FREE Character Counts Justice Planner

I personally look forward to the new Character Counts Planner and character study that Felice creates for us each month.  We tend to use these studies before we start our homeschool day in the morning. We love how there are always a lot of activities that are great for the whole family to work on together.  This month’s character trait is Justice.

justice character planner text on image of books and hour glass and gavel.

There are many in this world today that want everything to be fair and equal, balanced and just. How do we encourage our children to stand up for what is honorable, just and true without giving up their own rights? It sure is something to think long and hard on in this day and age. As we have all seen with the shut down in many areas of our country, there hasn’t been a lot of justice going on. It is important to teach our children to stand up for what is right. Many of our liberties were taken away in the hopes of staying safe during this time.

In the meantime, how can we teach our children about Justice?

Justice can be taught in several different ways. This planner will cover a few different ways to teach justice and honor.

  1. Being just is also being honorable. When you act justly and right, you are acting in an honorable way. Acting just and being called to justice is following through on God’s plans for us.
  2. Being just is loving your enemies and doing unto others as you would have them do unto others. Talking with our children about being just and honorable will show them that being self-centered is not how things work.Teaching our kids how to play fairly, and include others can help them choose right decisions.
  3. Justice also pertains to the law and rules that are set in place for us. You can dig very deep into this while discussing unjust things in the world, and how laws are put into place to protect and bring about justice. There are also many examples in the media today, where justice needs to be served and isn’t. Or where people are fighting to change things and make them better. These are all great things to discuss and talk about with your children.

What’s in this month’s planner?

The Character Counts planner this month will help you to plan out a 4 week study on the character trait of Justice and Honor. It will help you teach and guide your kids on how to learn how to be just, and live a life of honor. As always, it comes with lots of practical applications. The planning is already done for you, which makes it completely open and go. There is always lots of room for personalization and customization for your children and family too.

Check out what’s inside:

  • Character Quality Family Checklist Worksheet
  • 4 Week Study Guide on Justice/Honor vs. Injustice
  • Analyze and Evaluation Sheets
  • Character Study Worksheets for Kids
  • Character Trait Planning Worksheets
  • Journaling Pages
  • Activity Sheets on the Character Trait of Justice
  • Laws vs. Rules Definitions and Worksheets
  • Printable Quotes and Bible Verses on Justice and Honor
  • Justice Blueprint
  • Family Goals
  • Family Activities that Demonstrate Justice and Honor
  • Certificate of Completion

Our character planners are not dated on purpose!  You can use them at any time.  I like to keep them all together in a character training binder. They would be great to pull 0ut when you are dealing with a certain issue that needs to be focused on.

The directions on how to download your free Character Counts Planner are sent in each weekly ezine. The planner access information is always located at the bottom of each email. If you are not signed up, you can sign up HERE.

 

Why Teaching Manners Matters – MBFLP 214

Why Teaching Manners Matters

Are Manners Important?

In the digital age, when informality and familiarity is the norm in so many places, is it too “old school” to teach manners to your kids? Have we moved past all the old social niceties? Is it unmanly for our boys to be schooled in etiquette? Or is there something important and lasting about manners and courtesy? Where’s the Biblical balance?

Recent events in the news suggest our country is having a breakdown in public manners – when even elected officials are publicly calling for their supporters to be uncivil to opponents, and politicians seem to win praise for how nasty they can be to the other side.

Studies are suggesting that the new generation just starting to graduate from college is so locked into online interaction – text messaging and social media – that they are losing the ability to interact face-to-face, and any awkwardness or difference of opinion is taken as a dangerous, personal attack.

CLICK HERE to read Hal’s review of the fascinating book iGen by Jean Twenge

Should we be concerned? Or is this just the new reality?

Why Teaching Manners Matters

What Do We Mean by “Manners”?

When we say the word “manners” or “etiquette” we might think of questions like, “Which fork do I use first at the banquet?” Actually, though, the concept of manners is much broader than those sorts of details.

Manners are the social conventions that promote peaceful, respectful interaction between people. They’re the way we show consideration toward others, and in many ways, an expression of personal modesty or humility. They’re diplomacy at the one-on-one level.

And we see all of these in the Scripture!

The Bible Says Quite A Lot About Manners

We’ve all heard the Golden Rule – Jesus said, Just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise (Luke 6:31) It’s a call to put ourselves in another person’s place, and then act accordingly. Little children aren’t capable of it, but it’s something that we teach our kids as they grow – think about others!

In Romans 12:10 Paul says we should “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.”(ESV) Our behavior toward others is how we show them honor – the way we speak to them, the way we treat them, the way we speak about them to others. Paul says we should be so concerned to show honor to others, we should make a point to be the best at it.

And Peter says in 1 Peter 3:8, “Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous.” That’s remarkable – Peter says this of the relationships within the church (and remember the church was a brand new thing where Jews and Gentiles were brought into close and equal fellowship – when they had previously seen each other with suspicion or even disgust). He says, “Take these people that you used to ignore or reject, and become united in mind, sensitive and compassionate in heart, and particularly, polite toward one another.”

We can go on and on with this, but the point is, as Christians, we are called to be polite people. It’s a matter of respect and self-control, as well as humility. Good manners are not unmanly or weak – in fact, you might point out to your sons (who may naturally push back at “sissy” rules about courtesy) that some of the greatest leaders of history – men like George Washington and Theodore Roosevelt, commanders whose men would willingly follow them into danger and death, were known for their refined manners in society. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about!

Points to Consider

It’s clear that Christians are supposed to be polite people, but what does that look like?

There are some things which are clearly described and still apply today – such as “You shall rise up before the grey headed and honor the presence of an old man, and fear your God” (Leviticus 19:32) The rule to stand up when an elderly person comes in the room is still good manners! The Fifth Commandment, “Honor your father and your mother,” hasn’t changed since Moses came down from Sinai.

But it’s okay to recognize that many social guidelines are different from one culture to the next. What’s your belief about foot-washing, for instance? Jesus and Paul both made a point about washing the feet of guests as a sign of loving service and hospitality (look at Luke 7:44, John 13:5-14, 1 Timothy 5:10) – but that’s not the way we show hospitality in 21st century America.

The way you address people is a sign of manners or respect that differs from one place to the next. In the Southeast, where we live, it’s expected that children always address adults as Sir or Ma’am, unless they’re special family friends and might be allowed as “Aunt Sue” (not actually a relative), “Sister Sue,” or “Miss Sue” – we’ve heard all these! And yet in other regions, we’ve been politely scolded, “Don’t call me ‘ma’am,’ it makes me feel old!”

What you do with your shoes is a sign of respect in some places. When we visited China, we were told it was not polite to wear street shoes into the house – and it’s not a good practice in many American cities, either. In the Middle East, the bottom of the shoe is considered a filthy thing and an insult if you let yours be seen; you never cross your feet where an Arab might glimpse your soles!

That goes for strangers, too

Manners are not just reserved for friends and relative. Jesus warned us not to stoop to insult and name-calling; in Matthew 5:22, where He said we’re courting trouble (even judgment) if we call someone “Fool!” or “Empty-head!” Yet how often do we jump to heaping mocking insults at public figures on social media? Jude pointed out that even the archangel Michael restrained his words toward Satan, yet we’re quick ignore Paul’s admonition in Titus 3:2 “to speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all men.”

Manners Aren’t Optional — They’re Helpful

Proverbs 20:11 says, “Even a child is known by his deeds, whether what he does is pure and right.” Our kids, just like us, will be judged by those around them, and their manners will be one of the first things that people note. Let’s make a point to teach our kids to handle themselves with respect for others, respect for themselves, and the fear of God – as demonstrated by their courtesy in every situation! Consider than our gentleness and graciousness toward others – even when we feel like they really haven’t “earned” it – is a mark of our own Christian maturity. And that’s a challenge for us as well as our kids.


In Other News

Our book Love, Honor, and Virtue reached #1 in its category on the Amazon Best Seller Ranking this month! If you’re looking for a tool to help your son gain a Biblical attitude about sexuality, check it out at http://www.raisingrealmen.com/lhv/

If you’d like more discussion about teaching manners to boys in particular and pre-teens of both sexes, you might find our books Raising Real Men and No Longer Little helpful, too. You can get both at RaisingRealMen.com

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