Teaching Your Kids the Character Trait of Decisiveness

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Teaching your kids to be decisive is an important life skill. By setting a good example, giving them choices, encouraging quick decisions, discussing pros and cons, praising their efforts, and using resources like the Character Counts planner from MediaAngels.com, you can help your kids become more confident and capable decision-makers. Start today and watch your kids grow into strong, decisive individuals.Teaching your kids the character trait of decisiveness is important. Decisiveness helps them make good choices quickly and confidently. As homeschooling moms, we have a great opportunity to teach our kids this valuable skill. Here are some tips and examples to help you guide your children in becoming more decisive.

Why Is Decisiveness Important?

Decisiveness means making decisions quickly and effectively. It helps kids feel confident and reduces stress. When kids are decisive, they are better at solving problems and can handle challenges more easily.

Tips for Teaching Decisiveness

  1. Set a Good ExampleKids learn a lot by watching their parents. Show them how you make decisions. Explain your thought process. For example, if you are deciding what to cook for dinner, talk through your choices out loud. “We could have spaghetti, but we had pasta yesterday. How about tacos? They are quick and easy.”
  2. Give Them ChoicesStart by giving your kids simple choices. This helps them practice making decisions. For example, “Do you want to read a book or play outside?” Gradually increase the complexity of the choices as they become more comfortable making decisions.
  3. Encourage Quick DecisionsTeach your kids to make quick decisions by setting a time limit. For example, “You have two minutes to choose a game to play.” This helps them learn to think quickly and trust their instincts.
  4. Discuss Pros and ConsWhen making a decision, discuss the pros and cons with your child. This helps them understand how to weigh different options. For example, “If we go to the park, we can play on the swings, but it might rain. If we stay home, we can bake cookies, but we won’t get any fresh air.”
  5. Praise Their EffortsPraise your kids when they make a decision, even if it’s a small one. Positive reinforcement builds their confidence. For example, “Great choice on picking the red shirt today! It looks great on you.”
  6. Use the Character Counts PlannerA great resource to help teach decisiveness is the Character Counts planner from MediaAngels.com. This downloadable, printable planner is designed to help kids develop important character traits. It includes activities and exercises that encourage decisiveness and other positive behaviors. You can download it, print it, and start using it right away with your kids.

Examples of Teaching Decisiveness

  1. Planning a Family OutingInvolve your kids in planning a family outing. Give them options and let them decide. For example, “Would you rather go to the zoo or the aquarium this Saturday?” Discuss the pros and cons of each choice and let them make the final decision.
  2. Choosing School SubjectsAllow your kids to choose some of their homeschool subjects or projects. For example, “Do you want to learn about dinosaurs or space this month?” This gives them a sense of control over their learning and encourages them to make decisions.
  3. Daily RoutinesIncorporate decision-making into daily routines. For example, “Do you want to do math or science first today?” This helps kids practice making decisions regularly and builds their confidence.

An Important Life Skill

Teaching your kids to be decisive is an important life skill. By setting a good example, giving them choices, encouraging quick decisions, discussing pros and cons, praising their efforts, and using resources like the Character Counts planner from MediaAngels.com, you can help your kids become more confident and capable decision-makers. Start today and watch your kids grow into strong, decisive individuals.

 

 

Forgiveness Replay

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teaching kids forgiveness | In teaching kids forgiveness you are giving your children the tools or fundamentals of forgiveness but arguably one of the best gifts you can ever give them. | #podcast #homeschoolpodcast #teachingforgiveness #forgivenessandkids #kidsforgive #kidsforgivingTeaching Kids Forgiveness Episode 231 

In teaching kids forgiveness you are giving your children the tools or fundamentals of forgiveness but arguably one of the best gifts you can ever give them.

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Show Notes: Teaching Kids Forgiveness:

Do you teach your children to say, “I’m sorry – or will you forgive me” when they have hurt someone? I know if you are a mom or dad you most certainly have and I’m sure more than once! In life, people hurt you and even in the Bible Jesus tells us to forgive each day, 77 times!

But how do you explain this to your children? Today I’m going to explain how as well as give you some practical applications. Teaching kids forgiveness is not only possible it is amazingly practical and will make your life so much easier. Can you imagine? Kids that truly forgive?

Forgiveness, when it happens in the way that God designed, it is truly beautiful. You can teach your children that God forgave us our sins and so, gave us the perfect example of forgiving. You can also teach your children the Lord’s prayer, when we recite, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Here we are praying to the Lord to forgive us in the same way that we forgive others who have hurt us.

But, did you know there is a difference between forgiveness as a feeling and as a decision?

Teaching your children about forgiveness is really a two-fold situation. It is teaching your child to look for at forgiveness as a give and take. It is not one-sided. So, what do I mean by this? First, there is the person who has been hurt. We always say arguments take two people, at least right? There is a he-said, she-said. But either way, someone is hurt either physically or psychologically. Second, there is a consequence to our actions. We must be held accountable for what we do. If a child hurts someone physically or using words, the consequences tend to be different. Usually parents, and I know I did, give a harsher punishment to a child that hurts another. It is thought that using words is not as bad, however, words sometimes have a lasting effect.

But there is good news when teaching kids forgiveness! You are teaching your children that they don’t have to hold grudges forever, they can be set free and so can their siblings, friends or even you the parents.

In sharing with your children about forgiveness I have developed three points I discuss with my children…

  1. Forgiveness is making a decision to forgive even if we don’t feel like it. Forgiveness is not a feeling in that “I feel like forgiving you.” No, forgiveness is an act of will.
  2. We forgive out of obedience to God – when He says we must forgive 70 x 7 per day. Matthew 18:21-22

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you not just seven times, but seventy-seven times!”

  1. Unforgiveness is holding anger or a grudge against a person and it hurts us more than them. If you have teens explain to this to them – you can’t hold anyone else accountable except yourself. People who don’t forgive are often bitter and harsh. Forgiving releases, the person to the Lord, to deal with them. It is not our job to punish others for what they have done to you.

You can’t punish a person who doesn’t care. Often if someone has hurt you it is because of a lack of relationship. You don’t –or you try not to hurt those you love. Often siblings fight and most of this comes from selfishness on the part of one or both. It isn’t necessarily malicious. However, the hurts that stay with us are often unfair and malicious. They are caused by those who really don’t care about us, or if they do they care in a superficial way.

Deciding to forgive releases you to go on with your life. You are not depressed or upset any longer – or if you are, continue to hand that person over to the Lord.

So how do you forgive?

The first step to reconciliation with another person is making the decision to forgive. The next step is asking for forgiveness.

Do your kids say, “I’m sorry.” First, it puts all the control into the person saying it. Secondly, often you will know by their tone of voice you know that they really are not that sorry? It is normally a formality. We make our kids say they are sorry for hurting another because they should! But, if it is insincere we are wasting their time and ours. It also teaches your child to be flippant about saying they are sorry without realizing the consequences.

That is why I taught my children to say, “Will you forgive me?” In that way, the request is not in the hands of the offending child, but in the hands of the person who is hurt. That person must agree to forgive and release the other from the sin, and recognize they, while hurt – have made a decision to forgive. In this case, both children can work toward healing of their relationship. Both are on the forgiving end. The one asking for forgiveness and the one giving it. Isn’t that beautiful! It shows God’s healing love.

Teach your children to ask the Lord to help them if they are still bitter from the hurt. Ask your children to pray for the “offending” person every day. Why? Because of Luke 6: 35-36 “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”

That takes prayer and eventually if you can teach your child to do this, they will grow up to be wonderful adults! Praying for your enemies works! The evil one does not want us to have peace in our lives. The evil one wants us upset and frustrated. When we are upset and frustrated can we move on with our lives – serve and do good for the Lord? No. We are held in bondage in one place.

Scriptures on forgiveness:

Colossians: 3:13

Matthew: 6:14-15

What are your favorite forgiveness scriptures? Make a list of these and pray them when you have difficulty forgiving.