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The Problem with Pornography & What to Do About It

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #063, The Problem with Pornography & What to Do About ItIn “The Problem with Pornography and What to Do about It” Episode #063, Meredith Curtis talks about the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about but is destroying the hearts of minds of Christians across the world. She addresses the problem with pornography and why it brings devastation. She reveals how to experience freedom and where to go for help—no matter how young or old you are. This is a problem that both parents and teens can face. Meredith also gives parents some practical advice on what to do and say if your son or daughter is indulging in, or addicted to, pornography.

 

 

 

 


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Show Notes:

Our culture is inundated with pornography.

How Pornography has changed.
God has a beautiful plan for nudity and sex–between a husband and wife. Sex outside marriage is sin and so is lust. God commands women to dress modestly so that they will not stir up lust in the men around them.

In contrast, we are surrounded with so much pornography that we do not notice it. We watch opening scenes of favorite shows that show women dressed immodestly and pole dancing. Popular movies show nudity and sex scenes without shame. Does all of this harm us?

Yes, it does. Pornography harms its viewers, but harms our culture as well.

Sex is Removed from Love & Commitment

Our Creator designed sex as an expression of love inside a committed relationship. Instead of desire stirring up toward his wife, a man is aroused by watching a girl he doesn’t know. Sex is no longer something sacred and beautiful.

“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit,” (I Thessalonians 4:3-8 NIV ©1984).

Women Lose Their Value

In pornography, women exist to please men. They have no needs, they don’t get pregnant. But, that young woman that is being lusted after is someone’s daughter. She is made in the image of God and has value. She is not an object to desire, but a woman to be loved and cherished.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church,” (Ephesians 5:25-29 NIV ©1984).

Women Try to Be Pornography

As women lose their value in our culture, the only way young girls believe they can get attention from boys is to be pornography. As a result, young girls and older ladies wear skimpy, tight clothing designed to stir up lust in guys. However, God’s word mentions modesty and propriety.

“I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety,”(I Timothy 2:9a NIV ©1984).

Pornography is Addiction

Once you start looking at pornography, it is hard to stop because pornography is addictive. Like drugs, pornography gives temporary pleasure and, for many, freedom from the pain of their dismal life. Unfortunately, as all addicts know, it eventually takes more and more to achieve the same effect.

Pornography Changes You

Pornography is evil and the evil eventually resides in the watcher. A pornography viewer eventually becomes a different person.

“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a man is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them,” (Ephesians 5:3-7 NIV ©1984).

Good News about Pornography Addiction

The good news is that Jesus Christ is the Bondage Breakers, the One who brings freedom from all addictions. His death on the cross paid the penalty for your sin of pornography. His grace provides freedom to say no to ungodly lusts and to say “YES!” to living a holy life for the glory of Christ.

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery,” (Galatians 5:1 NIV ©1984).

If You are Addicted to Pornography

Shame often accompanies pornography, tying us up in knots so that it is hard to talk about it with anyone or to get help.

First, come clean with the Lord. Ask Him to set you free. Ask him to cleanse your heart and fill Him with passion for him.

Worship & Idolatry.

If you would like to experience freedom from pornography, I also recommend that you talk to your pastor or strong Christian friend.

Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much,” (James 5:16 NASB).

If You Discover Your Teen is Addicted to Pornography

Stay CALM.

Be loving and CALM and set an environment of safety for your child to talk to you opening and honestly. Lust and pornography is a huge problem in our day.

Offer hope.

Pray with him or her. Look at verses in Scripture.

Make changes to the computer. Lock things down. Bring the computers into open areas of the home—for everyone.

Covenant Eyes: http://www.covenanteyes.com/

Integrity Online: http://www.integrity.com/

“Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Ephesians 2:1-3 NASB).

You can live free from Pornography!


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The Problem with Pornography & What to Do About It

Lessons from Laura

Lessons from Laura Ingalls Wilder is the focus in Episode #172 of Roadschool Moms Radio.  The replay is a live recording by the Roadschool Moms team from the back porch and behind the wheel. Holly Giles, the creator of The Giles Frontierbroadcasts from central Florida.  This week, Mary Beth Goff, the Road Trip Teacher is alongside her co-host at The Giles Frontier for a little time together on the back porch the day after Pioneer Day at the Giles Frontier. They reminisce about the laughter and simplicity of the event. The word of the day was joy! 

We can learn many lessons from Laura. Mary Beth, Laura’s biggest fan, has a saying, “What would Laura do?”.  Laura Ingalls Wilder was progressive in her thinking. We chose 5 thoughts to share about what can be learned from this celebrated author.

Living Simply

(4:45) ” I am beginning to learn that is is the sweet simple things in life that are the real things after all.” Life doesn’t have to be complicated. We have fallen victim to having to entertain our children which causes the “I’m bored!” syndrome.

Hard Work

(8:10) Teaching alongside our children will give them a greater sense of self and build character. Chores and life skills are a big part of growing up.

“Every job is good if you do your best and work hard, a man who works hard stinks only to those who have nothing to do but smell.”

Family

(10:15) The family was the heart of the pioneer days. They relied on each other for survival, social activities, food, and shelter. A reference and description of the sugaring off party in the first book, Little House in the Big Woods brings thoughts of close family gatherings.

“The true way to live is to enjoy every moment as it passes, and surely it is in the everyday things that the beauty of life lies.”

Mary Beth and Holly get distracted by the chicken channel.

Use What You Have

(17:00) Making do with items around the house or garage can curb the throwaway society mentality. Check out Holly’s back porch chandelier and re-use of a chicken waterer. Although we love convenience at times.

Love

(22:00) “The real things haven’t changed.”  Love never changes, Laura loved big and loved to share her knowledge. Love means family.

(25:55) Mary Beth and Holly reminisce about the pioneer day and how reading the series have had lasting effects in both their homes for many years.

After the Lessons from Laura talk, Mary Beth chats with Hannah Kartegener, one of the guests at pioneer days.

This episode was inspired by Pioneer Day which was based on the unit study, Prairie Life by Holly Giles. 

Kimberly joined us on Pioneer Day. It was lovely to watch her play with her children and catch up on what is next for her and her family.  She is excited about the new adventures for Roadschool Moms and we shared many hugs before she hit the trail heading north.

Coming Up

This episode kicks off the Roadschool Moms Nature Journal series that easily and quickly help families put together a nature journal and get outside for the best Rx for spring fever. Listen to the weekly podcasts this season for free printables available exclusively to Roadschool Moms listeners. Subscribe for your free copy of the Nature Journal Cover today!

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Homeschool enrollment is on the rise. As a result, more and more families are moving into a home on wheels. Further, the Roadschool Moms record this broadcast to present resources that meet the challenges of today’s roadschooler. These roadschool defined adventures don’t stop there. Holly Giles, founder of The Giles Frontier, and Mary Beth Goff, creator of Road Trip Teacher, team up every week to offer listeners a fresh take on homeschooling from the back porch of your home and behind the wheel across America’s backyard.

Roadschool Moms:  Season 12


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When Will I Be Loved?

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #058, When Will I Be Loved?In “When Will I Be Loved?” Episode #058, Meredith Curtis addresses the longings of our heart to be loved, especially during the teen years. All of us long to be loved by that special someone. Where is that special someone and when will he/she come into my life? And why is that desperation there in the first place? Meredith speaks straight to your hearts, revealing the Lord’s purpose in placing those desires inside you.

 

 

 

 


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 Notes

Linda Rondstandt Song “When Will I be Loved?”

I’ve been cheated, been mistreated
When will I be loved

I’ve been put down, I’ve been pushed ’round
When will I be loved

When I find a new man that I want for mine
Always breaks my heart in two, it happens every time

I’ve been made blue, I’ve been lied to
When will I be loved

The Longing in Our Hearts to be Loved

Where does that longing come from? What kind of love do we long for? We think it is romantic love we long for but we see so many broken marriages.

The Romantic Fairy-Tale: Aunt Matilda, Hollywood, Action Movies, Rom Coms,

Let’s Renew our Mind about Romantic Love. (Romans 12:1-3)

What does the Bible say about Marriage (Genesis 1:27 & Genesis 2:20-25 & Malachi 2:14-16 & Ephesians 5:21-33)?

The Purpose of Marriage: A Team on a Mission from God

If we find the perfect marriage: is that enough?

The One Who Loves Us

Jesus loves us with an everlasting love.

Jesus doesn’t ever get frustrated with us.

Jesus has prepared a beautiful place for us in Heaven.

Jesus doesn’t grow tired of us. He always tells the truth, always forgives, always teaches us, always has our best interest at heart.

Jesus is working all things together for good in our lives. He is working in us to will and to act according to his good purpose.

Men & Woman who Gave up Marriage for the One Who Love Us:

Apostle Paul, met Jesus on the road to Damascus, passionate to reach the Gentiles, died a martyr’s death.

Lottie Moon, Southern belle missionary to China, gave away all her resources to the Chinese when facing plague, famine, and war, Refused to marry a man who didn’t believe in Creation.

Without Jesus

Love fades away. We grow tired of one another. We hurt one another. We are not satisfied because the other person can’t meet all our needs.

When Will I Be Loved?

It is the devil who lies and cheats and misleads us with wrong information and dreams.

When are you loved????? NOW!

How can we prepare for marriage?

  1. Love Jesus first now and always J
  2. Pray for a spouse (James 4 J ) Pray for your partner in the team on a mission
  3. Prepare to be a good husband or wife in practical ways J

 

When Will I Be Loved?

Who is Your Tribe and What is Your Scheduling Vibe?

Who Is Your Tribe and What Is Your Scheduling Vibe? With The Real Kathy LeeOn this week’s show, I ramble… in a parking lot…in Albany, NY. Yesterday afternoon I got a call saying that one of my oldest son’s was being transferred by ambulance to a hospital forty-five minutes from his university campus. When you get that kind of call, you immediately book a flight to Albany, NY (even if you know that it is freaking freezing cold there). A short 2 ½ hours later, I was on a plane. Times like these remind you that you cannot do it alone. You can’t pick up the kids as planned. You can’t make dinner as planned. You can’t go to the appointment with your child as planned. You need your tribe. This time, my precious husband picked up most of the balls I would be dropping; he had landed from a business trip five minutes before I received that phone call.  He is part of my tribe. The other members in my tribe bombarded my phone with calls/texts offering to help with the kids, the dogs, and the business. I am blessed to have a tight tribe. They are a small group of women who have been there, no matter what. Do you have such a group? If you do, say out loud… I AM BLESSED. If you do not, find one!

Originally, I was planning to answer a couple of questions about scheduling and lack of interests in activities. I do mention both of those things on today’s show, in a rambling kind of way. Honestly, my mind was on my family today. Hopefully, you can make sense of my rambling and be encouraged on your journey of motherhood.

Guess what? I know you don’t have it together and you know that I don’t have it together. You know what else? NO ONE has it all together. Let’s rest in that and be thankful that in spite of our shortcomings, we LOVE our families fiercely and are raising up a beautiful group of future hot messes.

 

Have a great week!! Celebrate your TRIBE!

 

 

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Ready to Lead?

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #056, Ready to Lead?In Ready to Lead? With Meredith Curtis, Episode #056, teens and their parents are challenged to heed God’s call to His people to rise up and lead! The world is crying out to see authentic leaders who lead with love and integrity. How can lead in a way that will earn the respect of others and win the favor of God. You can influence and inspire others no matter how young or old you are.

 


 

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Show Notes

Josh is filling out his college application. He is asked to list his leadership positions, as well as any awards, achievements, and honors.

People are Looking for Leaders

Colleges are looking for leaders.

Employers are looking for leaders.

Young people, old people; everyone wants a leader they can trust.

An Unlikely Leader

Tim was a young Christian leader whose Mom was a believer, but father was not. He was sent to a famous Greek city to choose elders for the brand new church there.

He had God’s anointing, but still he struggled with fear.

For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. So do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord or of me his prisoner. Rather, join with me in suffering for the gospel, by the power of God. (II Timothy 1:6-8 NASB)

Another Young Leader

Dan was kidnapped from his hometown. He had to start a new life without his parents, temple teachers, or brothers and sisters. He did have some friends who loved God, too.

The place Dan was taken to was horrible, full of sin and idolatry.

Dan refused to compromise. Would this close the door on leadership?

But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way. (Daniel 1:8 NASB)

To these four young men God gave knowledge and understanding of all kinds of literature and learning. And Daniel could understand visions and dreams of all kinds. (Daniel 1: 17 NASB).

What is a Leader anyway?

A leader influences, challenges, and gives direction to his followers. A leader is someone that people follow.

The world is filled with some good leaders and many bad leaders.

In the world, leaders are up on a pedestal.

God’s Kingdom is an upside-down Kingdom. Leaders serve and lay down their lives just like Jesus did.

Leadership is Stewardship

All authority belongs to God

All responsibility belongs to God

He delegates responsibility to people and gives them enough authority to get the job done.

What authority isn’t for …

What authority is for …

What Does a Leader Do?

Leaders teach, instruct, and give advice.

Leaders get a job, task, or project done with a team of people.

Leaders care for people and help them through difficult times.

Leaders inspire and motivate people to do their best, to work hard, to stay loyal.

Leaders set an example for others to follow.

God’s Qualifications for Leadership

God has a plan to build His Kingdom, His Church, spread His glory as the waters cover the sea. There needs to be leaders to mobilize and lead the people.

God’s Qualifications for Men

Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him (I Timothy 3:2-4 NASB).

God’s Qualifications for Women

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,  to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. (Titus 2:3-5 NASB)

Can Anyone Meet those Qualifications?

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.  I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing! (Galatians 2:20-21).

How Can you Lead Right Now?

Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. (Luke 16:10)

Faithful in Little; Faithful in Much.

Look for opportunities to serve, to lead in your home, church, job, and community.

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A Christmas to Remember

ChristmasrememberedA Christmas to Remember

Podcast #40

In this episode, Florida Parent Educators Association’s (FPEA) Chairwoman, Suzanne Nunn talks about the importance of passing on family traditions. Why it’s important to remember where our family traditions came from. This season, spend some time looking back on your family traditions and maybe create some of your own. It will be a special season of creating and remembering. Make this a Christmas to Remember.

Please join us as we travel along this journey on our podcast adventure. Let’s get connected! Learn more about the Florida Parent Educator’s Association and homeschooling in the beautiful state of Florida.

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Unplug the Christmas Machine – Pt 2

Carol Topp, Homeschool CPA, continues unplugging Christmas by explaining the 4 things children really want for Christmas: Children want realistic expectations about Christmas gifts and children also want an even pace to the holidays. Carol shares tips how to do that. Her ideas come from a book she read 20 years called Unplug the Christmas Machine. This was originally broadcast in 2014, but worth repeating!

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