FREE Character Counts Planner: Flexibility

I was excited to get to preview the new subscriber freebie for this month. It’s another timely theme, on the character trait of Flexibility. Our kids sure have had to learn about being flexible in 2020. There have been many changes and unknowns. It can drive the sanest person insane, and can be very difficult to children who thrive on routine. It’s been very difficult for me who thrives on a routine as well!

FREE Character Counts Planner: Flexibility

We have been staying home much more than normal. Especially since March! Homeschoolers are usually home more often than others most of the time. Yet since March, we really haven’t been able to go much of anywhere. We never got to finish our homeschool co-ops and extra curricular activities that we looked forward to each week. Then summer time is here and we can’t even look forward to the normal summer.

It seems like all our normal summer events are cancelled. There are no more craft days at the local craft store, no dance camp, no summer camps, VBS is cancelled, and the list goes on. Everyone is finding themselves at home more this summer. One thing I have noticed about being home is that there are a lot of character traits that I need to work on with my children. I know I am not the only one who feels this way!

Teaching our kids flexibility:

Being flexible doesn’t come naturally to everyone. If you have multiple children you will see these differences very well. I have 3 kids that are very easy going, go with the flow, take things as they come type of personalities. I have another that has to have a schedule, and a planner and a routine. She needs to know what is going to happen before it happens and what the plan is.

You can only imagine how difficult things have been and the emotions we have been dealing with around here since the shut down. Even the children with the go with the flow attitudes have faced waves of disappointment. The one who needs to know what is happening next is dying that she doesn’t know what is happening next as things change daily around here!

It’s hard to teach our kids to be flexible in times of uncertainty. Yet it is so important to teach them to find a balance, it will pay off in the long run. This planner will help you learn to find that balance, but working together as a family.

What’s in this month’s planner?

The Character Counts planner this month will help you to easily plan out a 4-week study on the character trait of flexibility.  The planning is already done for you, which makes it completely open and go. You can also customize it for your children. My favorite part of these planners is that they are not dated so that you can use them at any time. I have been printing mine out and storing them in a special binder specifically for character training. These are also great to pull out when you are dealing with a certain issue that needs to be focused on within your family unit. We also enjoy using them in addition to our morning Bible time. These are designed to be simple and fun, with activities for your entire family to participate in together.

Check out what’s inside:

  • Character Quality Family Checklist Worksheet
  • 4 Week Study Guide on Flexibility – Adaptability vs. Inflexibility
  • Analyze and Evaluation Sheets
  • Character Trait Planning Worksheets
  • Flexibility and Your Gifts Journaling Sheets
  • Activity Sheets and Create a Poster
  • Flexibility Study Worksheets for Kids
  • Motivational Words Worksheet
  • Flexibility Blue Print
  • Certificate of Completion

The directions on how to download your free Character Counts Planner are sent in each weekly ezine. The planner access information is always located at the bottom of each email. If you are not signed up, you can sign up HERE.

FREE Character Counts Planner: Determination

Have you been enjoying the character planners each month? We like to use these during our morning time and use them like a Bible study tool. The activities are fun and engaging and great for all ages. This month’s character theme is on determination. This planner will be a huge help in teaching your children a healthy way to balance out the trait of determination.

FREE Character Counts Planner: Determination text with image of hikers on top of a mountain.

There are many character traits that do not come naturally to children. Those like patience, forgiveness and gentleness, we have to teach and help focus our children on. We are constantly pointing them towards good behavior choices and working on ones that they struggle with.

Determination is not one of those traits we have to work hard to teach our kids. It’s actually kind of the opposite. As a parent spending time with your children close to 24 hours a day, you know that our kids can be pretty determined at times. From babies, and toddlers, to strong willed teenagers, determination is something that we are all born with.

Teaching Determination to Children:

So if determination is something that are children already have, then how do we teach it? Well, many children will be determined to tie their shoes, or put on their clothes by themselves. They may be determined to work hard in a sport, or a talent they have. Those same children may not be very determined to keep their rooms clean, or complete their school work on time. Or they are determined to whine until they get what they want! It is all about finding a balance, and steering that determination in a good way.

This is where teaching and guiding them come in. We can reward the good behavior, and praise them for trying when something is hard. When they complete a task that isn’t very pleasant. This character study will help guide your children towards an end goal, and give you the tools you need to praise them in the process. You will enjoy how family oriented it is, with tasks to help your entire family stay on track and hold each other accountable.

What’s in this month’s planner?

The Character Counts planner this month will help you to easily plan out a 4-week study on the character trait of determination. It will help your children analyze that they need to work on, by helping them identify the gifts God has given them. The planning is already done for you, which makes it completely open and go. There is also room for personalization to customize it for your children as well. The character planners are not dated so that you can use them at any time. I have been printing mine out and storing them in a special binder specifically for character training. These are also great to pull out when you are dealing with a certain issue that needs to be focused on within your family unit.

Check out what’s inside:

  • Character Quality Family Checklist Worksheet
  • 4 Week Study Guide on Determination
  • Analyze and Evaluation Sheets
  • Character Study Worksheets for Kids
  • Character Trait Planning Worksheets
  • Determination Journaling Sheets
  • Activity Sheets on determination and your gifts
  • Determination Blueprint
  • Motivational Words Worksheet
  • Family Activities and role-playing ideas that demonstrate determination
  • Certificate of Completion

The directions on how to download your free Character Counts Planner are sent in each weekly ezine. The planner access information is always located at the bottom of each email. If you are not signed up, you can sign up HERE.

Character Training in Lifeschooling – David and Jason Benham

Character Training in Lifeschooling - David and Jason BenhamFor this week’s podcast, Christi and I had the privilege of interviewing the Benham brothers, David and Jason Benham, former pro-baseball players and almost-stars on the cancelled HGTV show, “Flip it Forward,” as well as the authors of two books, Whatever the Cost and Living Among Lions…and of course, homeschooling dads, as well! We talked specifically about character training in homeschooling.

Twin brothers, David Benham and Jason Benham, pretty much share everything. They shared a womb, shared a room, and now share an office. Oh, and they even share a neighborhood! Growing up in Texas, the brothers both chose to marry northern girls, Lori and Tori (yes, those are their real names).

After spending a few years in professional baseball they each chose to hang up their spikes and move to Charlotte, NC. They started their first business in 2003 and currently own several companies that span the globe. David and Lori have five kids and Jason and Tori have four kids.

In 2014, they had their network television show, Flip it Forward, canceled because of their outspoken Christian beliefs. But God took that experience and built a platform for them to encourage Christians to live powerfully for Jesus in the areas of leadership, work, family, and culture. (Bio taken from https://benhambrothers.com/meetthe-brothers/.)

And they were also the keynote speakers at our 2017 Lifeschooling Conference in Charlotte, NC.

Here is what we asked David and Jason in our interview:

Some of our listeners may not realize that your families actually homeschool. Tell us why you chose to homeschool?

Danielle: I read your book, “Whatever the Cost,” how your own father, Flip Benham, (who I was actually privileged to minister with for a while with the pro-life group you started, Cities4Life) was so involved with your upbringing and character training even though you weren’t homeschooled. How has that influenced you two in your own families. Are you involved with the homeschooling?

Danielle: In your book, you say, “As Christians, our work is our worship. The Hebrew word for worship – avodah – is also the same word used for work. Our work becomes worship when we do it with all of our might for the glory of the Lord.” This was my biggest epiphany from your book because it fits so well with the whole lifeschooling philosophy! Even in homeschooling, we often take a humanistic approach to education…get good grades, get into a good college so they can get a good job. In fact, we often ask our kids “What do YOU want to be when you grow up?” It’s very self-focused.

With lifeschooling, it’s all about finding our children’s gifts and figuring out God’s unique mission for their lives. We train them to seek first God’s kingdom, and God will give them success in using their gifts for their work. Of course, we can worship God in whatever work we end up doing and there is valuable character training in that, too. But I believe that there is no better way to worship God than to use the gifts He put into us to do the thing that He created us to do! I really believe Satan does not want us to view our children as unique individuals with specific missions from the Lord. He loves the “assembly line” type of homeschooling that treats all children the same and does not allow them to find their gifts. What are your thoughts on that?

Christi: So clearly one of the gifts God gave the two of you is baseball and He certainly used that for His glory. I know many would-be homeschoolers hesitate to homeschool because of the issue of sports. Was this an important consideration in your decision to homeschool? And what value do you put on sports with your children?

Christi: What was it like to film the show and also try to homeschool? I imagine it really was lifeschooling! What did your children learn through that experience?

Christi: What is the one thing you would say to parents considering homeschooling, but who are still on the fence?

Danielle: And finally, can you guys let our listeners know where they can get a copy of your books, Whatever the Cost and Living Among Lions?

And that’s Life as a Lifeschooler! Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode. Hope you’ll join us next time!

Teaching Modesty to our Daughters

Teaching Modesty to Our DaughtersIt is very difficult to train our daughters in modesty in the midst of a society that does not praise modest dress or respect a modest heart. Join Lindsey and Richele as they speak from personal experience, having 8 daughters between the two of them, how they are training their girls to understand that modesty is about the heart, not the hemline.

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