For the Love of Florida…Cruising with FPEA

Florida Cruising #FPEA #FloridaHomeschooling #FloridaPodcast #WildFloridaFor the Love of Florida…Cruising with FPEA

Podcast #67

 

Welcome to episode #67 of FPEA Connects. We have a fun topic. We have been busy planning toward some upcoming events with FPEA. One of those awesome events is REFRESH FPEA Marriage Cruise 2020. Let’s just talk about cruising and the sunshine state because you know thousands of people fly in, drive in, whatever it takes to cruise out of Florida to the Caribbean and some very exotic ports of call.

For the love of Florida! Cruising is definitely a reason to love Florida. It is easy to jump on a ship and escape from the everyday.

It was in the 1970s and 1980s that Florida began to experience a bit of a boom in the cruise industry  which drives a huge part of Florida’s economy today.

What we discuss:

  • What to expect!
  • First timers
  • How the food works
  • What’s a drink package
  • Choosing dining…..early, late, anytime
  • You need a lanyard
  • Sail and Sign card
  • Documents….passport, birth certificate and photo id
  • Excursions and other activities in port
  • Ship activities
  • Getting to know the ship….videos….you tube
  • Concerns people might have – Drinking/partying, etc.
  • Safety in ports…..
  • do your homework…..economy built around
  • Carnival Hub….sign on for the cruise info and schedule…connectivity on the ship….texting app…..
  • Seasickness….
  • Cruise attire….formal nights…
  • Cabin size/amenities

Our upcoming cruise REFRESH FPEA Marriage Cruise 2020 ……Cost baseline $544….tax, gratuity and port fees…first deposits are due by the end of March and final payments are due in October

Special Guests Heidi & Jay St. John and Todd & Debbie Wilson!

Join us January 4th – on the Carnival Magic

www.FPEA.com/Cruise2020

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Call Carnival 1.800.764.7419 Be sure to use Group# 6GHW24Refresh FPEA Marriage Cruise #cruise #fpea #florida #homeschool #podcast

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Love in a Time of Sickness – MBFLP 221 (repeat!)

HARRRCH! Greetings from our bronchitis ward! With the whole family, including your hosts, suffering from all sorts of respiratory unpleasantness … we’re going to bring back our show about navigating the challenges of sickness in your family. We hope to be healthy and “back in the saddle” soon! ~ Hal and Melanie


The traditional wedding vows include the promise to love and cherish one another “in sickness and in health.” Yet most of us come to our wedding without a lot of personal experience of serious, life-disrupting illness. We accept the vow but don’t have much practical knowledge of what that may look like.

“We’ve got kids who’ve had broken bones, we’ve had a child was born with a congenital heart defect.  We have had all kinds of bizarre and strange problems over the years. And yet I don’t think of us as a sickly family, … Here’s the thing. We make that promise up front that we’re going to be there for one another. We’re going to love one another even when we’re sick and you know that that’s really a practical manner. That’s really the rubber meets the road there because you know, that’s when the loving feelings just aren’t there.

“You know that you don’t have warm, fluffy feeling when one of you is throwing up in the bathroom, the romance is not in the picture at that point. And yet, …

“Do you remember when I got food poisoning? … We had only been married a matter of weeks. I will never forget that feeling of being in the bathroom throwing up and feeling such a nasty mess, and I was a newlywed! I was used to trying to be pretty and everything and I felt … so helpless. And I remember you wetting a washcloth and washing my face off and I tell you what — I felt some love for you. I felt a huge wave of affection for you.

Love is about doing. It’s not about feeling.

It’s an action, a choice of our behavior toward another person rather than purely a reflection of our feelings at the moment.

“That’s an important thing to remember. You know that over and over again in Scripture, love works its way out in our actions, not just in the butterfly kind of fluffy feelings. I mean, those are there, that’s great when they’re there; but when you’re absolutely beat by chemotherapy, when you are recovering from a really difficult pregnancy, or whatever … something else comes into play than just the animal attraction.”

“You know what true love is—it’s putting someone else’s feelings and needs ahead of your own, right? There’s a passage starting in Ecclesiastes 4:9 – it says, ‘Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor, for if they fall, one will lift up his companion; but woe to him who was alone when he falls and he gas no one to help him up again. If two lie down together, they will keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.’”

“You know that the two of us in marriage together, if one of us has a need, the other one can step up and meet it. I’ll be strong one day or week or even year. And you’ll be strong another one. Can we just take turns? And in that threefold cord that’s not quickly broken — when we have the Lord to rely on, we are strong.”


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Date Night (even when you “can’t”) – MBFLP 215

How to have date night nevertheless

Once upon a time, when we were young parents a long way from home, we heard someone say, “Date night is absolutely necessary for a healthy marriage!” When you’re new in town and grandparents are a thousand miles away, that’s discouraging! But the important thing is not “dates” but connection – how to renew the face-to-face relationship in the midst of shoulder-to-shoulder life. This episode, we talk about practical ways to do just that, even if you can’t really manage a getaway right now!

How to have date night regardless

What’s the reason?

Actually the important thing is not “the event” but the time for re-connection. Don’t get frustrated and fretful over the inability to do a big formal celebration – it may be the best thing at this time of life is smaller and closer to home.

In fact, home is a good option. We travel so much with our speaking and teaching ministry, we really find a quiet evening at home is a change of pace! We’ve had some great anniversaries and Valentine’s dates watching old movies on Netflix and eating dinner we prepared ourselves.

What are some options when kids are in the mix?

A second thing that’s important to remember is that we need all sorts of intimacy – not just the kind that takes total privacy and all kids asleep or absent. It’s good to just talk together, whether over dinner or a grown-up dessert, and let the kids watch their own movie back in the family room. If you really want them to entertain themselves for a while, you can even invest in some snack foods and turn them loose for an hour or two.

If you haven’t noticed, people never stop growing and changing. You didn’t reach 18 or 25 or 40 and then stop, as if you’d arrived at a destination — life goes on, and you both will find new surprises in each other if you look for them. Why not ask some open ended questions – “What’s your favorite food? Do you like different things as an adult than you did as a child? What’s the earliest thing you can remember? What did you find surprising about being married?” If you need some suggestions, sign up for our free series, “LoveBirdSeed” and get fun and thought-provoking conversation starters every week.

Of course you can stay up later than the kids … or get up earlier. You can go for a walk together or take the kids to the park, where you can sit on a bench and watch them play while you have some grownup conversation. Grandparents are a lifesaver if they’re nearby (and remember, letting your kids eat a few extra cookies at Nana’s house probably won’t topple the organic or keto lifestyle you’re cultivating at home). We even know friends who traded babysitting with each other on a regular schedule, one Friday a month at each house – and as the kids got older, the couples were even able to sneak away for overnights sometimes.

Remember that a lot of advice people share is based on particular circumstances. Sometimes you’re so busy or kept apart by business travel or other responsibilities, you really need to jealously protect a few precious hours. In that case, a scheduled, carefully planned date on the calendar can be a lifesaver! But if you are blessed to have more free time together on a regular basis, the desperation isn’t the same, and maybe you can find good, satisfying “couple time” from day to day. Date night can be great fun, but don’t feel that it’s a mandatory formality if you’re building a strong relationship in the informal hours of life right now!

“Q: What do we do when we can’t get away for our anniversary – not even for dinner out?”

If you are looking for a great couples getaway, check out our Come Away Weekend retreats in the spring and fall. Details will be coming soon for our Spring 2019 event – for more info, visit our website!


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Dealing with Disrespect – MBFLP 201

“My son shows me disrespect.” “How can I deal with the disrespect from our kids?” “What can I do to teach my children to be more respectful?” It’s something we all have to deal with as parents, and yet it’s hard – and some of us struggle more than we expected! This episode, we look at the very real question of respect – teaching our kids to show it, dealing with them when they don’t, where this may be coming from, and what God expects from all of us!

DG: The Secret to Success

Finish Well Radio, Podcast #053, DG: The Secret to SuccessDG: The Secret to Success with Meredith Curtis, podcast #053 looks at a missing ingredient in the lives of many young people, and older folks, too. Meredith discusses how delayed gratification can impact our personal lives and professional lives, helping us to experience joy and success. Meredith will explain what delayed gratification is, how it works, and how to build the DG muscle.

 

 

 

 

 

Show Notes

The secret to educational success is quite simple! DG!

The secret to a close relationship with Jesus is simple and includes DG!

The secret to having a happy marriage one day: DG!

The secret to financial success is another simple plan! It is two little words that pack a big punch. The secret to financial success is….delayed gratification.

Delayed Gratification? What is that? Well, it means to postpone what you want, to wait and work for what you desire to obtain.

In Our Imagination

Example of the Airline Owner.

But we live as if our little scenario is possible because we want a successful life, but we sabotage ourselves with instant gratification.

What We Do To Shoot Ourselves in the Foot

See, here is what we do. We want something right now! We have to have it so we take what we have and spend it all on something we kind of want.

Examples.

Delayed Gratification in a Nutshell

SO basically, in a nutshell, delayed gratified is doing the hard work first and the fun stuff we long for second.

Examples

Let’s meet some people who took delayed gratification seriously.

Hall of Fame for Delayed Gratification

Hebrews 11:13-16

Relating DG to Trusting God’s Goodness and heart to bless us.

Have We Prayed?

Examples of Waiting on God and Praying.

There are so many “quick and easy” ways out for us to take.

How difficult it is to set our eyes on the Lord and wait. This act of waiting is delaying gratification.

We experience delays in what we desire, building self-control and godly character in our life.

While We Wait on God

What do we do while we wait? We cry out to God, listing our petitions with Him, knowing that His heart is to provide our needs and bless us with our desires too.

Examples

Building the Delayed Gratification Muscle

Ways to build that delayed-gratification muscle.

The bottom line is this: Now you know the secret to success in every area of life. What will you do next?


Special Thanks to our Network Sponsor!


We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor Sony and their new movie, The Star, the Story of the First Christmas – Coming in Theaters November 17th!

Visit TheStarMovie.com to learn more.


DG: The Secret to Success

DG: The Secret to Success with Meredith Curtis, podcast #053 looks at a missing ingredient in the lives of many young people, and older folks, too. Meredith discusses how delayed gratification can impact our personal lives and professional lives, helping us to experience joy and success. Meredith will explain what delayed gratification is, how it works, and how to build the DG muscle.

Dating v. Courtship – MBFLP 186

It’s been a hot discussion in homeschooling for decades – what should we teach our kids about finding a mate? What’s really the Biblical model? After following one philosophy for several years and then realizing some of the assumptions really weren’t playing out in reality, we delved back into the Scriptures and found some surprising things people didn’t talk about. Join us for our quick tour of what we found the Bible really says about finding a mate!


Examples We Referenced

The Executive VP Goes Cousin Shopping – Genesis 24
Hello, and Where Did I Get This Scar? – Genesis 2
A Funny Thing Happened After the Service – Judges 21

Principles

Honoring parents (Ephesians 6:2)
Flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18)
Leaving and cleaving (Genesis 2:24)
Providing for one’s own (1 Timothy 5:8)
Treating younger women as sisters, in purity (1 Timothy 5:2)

Resources We Mentioned

Our workshop on “Dating, Courtship, and All That”

MoreThanFriends.io – the app with 42% less awkwardness


Special Thanks to our Network Sponsor!


We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor Sony and their new movie, The Star, the Story of the First Christmas – Coming in Theaters November 17th!

Visit TheStarMovie.com to learn more.


Homeschooling and Marriage

For the rest of the year, we will be running a “Best of” series of the Homeschooling IRL episodes continuing with Homeschooling and Marriage. Many of these episodes were earlier episodes that you might have missed. Enjoy!


HIRL-What-Homeschooling-Does-to-a-MarriageYou are going to want to grab your spouse for this episode! Fletch and Kendra dive right into the middle of the topic and discuss how the stress of homeschooling can leak into your marriage relationship.
Throughout this episode you will hear live interviews conducted with couples on the floor of the Teach Them Diligently Conference in Nashville, TN. Be prepared for answers that you might not expect!
 Fletch and Kendra also spend time talking and laughing with TTD conference founders and directors, David and Leslie Nunnery, about the challenges we’ve seen in our own marriages and some helpful ideas on how to preserve intimacy in the middle of family, life and school.
 Pull up a chair and prepare to get real with Fletch and Kendra as we look at What Homeschooling Does To A Marriage.
 For complete show notes and links to what we discussed on this episode, go to our website: HomeschoolingIRL.com

 


Special Thanks to our Network Sponsor!


We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor Sony and their new movie, The Star, the Story of the First Christmas – Coming in Theaters November 17th!

Visit TheStarMovie.com to learn more.


Hard Conversations – MBFLP 173

Even the best friendships run into rough spots – husbands and wives, parents and kids, church friends, neighbors. Sometimes you need to have those terrible conversations that begin, “We need to talk …” But even if they’re difficult, those conversations are critically important in the life of a relationship. Dodge them, and you may be ditching the friendship! This episode, we look at what the Bible says about open, transparent talk between friends, why you have to engage the hard conversations, and how to make them as helpful as possible!

For more notes, check out our blog!

 


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Autumn 2017 “Come Away” Marriage Weekend – Sylva, N.C.
October 20-22, 2017

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Marriage Secrets for Successful Homeschool Marriages

I can’t wait to share my interview with my husband of 25 years in which we share secrets for a successful homeschool marriage.

6 Secrets to a Successful Homeschool Marriage podcast

 

 

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Links

Apologia: Show sponsor

Psychowith6: Homeschool Sanity Facebook page – join me Thursday 6/8/17 at 4E/3C/2M/1P for my interview with Debra Bell

Ultimate Homeschool Planner by Debra Bell – use code SANITY to save 25% on any planner for a limited time

Communication: Key to Your Marriage by H. Norman Wright.

Personality Plus by Florence Littauer

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Sheet Music by Kevin Leman.

What other suggestions do you have for keeping a homeschooling marriage strong? Comment and let me know.