Date Night (even when you “can’t”) – MBFLP 215

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How to have date night nevertheless

Once upon a time, when we were young parents a long way from home, we heard someone say, “Date night is absolutely necessary for a healthy marriage!” When you’re new in town and grandparents are a thousand miles away, that’s discouraging! But the important thing is not “dates” but connection – how to renew the face-to-face relationship in the midst of shoulder-to-shoulder life. This episode, we talk about practical ways to do just that, even if you can’t really manage a getaway right now!

How to have date night regardless

What’s the reason?

Actually the important thing is not “the event” but the time for re-connection. Don’t get frustrated and fretful over the inability to do a big formal celebration – it may be the best thing at this time of life is smaller and closer to home.

In fact, home is a good option. We travel so much with our speaking and teaching ministry, we really find a quiet evening at home is a change of pace! We’ve had some great anniversaries and Valentine’s dates watching old movies on Netflix and eating dinner we prepared ourselves.

What are some options when kids are in the mix?

A second thing that’s important to remember is that we need all sorts of intimacy – not just the kind that takes total privacy and all kids asleep or absent. It’s good to just talk together, whether over dinner or a grown-up dessert, and let the kids watch their own movie back in the family room. If you really want them to entertain themselves for a while, you can even invest in some snack foods and turn them loose for an hour or two.

If you haven’t noticed, people never stop growing and changing. You didn’t reach 18 or 25 or 40 and then stop, as if you’d arrived at a destination — life goes on, and you both will find new surprises in each other if you look for them. Why not ask some open ended questions – “What’s your favorite food? Do you like different things as an adult than you did as a child? What’s the earliest thing you can remember? What did you find surprising about being married?” If you need some suggestions, sign up for our free series, “LoveBirdSeed” and get fun and thought-provoking conversation starters every week.

Of course you can stay up later than the kids … or get up earlier. You can go for a walk together or take the kids to the park, where you can sit on a bench and watch them play while you have some grownup conversation. Grandparents are a lifesaver if they’re nearby (and remember, letting your kids eat a few extra cookies at Nana’s house probably won’t topple the organic or keto lifestyle you’re cultivating at home). We even know friends who traded babysitting with each other on a regular schedule, one Friday a month at each house – and as the kids got older, the couples were even able to sneak away for overnights sometimes.

Remember that a lot of advice people share is based on particular circumstances. Sometimes you’re so busy or kept apart by business travel or other responsibilities, you really need to jealously protect a few precious hours. In that case, a scheduled, carefully planned date on the calendar can be a lifesaver! But if you are blessed to have more free time together on a regular basis, the desperation isn’t the same, and maybe you can find good, satisfying “couple time” from day to day. Date night can be great fun, but don’t feel that it’s a mandatory formality if you’re building a strong relationship in the informal hours of life right now!

“Q: What do we do when we can’t get away for our anniversary – not even for dinner out?”

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Dealing with Disrespect – MBFLP 201

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“My son shows me disrespect.” “How can I deal with the disrespect from our kids?” “What can I do to teach my children to be more respectful?” It’s something we all have to deal with as parents, and yet it’s hard – and some of us struggle more than we expected! This episode, we look at the very real question of respect – teaching our kids to show it, dealing with them when they don’t, where this may be coming from, and what God expects from all of us!

DG: The Secret to Success

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Finish Well Radio, Podcast #053, DG: The Secret to SuccessDG: The Secret to Success with Meredith Curtis, podcast #053 looks at a missing ingredient in the lives of many young people, and older folks, too. Meredith discusses how delayed gratification can impact our personal lives and professional lives, helping us to experience joy and success. Meredith will explain what delayed gratification is, how it works, and how to build the DG muscle.

 

 

 

 

 

Show Notes

The secret to educational success is quite simple! DG!

The secret to a close relationship with Jesus is simple and includes DG!

The secret to having a happy marriage one day: DG!

The secret to financial success is another simple plan! It is two little words that pack a big punch. The secret to financial success is….delayed gratification.

Delayed Gratification? What is that? Well, it means to postpone what you want, to wait and work for what you desire to obtain.

In Our Imagination

Example of the Airline Owner.

But we live as if our little scenario is possible because we want a successful life, but we sabotage ourselves with instant gratification.

What We Do To Shoot Ourselves in the Foot

See, here is what we do. We want something right now! We have to have it so we take what we have and spend it all on something we kind of want.

Examples.

Delayed Gratification in a Nutshell

SO basically, in a nutshell, delayed gratified is doing the hard work first and the fun stuff we long for second.

Examples

Let’s meet some people who took delayed gratification seriously.

Hall of Fame for Delayed Gratification

Hebrews 11:13-16

Relating DG to Trusting God’s Goodness and heart to bless us.

Have We Prayed?

Examples of Waiting on God and Praying.

There are so many “quick and easy” ways out for us to take.

How difficult it is to set our eyes on the Lord and wait. This act of waiting is delaying gratification.

We experience delays in what we desire, building self-control and godly character in our life.

While We Wait on God

What do we do while we wait? We cry out to God, listing our petitions with Him, knowing that His heart is to provide our needs and bless us with our desires too.

Examples

Building the Delayed Gratification Muscle

Ways to build that delayed-gratification muscle.

The bottom line is this: Now you know the secret to success in every area of life. What will you do next?


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Dating v. Courtship – MBFLP 186

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It’s been a hot discussion in homeschooling for decades – what should we teach our kids about finding a mate? What’s really the Biblical model? After following one philosophy for several years and then realizing some of the assumptions really weren’t playing out in reality, we delved back into the Scriptures and found some surprising things people didn’t talk about. Join us for our quick tour of what we found the Bible really says about finding a mate!


Examples We Referenced

The Executive VP Goes Cousin Shopping – Genesis 24
Hello, and Where Did I Get This Scar? – Genesis 2
A Funny Thing Happened After the Service – Judges 21

Principles

Honoring parents (Ephesians 6:2)
Flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18)
Leaving and cleaving (Genesis 2:24)
Providing for one’s own (1 Timothy 5:8)
Treating younger women as sisters, in purity (1 Timothy 5:2)

Resources We Mentioned

Our workshop on “Dating, Courtship, and All That”

MoreThanFriends.io – the app with 42% less awkwardness


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Homeschooling and Marriage

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For the rest of the year, we will be running a “Best of” series of the Homeschooling IRL episodes continuing with Homeschooling and Marriage. Many of these episodes were earlier episodes that you might have missed. Enjoy!


HIRL-What-Homeschooling-Does-to-a-MarriageYou are going to want to grab your spouse for this episode! Fletch and Kendra dive right into the middle of the topic and discuss how the stress of homeschooling can leak into your marriage relationship.
Throughout this episode you will hear live interviews conducted with couples on the floor of the Teach Them Diligently Conference in Nashville, TN. Be prepared for answers that you might not expect!
 Fletch and Kendra also spend time talking and laughing with TTD conference founders and directors, David and Leslie Nunnery, about the challenges we’ve seen in our own marriages and some helpful ideas on how to preserve intimacy in the middle of family, life and school.
 Pull up a chair and prepare to get real with Fletch and Kendra as we look at What Homeschooling Does To A Marriage.
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Hard Conversations – MBFLP 173

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Even the best friendships run into rough spots – husbands and wives, parents and kids, church friends, neighbors. Sometimes you need to have those terrible conversations that begin, “We need to talk …” But even if they’re difficult, those conversations are critically important in the life of a relationship. Dodge them, and you may be ditching the friendship! This episode, we look at what the Bible says about open, transparent talk between friends, why you have to engage the hard conversations, and how to make them as helpful as possible!

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Life Began in a Garden

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Finish Well Radio - Episode #48Welcome to another installment of Life Lessons from Ancient History. In Life Began in a Garden with Meredith Curtis, she shares the creation story straight as it is written in the Bible. We can all learn many lessons from this first week. There are some patterns, habits, mandates, even laws which were started then. Join us to hear Meredith describe what they are and why it matter to you and me.

 

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Laying a Foundation for Marriage – MBFLP 169

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We probably all share the hope that our children will marry, and marry well, and serve God in their family one day. But are we being intentional about preparing our sons to become godly husbands?  It’s important to live a good example in front of them, but we need to train them to deal with the issues that affect them as young men, and we need to encourage them to see marriage as a likely part of their mission in God’s kingdom! This episode includes part of a presentation Hal gave to a men’s conference earlier this year, about laying a foundation for your son’s future marriage – because “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord!” (Proverbs 18:22)

 

 

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Undone Redone: Marriage and The Gospel – HIRL Episode 145

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Free homeschooling podcast about marriage, divorce, and reconciliationTray and Melody Lovvorn were married for 11 years before his struggle with pornography and sexual addiction tore their family apart. The appearance of the “perfect” Christian life that they both worked so hard to maintain came crashing down all around them. They divorced, but God wasn’t yet finished with their marriage.

Tray and Melody love to share how God used their painful circumstances to individually bring both of them to a new understanding of grace and the unconditional love of their Heavenly Father. It was this new paradigm that ultimately led to their reconciliation and the restoration of their family.

Join us for another great interview with folks who love to talk openly about how the gospel changes lives!


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Husbands And Homeschooling

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husbands and homeschoolingHusbands And Homeschooling with Hosts: Lindsey Stomberg & Richele McFarlin

Podcast #3

Show Notes – Husbands and Homeschooling

Join Lindsey and Richele as they look at homeschooling through the lens of homeschooling dads and discuss what potential role a husband can play in the homeschool room. Many husbands are skeptical of homeschooling the children, others are hands-on in their approach, and some take a backseat altogether. Homeschooling can be stressful on a marriage, but it doesn’t need to be. As moms, we want what is best for our children, and our husbands’ goals are no different. We will be sharing specific talking points that should be asked regularly throughout the year between a homeschooling couple to ensure that everyone is on the same page. Does your husband want to help but just isn’t sure how to begin? Are you unsure how to motivate the unmotivated homeschooling dad? Listen in as we answer these questions and more about a husband’s role in the homeschool room.

 

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