Healing From Sexual Abuse

In “Healing from Sexual Abuse,” episode #097, Meredith Curtis examines a horrible side of life in the 21^stCentury with honesty, compassion, and truth. She offers hope from the Word of God to define sexual abuse and to process what has happened to you. She also explains why certain lies are often believed by victims, how to reject them, and how Jesus brings healing to the brokenness that often results from sexual abuse. There is healing and freedom, but it is a process. To all those who have been wounded, my heart breaks for you and I am praying that you know the precious love of Jesus that can heal you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Warning: This show contains sensitive material

Show Notes

Purpose of Childhood

Purpose of Womanhood/Manhood

Care Giver’s Role: Protect Innocence/Provide Safety/Allow children to develop intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually in a safe, pure, and loving environment

God’ Heart toward Those Who Have Been Sexually Abused: Matthew 18:1-6 & I Peter 3:7

What is Sexual Abuse?

A Wide Range Often Progressive

Sexual Jokes, Crude comments
Terminology, etc. that is too adult for victim
Pornography, Exposing,
Inappropriate Touching
Forcing Children to Participate in Sexual Acts
Rape

Sexual abuse exposes children/teens to deviant behavior that damages them emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

I Thessalonians 4:3-12

Why Do Abuse Victims Often Feel Guilt & Shame?

Process of Grooming (manipulation by abuser) See Radio Show here
Sense of Powerlessness (control and fear instilled by abuser)
Separation of sex from loving intimacy—creates a hunger for love & intimacy
Body betrayed them—felt some pleasure—only because body parts worked, not because they wanted it

St. Augustine in City of God: No guilt, no loss of purity when you are not a willing participate

NO guilt! Reject lie!

How is Sexual Abuse Related to the Demonic?

Revelation 9:18-21

Ephesians 4:17-19

Demon worship, pagan religions, witchcraft includes sexual acts, prostitution, and “sacrifice” of virgins

How Sexual Abuse Changes People

Heartache

Physical Ailments

Trouble trusting people/feeling safe

Fall into patterns with predators

Can feel like “less of a man” or “less of a woman”

How to Process Sexual Abuse

Ephesians 5:11-17

Evil Sin

Crime/Abusers Keep Abusing/Report Abusers to Police

You were a victim, an unwilling participant

Acknowledge that Sexual Abuser did an evil thing—don’t make excuses for him/her

Anger

Mourn the Loss of Innocence/Protection

Reject Lies: “This is my fault”, “I should have stopped it”, “No one is safe”

From Brokenness to Wholeness

Isaiah 61:1-7

Christ bore our brokenness on the cross and offers healing & wholeness

Stay Safe & Protect Others

Build patterns in your life that are protective and keep you and others safe.

What Teens Can Do

Pray for the Lord to Protect You & Give You Wisdom
Don’t hang out with people your parents don’t approve of and don’t build private relationships. Friendships should be inclusive, not exclusive.
Don’t spend time with someone who “gives you the creeps”
Don’t keep secrets from your parents; tell them everything
Don’t let someone show physical affection to you that makes you uncomfortable
Tell your parents and siblings about all the sites you visit online, games you play online, friends you make, people you chat with.
If you are involved in an inappropriate relationship, go immediately to your parents or pastor. Never ever ever be alone with that person again.
Grooming is not your fault. The groomer is sick, deranged, and choosing to be evil. Get away!
If someone has exposed themselves to you, shown your pornography, touched you, made you touch them, or raped you, they have sinned against you and it is also a crime. Call the police. Report them to the police.

Protection to Keep Kids Safe Online: Bark https://www.bark.us/

Protection from Porn: Covenant Eyes https://www.covenanteyes.com/

What Parents Can Do

Pray for Your Children Every Day!
Be Aware! Be Vigilant!
Pay Attention to Every Attachment & Friendship Your Child Develops.
Build a Strong Trust Relationship with Your Kids so They Can Tell You Anything
Teach Your Children What is Appropriate and Inappropriate Affection
Allow Children to Hug, Kiss, and Show Affection Voluntarily and Not if they Don’t Want To
Have Open & Honest Talks about Sex, Anatomy, and Privacy
Set up Rules/Boundaries
If someone gives you the creeps, don’t let your children be around them
Church Policy on Nursery/Sunday School/Teen Nights
Visit Ballet Class, Sports Practice, Hangouts, Friends’ Homes Where Your Teens/Children are Playing Teen Group, Co-op Classes, and Anywhere Your Children Spend Time Unannounced
Have Access to All Preteen/Teens’ Social Media Accounts including Friends, Private Messaging, etc.) Read Comments on Your Teens’ Posts
Don’t Allow Teens to Build Friendships Online that You are Not Part of
Grooming is not your child or teen’s fault. The groomer is sick, deranged, and choosing to be evil. Get your child/teen to safety!

If someone has exposed themselves to your child, shown your child pornography, touched your child, made your child touch them, or raped your child, they have sinned against your child and it is also a crime. Call the police. Report them to the police. Stop someone else from being his/her next victim.

Protection to Keep Kids Safe Online: Bark https://www.bark.us/

Protection from Porn: Covenant Eyes https://www.covenanteyes.com/

Protect the next victim by Reporting Sexual Abusers to Police