Helping Kids Deal with Stress – MBFLP 270

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We adults may feel like we’re under stress all the time, but we can’t overlook the fact that our kids are suffering, too! Last episode we talked about how we respond when we’re confronted with uncertainty and unpleasant news. How can we help our kids deal with the disruptions of life on their level?

Lest We Forget

Parents have had to make a lot of adjustments the past two years. Our kids are dealing with some of the same issues, from their own perspective. That may be school closures or other changes in their educational routines. It may be uncertainty over adult issues, like lost of employment, quarantines, or restrictions on travel or social gatherings. Even if everything comes from the same root cause, like the pandemic, its impact will be felt differently from one family to the next — and from one family member to the next.

Over the years, we’ve had a share of uncertainty and unhappy events — medical emergencies, job changes, relocations, disrupted plans. With a large family, and one that travels with us most of the time, we had to realize that we couldn’t hide much from the kids. It seemed better to us to share our concerns, in child-sized portions, so they could understand why things were “wrong” right then.

Our kids are not clones

We need to remember that our kids are individuals – maybe with a lot of commonalities, but still with their own approach to the world around them. A quiet child may be full of turmoil inside, while the noisy one may actually be calmer after venting all his drama. Consider that, as you answer and counsel the outspoken child, other siblings may be listening and learning without asking. Just don’t overlook the ones who aren’t “in your face”!

Younger kids need reassurance. Are Mom and Dad going to be here for me? Do they have a plan to deal with things? Are they safely in charge still?

Teenagers can often step into some adult roles. We found that in moments of crisis, our teens were able to pick up some of their parents’ concerns — running errands, doing more household tasks, taking more responsibility for themselves and their younger brothers and sisters.

Watch out for the middle kids, though. Often they are old enough to understand some of the needs, but too young to do much to help. It can be very frustrating for them! Look for tasks they can do, even if they’re not major burdens to the adults. Your middle school kids are likely to be much more capable than you think (check out our book No Longer Little for more ideas and encouragement!).

(continued)

But what about the conclusion?

What happens when the pressure’s relieved? Count on it – family members which have “held it together” for the team while the crisis is underway, will often come unglued when the emergency is over. It’s best to plan on some time to re-adjust to “normal” when you’ve been through a time of stress. Give yourself and everyone around you an extra measure of grace – a heaping serving of it, in fact. If you expect there to be a time of transition, you can move into it with some care – rather than experiencing “explosive decompression” that causes problems for everyone!

Passages We Referenced

Romans 8:28And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

Matthew 10:29-31 (Jesus)“Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.”

Galatians 6:2Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

James 1:2-4My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.

Resources You Might Appreciate

No Longer Little: Parenting Tweens with Grace and Hope by Hal and Melanie Young

Eleanor Porter’s Pollyanna and Pollyanna Grows Up – audiobooks narrated by Melanie Young

 

 


 

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Get Out and Play

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Get Out and Play

Get Out and Play – Episode 88

 

In this episode, we discuss the importance of outside play. So take some time to get outside and play.

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From Goal to Habit with God’s Grace

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Finish Well Homeschooling Podcast, Podcast #104, From Goal to Habit with God’s Grace, with Meredith Curtis on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network
From Goal to Habit with God’s Grace

In “From Goal to Habit with God’s Grace” episode #104, Meredith Curtis talks about those New Year’s resolutions we make every year with a twist. She offers an alternative to making and breaking resolutions. Instead she talks about goals and how to turn those goals into habits that last for a lifetime. Of course, you can’t do it without the Lord!

 

 

 


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Show Notes

Happy New Year

New Year’s Resolutions

Is God In This?

My Dreams

God’s Dreams

A Biblical Foundation for my goals

Make Goals Measurable

Nebulous vs. measurable

The blessing of realistic goals

Build the Habit

Start small and build from there

Faithfulness better than a burst of zeal

When I Blow It

Moving on after a failure

Perseverance

Enjoying My New Way of Life

Habits eventually become patterns of living

Rejoicing in our patterns and habits

 

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Resources

God's Girls Brand New Life Bible Study Making of Real Men Jesus Fill My Heart and Home by Meredith Curtis A Wise Woman Builds Bible Study Workbook
Finish Well Radio, Podcast #053, DG: The Secret to Success Finish Well Radio Show, Podcast 041, Get In Shape Spiritually for the New Year Finish Well Radio Show, Podcast #085, Don't Waste Your Life with Meredith Curtis, on the Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network Finish Well Radio, Podcast #080, 12 Happy Habits with Meredith Curtis on the Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network

Happy Birthday Creator-King

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In “Happy Birthday Creator-King,” episode #103, Meredith Curtis talks about birthdays and what makes birthdays special for the birthday person, the family, and the guests. How does the birthday person want to celebrate? As we celebrate Jesus, our Creator-King’s birthday, we can plan our Christmas celebration as a birthday where Christ is the center of all our plans, rather than an afterthought. If you can grasp these principles as a family, it will change your Christmas celebrations forever to be more festive and joyous than you could ever imagine.

 

 


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Show Notes

Introduction: Our Favorite Birthday Tradition: The Encouragement Game.

For by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities–all things have been created through Him and for Him” (Colossians 1:16 NASB).

What makes a birthday special for the birthday person?

What makes a birthday special for party guests and family?

Christmas is a birthday.

How God the Father prepared for Christmas. Lining up empires, lining up languages, prophetic words, mysteries, angels, a star, birthday party guests,

Genesis to Revelation role of Christ as Creator/Redeemer

God the Father commemorates special events e.g Passover. Commemorate stones crossing Jordan.

When we celebrate His birthday, do we get the Passover meal ready, visit the stones near the Jordan or do we go to the high places?

Is Jesus, the birthday person, the focus of all our preparations or is he on the periphery?

What Jesus likes….

  • Worship
  • Marriage
  • Family
  • The Poor, Needy, those in Jail
  • Celebrations (e.g. in Nehemiah)
  • Prayer
  • The Word
  • Us to Enjoy what He has given us
  • Generosity

 

Let’s throw a party!

Gifts for Baby Jesus

Time set aside for Worship

Romantic Lights

Family Devotions

Family Memories

Reading His Word

Inviting the Lost to the Birthday Party

 

Merry Christmas from our families to yours.

 

Christmas Resources

Christmas Devotions by Meredith Curtis Celebrate Christmas with a traveling dinner by Meredith Curtis and Laura Nolette Celebrate Christmas with Cookies Unit Study by Meredith Curtis Celebrate Christmas in Colonial America by Meredith Curtis

Pearl Harbor 12.7.41

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Finish Well Homeschooling Podcast, Podcast #102, Life Lessons from History: Pearl Harbor, 12.7.41, with Meredith Curtis on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast NetworkPearl Harbor 12.7.41

In “Life Lessons from History: Pearl Harbor 12.7.41” episode #102, Meredith Curtis takes you back in time to the surprise attack on Pearl Harbor on December 7, 1941, that plunged America into World War II. What led up to that historical moment? Were we the only ones attacked?  Why was Pearl Harbor such a strategic target? How did the attack arouse a sleeping giant? Meredith answers all these questions and more, letting you in on the decades of preparation by the Japanese. She also shares lessons we can apply to our own personal lives.

 

 


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Show Notes

“Tora! Tora! Tora!” Lieutenant Commander Mitsuo Fuchida commanded the other pilots. It was time to lay waste to their enemy!

The Surprise Attack!

President Roosevelt’s response.

We’re at War!

There’s always a story. Let’s go back in Time to figure out what happened?

Turn of the Century Japan & relationship with Prussia, Korea, and China.

1910 Japan annexes Korea.

1925, US General Billy Mitchell’s Report

The Japanese Naval Academy final exam question

Japan’s Aggression in the 1930s: Manchuria, Korea, China, Vietnam (French Indochina)

The Pact of Steel

The Strategy behind the attack

After all the destruction, what was left?

What We can Learn

Not what folks say, but what they do!

When we are almost destroyed, we fight even harder

 

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Resources

HIS Story of the 20th Century by Meredith Curtis HIS Story of the 20th Century Middle School Workbook HIS Story of the 20th Century: High School Workbook by Meredith Curtis Teach 20th Century History the Fun Way
Travel God's World Cookbook by Meredith Curtis American History Cookbook Ancient History Cookbook


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100 Homeschool Hacks II

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In “100 Homeschool Hacks Volume II” episode #101, Meredith Curtis, Laura Nolette, and their friends share 100 ways to homeschool more effectively, efficiently, enthusiastically, and effortlessly. There were too many tips and advice for one show so we started earlier this month and are finishing up today. Sit back, relax and let seasoned homeschool moms and grads share their secrets of joy and success with you!

 

 


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Show Notes

We wanted to celebrate our 100th show in a special way!

Happy 100th Episode!!!

So Laura and I got together with some of our friends to come up with 100 homeschool hacks—tips, ideas, and methods that work to making homeschooling easier and more fun so that you can start strong and finish well.

Below are summaries of each section of the homeschool hacks. Enjoy!

Katie Beth Nolette: 10 Tips for Teaching Preschoolers & Toddlers that will give a strong educational foundation to your children, reaping benefits for years to come! Don’t worry these things are fun and relationship-building!

Meredith Curtis: 5 Ideas for Teaching History the Fun Way before God’s Story (HIS Story) should be exciting, joyful, and awe-inspiring. Shake off the dull routine of memorizing boring facts and dates. Instead, set sail on a grand adventure exploring the past as never before!

Laura Nolette: 5 Methods for Mastering Math that are simple to work into your yearly planning and weekly routines. They will make all the difference no matter when you start!

Meredith Curtis: 10 Tips for Teaching from a Christian Worldview so that our children can have confidence in Jesus and His Word, building their lives on a solid foundation of truth in all things.

Meredith Curtis: 5 Ways to Minister in Your Local Church Together as a Family so that everyone isn’t going off in a different direction.

Laura Nolette: 10 Field Trips that Don’t Cost Money, are closer than you think, and will make fun memories that last.

Meredith Curtis: 7 Tools to Give Lifelong Learners so that they can face every new learning opportunity with confidence and enthusiasm.

 

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Resources

Joyful and Successful Homeschooling by Meredith Curtis Quick & EZ Unit Study Fun by Meredith Curtis Unlocking the Mystery of Homeschooling High School by Meredith Curtis and Laura Nolette Seven R's of Homeschooling by Meredith Curtis
HIS Story of the 20th Century by Meredith Curtis HIS Story of the 20th Century Middle School Workbook HIS Story of the 20th Century: High School Workbook by Meredith Curtis Teach 20th Century History the Fun Way
Travel God's World Cookbook by Meredith Curtis American History Cookbook Ancient History Cookbook

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100 Homeschool Hacks I

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In “100 Homeschool Hacks Volume I” episode #100, Meredith Curtis, Laura Nolette, and their friends share 100 ways to homeschool more effectively, efficiently, enthusiastically, and effortlessly. There were too many tips and advice for one show so we will start this week and finish up next week. Sit back, relax and let seasoned homeschool moms and grads share their secrets of joy and success with you!

 

 

 


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Show Notes

We wanted to celebrate our 100th show in a special way!

Happy 100th Episode!!!

So Laura and I got together with some of our friends to come up with 100 homeschool hacks—tips, ideas, and methods that work to making homeschooling easier and more fun so that you can start strong and finish well.

Below are summaries of each section of the homeschool hacks. Enjoy!

Meredith Curtis: 5 Lifestyle of Learning Hacks to Keep your family on an enthusiastic quest for knowledge and wisdom.

Laura Nolette: 5 Tips on Organization and Scheduling that will make your day flow more smoothly and help you use and store everything you need for homeschooling success.

Katie-Beth Nolette: 5 Tips to Teach Little Ones to Read in a way that sets them up for success and ignites a love of reading.

Marla Stevens: 3 Methods to Raise a Musician that cultivate a gifting so that it can be used with excellence for the glory of God.

Sarah Jeffords: 5 Ways to Build a Home Library including what books to look for, where to keep them, how to find them, and ways to save money in purchasing them.

Meredith Curtis: 10 Helpful Patterns & Habits that will set you and your children up for success. After all, as Charlotte Mason says, “education is an atmosphere, a discipline, a life.” She also says, “The child who starts in life with say, twenty good habits, begins with a certain capital which he will lay out to endless profit as the years go on.”

Julianna Curtis: 5 Ways to Motivate your High Schoolers to Get Their Schoolwork Done that don’t involve nagging, yelling, or stressing the whole family out!

Mary Smith & Meredith Curtis: 10 Ways to Build a Solid Relationship with Your Kids that will last as children grow up into adults with their own lives, careers, and families. Lay a solid foundation now.

 

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Resources

Joyful and Successful Homeschooling by Meredith Curtis Quick & EZ Unit Study Fun by Meredith Curtis Unlocking the Mystery of Homeschooling High School by Meredith Curtis and Laura Nolette Seven R's of Homeschooling by Meredith Curtis
HIS Story of the 20th Century by Meredith Curtis HIS Story of the 20th Century Middle School Workbook HIS Story of the 20th Century: High School Workbook by Meredith Curtis Teach 20th Century History the Fun Way
Travel God's World Cookbook by Meredith Curtis American History Cookbook Ancient History Cookbook

7 Amazing World War I Heroes

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Finish Well Homeschooling Podcast, Podcast #099, 7 Amazing World War 1 Heroes, with Meredith Curtis on the Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network7 Amazing World War I Heroes

In “Life Lessons from 20th Century History: 7 Amazing World War I Heroes” episode #099, Meredith Curtis introduces you to 7 heroes from World War I that you may never have even heard of. Not only are they amazing people who did extraordinary things, but their faith in Jesus shined through! “The Great War” did not prove to be the war to end all wars, but it was a proving ground for these men and woman who showed bravery, fortitude, and courage. In their stories, is a life lesson for us all.

 

 


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Show Notes

Background on World War I.

Why World War I was so challenging

  • Family fighting family
  • Trench Warfare
  • New weapons like machine guns
  • Dog fights
  • Chemical warfare/gas masks
  • Wiped out a generation of men
  • Wiped out many European cities

King Albert the First of Belgium

Belgian Neutrality

“Belgium is a nation, not a road!”

Highest Ranking Noble on the battlefield

Nurse Edith Clavel

English nurse stationed in Belgium

“Patriotism is not enough. I must have no hatred or bitterness towards anyone”

Executed as a spy by German Army

Herbert Hoover

Orphaned Quaker boy who became a millionaire

Private Charity to feed starving Belgians

In charge of rebuilding after the War

Eddie Rickenbacker

Race Car Driver who drove General John J. Pershing

Dog Fights—26 kills

Life of heroism & service

Sergeant Alvin York

Dramatic conversion, Christian leader, Pacifist

Greatest Civilian Soldier

William Donovan

Many men fought in WWI and went on to serve the nation like Douglas MacArthur, Truman, Eisenhower

Father of the CIA

“Wild Bill”

William Harold Coltman

Sunday School Teacher & Gardener

Most Highly Decorated British soldier in WW1

Never fired a shot

Life Lessons

This life is not all there is

Faith carries us through

You were born for a time such as this—example of Esther

God will never leave you

We are saved for a purpose

 

 

World War I & 20th Century Resources

 

Make Your Own WWI Trench Sundae HIS Story of the 20th Century by Meredith Curtis HIS Story of the 20th Century Middle School Workbook HIS Story of the 20th Century: High School Workbook by Meredith Curtis
HIS Story of the 20th Century Cookbook by Meredith Curtis and Laura Nolette HIS Story of the 20th Century High School Workbook Answer Key HIS Story of the 20th Century Middle School Workbook Answer Key Teach 20th Century History the Fun Way

The Blessing of Enrichment Courses for All Ages

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Finish Well Radio Show, Podcast #098, The Blessing of Enrichment Courses for All Ages with Meredith Curtis and Laura Nolette on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network
The Blessing of Enrichment Courses for All Ages

In “The Blessing of Enrichment Courses for All Ages,” episode #098, Meredith Curtis and Laura Nolette talk about how enrichment courses have been such a blessing to their children in rounding out their education, cultivating talents, and exposing them to new things that can turn into lifetime hobbies. Best of all, enrichment courses are fun for everyone, including Mom!

 

 


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Show Notes

Enrichment Courses have been such a blessing to our children, to our home school, especially in the high school years, and to us and moms.

Why are Co-op Enrichment Courses Such a Blessing?

  • Round Out Their Education
  • Learn Life Skills
  • Cultivate Gifts & Talents
  • Cultivate a Lifelong Hobby or Sport
  • Exposure to New Things
  • Other Moms Teach Things We Cannot Teach Well
  • Opportunity for Friendships

Core Enrichment

Science Labs

Math Club, Math Counts

Drama Enrichment Courses

First Assisted a Drama Major—so Intimidated.

Music Enrichment Courses

Chorus, Band, Appreciation, History, Music Lessons, Worship Team, Sound

Bible, Apologetics, Worldview

Worldview/Thinking Like a Christian courses

Mike’s courses at Co-op & Church

Character/Life Skills courses

Dave Barton Videos

Drive Thru History Videos

Art

Art Appreciation

Watercolor, Acrylics

Foreign Language

Florida Co-op

Spanish Class at Co-op

Online with Florida Virtual School & Community College

PE Enrichment Courses

Bonnie’s Health Course

Working Out at the Y

Swim Team

Dance

Ballet Lessons at a Dance Studio

Dance Camp

Dance Classes at Community School

Public Speaking

4H Courses

Leading Meetings at 4H

Co-op Course

Community College Course

Sewing & Needlecraft

Phoebe’s Sewing Days with Grandma.

4H Sewing Workshops

Leanne’s Knitting Classes

Culinary Skills

Steve’s Classes with His Kids

Cooking our Way through Time and Around the World

Letting Kids Loose in the Kitchen

Cake Decorating

Joanne’s Courses

Sarah’s Classes

Where Can We Take These Courses?

  • Co-op
  • Support Group
  • Church
  • Online
  • Community College
  • Clubs
  • Business/Community Courses
  • Camps
  • Workshops

 

 

Co-op Enrichment Resources

 

Drama 101: Act It Out! by Meredith Curtis and Laura Nolette Worldview Understanding the Times by Meredith Curtis Ancient History Cookbook Travel God's World Cookbook by Meredith Curtis
Real Men 101: Godly Manhood Real Men 102: Freedom, Courtship, Marriage, & Family Real Men 103: Leadership Old Testament Survey Class by Meredith Curtis
God's Girls 101: Grow in Christ God's Girls 103: Courship, Marriage, and the Christian Family High School Class God's Girls 104: Motherhood by Meredith Curtis God's Girls 105: Homemaking by Meredith Curtis

Healing From Sexual Abuse

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Finish Well Radio Show, Podcast #096, How I Teach English in High School with Meredith Curtis on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network
Healing From Sexual Abuse

In “Healing from Sexual Abuse,” episode #097, Meredith Curtis examines a horrible side of life in the 21stCentury with honesty, compassion, and truth. She offers hope from the Word of God to define sexual abuse and to process what has happened to you. She also explains why certain lies are often believed by victims, how to reject them, and how Jesus brings healing to the brokenness that often results from sexual abuse. There is healing and freedom, but it is a process. To all those who have been wounded, my heart breaks for you and I am praying that you know the precious love of Jesus that can heal you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Warning: This show contains sensitive material

 

 

 


Show Notes

Purpose of Childhood

Purpose of Womanhood/Manhood

Care Giver’s Role: Protect Innocence/Provide Safety/Allow children to develop intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually in a safe, pure, and loving environment

God’ Heart toward Those Who Have Been Sexually Abused: Matthew 18:1-6 & I Peter 3:7

What is Sexual Abuse?

A Wide Range Often Progressive

  • Sexual Jokes, Crude comments
  • Terminology, etc. that is too adult for victim
  • Pornography, Exposing,
  • Inappropriate Touching
  • Forcing Children to Participate in Sexual Acts
  • Rape

Sexual abuse exposes children/teens to deviant behavior that damages them emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

I Thessalonians 4:3-12

Why Do Abuse Victims Often Feel Guilt & Shame?

  • Process of Grooming (manipulation by abuser) See Radio Show here
  • Sense of Powerlessness (control and fear instilled by abuser)
  • Separation of sex from loving intimacy—creates a hunger for love & intimacy
  • Body betrayed them—felt some pleasure—only because body parts worked, not because they wanted it

St. Augustine in City of God: No guilt, no loss of purity when you are not a willing participate

NO guilt! Reject lie!

How is Sexual Abuse Related to the Demonic?

Revelation 9:18-21

Ephesians 4:17-19

Demon worship, pagan religions, witchcraft includes sexual acts, prostitution, and “sacrifice” of virgins

How Sexual Abuse Changes People

Heartache

Physical Ailments

Trouble trusting people/feeling safe

Fall into patterns with predators

Can feel like “less of a man” or “less of a woman”

How to Process Sexual Abuse

Ephesians 5:11-17

Evil Sin

Crime/Abusers Keep Abusing/Report Abusers to Police

You were a victim, an unwilling participant

Acknowledge that Sexual Abuser did an evil thing—don’t make excuses for him/her

Anger

Mourn the Loss of Innocence/Protection

Reject Lies: “This is my fault”, “I should have stopped it”, “No one is safe”

From Brokenness to Wholeness

Isaiah 61:1-7

Christ bore our brokenness on the cross and offers healing & wholeness

Stay Safe & Protect Others

Build patterns in your life that are protective and keep you and others safe.

What Teens Can Do

  • Pray for the Lord to Protect You & Give You Wisdom
  • Don’t hang out with people your parents don’t approve of and don’t build private relationships. Friendships should be inclusive, not exclusive.
  • Don’t spend time with someone who “gives you the creeps”
  • Don’t keep secrets from your parents; tell them everything
  • Don’t let someone show physical affection to you that makes you uncomfortable
  • Tell your parents and siblings about all the sites you visit online, games you play online, friends you make, people you chat with.
  • If you are involved in an inappropriate relationship, go immediately to your parents or pastor. Never ever ever be alone with that person again.
  • Grooming is not your fault. The groomer is sick, deranged, and choosing to be evil. Get away!
  • If someone has exposed themselves to you, shown your pornography, touched you, made you touch them, or raped you, they have sinned against you and it is also a crime. Call the police. Report them to the police.

Protection to Keep Kids Safe Online: Bark https://www.bark.us/

Protection from Porn: Covenant Eyes https://www.covenanteyes.com/

What Parents Can Do

  • Pray for Your Children Every Day!
  • Be Aware! Be Vigilant!
  • Pay Attention to Every Attachment & Friendship Your Child Develops.
  • Build a Strong Trust Relationship with Your Kids so They Can Tell You Anything
  • Teach Your Children What is Appropriate and Inappropriate Affection
  • Allow Children to Hug, Kiss, and Show Affection Voluntarily and Not if they Don’t Want To
  • Have Open & Honest Talks about Sex, Anatomy, and Privacy
  • Set up Rules/Boundaries
  • If someone gives you the creeps, don’t let your children be around them
  • Church Policy on Nursery/Sunday School/Teen Nights
  • Visit Ballet Class, Sports Practice, Hangouts, Friends’ Homes Where Your Teens/Children are Playing Teen Group, Co-op Classes, and Anywhere Your Children Spend Time Unannounced
  • Have Access to All Preteen/Teens’ Social Media Accounts including Friends, Private Messaging, etc.) Read Comments on Your Teens’ Posts
  • Don’t Allow Teens to Build Friendships Online that You are Not Part of
  • Grooming is not your child or teen’s fault. The groomer is sick, deranged, and choosing to be evil. Get your child/teen to safety!

If someone has exposed themselves to your child, shown your child pornography, touched your child, made your child touch them, or raped your child, they have sinned against your child and it is also a crime. Call the police. Report them to the police. Stop someone else from being his/her next victim.

Protection to Keep Kids Safe Online: Bark https://www.bark.us/

Protection from Porn: Covenant Eyes https://www.covenanteyes.com/

 

Protect the next victim by Reporting Sexual Abusers to Police

 

Resources

Always FREE Reading Listsfor Every Age!

 

Finish Well Radio Show, Podcast #095, How Sexual Predators Groom Their Victims & What to Do About It with Meredith Curtis on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network God's Girls Brand New Life Bible Study God's Girls: Friends to the End God's Girls Beauty Secrets
Making of Real Men Real Men 101: Godly Manhood Lovely to Behold Before the Vows are Made - Premarital Counseling Workbook for Engaged Couples by Pastor Mike and Meredith Curtis