Boys and Noise: Managing a Houseful of Energetic Boys

oin Hal and Melanie as they discuss boys and noise. Find practical advice for navigating the noise in your home life.

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Boys and Noise: Managing a Houseful of Energetic Boys

“Got boys? Then probably, you’ve got noise!” This week Hal and Melanie Young open up an email from a desperate homeschooling mom of four boys, all eight and under — two quiet, peace-loving firstborn parents completely overwhelmed by the volume, the wrestling, and the endless bickering. As parents of six boys themselves, Hal and Melanie have been exactly there, and they walk through what actually helps.

The heart of it: boys are noisy, active, and energetic by God’s design — and noise is not the same thing as sin. Your job isn’t to turn your boys into quiet little girls; it’s to train them to know when to let it rip and when to put a cork on it, to stop the meanness without crushing the energy, and to keep your home a safe harbor for everyone in it.

In this episode:

  • Why “one boy plus one boy” equals way more than two boys’ worth of noise
  • Boys, power, and impact — the God-given wiring behind all that energy
  • Teaching self-control: inside/outside voices, “commando quiet,” and the Silent Ship game
  • Burning energy on purpose — outdoor time and mid-day movement (and why large-muscle activity actually helps boys learn)
  • The bickering: kids are born sinners, so media limits help but the heart is the real issue
  • “The wrath of man works not the righteousness of God” — why losing your temper never motivates, and how raising your voice differs from losing it
  • The “knock it off” rule: rough-and-tumble is fine, but stop means stop — or you’re a bully
  • Home as a safe harbor: no name-calling, no sowing discord among brothers (Proverbs 6)
  • Why sibling competition is unfair across wide age gaps — and how to raise a “hero” big brother instead of a bully
  • The long payoff: the brotherly friendship you build now pays off hugely in adulthood

Chapters:

  • 0:00 — Intro & welcome
  • 1:16 — The topic: boys and noise
  • 1:51 — A desperate mom’s email: four boys, eight and under
  • 3:23 — “We’ve been there” — Hal & Melanie’s six boys
  • 5:00 — Why boys are so loud (and why some are louder than others)
  • 7:17 — Power, impact, and God’s design for boys
  • 8:36 — Don’t turn your boys into girls — make it livable instead
  • 9:00 — Teaching quiet: ninja/commando, Silent Ship, inside voices
  • 12:43 — Burn the energy: outdoor time, mid-day PE, movement & learning
  • 14:51 — Resources for parents of boys
  • 16:19 — The bickering & nastiness: it’s a heart issue
  • 17:41 — Ground rules: the wrath of man, and voice vs. losing it
  • 19:02 — The “knock it off” rule
  • 20:11 — Home as a safe harbor: names, discord, Proverbs 6
  • 21:47 — Competition, fairness, and raising a hero big brother
  • 24:10 — The long payoff: brotherhood into adulthood
  • 27:20 — Encouragement: it takes consistency, and it will get better

A few lines worth remembering:

“Being noisy is not necessarily a sin. It’s not necessarily something you need to punish — but it is something that needs training.”

“The wrath of man works not the righteousness of God. When I yell, when I lose it, it does not motivate them one bit.”

“Whatever’s out there in the world, when you come home you should be completely safe.”

About the hosts: Hal and Melanie Young are the parents of six boys (and more) and the authors and speakers behind Raising Real Men. Find more of their work at halandmelanie.com.

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FREE Character Counts: Self-Control Character Study Planner

Does anyone else feel like they are living in an out of control world? So many changes, so many unknowns, and things to worry about. Just turn on the news, listen to talk radio, or spend more than a few minutes on social media. Your head will spin with things that can cause stress and emotional outbursts. It takes patience to sit back and trust God. To think before you speak, or type frantically on your keyboard. It takes extreme self control most days.

In life there are many ups and downs and there are things that happen that are out of our control. We have seen this in our own world in just one short year. It sure has been difficult to have no control over what is going on and to just sit and wait on God’s timing. It is not easy to model to our children. One thing we can do is to recognize that we are not able to control what happens in our world. That we can not control what others say or think, but we can control our own feelings.

We can use these tough times to teach our children that having self control is a key to a happy life. If we model this behavior for our children and talk openly to them about controlling their emotions, you will see great improvement in not only yourself, and your children, but your entire family. A great way to do this is by doing a character study with your children. We offer a FREE Character Study planner each month to our email subscribers. I love how timely these are. Each month, when a new study comes out, it seems to fit perfectly with what is going on in our lives and the lives of our children.

This month’s subscriber freebie is on the character trait of self-control.

Why our Character Counts Planners are special:

Our Character Counts planners are special because all of the work of planning out a character study is done for you! They will help you to plan out a 4-week study on the specific character trait for that month. This month you will teach on Self-Control. You will love how open and go our planners are. All you need to do is open them up and follow the instructions and print the pages out for your children.

They are also customizable so you can pick and choose what you would like to print out from the planner. There are lots of pages to choose from. Maybe you have a child that doesn’t like to write, but enjoys looking at posters. You could print out the motivational posters and Bible verses on self-control. Other children may enjoy deep thoughts, and journaling through what they are working on.

Our planners are not dated and can be used  anytime of the year.  Many families like to create a character training binder to keep them in. Do you enjoy morning time in your homeschool?  Character training is a great addition to a family morning or Bible time. The activity suggestions are geared for all ages in your family, including the parents.

Let’s take a look at what’s inside:

  • Character Quality Family Checklist Worksheet
  • 4 Week Study Guide on Self Control
  • Analyze and Evaluation Sheets
  • Character Trait Planning Worksheets
  • Self Control Journaling Sheets
  • Self Control Study Worksheets for Kids
  • Activity Sheets
  • Self Control Personal Goals Sheets
  • Printable Motivation Posters
  • Certificate of Completion

Each week we send the free access to download your Character Counts Planner in our ezine. The planner access information is always located at the bottom of each email. There is a new planner every single month. If you are not signed up, you can sign up HERE.