To The Mom Who Constantly Questions Herself | Replay

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The Real Kathy Lee Podcast | To the Mom Who Always Questions Herself, episode replayAre you a mom who always questions herself? Guilt has been on my mind so much this past week. It seems everywhere I turn, women are sharing with me how much they are questioning their every decision and how guilty they feel if someone disagrees with them. Oh, ladies, I want you to live a guilt-free life. Honestly, this has been one of my greatest struggles. I am a recovering people pleaser. TBH (to be honest in cool kid lingo), I still struggle with questioning my decisions and hoping I haven’t hurt someone’s feelings in the process.

Today I share some thoughts on helping us all recognize when we are being held captive by people pleasing and guilt.

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  1. Know Yourself – If you haven’t taken a personality test, you should. There are several different types you can take, you can check out Myers Brigg.  Knowing yourself will help you be confident in your strengths.
  2. Know What Triggers You- Did you struggle with perfectionism as a kid? Did you experience trauma? Did your parents expect certain things from you? Did someone question your every move?
  3. Be true to Yourself and Your Story- What is your plan for your family? Talk openly with your spouse and your small circle of friends.
  4. Don’t write a shitty first draft- As Brene’ Brown says in her book Rising Strong, our brain will create a story when we don’t have answers. Resist doing this. This will often lead to unnecessary guilt.
  5. Know your Love Language- If you are a quality time person, you often feel guilty if you don’t offer quality time. If you are a gifts person, you will sometimes struggle if you don’t think you picked the perfect gift. Be aware of this common transfer of emotion.

 

I think the bottom line is this, we are all trying to do our best. Let’s offer each other grace. Most importantly, let’s give ourselves grace!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

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Special Replay | Mothering is a Marathon with Keri Vasek

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Mothering is a Marathon with Keri Vasek
Mothering is a Marathon with Keri Vasek

It had been a while since I had Keri on the show. Actually, it had been a while since Keri and I had talked in real life. It was good to catch up with her and hear what was on her heart. Keri took a few minutes to catch us up on her home and family.  She has been a busy lady since we last chatted. Next, Keri asked about my suggestions for sibling disagreements. I admit that I don’t know all the answers to this one, but I did have a few thoughts and suggestions to teach children to be kind to one another.

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Keri and I spent a good amount of time talking about a statement I often make during my speaking engagements, “Mothering is a marathon.” I do say that a lot. I really want parents to understand that it isn’t a sprint, it isn’t just getting them to kindergarten, or high school, or even adulthood. It is a long, tough journey that has ups and downs… highs and lows. It will test us, require patience, and definitely demand endurance. It will be worth it. It is worth it.

We chatted a little bit about the popular TV show; This is Us. If you haven’t seen it, you should. I am pretty sure my twin is the writer for this show. I know you feel the same. It is so true, so raw, so needed. We can all learn valuable lessons from this show.

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

 

Find a way to #sayyes today.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!!

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Building your Mom Team

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Lisa Nehring is joined by Jennifer Uren, who podcasts at This Mom Knows. Jennifer says, “Every business  "yes" can feel like a parenting "no"Building your Mom Team

Today on the show, True North Homeschool Academy Director, Lisa Nehring is joined by Jennifer Uren, who podcasts at This Mom Knows. Life Jennifer says, “Every business  “yes” can feel like a parenting “no” – and that’s when mom guilt kicks in.  Through her website and podcast, This Mom Knows, Jennifer Uren coaches and encourages mompreneurs to find the right systems, tools, and people – their “Mom Team” – so they have the support and energy to be their best as both “mom” and “entrepreneur”.

  1. How do we know we need a Mom Team?

    We need a Mom Team all the time. But, we often confuse need with effectiveness. When things are going well, we believe that we are managing just fine. But when things are going a bit sidewise, we are often too overwhelmed to put into place the systems, tools and processes we need to create the best team.
    So, we need to build our team as we go.
    The Best Mom team consists of systems, tools and people, most often a combination of all three, put together when things seem to be going well.
    Mom Team –  Most things that we are doing require both:
    System- the process repeatable recordable; like a recipe- allows us to delegate.
    Tool- the specifics we use to work the system.
    To create the best team, you need to spend some time observing yourself ,your rhythms and routines; what works best for you. You want to take yourself out of the equation- often Mom’s feel like they have to do it all and that creates a bottleneck. Take time to analyze how you  think, how you function, what tools work best for you, what processes do you need to put into place.

  2. How do we sort through the myriad of systems to create the best team?

    1. Start with what we know- do research and make a choice.
    2. Once the choice is made, put blinders on and lean into what you have  – don’t submit to the shiny object syndrome.
    3. All systems have a learning curve- commit to learning the system and realize that friction (i.e. frustration) might be part of the process).

3. Are there any good, “Start here” systems to begin with as we build our team

    1. Home- meet our basic needs
      1. Meals- Planning, Shopping, Cooking, Clean-up, Storing
      2. Laundry- gateway to all things clean in our home
      3. Paper -Bills paid, events planned, activities prepped for
    2. Business/ Homeschool- create space for meaningful work
      1. Workspace – is it virtual, portable, permanent
      2. Email- the heart of communication and represents need, implementation and response.
      3. Time- rhythms and routines around tasks- creating space adn protecting that space to get everything done

To create an effective Mom Team we have to get out of the mindset that we have to be the ones who do it all. We have to quit creating the bottleneck. If we delegate and off-load we can have the energy that we need to do things that we are called to do. Who can trade, barter and pay for others to join our team.

While it can be hard to ask for help, it’s hard to receive help when we receive.

Keep in mind that you can’t do everything, but you can do many things, just not everything at once!

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About Jenn: Jenn Uren is very familiar with trying to juggle and do all the things herself but too often found that it was at the expense of her family, especially relationship with her kids. She hit a breaking point five years ago when she and her husband experienced a surprise adoption of a sibling set (100% unexpected – you can hear about it on her podcast).  This started her down a life-giving path of transformation as she learned how to ask for help, offer help, and lean into systems to simplify and create space in her own life – and she wants to help you do that, too. Because the good news is that you can do it all, just not by yourself.

She and her family have recently left the hustle and bustle of the Chicagoland area and are enjoying discovering their new hometown in Northwest Indiana.

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Mother’s Day Surprise Replay

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Mother's Day Surprise! with The Real Kathy Lee Happy Mother’s Day to my mom and all of you moms listening!! This week I thought I would share some reminders from a talk I have been giving this summer at conferences nationwide. At the end of this episode, I have a BIG surprise; you don’t want to miss it!

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During my talk, “What Every Mother of Preschooler Needs to Know,” I share the following:

  1. Your children will remember how you lived.

How do you spend your time? What are your passions? Will they remember that you were physically and emotionally present?

  1. Your children will remember how you loved.

How do you love? Do you show affection? Say I love you?

  1. Your children will remember what you loved.

What do you love? People? Things? Birds?

  1. Your children will remember whom you loved.

Do you love others? Do they see that? Do you love yourself? Do they see that? Hear that?

  1. Your children will grow up and will mother like you.

Someone once said, “The days are long but the years are short.” This is such a true statement. They grow up so incredibly fast and before we know it, we will witness them being moms and dads just like us. Yes, they will resemble you in so many ways. You are their model for what a mom looks like.

What’s the surprise, you ask? I have decided to add one more spot to my birthday celebration weekend. If you would like to be the final person chosen to attend, please like or follow me on Instagram @_therealkathylee or like my page FB @The Real Kathy Lee.

Don’t forget to check out www.heartsathome.org to learn more about Hearts at Home 2.0.

I hope you all have a fabulous Mother’s Day!

 

Say YES and have a great week!!!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media. And be sure and check out the latest episode of Vintage Homeschool Moms.

 

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Jesus and Moms / 6 Ways to Show Love to Your Children

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Show notes: What I’d like to share tonight is a way to embrace the vocation and high calling of motherhood that keeps our eyes on Christ.


First, let’s look at how Jesus taught. This will help us in our daily, minute-by-minute instruction of our children no matter what age they may be. This is also called relationship.

If we look at the life of Christ we see that Jesus was loving. He repeated spiritual truths over and over so that people might understand. He walked among the people healing them, by asking them questions, and by imparting truth through ways they could understand (Mark 4:34 He did not say anything to them without using a parable. But when he was alone with his own disciples, he explained everything.)

Jesus was someone who attracted others. He had a way of pointing to the Father that satisfied the needs of people. He knew how to satisfy their greatest spiritual needs. Even when they just returned for more bread, he knew they had a greater need.

6 Ways to Show Love to Your Children

Here are ways he did just that, and how as Moms we can be encouraged that if we will follow the master Jesus will meet their needs and our own.

  1. Children need to feel safe, loved, and important.  Do you have a consistent temperament? Do you meet as well as you are able your children’s basic needs for clothing, shelter, and food? Is your discipline consistent or are your children unsure of what to expect? Can your child confide in your? We are especially admonished not to provoke our children to anger or discouragement (Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.Jesus makes us feel safe, loved, and important in his very life (lived sinlessly), death (for our sins), and resurrection (for our justification) that we might have peace with God the Father, Romans chapter 4.
  2. Children must trust their parents Do you keep your word to your children? Do you keep your word to others so your children witness this? Do you do your best to make sure that trustworthy adults influence your children? Remember when we talked about how Jesus patiently repeated things to his followers (and for our benefit) so we’d understand? This built trust. We can trust him because He did exactly what he said he would do. Read Mark 8,9, and 10. He said he would suffer, die, and rise. He did.
  3. Children need to know their worth Do your children understand that their value as a human and made in the image of God? Do your children see how important they are to you by the time and real attention you give to them? Are you full of distraction? God’s Word tells us children are a heritage (Psalm 127) and fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139), and that the Father would hold nothing back in saving them should they stray, and in fact he didn’t hold back his only son. (Matthew 18 and the parable of the lost sheep)
  4. Children need to see their purpose and calling Do your children see that they’ve been created by God and live in the culture and time we live in “for such a time as this”. Do you? Ephesians 2:10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
  5. Children need chores Constant entertainment is soul-destroying to anyone, especially a child. There is value in work that sparks their creativity and curiosity and helps them see their place in God’s world. Again, Ephesians 2:10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
  6. Wisdom and role models- Children need your guidance and the guidance of trusted adults, especially as they become young adults themselves to help grow discernment. Who do you know that exhibits wisdom that would be a good influence? Do you exhibit wisdom to your children? Proverbs 13:20 tells us, “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”

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Best of The Real Kathy Lee: You’ve Got This! When Motherhood is Hard

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You've Got This! When Motherhood is Hard with The Real Kathy LeeThis week we are running a few “Best of” episodes you might have missed!  This is the #1 episode for my podcast!  If you have listened to my podcast for very long, you have heard me say… You’ve Got This. You might have wondered what in the world I actually mean by that statement. Today’s podcast explains my thoughts as I share such an empowering phrase.

Motherhood is hard. We become parents through pregnancy or adoption, both are hard.  Before the baby arrives we are often exhausted physically and emotionally. Next, we stay up all night and are expected to be happy and function the next day. What? How? By digging deep, by realizing that you are making a difference for eternity. It doesn’t mean that it isn’t challenging and very lonely at times.

I suggest the following for moms who struggle believing that they can pull off this thing called motherhood:

  1. Don’t be scared to ask for help – Reach out to a close friend and share your feelings.
  2. Say YES to taking time for yourself. You won’t regret it. You and your family will be happier for it.
  3. Say NO often. Motherhood can overwhelm us, especially when we take on too many things outside the home during the early years.
  4. It is okay to have your own tantrum from time to time. I suggest going in the closet for a good cry or toddler style fit.
  5. Time flies. Try and lean in to these years, savor them. It sounds ridiculous, but you will miss the middle of the night feedings and early morning snuggles on the sofa.

 

YOU really, really do HAVE this!!

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Find a way to #sayyes today.

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The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 


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Back to School Replay: Moms and Teen Boys

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Moms of teen boys, this episode was made for you! What happens to those boys when they become teenagers and why are they so hard for moms to manage? Fletch and Kendra have raised three teen boys so far and they have lived to tell the tale . . .Moms of teen boys, this episode was made for you! What happens to those boys when they become teenagers and why are they so hard for moms to manage? Fletch and Kendra have raised three teen boys so far and they have lived to tell the tale . . .

Fletch pokes a few sticks at dads on this episode who have turned all the schooling over to their wives. Kendra also has some definite opinions on the subject of moms, homeschooling, and teen boys. She thinks the teen years can be extra great for moms, particularly if a mom can learn to do a few things to grow that relationship in a positive direction. What are they? You’ll have to tune in to find out!


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Mother’s Day Surprise

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Mother's Day Surprise! with The Real Kathy Lee Happy Mother’s Day to my mom and all of you moms listening!! This week I thought I would share some reminders from a talk I have been giving this summer at conferences across the country. At the end of this episode, I have a BIG surprise; you don’t want to miss it!

During my talk, “What Every Mother of Preschooler Needs to Know” I share the following:

  1. Your children will remember how you lived.

How do you spend your time? What are your passions? Will they remember that you were physically and emotionally present?

  1. Your children will remember how you loved.

How do you love? Do you show affection? Say I love you?

  1. Your children will remember what you loved.

What do you love? People? Things? Birds?

  1. Your children will remember whom you loved.

Do you love others? Do they see that? Do you love yourself? Do they see that? Hear that?

  1. Your children will grow up and will mother like you.

Someone once said, “The days are long but the years are short.” This is such a true statement. They grow up so incredibly fast and before we know it, we will witness them being moms and dads just like us. Yes, they will resemble you in so many ways. You are their model for what a mom looks like.

What’s the surprise, you ask? I have decided to add one more spot to my birthday celebration weekend. If you would like to be the final person chosen to attend, please like or follow me on Instagram @_therealkathylee or like my page FB @The Real Kathy Lee.

Don’t forget to check out www.heartsathome.org to learn more about Hearts at Home 2.0.

I hope you all have a fabulous Mother’s Day!

 

Say YES and have a great week!!!

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

 

Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

 

 

 

 

When You Lose Your Junk (with Ashley Smoot)

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When You Lose Your Junk - with Ashley Smoot and the Real Kathy LeeToday’s show was full of honesty. We covered some topics that have come up from conversations with moms over the past couple of months. First, we chatted about how and why we ALL lose our JUNK with our kids sometimes. You know what I mean. Those times when you yell, freak out, and act like a lunatic at them. Please tell me, you have had those moments too. I totally have lost it with my kids, too many times. I share my suggestion to look inward and try and reflect on the why? If I am being honest, I usually lose it because I fail to prepare, communicate, or take necessary steps to avoid the conflict. Both Ashley and I shared a personal story of losing our junk and what we learned afterwards. I always suggest asking your children for forgiveness and own your part in the situation.

After we had some online therapy during the podcast about losing our junk, we discussed some other issues that had been brought up recently. We talked about what to do when you feel completely overwhelmed and how to deal with unrest between the adults in the home. In the end, I think we noticed that we mentioned the words, rest, grace and forgiveness a lot. Pretty sure, it is because we all need those things to survive this parenting thing. Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know.

Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

 

 

Find a way to #sayyes today.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!!

Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.

 

 

Mothering is a Marathon with Keri Vasek

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Mothering is a Marathon with Keri VasekIt had been a while since I had Keri on the show. Actually, it had been a while since Keri and I had talked in real life. It was good to catch up with her and hear what was on her heart. Keri took a few minutes to catch us up on her home and family.  She has been a busy lady since we last chatted. Next, Keri asked about my suggestions for sibling disagreements. I admit that I don’t know all the answers on this one, but I did have a few thoughts and suggestions to teach children to be kind to one another.

 

Keri and I spent a good amount of time talking about a statement I often make during my speaking engagements, “Mothering is a marathon.” I do say that a lot. I really want parents to understand that it isn’t a sprint, it isn’t just getting them to kindergarten, or high school, or even adulthood. It is a long, tough journey that has ups and downs… highs and lows. It will test us, require patience and definitely demand endurance. It will be worth it. It is worth it.

We chatted a little bit about the popular TV show, This is Us. If you haven’t seen it, you should. I am pretty sure my twin is the writer for this show. I know you feel the same. It is so true, so raw, so needed. We can all learn valuable lessons from this show.

Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for me to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let me know. Just email me at kathy@thehomegrownpreschooler.com or shoot me a message on social media.

 

Find a way to #sayyes today.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!!

Thank you to The Homegrown Preschooler for sponsoring this Podcast! Check out the blog post Kathy mentioned, Farmhouse Schoolhouse, to read more about A Year of Playing Skillfully.

Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at

The Homegrown Preschooler by using the code, THEREALKATHYLEE.