I Love Homeschooling, But I’ll Tell You Its Flaws

📚 Part of our guide: How to Start Homeschooling

This is one of Homeschooling IRL’s more honest, “hot potato” conversations. Fletch and Kendra interview a guest whose beliefs and choices differ from their own and from many listeners’ — not to endorse, but to model gracious, open dialogue. As they put it, when your identity is anchored in Christ, you can listen to anything without fear.

Special Replay: The Flaws and Benefits of Homeschooling
Homeschooling IRL — Episode 15 | Updated replay for 2026

From the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network. This episode is a special replay, updated for 2026. In it, veteran homeschooling parents Fletch and Kendra sit down with homeschool graduate Matthew Mason for one of their most-talked-about conversations — an honest, gracious look at the good, the hard, and the complicated of growing up in the Christian homeschool world.

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About This Episode

Matthew Mason is a homeschool graduate and a longtime friend of Fletch and Kendra’s family. Homeschooled K–12 and adopted before birth by a pro-life activist mother, Matthew grew up inside what he calls “the bubble” — a reformed, close-knit Christian homeschool community. As a young adult he came out as gay, left that community, and began searching for truth on his own terms. In this candid studio interview, he reflects on what homeschooling gave him and where it fell short.

Together they dig into the questions a lot of homeschool families are afraid to ask: What do we do when a child walks away from the faith or the lifestyle they were raised in? How do we love well when we disagree deeply? And how do we keep our hope anchored in Christ rather than in our parenting?

What Fletch & Kendra Talk About

  • The fear of raising a “prodigal” — and why hope shouldn’t rest in your parenting or results
  • “Hope shifting”: where homeschool parents quietly place their trust
  • Matthew’s story: adoption, the pro-life movement, speech competitions, and leaving the bubble
  • The pros of homeschooling — a tailored, interactive education from the person who knows the child best
  • The flaws — filtered books and music, a single worldview, and kids who never learn to think for themselves
  • How the church and homeschool community can respond with compassion instead of rejection
  • Listening to your kids — really listening — and keeping the lines of communication open

A Listener Note

This is one of Homeschooling IRL’s more honest, “hot potato” conversations. Fletch and Kendra interview a guest whose beliefs and choices differ from their own and from many listeners’ — not to endorse, but to model gracious, open dialogue. As they put it, when your identity is anchored in Christ, you can listen to anything without fear.

More From Homeschooling IRL

If this episode resonated, here are other Homeschooling IRL conversations referenced in it:

  • Love in the House — with Chris Jube, on a large homeschool family that decided to “figure out the love thing.”
  • How to Raise a Pagan Kid in a Christian Home (Ep. 13) — with Barrett & Jennifer Johnson.
  • Homeschooling Will Save Your Children — the two-part series on where our hope for our kids really belongs.
  • How Do I Talk to My Kids About Sex? (Ep. 16) — the follow-up episode, again featuring Barrett & Jennifer Johnson on their book The Talks.

More Shows on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network

There’s a homeschool podcast for everyone on the network. A few you may enjoy:

Browse the full lineup at ultimateradioshow.com.

Connect With Homeschooling IRL

The Homeschooling IRL podcast is a production of the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network. This 2026 replay is sponsored by CTC Math.

How to Raise a Pagan Kid in a Christian Home (Replay)

In this episode, Fletch and Kendra sit down with Barrett and Jennifer Johnson to talk about how Christian families (especially homeschool families) can unintentionally raise kids who know the rules—but don’t know grace.How to Raise a Pagan Kid in a Christian Home

(with Barrett & Jennifer Johnson)

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Episode Snapshot

What happens when “good behavior” gets mistaken for gospel transformation? In this episode, Fletch and Kendra sit down with Barrett and Jennifer Johnson to talk about how Christian families (especially homeschool families) can unintentionally raise kids who know the rules—but don’t know grace. They unpack legalism, “recipe parenting,” identity, and what it looks like to shepherd kids toward Jesus instead of toward performance. ✨

This is a replay of an earlier broadcast and links and events mentioned in the podcast have been updated in the show notes.


In This Episode, You’ll Hear About…

  • Why legalism and moralism can quietly “check God out of the equation”

  • The viral blog post: How to Raise a Pagan Kid in a Christian Home

  • The difference between raising well-behaved kids and raising kids who understand grace

  • The trap of recipe parenting and the myth of “perfect outcomes”

  • Moral Therapeutic Deism and why it resonates with many Christian families

  • Homeschool pressure: when kids become a reflection of the parent’s identity

  • “Shepherding a Child’s Heart” (what’s good, what can go sideways)

  • Helping kids engage the world with discernment instead of fear

  • Why kids need space to ask questions and wrestle with faith

  • What dads need to hear: modeling humility, confession, and relationship

Guest Spotlight: Barrett & Jennifer Johnson

Barrett & Jennifer Johnson share their family story, ministry background, and what led Barrett to write the viral post that sparked this episode.

About the Johnsons:

  • Live in Atlanta (after moving from Texas)

  • Married 23 years

  • Parents of five kids, including a sweet adoption story with an open adoption relationship

  • Barrett runs INFO for Families (Imperfect & Normal Families Only)

Barrett shares how the post went viral:

  • 150,000 views in 5–6 days

  • 500,000+ views in the first month

Big Takeaways

  • Christianity isn’t primarily about “being good.” It’s about Jesus.

  • Kids can learn rules without learning grace.

  • Homeschool culture can unintentionally encourage identity-driven parenting (“Don’t embarrass me.”)

  • The goal isn’t to “have your kids’ hearts”—it’s to point their hearts to Christ.

  • Parents modeling confession (“I was wrong. Forgive me.”) matters more than image management.

  • Dads play a powerful role when they lead with love + relationship, not distance + pressure.

Encouragement for Dads (Don’t Skip This 👇)

Barrett speaks directly to fathers about being the “lead confessor” in the home:

  • Don’t confuse leadership with being harsh or distant

  • High standards without grace create discouragement and disconnect

  • Kids are more likely to listen to someone they like and trust

  • Model repentance, humility, tenderness, and truth

Jennifer adds what mattered most in their homeschool years:

  • Being united as a team

  • Dad reinforcing mom’s work and providing “buck stops here” support

  • Emotional encouragement—because homeschooling can feel thankless


Links & Resources Mentioned

Barrett & Jennifer Johnson’s Blog: INFO for Families

  • infoforfamilies.com (also referenced as INFO4Families)

  • Search Facebook for their INFO for Families page

(Fletch mentions adding links in the show notes to Christian Smith, “Soul Searching,” and “Christless Christianity.”)



Listener Shoutout 🎉

A special shoutout to Rebecca, who listens while exercising early in the morning. 🙌


Production Note:
Homeschooling in Real Life is a production of the Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network. For more info, to contact the hosts, or to connect on social media, visit UltimateRadioShow.com

Special Replay: HomeschoolingIRL Episode 6: I’m Thinking About Homeschooling, But…

📚 Part of our guide: How to Start Homeschooling

Thinking about homeschooling but have reservations? Let's address them!

Thinking about homeschooling? Have a friend who is?

 Are you thinking about homeschooling? On this episode of Homeschooling IRL, we’ll answer your burning questions about homeschooling, such as, “Will my kids have to raise their hands to ask to go to the bathroom?”, “What about the prom?”, and “Who gets to be the lunch lady?”
Just kiddin’. We’ve polled moms and dads who are thinking about homeschooling and asked them what concerns them most. We didn’t prompt or suggest their comments, and you just might find yourself relating to what they have to say.
When told they fear burnout, kids who turn out wacky, and their own academic shortcomings, we responded with honesty and transparency with some good old-fashioned humor and self-deprecation mixed in. This is the stuff of real life!

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Thinking About Homeschooling Show Notes:

Summary of Thinking About Homeschooling

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0:00

Intro to homeschooling in real life.

1:19

It takes a lot of time and commitment.

6:25

The reality of homeschooling in real life.

11:50

I don’t know if I can do this right.

21:06

Why science is hard to homeschool?

23:30

Q and A with Candy.

29:27

What do you mean by socialization?

34:00

How to bring Jesus into your home?

39:52

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Special Replay: What To Do About Sibling Relationships?

Sibling relationships. Sibling rivalries. Siblings fighting. We put out the question to our listeners and they responded with story after story of siblings who know how to tease, fight and use sarcasm like professionals.Special Replay:  We received a message on the HomeschoolingIRL Facebook page that said, “Please, please, please do an episode on siblings fighting. Thanks!”

Sibling relationships. Sibling rivalries. Siblings fighting. We put out the question to our listeners and they responded with story after story of siblings who know how to tease, fight and use sarcasm like professionals.

On this episode, we dig into the topic of parenting through sibling relationships in your homeschool. Fletch and Kendra open up about their own family and share practical advice for handling those tricky, sticky moments when brothers and sisters want to be anything but best friends. We also announce our coffee contest winner and we each answer the question: “What Ben/Jerry’s ice cream flavor would you create and what would you call it?”

Music clips used on this show:

“George Street Shuffle” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0
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Thank You to our Network Sponsor – CTC Math!

 

Back to School (Replay)

Back to School , a Homeschooling IRL podcast on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast NetworkAre you starting your school year?  In this Best of HIRL, we gather around the teacher’s lounge and gear up for another year of teaching our kids at home.

When this episode first ran, Fletch and Kendra were starting their 19th year of homeschooling with a bang and letting you in on the fun. In this episode, they also imparted 5 questions to ask yourself as you head back to school this year.

Join us and let’s get the school year rolling!

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SHOW NOTES to Back to School:

Episode Title: Back to School: Starting a New Homeschool Year

Podcast: HomeschoolingIRL on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network

Introduction:
In this “Best of” episode of HomeschoolingIRL on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network, hosts Fletch and Kendra gather around the virtual teacher’s lounge to kick off another exciting year of homeschooling. With the start of their 19th year of homeschooling, they share their enthusiasm and insights for a successful year ahead.

Episode Highlights:
– The hosts, Fletch and Kendra, share their experiences and excitement as they embark on their 19th year of homeschooling.
– Listeners get a glimpse into the hosts’ homeschooling journey and the growth they’ve witnessed over the years.
– Fletch and Kendra discuss their approach to starting the new homeschool year with energy and enthusiasm.
– The hosts introduce 5 thought-provoking questions to help homeschooling parents reflect and prepare for the upcoming school year.

Main Discussion: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Starting the New School Year:
1. **What Are Your Goals?** – The hosts encourage parents to define their goals for the upcoming year. Whether it’s academic achievements, character development, or fostering specific skills, having clear goals can guide the homeschooling journey.

2. What Worked Last Year? – Reflecting on the previous year’s successes and challenges helps parents identify what teaching methods, curriculum, and routines were effective. This reflection can inform decisions for the new year.

3. What Needs Improvement? – Fletch and Kendra suggest addressing areas that might need improvement. Whether it’s time management, organization, or addressing specific subjects, being honest about weaknesses can lead to growth.

4. How Can You Make Learning Engaging? – The hosts emphasize the importance of making learning enjoyable and engaging for both parents and students. They discuss creative ideas to spark curiosity and excitement in the learning process.

5. How Will You Take Care of Yourself? – Fletch and Kendra stress the significance of self-care for homeschooling parents. Balancing responsibilities and personal well-being contributes to a healthier homeschooling environment.

Conclusion:

As the hosts gear up for their 19th year of homeschooling, they inspire listeners to approach the new school year with intention, excitement, and a commitment to growth. By addressing the provided questions, parents can lay a strong foundation for a successful and fulfilling homeschooling journey.

For more insights and tips on starting a new homeschool year with enthusiasm and purpose, tune in to this “Best of” episode of HomeschoolingIRL on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network.

**Resources Mentioned:**
– [Any relevant resources or links mentioned during the episode]

**Disclaimer:**
The information and opinions shared in this podcast episode are for informational purposes only. Listeners are encouraged to seek professional advice and do their own research before making any educational decisions.

*Please note that the above show notes are a creative representation and should be reviewed, revised, or modified as per your specific requirements and the actual content of the episode.*

Recommended Resources:
None

Follow Fletch/Kendra:
Fletch Twitter
Kendra Twitter

Follow the Studio Dogs:
Betty the Surf Dog – Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Website
Rasta The Chocolate Lab – Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Website

Previous Episodes Mentioned:
None

Music clips used on this episode:
What Did You Learn In School Today? by Pete Seeger – Buy It Here On iTunes

 

 



HomeschoolingIRL Episode 4: Homeschooling Will Save Your Kids, Part One

Homeschooling Will Save Your KidsHomeschooling Will Save Your Kids?

Sponsored by CTCMath.com

Most of us won’t say outright that we think homeschooling will save your kids, but many of us pack this idea in the back of our minds: if we only do it right, our kids will turn out to be good, godly adults.

Is that true? Can we trust that homeschooling will save your kids?

On this episode, we share our own homeschool journey, where we think we got it right, where we know we got it wrong, and then we’ll bring some levity to the whole show by recommending some things we love and a new segment called “Q and A with K and A.”

 Join us for Homeschooling IRL Episode #4, where we peel back the layers of our own hearts and expose the areas where we may be relying on our own good works to deliver our kids to the finish line.

 

SHOW NOTES: EPISODE 4 – HOMESCHOOLING WILL SAVE YOUR CHILDREN, PART 1

 

 

Join Fletch (from theMangoTimes) and Kendra (from Preschoolers and Peace) podcast every two weeks as they interview guests and talk through some of the goofiness they have experienced in nearly two decades of Homeschooling In Real Life.

 

Talking With Kids About Tragedy – Special Replay

Talking to Your Kids About Tragedy

Talking with Kids About Tragedy

Tragedy. In terms of media and social media, tragedy has become a staple of our daily diet. The world seems to be going crazy and the news is full of stories that are difficult for kids to process and understand. How do we talk to our children about race issues, murder, terrorism, and other tragic current events? 

On this episode, we dive right into modern events and take on the headlines of the day. We discuss ages and appropriateness of content and conversation, how to address our children’s fears, and of course how to bring the gospel into every conversation.

 


Special Thanks to our Network Sponsor!

CTC Math.


Special Replay | Can Your Homeschooler Go To College – HIRL Episode 27

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Can Your Homeschooler Go To College?

The answer to this question is obvious: we all know that homeschoolers can go to college!

This episode is brought to you by CTCMath.com – a wonderful math curriculum for all of your homeschool needs, or to brush up on new skills.

On this episode of Homeschooling In Real Life, Fletch and Kendra get real and challenge their listeners to join them in a difficult discussion about fear and trusting God as they contemplate sending their children onto higher education.

Along the way, they sit down with two college admissions counselor. They ask them to share the experiences they have had when homeschoolers apply to college. How are we doing when it comes to academic preparedness, pride and preparing our kids for college?

Finally, Fletch and Kendra wrap up their show with a special edition of the HIRLer’s Treasure Chest. Tune in to see what these two are recommending for you now!

 

Homeschool College Success

Not only can homeschoolers go to college, they can succeed when they are there. Time and again, we have seen the statistics. There are a wide variety of college prep opportunities for homeschool kids.

Episode Timeline

03:45 – Fletch/Kenj talk begins the discussion about parenting from a place of fear.
15:13 – Grand Canyon University Admission reps Nick Chandler, and Carrie Fox-Buttram joins the discussion.
45:29 – HIRL’ers Treasure Chest


 

Join Fletch (from theMangoTimes) and Kendra (from Preschoolers and Peace) for the HomeschoolingIRL podcast every two weeks as they interview guests and talk through some of the goofiness they have experienced in nearly two decades of Homeschooling In Real Life.


Enjoy This Podcast? Listen in to more:

MBFLP 94 – Choosing A College

College Prep Genius Introduction

Affording College – HIRL Episode 126 (Replay)

Affording College | special podcast by HIRL sponsored by CTC mathWhen our students hope to go to college, the perennial question remains: how in the world will they pay for it? We decided to return to the topic of affording college with College Prep Genius Jean Burk because we know she has valuable information to share.

We think you’ll be encouraged and feel equipped as you help your college-bound student get the education they are pursuing!

Affording College EPISODE TIMELINE

1:32 – Fluff : Discussion on tragedy, college visits, real life. 
8:01 – Interview with Jean Burk, Part 1
25:43 – Interview with Jean Burk, Part 2
34:30 – Goodbye! The Show Is Over!


SHOW NOTES:

Recommended Resources:
College Prep Genius

Follow Fletch/Kendra:
Fletch Twitter
Kendra Twitter

Follow the Studio Dogs:
Betty the Surf Dog – Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Website
Rasta The Chocolate Lab – Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Website

Previous Episodes Mentioned:
None

Music clips used on this episode:
None


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Join Fletch (from theMangoTimes) and Kendra (from Preschoolers and Peace and KendraFletcher.com) for the HomeschoolingIRL podcast every week as they interview guests and talk through some of the goofiness they have experienced in nearly two decades.

Special Replay: How Do I Make Homeschooling Fun?

on Homeschool IRL, Fletch and Kendra answer a question submitted from a listener, "How Can I Make My Homeschool Fun?"On today’s episode of Homeschooling In Real Life,  Martha called in to ask, “How Do I Make My Homeschool Fun?” We loved this question, so both Fletch and Kendra take a stab at answering. As you have come to expect, their answers line up perfectly with the “have to” parent and the “get to” parent.  Tune in to make your homeschool fun!

 

For the next few months, we will be running a “Best of” series of the Homeschooling IRL episodes. Many of these episodes were earlier episodes that you might have missed. Enjoy!


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