Sweet 13 Bonus: Boys Who Will Not Sit Still

Making Biblical Family Life Practical | Sweet 13 Bonus episode

Hal and Melanie have been on this network since nearly the beginning. Felice met them on the conference circuit, asked if they would podcast, and they said yes — and they are still here thirteen years later.

For the network’s birthday, every host answers one question a real homeschool mom actually asked. This is that episode.

Their question: “Your boys will not sit still, and you are out of ideas.”

You know the answer if you have been listening a while, but it never stops being true: boys need to move, and the research backs it up. When they use their big muscle groups, they actually learn better. The clip comes from Boy-Friendly Homeschooling — go hear the whole thing if the mini-trampoline idea catches you.

Also in this episode: Felice Gerwitz on whether to homeschool at all · Dr. Melanie Wilson on why you are already behind · the 7Sisters on the high school transcript · Sue Myers on a fever and a two-year-old · Meryl van der Merwe on teenagers and AI · Meredith Curtis on getting the joy back · Lisa Nehring on life skills before they launch.

🎂 The Sweet 13 Giveaway is open. More than $1,500 in prizes, four drawings across October, and a free party favor for everyone who enters. Enter at ultimateradioshow.com/sweet-13 — October 1 through 29. No purchase necessary, US residents 18+, official rules here.

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Boys and Noise: Managing a Houseful of Energetic Boys

oin Hal and Melanie as they discuss boys and noise. Find practical advice for navigating the noise in your home life.

Encore presentation from the MBFLP archives — a listener favorite worth hearing again. Sponsored by CTCMath.com

Boys and Noise: Managing a Houseful of Energetic Boys

“Got boys? Then probably, you’ve got noise!” This week Hal and Melanie Young open up an email from a desperate homeschooling mom of four boys, all eight and under — two quiet, peace-loving firstborn parents completely overwhelmed by the volume, the wrestling, and the endless bickering. As parents of six boys themselves, Hal and Melanie have been exactly there, and they walk through what actually helps.

The heart of it: boys are noisy, active, and energetic by God’s design — and noise is not the same thing as sin. Your job isn’t to turn your boys into quiet little girls; it’s to train them to know when to let it rip and when to put a cork on it, to stop the meanness without crushing the energy, and to keep your home a safe harbor for everyone in it.

In this episode:

  • Why “one boy plus one boy” equals way more than two boys’ worth of noise
  • Boys, power, and impact — the God-given wiring behind all that energy
  • Teaching self-control: inside/outside voices, “commando quiet,” and the Silent Ship game
  • Burning energy on purpose — outdoor time and mid-day movement (and why large-muscle activity actually helps boys learn)
  • The bickering: kids are born sinners, so media limits help but the heart is the real issue
  • “The wrath of man works not the righteousness of God” — why losing your temper never motivates, and how raising your voice differs from losing it
  • The “knock it off” rule: rough-and-tumble is fine, but stop means stop — or you’re a bully
  • Home as a safe harbor: no name-calling, no sowing discord among brothers (Proverbs 6)
  • Why sibling competition is unfair across wide age gaps — and how to raise a “hero” big brother instead of a bully
  • The long payoff: the brotherly friendship you build now pays off hugely in adulthood

Chapters:

  • 0:00 — Intro & welcome
  • 1:16 — The topic: boys and noise
  • 1:51 — A desperate mom’s email: four boys, eight and under
  • 3:23 — “We’ve been there” — Hal & Melanie’s six boys
  • 5:00 — Why boys are so loud (and why some are louder than others)
  • 7:17 — Power, impact, and God’s design for boys
  • 8:36 — Don’t turn your boys into girls — make it livable instead
  • 9:00 — Teaching quiet: ninja/commando, Silent Ship, inside voices
  • 12:43 — Burn the energy: outdoor time, mid-day PE, movement & learning
  • 14:51 — Resources for parents of boys
  • 16:19 — The bickering & nastiness: it’s a heart issue
  • 17:41 — Ground rules: the wrath of man, and voice vs. losing it
  • 19:02 — The “knock it off” rule
  • 20:11 — Home as a safe harbor: names, discord, Proverbs 6
  • 21:47 — Competition, fairness, and raising a hero big brother
  • 24:10 — The long payoff: brotherhood into adulthood
  • 27:20 — Encouragement: it takes consistency, and it will get better

A few lines worth remembering:

“Being noisy is not necessarily a sin. It’s not necessarily something you need to punish — but it is something that needs training.”

“The wrath of man works not the righteousness of God. When I yell, when I lose it, it does not motivate them one bit.”

“Whatever’s out there in the world, when you come home you should be completely safe.”

About the hosts: Hal and Melanie Young are the parents of six boys (and more) and the authors and speakers behind Raising Real Men. Find more of their work at halandmelanie.com.

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Boy-Friendly Homeschooling: How to Help Boys Thrive in Learning

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Boy-friendly homeschooling

Boy-Friendly Homeschooling

In this episode of Making Biblical Family Life Practical, Raising Real Men founders Hal and Melanie Young share practical, encouraging strategies for homeschooling boys in a way that works with their design—not against it.

If you’ve ever wondered why your son struggles to sit still, resist worksheets, or stay focused… this conversation will feel like a breath of fresh air.

We had six boys, one after another, and thought our family’s sort of crazy was just normal life. Then people who had girls first started asking, “How in the world do you manage to homeschool all those boys?” The fact is, they are very different from their sisters – and from the moms who teach them both. This episode, we look at some basic principles we’ve learned about creating a homeschool that works with boys as they are rather than struggling to fit them into a less boyish mold.

Sponsored by CTCMath.com

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What You’ll Learn in This Episode

  • Why boys and girls learn differently—and why that matters
  • How to create a boy-friendly learning environment
  • The importance of movement, competition, and hands-on learning
  • What to do when your son struggles with reading, writing, or focus
  • How to navigate middle school “brain remodeling” years
  • Why high school is often when boys finally thrive academically
  • The powerful role of discipleship over academics

Key Takeaways for Homeschooling Boys

1. Boys Learn Best Through Movement

Boys often need physical activity to stay engaged. Sitting still too long can actually prevent learning.

Try:

  • Short movement breaks (jumping, running, trampoline)
  • Standing desks or whiteboards
  • Learning while walking or doing hands-on activities

2. The Environment Matters

A typical “cozy classroom” setup may not work.

Boys often prefer:

  • Bright lighting
  • Cooler temperatures
  • Active, engaging interaction

3. Delay Writing, Emphasize Learning

Fine motor skills develop later in boys.

Instead of pushing worksheets early:

  • Focus on reading, listening, and discussion
  • Use hands-on learning and storytelling
  • Reduce frustration by meeting developmental readiness

4. Competition Can Be a Tool (Not a Problem)

Healthy competition motivates many boys.

Ideas:

  • Beat-the-clock challenges
  • Competing against their own previous scores
  • Simple rewards for improvement

5. Middle School Is a Transition—Not Failure

During puberty, boys experience brain restructuring that impacts learning.

Expect:

  • Decreased focus
  • Slower progress
  • Need for more support

Respond with:

  • Encouragement (not comparison)
  • Extra guidance
  • Patience

6. High School Is Often the Breakthrough

Many boys who struggle earlier:
➡️ Become independent learners
➡️ Excel academically
➡️ Develop deeper thinking skills

Don’t panic in the earlier years—growth is coming.

7. Discipleship Is the Real Goal

Homeschooling isn’t just about academics.

It’s about:

  • Walking through life together
  • Modeling faith and character
  • Building strong relationships

“Education” in Scripture is far more about discipleship than curriculum.

 Practical Tips You Can Use Today

  • Let your son move while learning (yes—even upside down on the couch 😄)
  • Read aloud often—don’t rely only on independent work
  • Add real-life skills (cooking, building, chores)
  • Adjust expectations for writing and fine motor tasks
  • Focus on connection over performance

Resources Mentioned

  • Raising Real Men book
  • Homeschool support for struggling learners
  • Dyslexia resources and encouragement
  • Newsletter and freebies at Raising Real Men

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Quick Answers

How should boys be taught differently in homeschooling?
Boys often learn best through movement, hands-on activities, and active engagement rather than passive instruction.

Why do boys struggle with writing early on?
Their fine motor skills typically develop later than girls, making early writing tasks frustrating.

Is it normal for boys to fall behind in middle school?
Yes. Many experience a developmental phase that temporarily impacts focus and performance.

When do boys typically excel academically?
Often in high school, when abstract thinking and maturity catch up.


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How to Motivate Boys to Write – MBFLP 250

Motivating Boys to Write (Replay)

Episode 250 | Making Biblical Family Life Practical

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Does your son hate writing?

If every writing assignment turns into frustration, avoidance, or even tears—you’re not alone.

This episode will help you understand why boys struggle with writing—and what actually works.

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If you’re homeschooling a boy (or just helping your son with his homework!) you’ve probably seen his frustration about writing. Yet the ability to put thoughts into words and words onto paper is a crucial skill for life and career. How can you get past his natural hesitation and open up that channel for communication? This episode we talk about some of the reasons why your boy may hate to write, and then, practical ways to overcome those hurdles!

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If you’re raising and homeschooling boys, these episodes will help:

This Episode Is Especially Helpful If:

  • your son avoids writing
  • handwriting slows him down
  • he has great ideas but won’t put them on paper
  • writing turns into daily frustration
  • you feel stuck teaching writing

How do you get your boys to write — without daily battles?

In this practical episode, Hal and Melanie share encouragement and actionable strategies to help boys develop confidence and skill in writing. Whether your son struggles with handwriting, hates blank pages, or simply resists writing assignments, this conversation will help you rethink your approach and give you tools that work.

The Breakthrough Most Parents Miss

Handwriting is NOT the same as writing.

If writing is physically exhausting, your child can’t focus on ideas.

Try this instead:

  • Let them dictate
  • Use typing instead of handwriting
  • Try speech-to-text
  • Focus on ideas first, mechanics later

 Motivate Through Interest

Writing becomes easier when it connects to what they already love.

Instead of generic prompts, try:

  • Birds of prey

  • Military history

  • Race cars

  • Engineering

  • Survival skills

  • Science topics

  • Personal hobbies

If they’re already thinking about it, they’re halfway to writing about it.

 Use Competition

Boys often respond well to:

  • Writing contests

  • Timed challenges

  • Friendly sibling competitions

  • Submissions to magazines or local contests

Even reluctant writers may engage when there’s a challenge involved.

 Practical Writing Assignments

Nonfiction and real-life writing can be especially motivating:

  • Write an email to inquire about a purchase

  • Draft a thank-you note

  • Research and explain how something works

  • Write instructions

  • Explain a process

  • Compare tools, gear, or equipment

When writing has purpose, it feels valuable.

 Teach Brainstorming the Right Way

Instead of starting with a formal outline, begin with a content web (also called a mind map).

How it works:

  1. Put the topic in the center.

  2. Add related ideas in circles around it.

  3. Connect subpoints.

  4. Let ideas flow freely before organizing.

This method:

  • Matches how the brain naturally works

  • Reduces pressure

  • Encourages creativity

  • Makes organization easier later

Once ideas are visible, structure emerges naturally.

Teach a Simple Writing Formula

Structure reduces stress.

Start with a simple paragraph formula:

  1. Introduction sentence

  2. Point #1 + evidence

  3. Point #2 + evidence

  4. Point #3 + evidence

  5. Conclusion sentence

This easily grows into:

  • A 3-paragraph essay

  • A 5-paragraph essay

  • Larger structured papers

Once they master structure, creativity can expand.

Don’t Forget Research Skills

Teach early:

  • Copy and paste URLs while researching

  • Keep a running list of sources

  • Use tools like EasyBib to format citations

  • Learn basic bibliography skills

This prevents stress later in high school and college — and builds real academic strength.

Why Writing Matters (Even for Engineers)

Strong writing:

  • Opens doors professionally

  • Helps explain technical ideas

  • Wins funding and support

  • Communicates complex thoughts clearly

  • Builds leadership skills

Writing isn’t just an English skill — it’s a life skill.

❤️ Encouragement for Parents

You can teach your boys to love writing.

It may take:

  • Dictation

  • Different prompts

  • Practical assignments

  • Competitions

  • Patience

  • Creative brainstorming

But growth happens.

One son who once struggled with writing is now working on his doctoral dissertation — and loving the process.

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Motivating Boys to Write – MBFLP 250

If you’re homeschooling a boy (or just helping your son with his homework!) you’ve probably seen his frustration about writing. Yet the ability to put thoughts into words and words onto paper is a crucial skill for life and career. How can you get past his natural hesitation and open up that channel for communication? This episode we talk about some of the reasons why your boy may hate to write, and then, practical ways to overcome those hurdles!

Boy-Friendly Homeschooling – MBFLP 179


We had six boys, one after another, and thought our family’s sort of crazy was just normal life. Then people who had girls first started asking, “How in the world do you manage to homeschool all those boys?” The fact is, they are very different from their sisters – and from the moms who teach them both. This episode, we look at some basic principles we’ve learned about creating a homeschool that works with boys as they are rather than struggling to fit them into a less boyish mold.

Boy-friendly homeschooling

RESOURCES YOU MIGHT APPRECIATE

Our hour-long workshop,

“Ballistic Homeschooling” 

—

Our book, Raising Real Men

Best Shows Replay: Homeschooling Boys: What’s the Difference?

This month while Dr. Melanie Wilson is taking a podcasting break, we’re replaying some of her best shows!  This show, Homeschooling Boys, is her second top show based on number of listens on the podcast channel.  Enjoy!
Homeschooling Boys: Is it Really Different? The Homeschool Sanity Show

I homeschooled boys and only boys until my fifth child was a girl. I asked my Periscope viewers if homeschooling boys was really different. We had an interesting discussion that you can watch at the end of this post. I decided to determine what differences have actually been demonstrated in research. I can’t wait to share with you what I found and how we can make positive changes in our homeschools.

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Links

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RaisingRealMen.com

Spring Activities Challenge.

Reference

Reference

boys’ artwork is more likely to depict action than girls’

19% of elementary and middle school teachers are men.

Boys prefer to read comics and humorous books and students of both genders prefer contemporary books and series.

Boys in all-boy Florida classrooms where teachers have been taught how best to teach boys have improved test scores dramatically. Boys in co-ed classrooms scored 37% proficient on the FCAT while boys in single-sex classrooms scored 86% proficient.

how to find books your child will like

Alex Rider

Ranger’s Apprentice

Girls tend to excel with word problems and boys struggle

free funny writing prompts for fall and winter

Unjournaling

Boys in classroom settings tend to think they are better students than they really are

A world-wide study of 2500 teachers’ suggestions for boys quoted in The Atlantic

Science & the Bible

St. Louis Homeschool Expo April 7-9th

Grammar Galaxy

Pick up your copy of The Organized Homeschool Life

Homeschooling Boys: What’s the Difference?

Homeschooling Boys: Is it Really Different? The Homeschool Sanity Show

I homeschooled boys and only boys until my fifth child was a girl. I asked my Periscope viewers if homeschooling boys was really different. We had an interesting discussion that you can watch at the end of this post. I decided to determine what differences have actually been demonstrated in research. I can’t wait to share with you what I found and how we can make positive changes in our homeschools.

LISTEN ON ITUNES

Links

subscribe to Psychowith6.com

RaisingRealMen.com

Spring Activities Challenge.

Reference

Reference

boys’ artwork is more likely to depict action than girls’

19% of elementary and middle school teachers are men.

Boys prefer to read comics and humorous books and students of both genders prefer contemporary books and series.

Boys in all-boy Florida classrooms where teachers have been taught how best to teach boys have improved test scores dramatically. Boys in co-ed classrooms scored 37% proficient on the FCAT while boys in single-sex classrooms scored 86% proficient.

how to find books your child will like

Alex Rider

Ranger’s Apprentice

Girls tend to excel with word problems and boys struggle

free funny writing prompts for fall and winter

Unjournaling

Boys in classroom settings tend to think they are better students than they really are

A world-wide study of 2500 teachers’ suggestions for boys quoted in The Atlantic

Science & the Bible

St. Louis Homeschool Expo April 7-9th

Grammar Galaxy

Pick up your copy of The Organized Homeschool Life

MBFLP – Homeschooling Boys

Radio Show Homeschooling Boys

Homeschooling is a great option for families with sons because frankly, institutional classrooms are not very friendly to normal, active, distractible young boys. On the other hand, the same traits which make it hard to teach boys in a schoolroom setting can make it challenging at home, too! This week we talk about how boys learn differently, and how you can work with their particular style to make education both effective and enjoyable — for them and for their teacher!