It is the question every homeschool family gets, usually from someone who has not thought about it very hard. But there is a real version of it underneath, and that one deserves a real answer.
The weak version
The implied claim is that spending the day with thirty children born within twelve months of you is the natural way to learn to function socially. It is not. It is a recent administrative convenience.
Homeschooled children routinely talk with adults, younger children, and older children, which is closer to how the rest of life works. Most of them are noticeably comfortable in mixed-age company.
The version worth taking seriously
Social skills are learned by practice, and practice requires other people. It is entirely possible to homeschool in a way that leaves a child isolated. That is a genuine risk and it is on you to prevent it, because unlike school, the contact will not happen automatically.
So be deliberate. Co-ops, sports, church, scouts, theater, volunteering, music, a job for teens. Your child needs regular, ongoing contact with the same group of people over time, not just occasional outings. Friendship is built by repetition.
What to say at Thanksgiving
You do not owe anyone a defense over dinner. “They see friends several times a week and they are doing well, thanks” is a complete answer.
The people who ask most insistently are usually expressing their own uncertainty, not evaluating your child. You are allowed to change the subject.
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