makes a good project?
  4. How to set up your board
  5. Importance of procedure and following the rules
  6. The importance of the abstract

Resources:

  1. International Science and Engineering Fair – ISEF – Science
  2. Science Fair Portal for ideas here
  3. Confidence to Teach your child science projects
  4. Do a project in one day – seriously.
  5. An interesting array of projects

 

 

 

An Insider’s Guide to Successful Science Fair Projects

E-Book- An Insider's Guide to Successful Science Fair Projects

 

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Family Loyalty: For Kids

Family Loyalty | Do you have family loyalty? Do you know what it means to be loyal? In this episode we are going to talk about your family, your parents, and those adults in charge of you. And we are going to talk about that and so much more. | #podcast #homeschoolpodcast #familyloyalty #loyaltytofamily #loyalkids #kidsandfamilyloyalty #kidsandfamily #familydynamics Family Loyalty: For Kids Episode 409

Do you have family loyalty? Do you know what it means to be loyal? In this episode we are going to talk about your family, your parents, and those adults in charge of you. And we are going to talk about that and so much more. Another episode for the kids!

Listen to these past episodes just for kids!

  1. Kids Making Good Decisions.
  2. Making Good Choices – Why Should You?

Books for tweens – Truth Seekers Mystery Series. 

What do you think being loyal means? If you said it has to do with standing by someone or some idea or purpose these are all correct. We hear about loyalty when we think about the military. The men who fight for our country to keep us safe, they are loyal to an idea or a cause. When people described people that were loyal they used the word chivalry. Chivalry means to protect, to be honest, to be kind and to care even to the point of giving your life. But did you know being loyal applies to your parents and your family as well?

So, again – let’s think about this word loyalty. Are your parents loyal to you?

Your parents put you first, above people not in your family, right? They feed you, make sure you have clothes to wear and a place to sleep. And, for homeschoolers you know your parents are your teachers.  You listen to your teachers whether it is a parent or a teacher outside of the home. So, what happens when someone tells you to trust? Well, trust is earned for the most part. If you are a kid, maybe you have lost your parent’s trust by making the wrong choices. But, generally, people who are authority figures should be trusted.

Do you remember in your early grades you studied about community helpers? These are people who had jobs within a community where you live that serve in a job that helps, for example, law enforcement, teachers, firefighters, emergency personnel like ambulance drivers and EMTs or paramedics. These are people in authority. There are many people that fall into this category. They pretty much get our trust because they are an authority figure. You really don’t want to argue with a firefighter who is trying to rescue you from a burning building.

Well, our parents are authority figures as well. Some parents are great and some, well not so much. Some kids in a family are great, some are not so great, but no family is perfect. We all make mistakes and when we do, we should all apologize and say we are sorry. I have written many apology notes to my kids during times when I messed up. Yes, even adults make mistakes. But we are still a family.

We should have family loyalty. It is important. Maybe you yell at your siblings but if someone else says something bad about them you want to fight with that person to defend your sister or brother, or maybe mom or dad. We should be loyal to our family because we know our family cares about us, even if they do not always show us they care.

Who put your family together? Are you a person of faith? If so, you believe that God had a hand in putting your family together. Maybe you wish that God didn’t give you the family you have because you think another family is better. God gives us all free will, we are not puppets, and we can make our own choices. Some people make good choices and others do not. So, where does that leave us?

But why have family loyalty? Why is that important? For some of you, you may think that is a strange question. I started thinking about this the other day when I caught the tail end of a superhero movie on television. Well, I think it was a superhero – it was an X-Men movie–are they superhero? I don’t even know. Anyway, at the end of the movie I heard one of the characters say some words that I have heard before. I heard these in my college classes. It started with this:

“Forget everything your parents have taught you.”

What! Why would someone say that to you? Why should you forget everything your parents taught you?

  1. Would your parents teach you something that is bad?
  2. Would your parents want to harm you?
  3. Would your parents teach you something that your teachers or other authority figures may not want you to know?Hmm…

You are a kid no matter how old you are. You will always be a kid to your parents. Your parents love you and they care about you. They want you to be loyal to your family and believe what they have taught you at home is right and just.

  1. Parents teach you about right and wrong.
  2. Parents teach you about faith.
  3. Parents teach you about values and morals. Basically, families teach you important things that they want you to learn.

If someone tells you to forget everything your parents taught you and listen to them, doesn’t that make you suspicions? When I heard a teacher say that to me, this is what I thought.

  1. Why should I listen to you, OVER my parents? I don’t know you or what you believe.
  2. I will respect you if you are a teacher or authority figure, but you are making me pretty suspicious if you are telling me not to believe my parents.
  3. I will not believe everything YOU say, without thinking it through.

An authority figure that tells you to forget what your parents say that does not know what your parents said, is wrong. Why do they say this? A fancy way of saying this is they have an agenda. They think they know better than your parents. They want you to think the same way they do, and they do not want you to have an opinion that is different from theirs. There was a movie God’s Not Dead and in that movie the professor wanted everyone to sign a piece of paper that said that God was a myth and the belief in God was not true. Everyone in the class signed the paper except for one student. And the professor was very angry with him, and tried all different ways to make him back down.

This is why family loyalty is important but also what you believe. If you are confused, ask your parents.

Many teachers really do a good job and they care. But, some teachers really don’t want you to have an opinion and view that is different than theirs.  This happens to some adults at work as well. If people really care they should understand that we all think differently. Yes, even if we disagree. You should be allowed to have your opinions and other people should be allowed to have their opinions.

So, why are we talking about family loyalty? Because if we are loyal to our families we:

  1. Put our family over your friends. We are committed to each other.
  2. We enjoy the family that God gave us.
  3. We stand up for members of our family.
  4. We stand with the members of our family.
  5. We work together as a family toward common goals.
  6. We make a commitment to our families.
  7. We encourage our family members and not put them down.

Each one of you is amazing and important and each one of you—I believe was created in the image and likeness of God. God does not make junk! he made you and gave you to the family you have, and we make the best with our family. Our family is practice for the family you will someday be with and do your part to be the best you can.

 

Back to School Replay: Winning Science Fair Ideas

Winning Science Fair Ideas | Interested in what the judges look for? This podcast will help you by former science fair judge | #podcast #homeschoolpodcast
Back to School Replay: Winning Science Fair Ideas with Felice Gerwitz

Where do you find a great science fair idea? Do not say the library or the internet! It is an amazingly easy place and it all begins with (hint-hint) your child! If you hit on this your child will have a blast and you may be amazed at what they learn.

From the author of An Insider’s Guide to Successful Science Fair Projects, Felice Gerwitz shares her insider’s tips with all of you!

Winning Science Fair Ideas

Show Notes

  1. Recap on science fair projects
  2. Where do you look for great ideas?
  3. What makes a great project?
  4. How to discover the key to a what judges want.
  5. Importance of procedure and following the rules

Winning Science Fair Idea Resources

  1. Science Fair Portal for ideas here
  2. Confidence to Teach your child science projects
  3. Contests to enter – energy.gov
  4. Do a project in one day – seriously.
  5. An interesting array of projects

 

Winners of the Educational Alliance Science Fair – Amazing Projects!

 

 

 

 

 

An Insider’s Guide to Successful Science Fair Projects

Winning Science Fair Ideas | An Insider's Guide to Successful Science Fair Projects

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Kids Choosing Good Behavior

Choosing Good Behavior | Are you a kid? If you had a choice of choosing good behavior over bad, which would you pick? Is that a silly question? That is what I want to talk to you about today. You are going to be very surprised when I explain some things to you so that you can take charge of your actions. | #podcast #homeschoolpodcast #kidsgoodbehavior #goodbehaviorkids #justforkids #podcastforkids #character #goodbehaviorKids Choosing Good Behavior: ~Episode 408

Are you a kid? If you had a choice of choosing good behavior over bad, which would you pick? Is that a silly question? That is what I want to talk to you about today. You are going to be very surprised when I explain some things to you so that you can take charge of your actions.

Check out this episode – Kids Making Good Decisions.

Books for tweens – Truth Seekers Mystery Series. 

I love talking to kids. I think you guys are great. You have so many good ideas, you are full of energy and fun. Even those of you that are quiet have amazing things to say if someone would take the time to listen to you. I have five kids and eight grandkids and each of them is a blessing. While we might not always agree, and yes my kids messed up (but so have I), I think they are amazing people. I really wish I could see you and tell you this while I am looking at you. But you are an amazing person. You may not think you are, but I believe that God made us and He does not make junk. I want you to think about that if you really do not think you are amazing and special. You are here for a reason. So, let’s begin!

Do you know an adult in your life? Is it a mom, a dad, a grandparent, aunts, or uncles? Did you know that these adults in your life were once your age? I bet you don’t think about that often. Yes, we adults were once kids, we were teenagers, we were young adults, and we finally, after many years and possibly getting in trouble ourselves we grew up, got married and had kids of our own. We learned from our past mistakes and we want to pass on this wisdom to our kids. That is why you get in trouble. We do not want you to make small mistakes now that can turn into big mistakes later. And that means we want to teach you how to choose good behavior.

It’s not easy to do what is right all the time, because no one is perfect. Right? Well, that may be true, but we can make our lives a whole lot easier if we take charge of our own behavior. Since I can’t see you, I don’t know if you are listening. But, I’m going to challenge you. If you want a happier life, please take the time to listen. As I talk, I will ask you some questions and you can stop this recording and answer them before you hear my remarks.

I like kids who think for themselves. Do you think? Of course, you do. But do you think before you speak or act? Sometimes you do and sometimes you don’t. You see the problem is when you act badly, say or do the wrong things, sometimes you get in trouble and sometimes you don’t. So you might be confused.

Let’s talk about what type of behavior gets you in trouble:

  1. Being disrespectful to your parents or adults (arguing, yelling, and saying, “no I didn’t do it.” when your parents clearly see you did.)
  2. Hitting others in your family. Many kids actually think this is fun!
  3. Breaking a rule. For example no snacks before dinner.
  4. Forgetting to do a chore or something your parent asked you to do.
  5. For homeschoolers – losing a book or not completing your schoolwork.

Now, let’s take each of these things and talk about what won’t get you in trouble.

  1. Being respectful to your parents. If you mess up, saying you are sorry or taking responsibility for your actions.
  2. Keeping your hands, feet–you know, general body parts to your self.
  3. Following the rules.
  4. Remembering to do your chores or follow through if your parents ask you to do something.
  5. Keeping your books together and finishing your schoolwork.

Wow, that was easy. Just be respectful, keep your hands to yourself, follow the rules, do your chores, and finish your schoolwork. So, what am I missing? How many of you think you can do this? Hmm… why or why not. Let’s think about this. Will life be easier and happier when you do what is right? Of course.

Choosing Good Behavior: You Are Not A Puppet.

Do you know what a puppet is? A puppet is controlled by someone else. The puppet has can’t think for itself or do something it wants to do on its own. Maybe you have never seen a puppet, but you know what I am talking about. A puppet has no free will. You on the other hand have free will. You can make decisions, you have a choice. You can decide to be the kind of person you want to be. Right? Do you agree? If not, why not?

Do you want to know what I think? I think there are many reasons why kids get in trouble.

  1. Laziness. Sometimes it is easier to not obey.
  2. React out of anger or because you are upset.
  3. Don’t think about the consequences. If you do something wrong what will happen?
  4. You are a gambler. What does that mean? A gambler takes chances. You know what you are doing wrong and you hope that you either won’t get caught OR if you do get caught the punishment won’t be bad, or maybe you are hoping for no punishment at all.
  5. Simpy forget to do what you are supposed to do. And one reason this happens? You really don’t care.

Did I forget anything? Is there another reason I did not list as to why you get in trouble?

I think the reason most of us get into trouble is that we do not consider what will happen afterward. This is called cause and effect. If I drop a glass on a hard surface, like concrete on purpose what will happen? If you said break, you are correct. We know glass sometimes shatters. Not all glasses but most. Have you ever dropped a glass? Or spilled milk or water? Sure, everyone has accidents. The cause of the incident – in this case, the glass breaking was done on purpose. The effect of my dropping the glass is it breaks. What about the accident? That is different. If we did not mean to do something then while the cause is the same – we are at fault or we did it (we dropped the glass) the motivation – or the why we did it is different.

So, let’s break this down.

  1. Things happen because we cause them. On purpose or by accident.
  2. We can sometimes control our actions or words and sometimes it is truly an accident.
  3. If we can control our words or actions, that means we are in charge.
  4. If we are in charge and are in control we can choose right or wrong. Because, hey, we are not a puppet.
  5. If we have a choice, which will we do?

So, there you have it. Choosing good behavior is up to you. You are not a puppet. You can make your own decisions. And, I for one hope you decide today, right now to make good choices. Think about what will happen if you make a good choice and what will happen if you make a bad choice. The decision is up to you! If you mess up and make a mistake apologize. That is different than saying you are sorry and not really meaning it. You should ask my kids how many apology notes I have written over the year.

One last thing to think about. Do you want to be around people who always get in trouble? Do you want to listen to people who do the wrong thing on purpose, or just because they think it is fun to have everyone yelling or arguing? Some people actually like to cause trouble. If you would not follow someone like that, then you should be the person God created you to be–and that means making choices that are wise.

One more thing – I have more shows planned just for you this month. So, stay tuned!

 

Best Homeschool Scheduling Advice

best homeschool scheduling | The Best homeschool scheduling advice I ever received actually came from my daughter, do not duplicate the school at home. I looked at the way I scheduled my homeschool year. #homeschool #homeschooling #podcast #homeschoolscheduleBest Homeschool Scheduling Advice Episode 285

The Best homeschool scheduling advice I ever received actually came from my daughter. She said, “Mom if we are going to duplicate the school system then why homeschool?” With that in mind, I looked at the way I scheduled my homeschool year. I made time for those special events that make homeschooling stand out from the conventional school cuWhetherum. Whether it is a field trip, a family trip that is planned or one-to-one mentoring with a talented person. In this episode of Vintage Homeschool Moms, I’ll explain the best homeschool scheduling advice, ever!

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Questions to ask yourself before you begin scheduling!

  1. What are your state laws — are you compliant?
  2. Are you part of a support group? This network IS part of your support!
  3. What are your goals and objectives for the year?
  4.  What method of homeschooling do you lean toward? If you don’t know listen to this podcast on the topic HERE PUT LINK
  5. How long are you planning to homeschool? 4, 5, or 6 hours or more per day? Check out your homeschool laws here if you don’t already know them: https://hslda.org/content/laws/
  6. Are you flexible?
  7. Do you like check off lists? For you? For the kids?

These questions will set the groundwork for how you’d like to set up your homeschool year. What I might consider best homeschool scheduling advice may not allign with your homeschool philosophy. However I hope you can take what you need and make it work for you! With this clearly in mind, here is some of the best advice I can share with you about homeschool schedules and ways to have a stress-free year.

Best Homeschool Scheduling Tips:

  1. Keep your eyes focused on your family needs. What Sally Jo uses for her kids may not work for yours.
  2. Look at your goals. What do you hope to accomplish this year? What subjects do you want to cover this year?
  3. Is it important to develop your child’s creativity and imagination and encourage them to think?
  4. What character qualities do you want to work on? If you want to strengthen family relationships, select reading materials or read aloud the books that will do just that. Read the Little House on the Prarie (younger) or Anne of Green Gables (older).
  5. Each child is unique, consider your child’s needs.
  6. Never recreate the public/private classroom at home.
  7. Don’t forget about you. Do you have help scheduled, whether that is a chore chart so everyone can pitch in, or a park day so you can visit with friends.
  8. Never – and that means never answer the phone while you are homeschooling. Set special ring tones for important people – others go to voice mail. This goes for checking Facebook or social media in general.
  9. Never and that means never -unless it is absolutely impossible go on an errand during school time. No grocery store shopping, doctor appointments – until after school or on a day off if you take one, etc.

Best Homeschool Scheduling Advice — Ever! 

Tools & Supplies:

  1. Three Inch Binder: Use a three-ring binder. I began a master homeschool binder when I first began homeschooling and it contains ALL the must haves… First, copies of their schedules, important information: everything from blanks I could duplicate to things I always had to look up previously. I have the children’s evaluations in this binder from the beginning of our homeschooling in Kindergarten through twelfth grade! I also keep a copy of their evaluations in their grade/year notebook.
  2. Master Lists: Subjects, books, reading books, grade level goals, etc. I think through this once, add to it if a particular child needs more information and then file it in my book. I also have a file in a Word Doc. in my computer that corresponds. Master lists can include a supply list for school, birthdays, and a calendar of events.
  3. File cabinet. Throughout the years I kept files on each of the kids and work. As we ended a year, the binder was emptied, the information for the year filed under the child’s name (and grade labeled), and the binder was then ready for the next year.
  4. School Supplies: Notebooks: Look for sales. We get lined, spiral notebooks for less than 20 cents during back to school sales. I buy enough for all year. Use a sharpie (or a nice label from the computer) to label the subject. Notebook paper: This is one of those things we always ran out of when the children were younger. Wide-ruled notebook paper for the little kids and college ruled for older ones. Pencils: We prefer the #2 pencils and some of the kids liked the mechanical pencils, but there was one brand, in particular, they liked best that we could only purchase at an office supply store. Yes, friends, this was “pre-Amazon” days! Of course, depending on your child’s needs there are crayons, markers, erasers (the ones that fit on the pencil and the bigger ones), colored pencils, pens and sharpie and highlighters. Don’t forget the 110 lb paper to make your own dividers.
  5. Best Purchases: Large Dry Erase Boards and erasable markers, an electric three-hole punch, a laminator, laminating sheets, a stapler, a heavy duty stapler (to make those books kids love to make), and a heavy duty tape dispenser. I loved sticky notes and tabs to create my own dividers with 110 lb paper.

Best Homeschool Scheduling Advice:

  1. Know Your Kids: Do you know or have you evaluated your children? Our sponsor has these wonderful books for Placement and Evaluation.
  2. Organized: Get your books organized. Half the battle if finding the books you need when you need them. School supplies and additional resources. Everything has a place!
  3. Freebies: There are lots of sites that say you can get free curriculum, downloads, printables, etc. If you have these – organize them!
  4. Scope and Sequence: This states what your kids need to know and as homeschoolers you can be flexible. Here is a scope and sequence from Abeka as well as Bob Jones that goes from K-12. I’m not endorsing this one way or the other, you have to make your own determination.
  5. Flexibility: Build flexibility into your schedule – how can you do this? (Listen to the podcast for tips)
  6. Input: Get input from your older children. One year my kids wanted to study oceanography and space. Talk about diverse! Yet those became their favorite subjects.
  7. Routine or Schedule? What works for you a routine or schedule? The best homeschool scheduling takes into mind your lifestyle and only you can decide if you want to do things daily with a set schedule or perhaps have a routine that includes daily activities but more loosely scheduled.
  8. Rotate your schedule – doing the same thing all the time can be boring and cause kids to zone out. Maybe you do math every day, but what about history or science? You can do history two times a week and science two times for 6 weeks, and then change it to history three times and science two.
  9. 180 Homeschool Days: Get a year’s calendar and circle the days you will school each month. Yes, this can change but it is nice to have it set out before you – so you can plan. 180 days of homeschooling is what my state requires. Check your state information here: https://hslda.org/content/laws/
  10. Homeschool Planner: Well Planned Gal planners are my favorite – there are digital, printed and even a prayer planner.  There is also a smaller size to keep in your purse or backpack!
  11. Use Checklists: Checklist with pictures for little kids and a checklist for you. It is an easy way to keep records.
  12. Breaks: Be sure to highlight birthday’s, events, holidays, and field trips. Do you have a catch-up/ planning day? If you can’t have one every week, try for one a month.
  13. Field Trips: Be sure to use the resources available to homeschool families in your area.
  14. Plan your week: Look at your books and divide the number of homeschool days or weeks by chapters. If there are 30 chapters you may need to do one per week. Etc. Some books you can take two weeks to complete one chapter.
  15. Teach Kids Together: Group ages and books/subjects as much as possible. Kids like working together or if they are competitive use it to their advantage.
  16. Projects: Plan early. Science fair ideas begin in the summer, papers signed as soon as school starts (grades six and up). I wrote the book, “An Insider’s Guide to Successful Science Fair Projects available on Media Angels Membership or Amazon here.
  17. High School: Planning for high school? Plan a 4-year schedule of required subjects for graduation. The scale is different for a high school diploma vs. a high school diploma with college in mind. Also if your kids are planning to attend college listen to College Prep Genius for ways to ace the SAT and ACT as well as get scholarships. If your kids play sports – know the rules. If your kids are approaching high school and have an eye to playing sports in college read up on the NCAA.org eligibility information about classes that count for high school for college play.

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Homeschooling With A Twist – God Schooling

God Schooling | Never heard of God Schooling? Well, you are not alone. Many are new to this concept of education but homeschool mom and herbalist, Julie Polanco will share what it is and how you can achieve homeschool success. | #podcast #homeschoolpodcast #christianunschooling #GodSchooling #childleadschool #naturallivingHomeschooling With A Twist – God Schooling Episode 407

Never heard of God Schooling? Well, you are not alone. Many are new to this concept of education but homeschool mom and herbalist, Julie Polanco will share what it is and how you can achieve homeschool success.

Julie Polanco is a podcaster on this network! Check out the Crunchy Christian Podcast here.

Julie’s Book – God Schooling here.

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Julie has four children and has recently completed her eighteenth year of homeschooling. As children, she and her husband were both bullied and she didn’t want her children to have the same experiences, and the idea of homeschool resonated with them.

While on a family camping trip the family on the next site was a homeschool family of eight. Julie felt like it was a God-incident. They were so impressed with the family, how close they were with each other, and the maturity of the older children. It was a turning point for the Polancos.

*This is an excerpt from the interview with Julie Polanco on God Schooling. Listen to this broadcast for the entire content.

Julie realized after not too many years that it became a real chore trying to get the kids to do what she thought they should be doing.

God Schooling

Within a short time, God revealed a need for something different. And at the time, Christian unschooling was a “dirty” word. Yet, Julie felt like the Lord was leading their family toward a Christian unschooling approach, in a sense, it is child-directed learning.

  • Secular Unschooling allows the child to learn what they want when they want, how they want, and if they want. It often looks hands-off. l
  • Children will not always choose wisely or productive pursuits.

God Schooling

  • God Schooling is focused and informed by the child’s passions and their natural bents and interests
  • Parents work with their children by collaborating. It is relationship-driven.
    • Questions such as: What is God doing in this child? Where what how is God shaping this child?
    • How can we (as parents) develop our children’s passions and interests?
    • How can we direct our children toward productive uses of their time to develop those skills?
    • How can we train our children with good habits, morals, and good character?

Parents are very much involved and looking at how the child is using their time and making sure that the skills development happens.

Wellness and Herbalist

Julie has always had an affinity for nature and plants. She has learned that many plants have medical qualities, and some are derived into essential oils. After battling an illness in her twenties Julie turned to natural remedies to return to wellness.  (More on the audio.)

Julie’s new podcast is here! Crunchy Christian Podcast

Order Julie’s books via your local bookstore. If you went you can get it Amazon Barnes and Noble, etc. Or here