Teens, Preteens, and Social Anxiety – MBFLP 263

One of the hallmarks of adolescent behavior is social awkwardness, often to the point of anxiety. That’s true in the best of times! Yet here we are after a year of pandemic alarms, mandates, and “abundance of caution,” and you may be finding your young people are not eager to begin seeing people outside the family again. What can we do to help our teens and preteens resume normal, healthy interactions?

Resources We Reference

Our episode reviewing Dr. Jean Twenge’s book iGen about characteristics of our children’s generation

“How the Pandemic has Impacted Teen Mental Health,” Mott Poll Report, 3/15/21

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Upcoming Events (May-June 2021)

We’ll be speaking at the Thrive! Conference (North Carolinians for Home Education) in Winston-Salem, N.C., on May 27-29, 2021. We’re speaking four times on Thursday and Friday, on parenting pre-teens, helping your struggling learners in high school and college, the challenges of boys and media, and what you can achieve academically with a more relaxed homeschooling approach. And our booth is in the usual spot on the upper level of the book fair!

We’ll also be part of the Homeschooling With Confidence: Unstoppable online event hosted by Home Educators Association of Virginia (HEAV.org). This is going to be a different sort of online event with more interaction with the speakers and with other attendees – we’re looking forward something special with this one!

HSHSP Ep 118: Annoying Questions for Homeschoolers: What About Socialization?

This week on HSHSP Ep 118: Annoying Questions for Homeschoolers: What About Socialization?

HSHSP Ep 118: Annoying Questions for Homeschoolers: What About Socialization?

HSHSP Ep 118: Annoying Questions for Homeschoolers: What About Socialization?

This is THE most often-asked annoying question that we homeschooling parents get. Don’t worry about it, though. We’ve got some great information to equip you to handle it graciously.

First off, people don’t even know what socialization means. SO start off clarifying the definition!

Definition of socialization: Passing on the norms, customs, ideologies and skills from one generation to the next.

Isn’t homeschooling the BEST way to accomplish socialization??

So, when you encounter the annoying question about socialization, put yourself in the questioner’s shoes and think about what they are worried about. Then answer. Here are a few common worries, along with good answers.

People are often worried our kids won’t learn: How to play with peers

Answer back:

  • You only learn how to communicate with peers from other peers?
  • Our kids aren’t isolated. Homeschool parents very intentionally exposing their kids to different social situations such as
    • church
    • sports
    • homeschool groups
    • service
    • drama productions
    • community classes
    • dual enrollment classes
    • Civil Air Patrol
    • dance programs
  • Our kids are usually trained in manners, communication and social intelligence. We make it part of our life skills curriculum (in other words, we practice it in real life).

People are often worried our kids won’t learn: How to communicate with anyone who isn’t an adult

Ask them back, do kids learn to communicate with all kinds of people in:

  • Age segregated classrooms
  • Classrooms who aren’t allow to experience discipline, thus are often chaotic

Rather, they learn the skills best in a loving, supportive, age-integrated atmosphere where communication skills and politeness are modeled and practiced.

People are often worried our kids won’t learn to have self-esteem because they aren’t around peers in a classroom

The truth is, homeschoolers score better on tests of socialization and self-esteem. (Check out Vicki’s graduate research publish in National Home Education Research Institute.)

Remember: There’s not ONE right way to socialize our kids. You handle socializing your family in the way that meets YOUR family’s goals.

However, we should be sure to cover a few socialization tasks with our kids, so they are well prepared for life. This is because there are certain settings our kids are going to encounter without us as they grow through adolescence that they will need specific, intentional training! 😉

  • Don’t ask questions to people who aren’t interested or qualified, teach them to ask who to ask. (Just think visiting your local Motor Vehicle Administration building.)
  • Teach them to handle crowds going through college tours and the mall at Christmas, as in teach them to line up or walk on the *driving lane* as they navigate mall foot traffic.
  • Teach your teens to follow directions.
  • Teach them to form a circle.
  • Teach them to take one paper and pass the rest.
  • Teach them to laugh at themselves (not take themselves too seriously).
  • Teach them to be gracious to people who have other ideologies.
  • Teach them to be curious and how to ask questions about all kinds of things. (Teach them Apologetics- see 7Sisters FREE Apologetics course and delightful Philosophy in 4 Questions.)
  • Teach them the 10 basic social skills. (Take at look 7Sisters Social Skills.)
  • Teach them to model the walk of grace (and model it ourselves).

What about socialization? Here’s a simple answer to that annoying question: “Homeschooler are socialized and successful, now tell me all about your kids.”

Join Sabrina, Vicki and Kym for an intelligent and FUN discussion on the answers to the annoying question: What about socialization?

Also, enjoy these related posts:

5 Ways to Teach Teens to be Thinkers, Not Parrots

How to Answer the Common Question About Homeschooling: What About Socialization?

HSHSP Ep 118: Annoying Questions for Homeschoolers: What About Socialization?

Bullies and What to Do About Them – MBFLP 176

One of the reasons many people start homeschooling is to avoid “negative peer interaction,” which often means bullying. Sadly, though, it can happen at church, at homeschool meetings, or simply any gathering of kids. It can even happen inside your own family! This episode, we’re talking about approaches for dealing with bullying situations – how should we parents respond, how can we help the victims, and what can be done about the perpetrators.

(Check out our article, “Five Things to Do When Your Child is Being Picked On”)

Important Stuff We Forget To Teach – MBFLP 175

We all start homeschooling knowing that we’ll have to teach reading, spelling, math … all the traditional classroom subjects. But we quickly realized there were some things that “just happened” in school, and now that we’re the school, we need to make plans for them. Unfortunately, we meet a lot of homeschool families who are missing out on some important topics that don’t normally show on a transcript – but are critical for their kids’ future! You don’t want to miss this episode …

Some Resources We Mentioned: 

Internet safety with Covenant Eyes filtering/monitoring/accountability software
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Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Re-Gaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality

Boot Camp 9-12





MBFLP – Staying Christian In College

MBFLP - Staying Christian in College



Christian students often find themselves led to secular colleges and universities because of their desired major studies, or for financial aid, or for other reasons. If that’s where they’re going, how can they prepare for the challenges of the classroom and campus life? Where can they find Christian fellowship, encouragement and support? What unexpected obstacles may catch them by surprise?

Join us for a frank discussion with John Calvin Young, an alumnus of Washington & Lee University and Oxford, who found his niche and even created his own ministry in the face of serious challenges to his faith.