Make the Most of Uncertain Times – MBFLP 258

Coming out of the bunker - making the most of these uncertain times

“How do I encourage my young men to look forward to the future?”

In part 1, we talked about the reality of uncertainty as a part of every time and every life, though the immediate upheaval is a very real and very disruptive event!  (see episode 257, “Making Sense of Uncertain Times”)

But how can we provide some practical help to young men whose plans for college, work, nnd relationships have been upended and put on indefinite hold? What can we do as parents to help them make the most of these uncertain times?

Remember the pandemic hits everybody differently. People in stable relationships with established careers may be better able to adjust to the disruptions than young men who are just at the starting point.

Young single adults may be feeling real isolation and loneliness. They may appreciate more contact with family, in real life or online. Reach out! And plan to listen – they may be missing people they can talk through their concerns with.

A new socialization problem

Encourage them to be inventive about socializing online. We have young adult friends who have organized online prayer meetings, held conference calls for fellowship, connected through video gaming platforms, and more. Some video conferencing programs offer service for small groups for free, and messaging apps like Skype and Signal can be used for several people in a call.

If your teens don’t have a social media account, now may be the time to train them how to use it wisely. Social media has its pitfalls, for certain, but it is possible to use it for God-honoring purposes. Your teens will be expected to have some social media savvy when they leave your home; it’s widely used in business and academia as well as peer-to-peer. What better time to coach your teens than right now, while they’re still at home and open to guidance?

For kids too young for social media accounts, we may want to use ours to facilitate fellowship for them and their friends.  It’s worth remembering that our online friendships may be part of our own coping mechanisms; our younger kids may not have that connection for themselves. Maybe you can set up a game meeting, a virtual tea party, or some other way for the elementary and middle school kids to interact … with supervision.

Realize that all our social skills may be rusty – your young people may need encouragement and coaching when they can resume meeting people in person.

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What can you do with this time?

Parents and people in a more stable situation may be able to provide perspective. If we aren’t in the throes of the uncertainty faced by our sons, we may be able to think of alternatives and options that they haven’t considered yet. We also may be able to point out that life doesn’t end at 25 or 30 — in fact, the most productive and effective part of their lives and careers is very likely years in the future still. A few months delay at 18 or 23 is not going to stop the world for them!

Some practical ideas to consider: Start a business. Start something online. Begin writing the book you wanted to write. Read up a subject and take a CLEP exam for college credit. None of this has to be permanent or long term, but any of them will encourage you to be active, keep thinking, and avoid just giving up!

Give them hope! Your sons need encouragement and they need the benefit of your experience and your ideas. Remind them this is a just a passing time in their lives and it will soon be past. Rather than despairing, they can make the most of the opportunities they have in these uncertain days!

Resources We Mentioned

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DG: The Secret to Success

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #053, DG: The Secret to SuccessDG: The Secret to Success with Meredith Curtis, podcast #053 looks at a missing ingredient in the lives of many young people, and older folks, too. Meredith discusses how delayed gratification can impact our personal lives and professional lives, helping us to experience joy and success. Meredith will explain what delayed gratification is, how it works, and how to build the DG muscle.

 

 

 

 

 

Show Notes

The secret to educational success is quite simple! DG!

The secret to a close relationship with Jesus is simple and includes DG!

The secret to having a happy marriage one day: DG!

The secret to financial success is another simple plan! It is two little words that pack a big punch. The secret to financial success is….delayed gratification.

Delayed Gratification? What is that? Well, it means to postpone what you want, to wait and work for what you desire to obtain.

In Our Imagination

Example of the Airline Owner.

But we live as if our little scenario is possible because we want a successful life, but we sabotage ourselves with instant gratification.

What We Do To Shoot Ourselves in the Foot

See, here is what we do. We want something right now! We have to have it so we take what we have and spend it all on something we kind of want.

Examples.

Delayed Gratification in a Nutshell

SO basically, in a nutshell, delayed gratified is doing the hard work first and the fun stuff we long for second.

Examples

Let’s meet some people who took delayed gratification seriously.

Hall of Fame for Delayed Gratification

Hebrews 11:13-16

Relating DG to Trusting God’s Goodness and heart to bless us.

Have We Prayed?

Examples of Waiting on God and Praying.

There are so many “quick and easy” ways out for us to take.

How difficult it is to set our eyes on the Lord and wait. This act of waiting is delaying gratification.

We experience delays in what we desire, building self-control and godly character in our life.

While We Wait on God

What do we do while we wait? We cry out to God, listing our petitions with Him, knowing that His heart is to provide our needs and bless us with our desires too.

Examples

Building the Delayed Gratification Muscle

Ways to build that delayed-gratification muscle.

The bottom line is this: Now you know the secret to success in every area of life. What will you do next?


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