HSHSP Ep 138: Teens and Depression

This week on HSHSP Ep 138: Teens and Depression.

HSHSP Ep 138: Teens and Depression. Even homeschool high schoolers can get depressed. Here's what to do.

HSHSP Ep 138: Teens and Depression

We wish it wasn’t true but it is. Many teens experience depression at one time or another. Even homeschool high schoolers in a nurturing environment may have a depressive bout. Depression is not something we want to ignore. Join Vicki for a discussion on depression in teens.

Here are some causes of depression in teens:

Pressures of holidays: If there are too many activities or performances, too many relatives they feel stressed about, too much pressure, teens can feel overwhelmed and feel depressed.

Biology: Teens have many hormonal swings and other physiological changes that can make the neurotransmitter serotonin drops. Serotonin is one the brain’s chemicals in charge of mood, energy, focus, hopefulness, appetite and sleep. If serotonin deeps, teens feel depressed.

Stressors of life: High schoolers feel pressure to figure out their future, perform well, get along with family and friends. Sometimes those things get stressful (they don’t know what they should do after graduation, they feel like they can’t do well enough with academics or extracurriculars, the fight with friends or family…). Too many stressors for too long can cause depression.

Too much cortisol: Some teens are naturally anxious. Their bodies produce too much cortisol, a stress hormone. Cortisol is great when they need an extra boost of energy to run fast when a lion is chasing them. But most of the time, there’s no lion so the cortisol sits in their body and makes them feel anxious. Too much cortisol for too long causes dips in serotonin, then you guessed it- depressed mood.

Poor lifestyle: Adolescents are notorious for poor lifestyle. Not enough sleep, too much junk food, lots of negative self-talk, too many stressors. These can work together in a perfect personal storm to cause depression.

Most of the time, depressed mood only lasts a few days then teens bounce back.

Sometimes the bounce back doesn’t bounce back and the depression doesn’t pass. If a teen feels depressed mood for more than a few weeks, clinical depression levels can set in. The difficult thing is: Teens (especially males) will rarely say, “I feel depressed”. You have to observe it for yourself.

Depression in adolescents often looks like a combination of these things:

Lethargy- gaming excessively, bingeing on YouTube or Netflix, social media bingeing, sitting around doing nothing

Loss of interest in the things they would have normally like- *got tired of ___*, *don’t like___ anymore*, *nah, I don’t want to do ___*

Sleep disruption- Homeschool high schoolers may sleep all day and stay up till 3 or 4 or some can’t sleep at all. (Get some great tips from this episode on stress and teens with Marianna Chambers.)

Appetite changes- You will notice that your teen has a loss of appetite or don’t notice they are hungry. Or you might catch them binge eating carbohydrates.

Urge to self-harm- Adolescents with very low serotonin levels often have the urge for cutting or other self-harm; either with no intent to suicide or suicidal ideation (thinking about suicide).

NOTE: If there is active suicidal ideation and they say they know how they’d do it, go right to the hospital to be evaluated. Don’t mess around with this even if they get angry at you. It’s better to risk their irritation than lose your teen. Adolescents can be impulsive when they are depressed.

Sadness- Some teens won’t report feeling sad. It’s as if they aren’t able to identify it for themselves. However if you give them a verbal *Happy-Sad* scale, they will often report fairly accurately. Ask them: “On a scale of 1-10, 1o is the best you ever felt and 1 is suicidal, what number would you give today? What is the highest and the lowest number from last week?” Numbers of 1-3 are high concerns.

What to do if your homeschool high schooler is depressed:

Get them some counseling. It helps. Insurance usually covers cognitive-behavioral and other therapies. I have worked as a mental health counselor for decades, so I know the good results. Sometimes teens are irritated at their parents for bringing them to the first session, but I generally win them over and they leave with tools that will quickly help them notice improvement. Counseling for teen depression varies but often we are looking at 1-10 sessions. It’s worth the investment.

Take them to the family doctor. You want to make sure something else physical isn’t going on. I’ve seen thyroid issues, PMS and anemia cause depressed feelings. If there are no other causes and counseling isn’t breaking the depression alone, sometimes doctor with suggest an SSRI to add to the counseling. This is a therapeutic medication that helps the brain heal the serotonin levels (it is not a mask of symptoms, but a healing agent- kind of like taking iron for healing anemia).

What mom can do that really helps:

  • Be with your teen. Take them for drives in the car (without earbuds). Take them for hikes or simple walks- mood enhancer
  • Get rid of junk food and drinks. Healthy foods like colorful fruits and vegetables, probiotic foods like yogurt, dairy and poultry all help the brain make serotonin.
  • Teach them deep breathing. Oxygen lowers cortisol which allows the serotonin to bounce back. Here’s a freebie how-to from my coaching site: Progressive Relaxation. 
  • Sleep hygiene. Teens need adequate sleep. If they get proper sleep, it helps the brain to heal. Here’s a post with how-to get sleep under control.
  • SAD Light for Seasonal Depression. Get a full-spectrum light to heal seasonal depression. (I personally love my light box. I don’t have full Seasonal Affective Disorder, but the gray days of winter make me feel mopey and the lightbox helps.) Here’s a post from Mayo Clinic on finding a lightbox.
  • Positive friends. God made us for community. They need laughter with friends. Even if you have to cook something up and make it happen.

Join Vicki for a discussion of teens and depression. Also you’ll be blessed by these posts from our friends.

Homeschool Sanity: Homeschooling Through Hormones.

LeahNieman.com for the relationship of technology to depression in teens.

HSHSP Ep 138: Teens and Depression

Mid-Year Slump – HIRL Episode 135

Free homeschool podcast about surviving the Mid-Year SlumpMid-January. Harumph. Are you feeling the mid-year slump in your homeschool, too? 

In this episode of Homeschooling in Real Life, Fletch and Kendra talk about how the mid-year slump affects their homeschooling and give several practical ways in which you can beat the mid-year slump, too.


SHOW NOTES:

Recommended Resources:
Lost and Found, by Kendra Fletcher
Key Life Ministries with Steve Brown
Interview with Key Life

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Fletch Twitter
Kendra Twitter

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Betty the Surf Dog – Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Website
Rasta The Chocolate Lab – Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Website

Previous Episodes Mentioned:
The Worst Is Yet To Come, Keb’ Mo – Buy it here on iTunes

Music clips used on this episode:
None


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Helping Your Children Handle Loss

 

Screen Shot 2016-04-25 at 6.08.49 PMNo matter what stage you’re family is in, loss is inevitable and providing your children with the tools to communicate their grief is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. In this episode, Mary Beth and Kimberly are joined by Patrice Karst, author of the best-selling book, “The Invisible String” to learn how to comfort our children during times of loss or separation from loved ones. Whether your upcoming plans include pulling away from family or your journey takes you away from friends, everyone young and old can benefit from learning about the Invisible String that connects us all. Click play to hear more.

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Raising Kids, Losing Yourself – HIRL Episode 80

Free homeschooling podcast about taking time to nurture yourselfOn this episode, HIRLer Chris calls in and asks us: “How can I be a good homeschooling parent raising kids and still take time for the things that feed my soul and bring me joy?”

We jumped on this topic, because we love to remind homeschoolers not to “lose themselves”in the midst of schooling the family.

We answer the most important question: “How can you be a good care-taker if you are not taking care of yourself?” The short answer is: You can’t! You will need to tune in for the rest of the discussion to hear Fletch and Kendra sit down for another honest discussion about the importance of nurturing your soul in the midst of caring for others.


EPISODE TIMELINE
3:57 – Introduction
7:13 – Part 1: What Happens When We Forget Ourselves?

19:44 – Part 2: The Importance of Nurturing Ourselves
37:42 – Wrapping It All Up


SHOW NOTES:

Recommended Resources:
None

Previous Episodes Mentioned:
Depression and the Homeschool Mom, Episode 60
I Love Homeschooling, But I’m Totally Burned Out, Episode 70
What Homeschooling Does To A Marriage? Episode 17

Music clips used on this episode:
Just Showed Up For My Own Life – Sara Groves – Go buy it on iTunes
All Of Me – John Legend – Go buy it on iTunes


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Allow the magic of the internet to deliver Homeschooling In Real Life to your tablet or smart phone. Let us show you how easy it is:

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  3. The iTunes program will automatically launch and take you to our podcast page.
  4. FIRST – Click SUBSCRIBE. Voila! All or our podcasts will come directly to your computer and smart phone.
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  6. Thanks for being one of our listeners! HIRLers rock!

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MBFLP 101 – Dealing With An Emotional Kid

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Every child is going to tend to be more emotional than his grown up parents – or his grown up self – will be. But what about here and now, when you have a child who seems to be in a constant state of meltdown? Is this normal? Is there anything to do about it? Is it a matter for discipline, or a call to mercy? Join us for this episode when we’ll share some perspective and some tips for dealing with a really emotional kid!

MBFLP 97 – Depressed Parents, Depressed Kids

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Life in a fallen world means we’ll all have to deal with disappointment, loss, trials, and temptations. It comes with the territory. And it’s nothing remarkable if sometimes we get to feeling a little blue. What happens when the blues get deeper, though? When you or a loved one gets so far in the dumps there seems to be no way out? This episode we’ll talk about facing depression with compassion and hope – and some practical things which may help out!

Depression and the Homeschooling Mom – HIRL Episode 60

Free podcast dealing with the issue of depression and homeschooling momsAs homeschooling moms, some subjects are very difficult to talk about, especially if we are feeling pressure to put on a facade that our lives are polished and life at home is picture-perfect. Struggling with depression in the homeschooling community can very quickly lead to shame and loneliness. Let’s face it folks, the pressure to have everything all together can make the struggle that much more difficult and the Christian homeschooling world does not always create a safe environment to be real and transparent.

On this episode of HomeschoolingIRL, we dive into another difficult discussion about depression among homeschooling moms. Joining us is Dr. Melanie Wilson, a Christian psychologist and homeschooling mom of 6. Together we discuss the signs of depression, how to find help for yourself and how you can minister to other struggling moms.

This is another tough topic and another chance for you as a listener to let us have the conversation first. But please, don’t let it stop there, if you are a mom (or dad) struggling with depression, please reach out and let us point you in the direction to find some help for you.

Timeline
2:47– Introduction
11:48 – Interview with Dr. Melanie Wilson, Part One
29:43 – Interview with Dr. Melanie Wilson, Part Two

Show Notes

host of The Homeschool Sanity ShowOur Guest on this episode: Dr. Melanie Wilson, Christian Psychologist.
Melanie has a podcast called The Homeschool Sanity Show.
She also blogs at www.psychowith6.com

 

 

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The Art of Manliness Blog – Leashing the Black Dog – A series about male depression

Music clips used on this show:

“Sound of Silence” Simon and Garfunkel (Buy It Here On iTunes)


Join Fletch (from theMangoTimes) and Kendra (from Preschoolers and Peace and KendraFletcher.com) for the HomeschoolingIRL podcast every week as they interview guests and talk through some of the goofiness they have experienced in nearly two decades of Homeschooling In Real Life.

HomeschoolingIRL 060 – Depression

Join Fletch and Kendra as they interview Christian psychologist Dr. Melanie Wilson (psychowith6.com) about the real issue of depression in homeschooling moms.