You do not add them. You stop doing things for children that they are capable of doing themselves, which is slower at first and is the whole curriculum.
The reason it does not happen naturally
It is faster to do it yourself. A seven-year-old folding laundry takes four times as long and produces worse results, so most households quietly absorb the work and the child arrives at eighteen having never done it.
The cost of teaching is paid once. The cost of not teaching is paid for a decade.
Attach skills to things already happening
Meals happen anyway, so cooking is free to teach. Laundry happens anyway. Groceries happen anyway, and a child comparing unit prices in an aisle is doing genuine mathematics.
Nothing new goes on the schedule. The same task simply takes longer and has a second purpose.
The short list that matters most
By twelve: cook several real meals, do laundry start to finish, clean a bathroom properly, handle basic money, write a respectful message to an adult.
By eighteen: a bank account they manage, a budget they have actually kept, a job or substantial volunteer work, scheduling their own appointments, basic car and home maintenance, and the ability to make a phone call to a stranger and ask for something.
That last one sounds small and is not. A great many capable young adults are stalled by it.
Let the results be bad for a while
The eggs will be overcooked and the shirts will be folded wrong. Correcting every attempt teaches children that it is not really theirs and they may as well stop.
Give the task away completely, accept the standard for a season, and raise it gradually.
Hand over decisions too
Older teens should be managing their own schedule and deadlines, with the natural consequences left intact. Learning to miss something and recover is a skill best practiced while still living at home.
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