Special Replay: Teen Consequences

teen consequencesTeen Consequences – Special Replay

with Jean Burk

In this episode, Jean explains teen consequences and the importance of communicating, cultivating and choices! Teen consequences can be life changing or life shattering – we want teens that are successful, happy and make good choices. How do we encourage our children to do that? They are not adults contrary to what the “world,” says – based on age. Here Jean shares some very practical advice and options for you and your family.

Jean is the award-winning author of college prep genius – the no-brainer way to get free college. She is a FOX News contributor as well as making many other appearances on television and radio networks on the topic of the SAT.

Find More information about Jean’s award winning program here…

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Homeopathy vs. Antibiotics

In this podcast, Sue Meyer ND CCH shares about how homeopathy works to heal the body versus antibiotics.In this podcast, Sue Meyer ND CCH shares about how homeopathy works to heal the body versus antibiotics.  Sue has had a lot of emails about antibiotic use recently, and she just wanted to share a bit about natural healing to ease the fears of families when it comes to illness.

 

Illness is not unnatural – it’s a very natural part of our lives.  It is the only thing to build your immune system.   If the body is allow to run the course of disease naturally without suppression, it will build the immune system.  There’s no reason to be fearful of fevers, children can run high fevers and this shows that they have a good vitality.

 

Listen as Sue shares some tips and encouragement in this show.

 

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Critical Thinking with Lisa Nehring

In this episode we’ll define Critical Thinking skills, examine why they are necessary and begin to talk about how to teach them.Critical Thinking skills are “An ability to use reason to move beyond the acquisition of facts to uncover deep meaning,” according to Robert Weissberg.

 

In this episode we’ll define Critical Thinking skills, examine why they are necessary and begin to talk about how to teach them.

 

Word Study: Critical Thinking Skills come from the Greek word “Kriticos” (meaning discerning judgement) and “criterion” (meaning standards). Critical Thinking Skills mean the word implies the development of “discerning judgment based on standards.”

 

A critical thinker can deduce as well as infer- they are both an information gathering and a problem solver.

Someone with critical thinking skills is able to do the following:

  • Solve problems systematically and sequentially with the ability to communicate them clearly
  • Understand and identify important ideas and to whom they are relevant
  • Make logical connections between ideas, across subject matter and time
  • Create, organize, deliver and evaluate arguments
  • Identify inconsistencies, errors and fallacies in reasoning
  • Reflect on, identify and offer an apologetic for one’s own core beliefs and values

Critical thinkers are constantly building upon their knowledge and experience. They are able to integrate how data and information can be used to develop, recognize and predict patterns of knowledge and behavior.

How do we teach Critical Thinking?

 

“Critical thinking skills are far more predictive of making positive life decisions than raw intelligence.” ~ Heather Butler

Resources for Teaching Critical Thinking

 

Argo, The Movie https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1024648/

Perpeloxors (deductive reasoning puzzles) https://www.mindware.orientaltrading.com/perplexors-set-of-6-a2-13871878.fltr?gclid=CjwKCAjwq4fsBRBnEiwANTahcHPiEYs5SVej-7wSIyYkzsUsTm-4YNDQKqgo113K8MDnl2pRM8bO5RoCbIkQAvD_BwE&cm_mmc=GooglePLA-_-1938802754-_-74521678041-_-13871878&gclsrc=aw.ds

Tropes –figures of speech, such as simile, metaphor, alliteration, etc. https://truenorthhomeschoolacademy.com/do-you-need-poetry-in-your-homeschool/

Logic- formal and informal https://truenorthhomeschoolacademy.com/course/informal-logic-2/

Scientific Method https://truenorthhomeschoolacademy.com/product/scientific-method/

Brainchallenges https://brainninjas.ca/what-about-critical-thinking-challenges/

https://www.facebook.com/LegendaryShots/videos/377986663112031/

Using Propoganda to teach critical thinking skills https://justaddstudents.com/propaganda/

Laughter and Critical Thining http://theschooloflaughter.com/critical-thinking/

 

 

 

 

http://www.jamesbowman.me/post/socratic-questions-infographic.pdf

http://www.rotmanithink.ca/

 

 

Top 10 Tips for Homeschool Leaders: Board Duties

Carol Topp, the Homeschool CPA explains the 4 duties of nonprofit board members: Duty of Care, Loyalty, Compliance and Management.Top 10 Tips for Homeschool Leaders: Board duties

What does it take to be a board member of a homeschool group? Is it just attending meetings? Carol Topp, the Homeschool CPA explains the 4 duties of nonprofit board members:

Duty of Care, Loyalty, Compliance and Management.

 

This is the first part of a 5-part series on Top 10 Tips for Running a Homeschool Group, a workshop given to homeschool leaders in Wichita, Kansas. You will probably find many of the audience questions would be a question you might ask as well!

 

Each episode can be found at HomeschoolCPA.com/Podcast. In the 5 part podcast series Carol will cover:

Episode # 180 Board duties

Episode # 181 Bylaws

Episode # 182 Preventing fraud

Episode # 183 Paying Workers

I Episode # 184 Insurance and Record keeping

 

Featured Product

The  Board Manual for homeschool organizations will be very helpful to organize your board and run your homeschool organization successfully!

Author and homeschool advisor, Carol Topp, CPA, has created a Homeschool Organization Board Manual. It is a template to create a board member binder. It has:

  • A list of important documents to keep in your binder
  • Section dividers so you can organize the important papers
  • Tools to help you run your meetings smoothly including
  • A sample agenda that you can use over and over again
  • A calendar of board meetings

But this is more than just a few cover sheets for your binder. It is also a 55-page board training manual with helpful articles on:

  • Suggested Board Meeting Topic List
  • Board Duties
  • Job Descriptions for Board of Directors
  • What Belongs in the Bylaws?
  • Compensation and Benefits for Board Members
  • Best Financial Practices Checklist
  • How to Read and Understand Financial Statements
  • Developing a Child Protection Policy

Read more about the Homeschool Organization Board Manual

 

 

How to Raise Children Who Love God

How to Raise Children Who Love GodIt’s easy to slip into the thinking that if we just homeschool, all will turn out fine. Our children will grow up to love God; they will be well-educated and spiritually mature, always following the Lord and living godly lives.

Wrong.

A quick search of the internet will prove this is simply not the case. I loved the blog post Israel Wayne posted not too long ago addressing the current trend of homeschoolers who are rejecting their parents’ faith and basically dishonoring them.

(Can I just say that I literally laughed out loud when I read this line: “I just want to say to everyone who wishes that I was writing blogs about how badly my life sucks lollipops…I’m sorry I’ve disappointed you by having a happy and satisfied life.”).

And then, of course, there’s the story of Josh Harris, who grew up a zealot of homeschooling, courtship, and so many good things, only to recently divorce his wife and leave his faith, rejecting all he supposedly once held important. What a sad time for his parents.

Oh, dear homeschoolers. Once again, we have to be reminded that life is not about a checklist. We so easily forget, don’t we? There are no secret formulas, no magic bullets. You can’t manufacture a genuine relationship. There is no amount of work you can invest that will guarantee your children will turn out fine.

Homeschooling is great. I personally think it’s the obvious best option for educating and investing time into one’s children to build strong relationships. But it’s not the secret formula and relying on that alone will only bring frustration and disappointment.

But fret not. God doesn’t want us to just throw up our hands and sing Que Sera, Sera. We can look to Scripture and look to godly examples around us to learn some ideas for helping our children grow into spiritually mature adults who love God. We cannot force them to love the Lord, but we can entice them towards a deep relationship by showing them how precious it is!

Here are some ideas:

 

1. Make your relationship with the Lord your top priority.

How can you expect your children to love God if you don’t love Him with all of your heart? The very best thing you can do is lead by example. Spend time with Him daily and share what He is teaching you. When your children see that God is a priority and when they hear you speak about Him, they will be drawn towards Him.

I could probably end this entire blog post with this first point because it is just that important and impactful! But I won’t… 😉

 

2. Start early encouraging your children to spend time with the Lord daily.

We have always made daily devotions a part of our children’s required “daily chores.” That might sound terrible, but the Bible does talk about “disciplining ourselves unto godliness.” Part of the Christian walk is self-discipline and if we want them to truly love God, then we must teach our children to be self-disciplined early. They need to learn how to “own” their faith.

When they were young, they read this Learn to Read Bible, among other Bible story books. They also enjoyed these inductive Bible studies by Kay Arthur. Korban also really loves these books. They are short and address specific sins through the eyes of a child, with Scripture references to go along with them.

Something else we did was to encourage them to pray for wisdom like Solomon did. I remember specifically having this conversation with our oldest son, Konur, and seeing the impact it made on him to think that he could have as much wisdom as he wanted simply by asking in faith!

We watched him grow spiritually even as a young child and we didn’t even have to ask how it happened. We knew he was praying for wisdom. Today, that boy spends hours in prayer and Bible reading daily and has a close walk with the Lord.

 

3. Have daily devotions time as a family.

Fathers are called to be the “priests of their homes,” but many households do not have regular family devotions. It is not always easy and grace is sometimes needed for difficult schedules, but it’s important to make a commitment to do something! Martin Luther is famously quoted as saying, “Work, work from early until late. In fact, I have so much to do that I shall spend the first three hours in prayer.”

There is always time! Even if it just starts with just one song, reading a couple verses, and praying through a prayer list, if it’s a daily time together as a family, God will honor the effort and increase the desire. It is very impactful for your children to see their father leading spiritually and worshiping the God he loves.

I think it’s so important to focus on reading the Bible, but stories can also be helpful, especially for younger children. These books are a current favorite of my seven-year-old’s.

 

4. Make the Lord a part of everyday life, not a separate subject.

Talk about Him as you go through your day. Remember all the things He has done for you and your family and recount them to your children. (Hmmm… this sounds strangely similar to Deuteronomy 6:4-9, doesn’t it? 😉 )

In our family, we often talk about how good God has been to us by providing our homestead to us for $40,000. It’s an incredible story! We also recount other specific answers to prayer, like the time I cried out in desperation for my husband to get a different job and that very day he was let go. It might not sound like an answer, but we knew it was! And God provided a better job a short time later.

Encourage them to pray specifically and point out the times when God has answered their requests, too. God is a good Father and loves to give good gifts to His children. Once, Korban prayed for 6 inches of snow. God answered that prayer and actually gave him an inch more! We made sure to tell him what a special answer to prayer that was and how much God loves him, and he continues to bring that story up. God didn’t have to answer the request, but He delighted to do so!

 

5. Get to their hearts with Scripture.

When you train them, God’s Word should always be what you use to exhort and encourage. So often we focus on changing their behavior so that we can be more comfortable or so that we don’t look like bad parents. But if we want our children to love God, our focus should always be on Christ. How does their behavior make Him look?

We need to get to their hearts and focus on their motivations for doing right. What does the Bible say about their behavior? Do they truly love God and want to please Him? Do they remember all the Jesus did to pay for those sins they are committing? Do they know how much He loves them and longs to have a relationship with them?

We must always bring it back to the Gospel.

One of our favorite resources for doing this was a book called Parenting with Scripture. It’s a topical book that helps us address different kinds of behavior issues using Scripture and activities to go along with it. We also tried to have clear expectations and swift consequences for disobedience. Allowing things to slide leads to anger and nothing will harden a child quicker than parents disciplining in anger.

 

6. Be open and real about your faith.

Kids are perceptive. They know when you are not being real with them and teens, especially, can smell hypocrisy a mile away. When they are young, they may let it slide because you are still their hero. But when they get older, they have no qualms about calling you out on all the inconsistencies they have seen for years.

You have two choices: You can respond in humility or you can respond in pride. Pride says, “I am the parent and I am in charge. I have my reasons. Do as I say, not as I do.” Trust me, you won’t get very far with that approach and it will not draw your teens closer to Christ.

Humility, on the other hand, says, “You are right. I didn’t see that, but I need to change and I will work on it. (And, by the way, I love you, but you need to work on how you confront authority.)” That last part may or may not be necessary. 😉 But the point is, don’t let their own spiritual immaturity and hypocrisy blind you from the sin they are pointing out.

When you are humble enough to admit wrongs and share your heart about how God is teaching you, they will let down their own defenses and share their own struggles. This brings us right back around to the first point. Again, it’s about modeling what you want to see and leading by example.

 

Of course, when it gets right down to it, prayer is the number one, most powerful tool we have to ensure that our children grow up to love God and serve Him!

All of these practical ideas are just empty works without the power of the Holy Spirit to work in their hearts. We must always be seeking Him and asking Him to reveal to us the specific ways that we can encourage our children’s relationship with the Lord.

I hope this encourages you and gives you some practical help in raising up children who love God with all of their hearts, souls, and minds! We can’t control their hearts, but we can make a big impact if we follow the Lord’s leading and humbly walk along side them.

Also, if you’d like to actually be able to see me while you listen to this episode, be sure to watch it on my new YouTube channel!

Using Technology to Eat Healthy

technology to eat healthy

Episode 52: Using Technology to Eat Healthy with Debbie Hanyon

In this episode, Debbie Hanyon from Homeschooling Dietitian Mom, joins us to share how she uses technology to eat healthy. Debbie is a homeschool mom and she has a number of resources on her website other homeschool moms will find helpful. Take a special look at her Meal Planning for Kids Curriculum.

Debbie’s favorite apps and websites for healthy eating are:

  1. My Fitness Pal
  2. Spark People calorie tracker
  3. Is My Food Safe app only available for Apple products. This app helps you determine how long to keep food before you toss it, what internal temperature different meats need to reach when cooked and other useful things.
  4. Eat Right website by the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics (AND)
  5. Choose My Plate
  6. Food & Nutrition Magazine App which is available on Android and iPhone and is put out by AND.

Listen to the episode to hear the specific aspects of each of these apps and websites that Debbie likes so you can determine which ones will help your family eat more healthy.

Show sponsor FundaFunda Academy has an online health class that includes a number of modules on healthy eating and uses at least one of these resources Debbie recommends..

Be sure to join our Facebook group where we carry on the discussion about Homeschooling with Technology.

If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to the show and give a rating and maybe even a review!

Contact Meryl via email on meryl@mediaangels.com or connect with her on Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook

Technology to eat healthy - Apps and websites for healthy eating #healthyeating #homeschoolpodcast #homeschoolfamily

HSHSP Ep 178: What’s Good and Bad about Tech for Teens, Interview with Leah Nieman

This week on HSHSP Ep 178: What’s Good and Bad about Tech for Teens, Interview with Leah Nieman.

HSHSP Ep 178: What's Good and Bad about Tech for Teens. Interview with Leah Nieman. Tools for parents for keeping teens safe and providing teens with great educational resources. #HomeschoolHighSchool #HomeschoolAndTechnology #SafeDigialWorld #GreatEducationalTools #LeahNieman

 

HSHSP Ep 178: What’s Good and Bad about Tech for Teens, Interview with Leah Nieman

Many of us homeschool moms are *digital immigrants*, we were around in the days before the internet and always feel like we are a step behind our kids in the things going on in the digital world. Our kids, on the other hand, are *digital natives* and tend to be very comfortable there. We moms worry about the safety of our children and teens when they are online.

That’s why I asked our friend and fellow homeschool mom, Leah Nieman (our favorite technology expert) to join us for a realistic discussion about the world of technology for those of us homeschool moms who are not experts ourselves. She shares with us what’s good and bad about tech for teens.

Leah Nieman

Leah Nieman. Photo used with permission.

The key issues that parents need to know about the online world include:

  • Privacy
  • Education of parents
    • Leah reminds us that where the parents are the teens don’t want to go. When parents are on Facebook, kids go to Instagram, then Snapchat, etc. So we need to stay up to date on information and maintain open communication with our homeschool high schoolers (and youngers).
  • Education of teens
    • Appropriate behavior in online classrooms,
    • Appropriate behavior and company outside the classroom
  • Safety on social platforms

What’s Good and Bad about Tech for Teens: Social Apps

It’s easy to read bad reports on the internet about social apps that only cover bad news. However, we don’t have to go to extremes and keep our homeschoolers off all social media. Rather, we need to be discerning and wise. When our young people come to us and want to download a new app, do some research and discuss what you find with them.

Parents should research:

  • What are the privacy settings. Can I limit who sees my child’s information?
  • Can I block and eliminate this app if it proves to be a poor choice?
  • Is my child’s location private?
  • Is the app targeted to kids but has *content buckets* (content buckets are sections of the app for different ages, children in one bucket, adults in another bucket). Can adults jump out of their content bucket into your kid’s bucket?
    • An example: Some apps have 2 content buckets. It’s easy for adults to get out of their bucket into the younger people’s bucket. This raises safety concerns because a young person may take at face value that a person is who they say they are. Vicki, in her job as mental health counselor has worked with young teens who thought they were talking with a peer on a social app but found out the hard way they were dealing with a predator.

Parents should keep conversations going:

When we parents are uneducated or overwhelmed we often want to stop the conversation about technology. However, we need to watch out when conversation stops! Kids get their information from peers if it doesn’t come from parents. Although we are uncomfortable we need to lean into uncomfortable topics by:

  • Being curious, ask questions
    • What do you like about it?
    • What is the draw for you?
  • Listening and allowing your kids to educate you. (Also, do your own research at LeahNieman.com)
    • Understand first, then ask questions.
  • Being open about your feelings, listen and be educated
  • Any topic we avoid is an open entry for danger

Some social apps that middle school and high schoolers use (don’t forget, mom, stay in the conversation with your homeschoolers about social apps:

  • Snapchat
  • Yubo (known as tender for teens). Here’s Leah’s informative post on Yubo.
  • Live.ly Live.me
    • These are for live streaming and live broadcasting
      • Live streaming: Like Facebook Lives, a person presents a topic. It is not spontaneous.
      • Live broadcasting is about connecting with peers, it is done in a stream of consciousness fashion, the intent is to connect, to create a social event. This can be a concern: who are your teens connecting with? Teens issue challenges like: Hey, do a dance, sing a song… and that is broadcast to the community. This can put a teen in a vulnerable position because of their lack of experience, discernment and natural impulsivity. Live broadcasting is popular with teens because they are targeted to teens, appeal to teens by connecting them. )
  • Tiktok is a top-ten download in Apple store. It was formerly called Music.ly.
    • Tiktok hass big draw for young kids (guidelines are supposed to be age 13 but many younger kids are on the app).
    • Young people create little videos and skits to music that is provided daily in a challenge. Kids like it because it has interactive community.
    • The concern for parents is the privacy. Adults  (strangers) are present on Tiktok. They can direct message your kids and share out onto other platforms.
    • Kids can create own accounts without parents knowing. They usually don’t know how to set privacy settings.
    • Leah talks about about setting up test account and is immediately asked for follows by young children who are yielding to pressure to grow their audience.

How do you keep kids safe:

The digital world is not all terrifying. There are great apps that are great tools for education. LeahNieman.com provides lots or information on great tools for homeschool families.

The digital world is not all terrifying. There are great apps that are great tools for education. We call it *gamified learning*. Check out Leah’s blog series with LOTS of great educational apps.

Some apps are good for tacking educational progress:

It’s a low pressure way to build skills, remediate and track progress. For example:

  • Spelling apps
  • Coding apps

Some apps are productivity apps.

  • As families with high schoolers, we can benefit with having a coordinated calendar app.
  • Project apps. Break down projects and progress through them.
    • When homeschool high schoolers learn productivity with an app, they can take that skill to college.
    • Leah loves using these apps herself. Google One-note to import her research and break down tasks. Then she puts the tasks on Google Task. She has a whole list of cool organization apps for teens.
    • Companies use Trello and Asana. Teens can benefit from learning how to use these as a resume builder. Team building experience and communication skills building. Digital soft skill building.
    • When information and tasks are gamified or made visually available, they progress better.

Check out this series on real-life, practical apps for homeschool families.

Leah also discussed the popularity of online games for teens. Leah likes online gaming. Here are her guidelines:

  • Know who they are playing with (just like you would never just drop teens off to an activity without knowing anything about it or who they will be with)
  • Make sure the gaming environment is safe.
  • Supervision and guidance is important. In other words, don’t avoid the conversations. Be curious, listen, the guide for safety. Kids like to talk about their online friendships, if we keep the communication doors open. We parents need to be interested and approachable so they feel free to talk.
  • Keep the balanced lifestyle. They need sunshine and exercises as much as they need their games. They need to do their lessons and do their activities of daily living (eating, chores, self-care). This is the modern version of teens only wanting to watch television all day long back in the 1970s.
  • Gaming is a good way to connect with their friends, they are genuinely interacting and helping each other. Digital soft skills development as individuals and teamwork.

Join Vicki and Leah for this enlightening discussion of what’s good and bad about tech for teens.

Visit Leah at:

LeahNieman.com (Sign up for Leah’s newsletter there and get a free set of conversation-starter questions.)

Facebook (lots of up to date information, current issues)

Youtube (SOOO much good information!)

You’ll also love our friend, Meryl’s podcast right here on Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network: Homeschooling with Technology!

HSHSP Ep 178: What’s Good and Bad about Tech for Teens, Interview with Leah Nieman

How & Why You Should Teach Your Homeschooler Entrepreneurship

Hey, homeschoolers!

Entrepreneurship is like a continuation of homeschooling. Our kids can continue to enjoy freedom in doing what they love to do. That’s what I’m talking about in this week’s episode of The Homeschool Sanity Show.

But first, I would love to have you tell someone about this podcast. There are sharing buttons no matter which platform you’re listening on. I share favorite podcasts and episodes all the time. The more of us who are seeking homeschool sanity, the better!

How & Why to Teach Homeschool Entrepreneurship

Now on to today’s topic: how and why to teach your kids to be entrepreneurs. My guests today are Billy Smith and Mark Baker of ChristianHomeschoolEntrepreurship.com. Billy is a homeschooling father of six. He has successfully built and sold more than 20 businesses worth $100,000 or more. Mark is a homeschooling father of seven. He has a master’s degree in International Business Management, who also an adjunct professor, business cofounder, and inventor. I know you’ll be inspired by these two dads!

To find out more about the course Billy and Mark teach, go to ChristianHomeschoolEntrepreneurship.com.

Join me next week for how to teach health in your homeschool.

Have a happy homeschool week!

Healing From Sexual Abuse

Finish Well Radio Show, Podcast #096, How I Teach English in High School with Meredith Curtis on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network
Healing From Sexual Abuse

In “Healing from Sexual Abuse,” episode #097, Meredith Curtis examines a horrible side of life in the 21stCentury with honesty, compassion, and truth. She offers hope from the Word of God to define sexual abuse and to process what has happened to you. She also explains why certain lies are often believed by victims, how to reject them, and how Jesus brings healing to the brokenness that often results from sexual abuse. There is healing and freedom, but it is a process. To all those who have been wounded, my heart breaks for you and I am praying that you know the precious love of Jesus that can heal you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Warning: This show contains sensitive material

 

 

 


Show Notes

Purpose of Childhood

Purpose of Womanhood/Manhood

Care Giver’s Role: Protect Innocence/Provide Safety/Allow children to develop intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually in a safe, pure, and loving environment

God’ Heart toward Those Who Have Been Sexually Abused: Matthew 18:1-6 & I Peter 3:7

What is Sexual Abuse?

A Wide Range Often Progressive

  • Sexual Jokes, Crude comments
  • Terminology, etc. that is too adult for victim
  • Pornography, Exposing,
  • Inappropriate Touching
  • Forcing Children to Participate in Sexual Acts
  • Rape

Sexual abuse exposes children/teens to deviant behavior that damages them emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

I Thessalonians 4:3-12

Why Do Abuse Victims Often Feel Guilt & Shame?

  • Process of Grooming (manipulation by abuser) See Radio Show here
  • Sense of Powerlessness (control and fear instilled by abuser)
  • Separation of sex from loving intimacy—creates a hunger for love & intimacy
  • Body betrayed them—felt some pleasure—only because body parts worked, not because they wanted it

St. Augustine in City of God: No guilt, no loss of purity when you are not a willing participate

NO guilt! Reject lie!

How is Sexual Abuse Related to the Demonic?

Revelation 9:18-21

Ephesians 4:17-19

Demon worship, pagan religions, witchcraft includes sexual acts, prostitution, and “sacrifice” of virgins

How Sexual Abuse Changes People

Heartache

Physical Ailments

Trouble trusting people/feeling safe

Fall into patterns with predators

Can feel like “less of a man” or “less of a woman”

How to Process Sexual Abuse

Ephesians 5:11-17

Evil Sin

Crime/Abusers Keep Abusing/Report Abusers to Police

You were a victim, an unwilling participant

Acknowledge that Sexual Abuser did an evil thing—don’t make excuses for him/her

Anger

Mourn the Loss of Innocence/Protection

Reject Lies: “This is my fault”, “I should have stopped it”, “No one is safe”

From Brokenness to Wholeness

Isaiah 61:1-7

Christ bore our brokenness on the cross and offers healing & wholeness

Stay Safe & Protect Others

Build patterns in your life that are protective and keep you and others safe.

What Teens Can Do

  • Pray for the Lord to Protect You & Give You Wisdom
  • Don’t hang out with people your parents don’t approve of and don’t build private relationships. Friendships should be inclusive, not exclusive.
  • Don’t spend time with someone who “gives you the creeps”
  • Don’t keep secrets from your parents; tell them everything
  • Don’t let someone show physical affection to you that makes you uncomfortable
  • Tell your parents and siblings about all the sites you visit online, games you play online, friends you make, people you chat with.
  • If you are involved in an inappropriate relationship, go immediately to your parents or pastor. Never ever ever be alone with that person again.
  • Grooming is not your fault. The groomer is sick, deranged, and choosing to be evil. Get away!
  • If someone has exposed themselves to you, shown your pornography, touched you, made you touch them, or raped you, they have sinned against you and it is also a crime. Call the police. Report them to the police.

Protection to Keep Kids Safe Online: Bark https://www.bark.us/

Protection from Porn: Covenant Eyes https://www.covenanteyes.com/

What Parents Can Do

  • Pray for Your Children Every Day!
  • Be Aware! Be Vigilant!
  • Pay Attention to Every Attachment & Friendship Your Child Develops.
  • Build a Strong Trust Relationship with Your Kids so They Can Tell You Anything
  • Teach Your Children What is Appropriate and Inappropriate Affection
  • Allow Children to Hug, Kiss, and Show Affection Voluntarily and Not if they Don’t Want To
  • Have Open & Honest Talks about Sex, Anatomy, and Privacy
  • Set up Rules/Boundaries
  • If someone gives you the creeps, don’t let your children be around them
  • Church Policy on Nursery/Sunday School/Teen Nights
  • Visit Ballet Class, Sports Practice, Hangouts, Friends’ Homes Where Your Teens/Children are Playing Teen Group, Co-op Classes, and Anywhere Your Children Spend Time Unannounced
  • Have Access to All Preteen/Teens’ Social Media Accounts including Friends, Private Messaging, etc.) Read Comments on Your Teens’ Posts
  • Don’t Allow Teens to Build Friendships Online that You are Not Part of
  • Grooming is not your child or teen’s fault. The groomer is sick, deranged, and choosing to be evil. Get your child/teen to safety!

If someone has exposed themselves to your child, shown your child pornography, touched your child, made your child touch them, or raped your child, they have sinned against your child and it is also a crime. Call the police. Report them to the police. Stop someone else from being his/her next victim.

Protection to Keep Kids Safe Online: Bark https://www.bark.us/

Protection from Porn: Covenant Eyes https://www.covenanteyes.com/

 

Protect the next victim by Reporting Sexual Abusers to Police

 

Resources

Always FREE Reading Listsfor Every Age!

 

Finish Well Radio Show, Podcast #095, How Sexual Predators Groom Their Victims & What to Do About It with Meredith Curtis on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network God's Girls Brand New Life Bible Study God's Girls: Friends to the End God's Girls Beauty Secrets
Making of Real Men Real Men 101: Godly Manhood Lovely to Behold Before the Vows are Made - Premarital Counseling Workbook for Engaged Couples by Pastor Mike and Meredith Curtis

Techie Advice For High Schoolers

Techie Advice| Are you interested in techie advice that is most important to learn, especially for kids before they leave home? What should your high schooler know before they graduate? Today we discuss Techie advice with our resident expert, Meryl van der Merwe. | #podcast #techieadvice #homeschoolpodcastTechie Advice For High Schoolers ~ Episode 372

Are you interested in techie advice that is most important to learn, especially for kids before they leave home? What should your high schooler know before they graduate? Today we discuss Techie advice with our resident expert, Meryl van der Merwe the podcaster at HomeschoolingwithTechnology.com

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Here is Meryl van der Merwe’s website is Funda Funda Academy here.

It is never to early to begin! But, if you have an upcoming highschooler or soon to be graduate they should know the following techie advice. In fact, it is never too old to learn. (Yes, parents I’m talking to you!)

Techie Advice For Students

Computer basics: 
  1. This includes installing software, knowing how to organize files and folders, how to take a screenshot
  2. How to troubleshoot problems on your computer or electronic devices.
How to navigate online classes
  1. Should know how to submit assignments online
  2. Contact teachers
  3. Find assignment deadlines
Be familiar with Google Drive apps
  1. They should be able to use Google Docs, Sheets, Forms and Slide
  2. How to use and understand how to work with others online
Know how to find credible sources
  1. Should know about Google Scholar
  2. How to find sources they can use for research papers, know how to spot fake news
Know how to spot phishing attempts
  1. They should know what to look for in phishing emails and phone calls
  2. Be vigilant, if it sounds to good to be true it probably is.
Should know basic video and digital graphic creation
  1. They should be able to make screencast videos
  2. Do basic video editing
  3. Create graphics using tools like Canva
They should know basic coding
  1. They do not need to be proficient coders, but as coding will be part of most jobs of the future, a basic understanding is necessary
  2. Look at some of the following: FundaFunda Academy offers a Computer Applications class  – https://www.fundafundaacademy.com/product/computer-fundamentals/ which includes digital literacy and covers points 1 – 7. They also offer programming classes, including a free 4 module Intro to Game Programming Class. https://www.fundafundaacademy.com/product/introduction-to-game-programming-lite/
 The best ways to prepare as a highschool homeschooler for jobs in the tech field?   
  1. Make sure they are very familiar with computer technology
  2. Include basic coding in what they learn. FundaFunda Academy offers online classes in Scratch https://www.fundafundaacademy.com/product/scratch-programming/ (an easy drag and drop language) and Python (which is used by many businesses). https://www.fundafundaacademy.com/product/python-programming/
  3. Participating in First Lego League will also teach programming skills.
  4. There are many free websites to learn as well.
  5. Coding is becoming as important a skill as reading, writing, and math.
 
What are some jobs that don’t have enough qualified people?  
 
  1. Engineering jobs are expected to increase by 140 000 between 2016 and 2026 in the USA.
  2. And software engineering jobs will increase more than 24%. You can find more info in these articles.
  3. As we live in a world where so much is driven by technology, there is an increasing need for people to write the software for the devices we are using.
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