Back to School Replay: Extracurricular Overkill

Extracurricular Overkill - How to filter extracurricular activities into your homeschool with Homeschooling IRLOn this week’s special back to school replay with Fletch and Kendra, they talk about Extracurricular Overkill.  When is enough too much? On this episode of HomeschoolingIRL, Fletch and Kendra answer a letter from a listener who is wondering how to filter extracurricular activities into your homeschool. When should you say yes? When should you say no?

We invite good friends Nate and Ali Miller into the studio to talk through the topic of extracurricular overkill. Listen in as we discuss how they made the decision to pull back from gymnastics, swimming, baseball, and choir in their family of three pre-teens. We hope you are encouraged by this discussion of choosing extracurricular activities in your homeschool family.


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Recommended Resources:

Joann Kraft – Just Too Busy
Betty The Surf Dog Twitter Feed – Home of Betty the Surf Dog
Fletch Twitter
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Music clips used on this episode:
Breathe In Breathe Out Move On – Buy it on iTunes Here

 

 


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Back to School Replay: Moms and Teen Boys

Moms of teen boys, this episode was made for you! What happens to those boys when they become teenagers and why are they so hard for moms to manage? Fletch and Kendra have raised three teen boys so far and they have lived to tell the tale . . .Moms of teen boys, this episode was made for you! What happens to those boys when they become teenagers and why are they so hard for moms to manage? Fletch and Kendra have raised three teen boys so far and they have lived to tell the tale . . .

Fletch pokes a few sticks at dads on this episode who have turned all the schooling over to their wives. Kendra also has some definite opinions on the subject of moms, homeschooling, and teen boys. She thinks the teen years can be extra great for moms, particularly if a mom can learn to do a few things to grow that relationship in a positive direction. What are they? You’ll have to tune in to find out!


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Recommended Resources:

Raising Real MenHal and Melanie Young

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Music clips used on this episode:
Song for My Sons- Sara Groves – Buy it on iTunes Here



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Amazing Homeschool Moms

#amazing homeschool moms | why we homeschool #podcasat #homeschoolpodcast Amazing Homeschool Moms Episode 294

Everyone is an amazing homeschool mom because you’ve made the decision to homeschool! Everyone has a story of how you came about deciding to homeschool and I’d love to hear from you! If you have a story you’d like to share here, please do — let us know how you came about with the decision to homeschool.

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Are you an amazing homeschool Mom? Here is are the stories leading to why Meredith Curtis and Felice Gerwitz decided to homeschool. We believe that amazing homeschool moms are created by the grace of God!

The Curtis’ Family journey of deciding whether or not to begin homeschooling. The audio contains more information here are some points.

  1. Mid 1980’s – working as a nurse with Native American natives – newly married and received a book out of the blue on homeschooling by Raymond Moore. He is thought of as the father of the homeschool movement.
  2. Moved to Virginia Beach and joined a church with many homeschoolers. The children were close to the parents and saw such virtue in children and teenagers who homeschooled and it impressed her.
  3. Read the book, “Homegrown Kids.”
  4. Sing – Spell – Read and Write – an entire floor of the library was devoted to homeschool materials.
  5. Prayed for a calling from the Lord. Her husband wasn’t sold on it, but he was open to the ideas.
  6. Greg Harris – the Christian Homeschool – her husband helped to promote this. Greg laid out Biblically it is the parent’s responsibility to homeschool and shared his Biblical foundation, responsibility, and accountability to God.
  7. Mike said – “We are homeschooling our children.” – this from her husband.
  8. Continued to research, and “How to Create Your Own Your Unit Study,” by Valerie Bendt.
  9. The Curtis’ began homeschooling with several years of research and learning about it before she began.
  10. All the children were homeschooled and now her daughter is

The Gerwitz Family’s journey began in 1986.

  1. I didn’t feel called to homeschool – I was an education major who wanted to change the world – I loved kids and I had a purpose of educating and making the world a better place.
  2. After the birth of my first child, I happily stayed home because I couldn’t bear to leave him home. As I watched him grown, then we had another child.
  3. I am not proud to admit that I talked people out of homeschooling! But the Lord had other ideas.
  4. At this time, I started noticing some delays in my son – and even with all of my intervention, he just seemed a little slower in grasping.
  5. After fighting with the school board and the academic placement of Neal – I happened to meet a lady whose child had the same diagnosis of my son of Mosaicism – she was a wonderful lady who used hands-on materials and taught me so much by example.
  6. My husband and I prayed and he decided I should try it for 6 months.
  7. We never looked back and homeschooled all five of our children.
  8. Letting Go and letting God is a decision I made almost every day.
  9. Releasing my children’s needs to the Lord as well as mine is also a daily decision and one I continue with today.

Tips for homeschool moms.

  1. God has set you apart to do this work.
  2. God has a purpose for every child and every mom
  3. You are the perfect person to teach them – to raise them.
  4. Jesus does not make mistakes! He chose you.
  5. God puts us in situations to be dependent on Him – if you are with me I can do this.
  6. God is with us – we can surrender to Him and He will pour out his grace.
  7. He will anoint us to educate and raise your children.
  8. God never becomes angry! He is there every step of the way if you let Him.
  9. God wants to be the center.
  10. God wants to reveal Himself to you!

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Storytelling

art of storytelling | People love stories and the art of storytelling is often lost.  #podcast #homeschoolpodcast #storytelling

The Art of Story Telling Episode 276

People love stories and the art of storytelling is often lost. Learn some of the best techniques for telling a story and use storytelling in your homeschool lessons to enhance your teaching.

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My mother was an expert storyteller. She didn’t know any of the techniques or arts of storytelling that people study. She just did it. Most of her stories were about Biblical characters. I knew about Adam and Eve, Jonah and the Whale, Noah and the Ark, the parting of the Red Sea and of course the parables of Jesus. Yet, she loved the idea to tell stories about the fictional child who had every material possession, lived in a beautiful house, had all the best toys but was missing the most important ingredient and that was love, friendships, and family.

My mom’s storytelling was renowned in our family. I remember her telling us stories as young children, and she continued on with my children, nieces, and nephews. As young adults we would sit inside, often in the air-conditioning, while we watched as outside, next to an inviting swimming pool, my mother had our her grandchildren and their cousins sitting in rapt attention as she spoke. Her stories loosely followed this theme:

  1. Once upon a time — this set the scene for something wonderful that is going to happen. It is a happy time or a very sad time and whatever that was, the story is going to center around this theme.
  2. The meat of the story is what is happening or about to happen. The “what” is happening to the person and it will be just the saddest or happiest thing. We love this person, usually it is someone we can identify with or an underdog – someone who you hope will come on top. And of course we are on the edge of our seats because we know something is going to happen and it probably isn’t going to be good!
  3. Something happens — what is it that happens? Does it begin in the day, at night, before dawn? What will happen that will change the entire outlook of this person and seem impossible to overcome?
  4. Impossible is important — there is no way out– we can’t believe it and hope that there is a resolution.
  5. Until… something else happens and then the story can continue or come to a conclusion
  6. Solution. What or who solves the problem? Who comes along? Is it by chance? By prayer?

Storytelling should be taught in your home. You kids will love it, I promise. How many little ones do you know that want to put on plays. Children love to perform and the younger the better! It isn’t until they get older that they start to have inhibitions and think things are silly.

So, how can you implement storytelling into your homeschool?

  1. Use it as a  means to teach subjects. I once read a wonderful story about punctuation that I used for many years in my homeschool. I wish I could find it and share it with you. But the punctuation personalities were written in humor, the period was a final person, the exclamation point had so much energy, the comma had to pause and think, etc. History, of course, lends itself to storytelling very easily.
  2. Have your children give a summation of something read with a story.
  3. A storytelling event does not need to be fiction – it can be a personal story, and a biography or an autobiography about a book you’ve read.
  4. You can use storytelling as a treat for a completed lesson or an end of the week ending to your school.
  5. Be creative. Storytelling can be used in almost everything from sharing how you personally struggled with a particular subject or as a way to allow your child an outlet to an otherwise boring subject.

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Teaching Multi-Grades

Teaching Multi-Level Grades | Do you struggle teaching multi-grades in your homeschool? In this episode, I share some techniques that will help you. #podcast #homeschoolpodcast #multi-levelTeaching Multi-Grades in the Homeschool – Episode 295

Do you struggle teaching multi-grades in your homeschool? In this episode, I share some techniques that will help you tremendously to reduce the stress and find a balance between teaching to multi-grades!

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At one point in my homeschool career the range of my children was 20-1 … what are the odds? I had teens when I had my third child and by the time my fifth came along, my oldest two were adults! Yes, there were times that we struggled but I’m happy to report that many of the foundational blocks I implemented when the children were younger came in handy when our family grew in size from two to five children.

When I taught in the classroom as a teacher, not all students were at the same level even if they were all fourth graders – the grade level I interned as a student-teacher and then when I taught middle school and special education, the kids were on multi-levels and I had twenty in a classroom with no teacher’s aide. I quickly learned that teaching to the middle only works in theory. You will have the bright kids bored and the struggling learners … well, struggling!

This experience showed me that teachers can be resilient, what they taught us in the classroom only works to a point and that real learning, you know the kind where kids remember and can share it with others, only comes from integrating learning with the love of learning. I know, it is philosophical, but believe me, it works.

Here is an example – for those kids out there that love video games, do you have to bribe them to play? Do you have to urge them to spend time doing what they love? No. The same with finding their passion or potential. If your child likes sports they will naturally spend the time learning and practicing. Does that mean that your child has to love everything they do, of course not. But once they understand the purpose of learning to write well, what numbers mean and how to get a persuasive speech completed they will do much better.

Don’t be afraid to ask your kids questions — yes, you may not always like the answer, but you will see what they are thinking and hopefully be able to address the main issue rather than guess why they are struggling to complete their work. I believe discipline problems abound in the homeschool classroom the same as in the public classroom and remember moms and dads you have all the power at this stage. It takes energy. It takes work. It takes follow through but it can be done!

Having little ones does not have to bring you homeschooling to a halt, in fact, there are many studies that show the value of teaching in retaining information. Following are some tried and true methods I used in our homeschool and ways you can implement them as well. As always, take what works for you and hopefully, this list will help you think of other ways that will work for you and your children.

Tried and true techniques for teaching multi-grades:

  1. Don’t compartmentalize your children’s subjects.
  2. Schedules or routines work — use them.
  3. Begin early.
  4. Use learning stations.
  5. Independent learning works
  6. Use accountability
  7. Read Aloud
  8. Field trips, essays, and reports
  9. Hands-on learning
  10. Children as mentors and teachers

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Missing Link

Missing link | Missing link is still missing despite all that evolution claims. #podcast #homeschoolThe Missing Link with Dr. Sharp

The missing link is still missing. Building your worldview on the knowledge presented in Genesis. There are preconceived ideas about origins and you can look at it two ways. One is with an evolution bias, with the thought of being an Atheist, Deist, or Theist.
With a bias of a creation perspective, the thought is of a Creative designer. Both can point to scientific data to substantiate their points.

Roman 3:4 — “Let God be true and every man a liar.”

There are predictions for each model.
Creation focus:
1. Life only from life
2. Kinds wholistically controlled by genetics
3. The earth’s present topography caused by the Genesis Flood
4. The human race created in God’s image

Evolution
1. Life from non-life
2. Species traditional upward to new species
3. The earth’s topography caused by gradual processes
4. man consists of several races and is a derivative of animal ancestry

Searching for the Origin of Life – Stanley Miller conducting vacuum tube experiments that won him a Noble Prize in early 1950’s
Miller who after almost four decades is still in hard pursuit of life’s biggest secret agrees that the field needs a dramatic finding to constrain the rampant speculation.
Charles Darwin the author of the Origin of Species — however he said the missing links would be found and they are still missing.

Even Stephen Jay Gould says, “The absence of fossil evidence for intermediary stages between major transitions in organic design, indeed our inability, even in our imagination, to construct functional intermediates in many cases has been a persistent and nagging problem for gradualistic accounts of evolution.”
All Paleontologists know that the fossil record contains precious little in the way of intermediate forms; transitions between major groups are characteristically abrupt (Stephen Jay Gould.”
Even the evolutionists find that the fossil record is spotty and therefore Darwin’s hypothesis is still an “educated guess.”


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Back to School Replay: I Love Homeschooling But I Am Totally Disorganized

 I Love Homeschooling But I am TOTALLY Disorganized! Get some tips from Fletch and Kendra on this episode of Homeschooling IRL. #homeschool #organization So you love the idea of homeschooling, but you are totally disorganized? Is this a deal killer? Should you pack up your kids and send them off to the local school house where they will be kept on track by rigid teaching plans that maintain scope and sequence?

It’s time for us all to get real with one another. Is your lack of organization thwarting your efforts at homeschooling? At the end of the day, the week, the month, are you constantly playing catch-up and putting out the fires caused by disorganization? If so, this is the episode you will want to listen to.

What about the other side of this issue? As a busy productive homeschool parent, have you forgotten along the way that relationships need to come before agendas? Are you such a task-master that you forgot the children God gave you to develop loving relationships with?

Organization in the homeschool can be both a blessing and a curse. On this episode of Homeschooling In Real Life, join Fletch and Kendra as they get transparent with their listeners and have the discussion out loud about balancing the need to bring organization into your family and preventing that same organization from destroying relationships.

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Child’s Potential

Child's Potential | Here are ten top tips to increase your child's potential. #podcasat #homeschoolChild’s Potential – Episode 293

Your child’s potential depends on so many things including God’s amazing plan! Our role as parents is varied, right? Depending on the time of day. Sometimes we nurture, sometimes we are just keeping them safe, and other times we educate.

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Our culture tries to tell us what we can and can’t be–but as a homeschool family, we think differently. There isn’t anything we can’t learn if we have the will and desire to learn more. We don’t have limitations. The only limitations are the ones we place on ourselves.

It has been said repeatedly that the most important time for your child’s developmental health is when they are young before they reach eighteen.

The person who is pivotal and instrumental in their life? Their mother is first and father comes next.

So many have pushed moms out of the home to work. And, we’ve seen the effect of this in many families we know.

The best parents are not the ones who make the most money or who indulge their children in gifts or things.

The best parents give kids boundaries, set up their environments as places where kids can grow and learn.

They listen when their kids talk. I know, this can be painful when you have a child who talks a lot!

Sometimes talkers need to be tempered to be listeners as well.

The best parents treat their kids as gifts from God. They give their children respect and they expect respect in return.

Strong parents lead by example.

Children who reach their potential within the homeschool environment have a safe place for our children to:

  • Think
  • Explore
  • Experiment
  • Develop
  • Understand
  • Respect
  • Desire
  • Learn relationships
  • Love
  • Make decisions

Many times our children only think of themselves with the image we reflect upon them. How do you see your children? Take the time to think about this.

Here are the first five keys to developing your children to reach their potential:

  1. Give children your time.
  2. Take time to observe your children
  3. Build up your children.
  4. Encourage your children.
  5. Do you look for what comes naturally?

I’ve learned so much from my husband. Out of the two of us I’m the talker, I’m the doer, I don’t like to procrastinate. My husband thinks, considers and contemplates.

My husband is naturally positive and sees the good in things, he often says, “Good try.” When the results are less than our children hoped. This does not come naturally to me; however, I’ve seen first-hand how effective my husband is at encouraging them to try harder.

When our children had difficulty doing something or succeeding, he would ask, “What were you thinking?”

This requires input from our children. They have to analyze and give it serious thought. At first, the answers were, “I don’t know.” But then they were soon able to answer and self-correct.

When I realized one of my children was gifted–he basically taught himself to read at four years old, I knew he would need to be academically challenged. I watched as he continued to keep up academically with his siblings. I challenged him with offers of projects and activities.

For some of my struggling learners, I watched to observe their interests. I looked at what came naturally.

My children ranged from gifted to struggling learners yet all excelled. It was more about giving the children opportunities rather than dwell on what they could not do.

Several of my children excelled in sports to the youngest three and science to the oldest two.

For the older two, there were science fair projects and field trips that centered around science such as nature centers, museums, NASA space center and more. For the younger three the same but we added sports-related activities such as little league. My daughter went to the softball world series in Little League and is currently playing softball in college – with an academic scholarship. My youngest also plays on the college level with many successes in high school.  We allow our children to think to explore areas of interest. To experiment by testing their ideas. Maybe this is in the kitchen, or with chemical compounds – yes, we supervise! We allow our kids to develop ideas – such as one child who decided to make videos using stop-motion and Legos®. His siblings thought it was a huge waste of time. This child now wants to be an engineer. He also was the one caught jumping off a one-story roof in the backyard by another sibling who thankfully brought it to my attention. He was testing a theory of trajectory and landing.

Our children would understand the information before they went on in a grade or level. Yes, I had several of my children repeat an Algebra class because they failed to demonstrate an understanding. We used Math-U-See with two of my boys and it worked for them, for the other three a video class and textbook for higher math worked well.

Then next five keys to potentials:

  1. Listen when your children speak
  2. Give them time to develop interests.
  3. Give your children opportunities
  4. Do we ask them what they are thinking when they make mistakes?
  5. Don’t put limitations on your children.

Sometimes your child’s potential is pointed out by a family member or neighbor.

I listened one time to my struggling reader present a report from memory. He didn’t stumble or appear nervous like his peers because he knew his material and wasn’t reading it.

He had stage presence, something you can practice but comes naturally to some.

This presentation made an impact to the other participants and set him up for success.

Your child’s potential comes in many shapes and sizes – each child who is encouraged to discover and explore will have lifelong skills. It isn’t how many answers you are able to fill in on a test, it is the ability to find the answers you need to solve your questions that will allow your child to succeed in their potential.

 


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Creation Anatomy

Creation Anatomy | Teaching Creation Anatomy iis an amazing way to study God's handiwork. #podcast #homeschoolCreation Anatomy

Creation Anatomy is a study of looking at the body through a different set of lenses, lenses with a creationist perspective. Can you see God’s creation in the human body? The answer is yes!

God’s creation is good — studying anatomy with a Biblical perspective means starting in the book of Genesis.
God created man with a purpose we are His special creation!
We are the “body” of Christ!

In our book, Creation Anatomy: A Study Guide of the Body there is a chapter on the price of the human body.
However when you add up all the parts of the human body down to its chemical composition — God created us with an eternal soul and that means we are priceless!
Our body doesn’t only operate on an elemental level — it also functions on the molecular level and the most complex of all of our molecules in hemoglobin.
Any attempt to make man has failed. There is not a biochemical company that could put it all together and not enough money in the world to buy all the elements you need for our body.

That is an amazing testament to the awesome power of God.

Our body works in the most complex way.
We have different fluids
75-trillion cells
Our cells require oxygen, burns fuel, gets hot, needs to cool, performs work and gives off exhaust — “gas”

  1. Studying Creation Anatomy we delve into the miracle of the body:
  2. Oxygen reaches the destination which diffuses into the cell
  3. The same moment the blood carries exhaust gasses from the cell
  4. The exhaust gases are tissue cells in CO2
  5. C02 plus water equals carbonic acid
  6. And it must be neutralized instantly
  7. Naturalized red cells take it to the bloodstream
  8. Bloodstream combines with salt and plasma which equals sodium bicarbonate
  9. Harmless and carried to lungs
  10. Lungs are not equipped to exhale waste
  11. in the lungs — bicarbonate ions join with protons from hydrogen to form carbonic acid that breaks down to form carbon dioxide gas and water
  12. It passes through the capillary wall to the lungs to be exhausted
  13. Same instant red cells pick up another fresh load of oxygen and begin the journey again.

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Filling Up Mom with God’s Love

Filling Up Mom | Filling up Mom with God's love. #homeschool #podcast Filling UP Mom with God’s Love

Filling up mom with God’s love is from the Vintage Collection of Mommy Jammies Night and this wonderful presentation is by Judy Dudich who stopped blogging some time ago to focus on her family and homeschool. Her very popular blog was enjoyed by many. Enjoy this presentation.

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Homeschooling mothers are vastly different and unique from one another; and yet, most likely, every group of homeschooling mothers usually has some things in common, as well.

Think if five “common” adjectives you would use if we were to generalize the personality
of “the average homeschooling mother”:

  1. Creative?
  2. Innovative?
  3. Multi-tasking?
  4. Diligent?
  5. Devoted?

A common thread among homeschool mothers:
* They are too HARD on themselves!
* They spend time praying, reading, researching, learning, practicing, and instilling
gentleness in their children, and they, themselves ARE gentle with children…

But not with themselves — is this you? The time has come for homeschooling mothers to hear a message of LOVE…a message that encourages you to be gentle with yourself.

What does God expect of Us?

  1. Does He expect us to know everything?
  2. Does He expect us to succeed in everything we do with our children?
  3. Does He expect our kids to score perfectly on the SAT’s?
  4. Does He expect us never to grow tired or weary or frustrated?
  5. Does He expect us never to fail?
  6. Does God expect us to try our best?
  7. Does He expect us to surrender ourselves to His holy will each day?
  8. Does He expect us to persevere in times of struggle?
  9. Does He expect us to pray?
  10. Does He expect us to LOVE?
  11. Does He expect us to forgive others AND ourselves?

Do whatever He tells you~
* In Mary, the mother of Jesus, we find an example of complete trust, hope, persistence, and surrender in the Lord; as well as confidence in prayer.
(See John 2:5)

Do you trust God completely with your marriage, family life, and the education of your children? Or, have you fallen into the enemy’s trap of thinking YOU are responsible for the outcome of these things and therefore, feeling like a failure when it doesn’t turn out the way YOU have planned?

* Mary is persistent in her plea to Jesus.
Much like the Canaanite woman (See Matthew 15:25) who continues to ask Jesus to help her, even after He has seemingly answered “in the negative”, so too, does Mary persist (after Jesus says, “Woman, how does your concern affect me, my hour has not yet come”) by instructing the servants (i.e. US) to ‘Do whatever He tells you”.

* Our faith is tested in homeschooling and we must persist; like Mary, the Canaanite Woman, and the determined widow who makes her plea to the judge. (Luke 18)
They had complete trust and persisted until their need was met. Think for a moment of what Jesus tells the servants next. He tells them to “fill the jars with water”. These were jars used for ceremonial washing and each jug held about 20-30 gallons of liquid. The servants fill them to the BRIM.

We must do the same!

The work you do each day and the efforts with which you serve, care for, teach, and nurture your family is the water with which you are filling the jars!
* God does not need us to perform His miracles/work. ~ Think of the Miracle at the Wedding in Cana  Jesus did not need the water to be there in order to bring forth the wine. He could have brought the wine into existence by thinking/commanding it into existence.

~ Each and every day, God is inviting you to “take part” in the work of His hand and in the sacred work He is doing in the soul of your spouse, each of your children; and in your own soul. *God gives us an opportunity to take part in His Divine Plan. ~ We must remember that we are educating for eternity and within that realm
, here is a much larger picture at-hand than merely checking off items on a to-do list or measuring our tasks and accomplishments against those of our neighbors.

~ God accepts even the smallest of efforts if offered with a joyful and willing heart out of love for Him and gratitude for His blessings. * We Do Not Provide the Wine
~ Understanding that our good deeds can never “merit” our Salvation; which is a GIFT, freely given to us by Jesus Christ, we must then understand that we have nothing to give which can be offered to the Lord as though it were already the “wine” in the jars.

~ All of our tasks, duties, and good deeds as wives, mothers, and homeschooling instructors are “water”. But, that’s OK! We must learn to accept that fact (that we are not able to give anything “of worth” outside of Christ) and FILL THE JARS, with love. ~ NOT filling the jars, because we feel that “we are not good enough”, “not
capable enough”, or “not ‘whatever’ enough” is a sin against God’s mercy and charity. This is a tool that the enemy uses (tricking us into believing that we are not good enough) which, left unchecked, will lead us to despair.

“We are not called to be successful, only faithful” ~ Every homeschooling mother should heed the above wisdom of Mother Teresa of Calcutta. Thinking that we must meet a certain status quo, or achieve a certain level of success, is a self-induced and skewed mindset. The Lord wants us to love, and to love as He loves. That’s it! If you wake up every day and provide a safe and loving atmosphere in which your child has an opportunity to know, love, and serve the Lord, then you are a faithful
servant; even if that child rejects your teaching, fails in his/her school work, or takes a path in life that is opposed to your convictions and beliefs. (Call upon GOD in times like these for the Lord will not forsake the prayers and tears of a mother’s heart.)

Similarly, if you succeed in raising children who go on to ivy league schools and climb to the tip-top of the corporate ladder, making gobs of money and living lives of luxury and ease, but they have never been told the Good News, have never learned compassion, or the joy of serving others, or empathy for fellow man, or how to LOVE for the sake of God, then where is your faithfulness? (St Paul reminds us that “faith without works is dead” in James 2:26)

*Get Out of God’s Way
~ Learning to “just fill the jars” and step aside so that our Lord and King, Jesus Christ, can take what we have done in obedience and submission to the Father’s calling, and bless it, change it, and make it holy, is the true essence of “surrender”. ~ “Do your best and leave the rest”, “Let go and let God” and other familiar
sayings are true. The point is, God does not have a big checklist in heaven where He ticks off items according to “how well” we do on a given day. We must do our best to tend to our families, and love God with our whole mind, heart, and body, and then LET GOD BE GOD and do what’s needed to carry out His Divine Plan.

*SURRENDER OUR MISERY
~ The most difficult thing to let go of is our own misery. Everyone has it. The complaints. The whining. The fatigue. The self-pity. ~ Gratitude and joy go hand in hand and part of surrendering our misery is to look for the JOY in our lives and give thanks to God in all things.

~ The “water” with which we fill the jars is made up of: our love, our gentleness toward our children, our focus and diligence in our work, our joyful hearts, our charitable acts, and our faithfulness to the Word. This is the “water” Your Savior will transform into His heavenly wine! ~ You are doing a mighty and sacred work. Just by being there for your children, helping them to learn, and tending to their temporal and spiritual needs, you are filling the jars.

~ When you persevere in a marriage that is hurting, forgive the offenses, overlook the faults, and forge ahead, in prayer, trying to restore what satan and the world has damaged and torn, you are filling the jars. ~ When you can’t see past the mountain of laundry, don’t have a moment to spare for yourself, and are feeling like quitting more than giving, but, in spite of it all, you give anyway, you are filling the jars.

~ True giving starts when you feel you have nothing left to give but give anyway. * Each day is a new JAR. * Each moment brings an opportunity for you to fill it.
* Nothing you do in sin or by fault can empty your jar. * One drop of water in the jar is enough for Jesus to make wine. (Meaning: When you are struggling and feel you can’t go on, but you DO go on, in surrender and by faith, you are filling the jar)

* Your prayers for others can fill THEIR jars, as well as your own! Mothers! Pray for one another!
Strive to surrender in:

  1. Homeschooling
  2. Marriage
  3. Friendships
  4. Faith Life
  5. Family Life
  6. Schedules

JUST FILL THE JARS AND JESUS WILL MAKE THE WINE! “I Surrender”, written by Judy Dudich encourages you to make God the center of your daily life and to
reflect upon the Scripture Verse: Joshua 24:25, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord”.

Judy Dudich was the owner of Homeschool Faith and Family Life Website – no longer available
She is the author of “A Thankful Woman’s Book of Blessings.”

TWITTER: @Benmakesten
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Copyright © 2011 Judy Dudich


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